Harddiskng:
■ Honestly part of the blame goes to our up-bringing and lack of education regarding things like this. Part of the blame even goes to our church/mosque. Sexual incompatibility is so real. These are the kind of things one should find out about his/her partner during courtship.
■ Marriage should be something you enjoy but when something you should be enjoying start turning to work, very difficult pain taking work. Brethern, You have nobody to rely on except God oo.

1. Culture, which predates many of the current religions — as a matter of fact, many of our religious beliefs are colored by our culture and traditions—, is a major contributor to the problem actually. The culture of glorifying virgins and demonizing experienced women is where we should lay much of that blame. The upbringing, of course, follows culture, and so also does religion. Men ought to be made a joke for marrying an Ashawo woman who he knows he is more sexually compatible with than the shrewd inexperienced women they usually flock towards when the marriage bells begin to ring in their heads.

We should probably start having that conversation about how much negative influence culture continues to have on the ability to think and way of life as a people. I am not anti-culture; I am simply pro-commonsense.

2. Indeed. Marriage should be something to enjoy. Fortunately, or unfortunately, God does not concern Himself with the marriage choices folks make since He already gave each a fully functioning brain with which to make the right choices. It is left to individuals to choose the best overall match in these things regardless of what society and others say.

NaBanga:
■All women are not lesbians. However if a woman does not want to be intimate with you before and after marriage, you have to ask questions.
■ It means the woman is not attracted to you. It's either because she is not aroused by you or she is not aroused by men. The reasons can be many, but all reasons lead back to those 2 things.

1. if one of your major priorities in marriage is sex, why would you think it reasonable to date and then marry a woman who does not want to be intimate with you during courtship though? No be brain damage be that there?

2. Wrong! She may be attracted to you but due to private convictions believe instead that she is better off holding off until after marriage. So, let's not even attempt to lay the blame on the woman at all.

Respect yourself and enjoy the woman God give you make you no find yasef for where you no know.

Cope with her like that.

ddeola:
Respect yourself and enjoy the woman God give you make you no find yasef for where you no know.

Which God gave her to him? He chose her for his wife, and now he is complaining that his choice isn't good enough.

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

Endure as you endured from courtship

Femmyfamous4u:


I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

Not all ladies get wet, even after cumming through pre-intimacy. Know this and know peace

Hmmm .... after a few minutes pre-intimacy she doesn't become wet. Do all women become wet? ... and if they do... is it after a few minutes? Bro .. you need to understand how things generally work with women .... and your wife to be precise. After marriage you sat her down and laid down your sexual demands. You already knew she doesn't like penetrative sex ... did you find out why? I'm almost sure it is out of fear ... maybe she was raped ... or had sex with a beast. Do you consider her state of mind when doing it with her? ... do you pay attention to know if she is experiencing pleasure?... or pain? ... or do you just grab the opportunity to satisfy yourself? When a woman is in fear ... fear of pain if penetrated ... fear of you being rough with her ... fear of she not satisfying you .... then automatically down there is shut down ... no lubrication and the ehmmm ... doors to pleasure become like leather ... restricting entry. You have to work on your approach ... focus on getting her to relax and making the experience a pleasurable one for her.... it will take some time before she comes around and for you to get her up to speed.

Let me tell you the truth, I can already tell your sex game is wack . When a man starts saying I love to have sex all the time , that’s a man with a wack sex game. You see when you are having crazy orgasmic mind blowing intense sex with your wife ? You can only do it like once or twice a week. That type of sex needs a few days to recover from the euphoria of it. And so when a man comes up with I must have sex everyday that’s a man with a wack sex game. And she is not interested in your rabbit sex . Humans are spiritual beings not sex objects or cum dumpsters . Work on reconnecting with your higher self. Right now you are no different from the dog on the street and that ain’t sexy to a real woman of substance

Also men if you want to have sex everyday do not get married. There is no sex in marriage. After marriage is time for responsibility and bills and children. Sex is not a factor . For the most part

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

You can't "have sex as much as you desire" in a relationship, unless your wife is a Chinese sex doll. There's no sex better than the one you and her are both in the mood for. You may be h0rny while she isn't or vice versa and that's OK. Saying that, it may be worth checking your wife's area (if you haven't already ) She may be a victim of FGM like many Nigerian women. That abuse surpresses women's libido among many female sexual dysfunction.

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

You will eventually need a side chick or possibly another wife. My wife was the same way when i initially marry. Now 9 years later i have 2 girlfriends. Men and women have different needs my brother.

She is pregnant , leave her alone for now. What else do you want. When my wife was pregnant ,she allow me ounce ,and that was all. She will change with time and will be begging for more later on .

