Femmyfamous4u:


I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

As if we married the same type of women.
I never believed a lady ll denied me sex not to talk my wife. My wife only allowed me sex when she likes when I pursue her. I don't want to force it on her.
Ur only bet now, is to accept ur fate and continue to pursue her or u cheat which is not an option to me.

Your wife should understand that you are her husband not boyfriend and she must accept your advances towards her wether she is in the mood or not. She no come your house come sit down look

Your wife should understand that you are her husband not boyfriend and she must accept your advances towards her wether she is in the mood or not. She no come your house come sit down look na something brought her there

woginid967:


Have a side chick and have peace.

Not all women love sex especially if the man doesn't know how to really put her in the mood.

Enjoy yourself with tinder, SFS, coddedruns.

But pls use condomzzz

Correct 💯 no time

You knew all along because you married her ,you expect her to change overnight,Na you get the problem?10times in 3months ,she no try ?

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

It happens in most newly married life especially if they are new to sex. i will advice you see a therapist or a Good marriage counsellor .(Not your pastor oh most of them can't give a good advice in marriage)

Nazgul:
She's your wife, take her out, tease her, make her smile, talk dirty, understand her body language, talk to her, find out what turns her on...and I can assure you that you'll enjoy your sex life with her.

Don't just dive into bed with an erection and start struggling to shift her pants, she might not even be in the mood.

After paying bride price and committing to her for eternity? You must be joking with these your textbook suggestions.

For how long will he be begging and doing pre-intimacy and sh*t when sometimes he just wants a quickie before sleeping or to cure his morning wood.

It's annoying many wives use sex as a bargaining chip, depriving their husbands simply because they're not sexually active or to use it as tools of manipulation.

The Op better put her in her place asap or like someone suggested, some things are better done and not said.

woginid967:

Enjoy yourself with tinder, SFS, coddedruns.

What's sfs?

You have to step down on your sexual demands, or do you expect me to advise you to go and cheat?

Femmyfamous4u:


I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

She might be feeling the abbrassions which could be hurting her. Use lubrication. E g Olive oil or get KY jelly from the pharmacy.

Buy her tigernuts, coconut, ginger with dates drink

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

What was her childhood like? Could it be a traumatic response to some past events? Good luck on your search for solutions

abbey621:
10 times in 3 months is enough for the average man, that's at least once a week when you discard period week. I laugh in Swahili, some married folks dey go one month without sex, you won't even notice. The problem with most Nigerian men is over expectation. Una don watch porn so tey you Hot goats can no longer control your libido, you confuse your 20s with your 30s and 40s, even in your 50s instead of thinking about a balanced retirement plan, na so so sex una dey find, no wonder housewives dey look 10-15 years older than they really are,, DO BETTER!

🤣😂🤣😂😂😂😂🤣🤣

Una no go kee persin for Nairaland.

On a more serious note you have a strong point.

The hor. ny goats part got me rolling. 🤣😂

sukkot:
Let me tell you the truth, I can already tell your sex game is wack . When a man starts saying I love to have sex all the time , that’s a man with a wack sex game. You see when you are having crazy orgasmic mind blowing intense sex with your wife ? You can only do it like once or twice a week. That type of sex needs a few days to recover from the euphoria of it. And so when a man comes up with I must have sex everyday that’s a man with a wack sex game. And she is not interested in your rabbit sex . Humans are spiritual beings not sex objects or cum dumpsters . Work on reconnecting with your higher self. Right now you are no different from the dog on the street and that ain’t sexy to a real woman of substance

Also men if you want to have sex everyday do not get married. There is no sex in marriage. After marriage is time for responsibility and bills and children. Sex is not a factor . For the most part

😂😂😂😂😂.

I once saw a thread where a guy was saying he was complaining about not having sex everyday with his wife, everyday as in every day and he was dead serious

Femmyfamous4u:


What are you saying? Is it wrong to make adjustments? It is wrong to say 4his how I am and can not change. We can sacrifices too.

make her crave for it. Like serious pre-intimacy. Forget about penetration. Sometimes leave out penetration. Also she can suck you or rub your dick for you to come. I think she is not a fan of penetration.

elevated2:

What was her childhood like? Could it be a traumatic response to some past events? Good luck on your search for solutions

She was a virgin for about 27 years

Mindlog:
What do you want to be told?

He needs approval to cheat... APPROVED!!! in principle

dopedealer:


That guy with the side chick is giving you a bad advice. If you cheat on her , it will bring problems to your marriage both spirituality and physically. Do not listen to him . Anytime you get the oppurtunity to sleep with your wife de give am doggy ( after she deliver) bro make her love sex! Na you go run last last

She does not like doggy. She prefers the cowgirl style where she can rub her clitoris as she likes.

Though I don't have experience but I guess

- Is she emotionally stable?
- Is she circumcised?
- Infection?
- u hv to always put her in the mood
- fruits such as banana, watermelon, tigernut will help in a very long way

10times in 3 months? You're lucky sef.. mine would be like 6 to 8 times in that same 3 months, and ive been married to her for 7yrs now.. I have complained and stopped, and kind of adjusted sef.. see ehn, some women are just like that. I think it's best u learn how to live with her since she's got other good qualities.

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

4ward4:
Life is too short for Unnecessary Drama...
Always get your choice from the market, before going home. No let traders influence your choice, some men specifically love and married their wife because of the way she ride them so well...We all were in your shoes and we choosed wisely in that area and discarded the rest...
Just why you hear gossipers say 'this guy a dey follow fine girls too when him single , him wife no even too fine self '
Deep down in you,you know why .lol

I can relate.. At a time in my life, my sis told me to quit my ex, i smiled. In my mind i was like, nobody quits a girl who fvcks real good.

elevated2:

What was her childhood like? Could it be a traumatic response to some past events? Good luck on your search for solutions

She grew up under very strict parents and high Christian morals; she was a virgin past the age of 27.

Nazgul:
She's your wife, take her out, tease her, make her smile, talk dirty, understand her body language, talk to her, find out what turns her on...and I can assure you that you'll enjoy your sex life with her.

Don't just dive into bed with an erection and start struggling to shift her pants, she might not even be in the mood.

Some women do not like sex.
No matter what you do ,they remain that way.
I am an example.
I don't like sex
To me,the only usefulness of sex is for procreation.
I'm done with child bearing...
I get irritated when my husband comes close.
We haven't had sex for over 6 months
Better for me.

E fit be say o, she no like you..... just married for fulfilment of marriage. Women dey do am well well.

Nazgul:
She's your wife, take her out, tease her, make her smile, talk dirty, understand her body language, talk to her, find out what turns her on...and I can assure you that you'll enjoy your sex life with her.

Don't just dive into bed with an erection and start struggling to shift her pants, she might not even be in the mood.

Can I come and marry you?

I think You guys were ignorant of what you were getting yourselves into. Is quite unfortunate it happened to you bro.

Femmyfamous4u:


I do not enjoy sex with condoms. more so, I feel it is too early in marriage

Don't follow that advice sir. It will snuff the life you have outta you

vizman4i:

Can I come and marry you?

He/she is married.

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

Average of 10 times in 3months is not too bad, that's like once a week.
Well, for the newly Weds, it could be more. But with time, sex frequency gradually declines

I guess u are jobless. Go and look for momey

Femmyfamous4u:


I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

Was she circumcised? Women with highly mutilated clitoris tend to have very low sex drives.

Oga it’s a gradual process. Give her some time and learn how to do it well and she will adapt.