Cutehector:

And please let us stop all these blaming on men for issues that a woman has. If she is not into sex, men! If she she has a dry vagina, men. If she is not in the mood, still men!

Men are blamed for every fvcking thing a woman does and for her problems.

Jeez.

My brother abeg tell them o. This idea that everything is a man's fault helps nobody. It is abdication of duty. A valid ground for divorce even.

Let nobody try to fool with Hollywood script of romantic nonsense about marriage. Marriage is hard work, sacrifice, conscious effort and compromise.

The woman is an adult and should know that sex is among her duties as a wife.
Yes, she told OP that she doesn't like penetrative sex but did OP promise her that it will be a marriage without sex or once a month thing?

There are too many men and women that have no business with marriage BUT marry to tick the box. Because they believe society wants it that way.
There lots of things men do for their wives and family that they'd rather not do but have no choice.

OP, probe into her past. Any history of rape, abuse, etc?

Once the baby comes, you will need to look at things carefully. Months after delivery. For now, not much you can do.

Then go for counselling. Otherwise your marriage may not survive it long term. Good luck.

Op I feel for you but you can help her come to your level. This is what you should do right away .

Go to any chemist around you and buy her Chemiron syrup. Just a spoonful per day is enough to revitalise her.

You too can take it as chemiron works like magic in spiking libido in both male and female

Femmyfamous4u:


I do not enjoy sex with condoms. more so, I feel it is too early in marriage

get her aphrodisiac supplements and put it in her food

Cutehector:
■ Honestly, dry püssy is a bad thing. I pray no man experiences this in a wife. And please let us stop all these blaming on men for issues that a woman has. If she is not into sex, men! If she she has a dry vagina, men. If she is not in the mood, still men!

Men are blamed for every fvcking thing a woman does and for her problems. Jeez.

1. The party having the issue is usually to blame for not having paid attention to these things during the dating period. There things are of biology and so you typically can't turn a woman who was an SU in bed while you were dating her into a sex goddess after marriage. Biology tells you that her sex drive is bound to fall as she attains maturity. So if an ashawo libido is what you have as a man, you would be a fool to marry such a woman unless you are willing to hit the gym all your marriage and many men do that. Ashawo man should marry an ashawo woman like himself to balance things out sexually in the relationship.

Vickho:
get her aphrodisiac supplements and put it in her food

And if she dies as a result, you become a murderer?

10 times in 3 months is enough for the average man, that's at least once a week when you discard period week. I laugh in Swahili, some married folks dey go one month without sex, you won't even notice. The problem with most Nigerian men is over expectation. Una don watch porn so tey you Hot goats can no longer control your libido, you confuse your 20s with your 30s and 40s, even in your 50s instead of thinking about a balanced retirement plan, na so so sex una dey find, no wonder housewives dey look 10-15 years older than they really are,, DO BETTER!

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

you got married to her and within 3months she got pregnant, what else should be your worry? it means she's complete and fertile as a lady, what you should do is to allow that vagina rest for at least for the sake of your first seed



sex at the early trimester is even risky, there is always guidelines for that and pregnant lady, I mean those with first time pregnancy always feel uninterested to sex




if you're worried that she has been like that before marriage, do you meet her a virgin? was her clitos intact? was she ever rape if she's not a virgin? all these can cause a emotional setback in her romantic life



before you can solve this, let her give birth finish then you will visit a therapist together, indulging in extra marital affairs now is spiritually and medically dangerous for you



be guided

abbey621:
10 times in 3 months is enough for the average man, that's at least once a week when you discard period week. I laugh in Swahili, some married folks dey go one month without sex, you won't even notice. The problem with most Nigerian men is over expectation. Una don watch porn so tey you Hot goats can no longer control your libido, you confuse your 20s with your 30s and 40s, even in your 50s instead of thinking about a balanced retirement plan, na so so sex una dey find, no wonder housewives dey look 10-15 years older than they really are,, DO BETTER!

ROFLMAO

Make una de try text products before una carry go house kwanu

woginid967:


Have a side chick and have peace.

Not all women love sex especially if the man doesn't know how to really put her in the mood.

Enjoy yourself with tinder, SFS, coddedruns.

But pls use condomzzz

I have heard Tender before, but which sites are SFS and Coddedruns? Please, enlighten me. Thanks

Make una de try text products before una carry go house kwanu

Femmyfamous4u:


I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

Is she an Albino?

Dogalmighty17:
There is nothing you can do. You might consider cheating if its that bad. Was your wife a virgin when you met her? If she was not, then you have a lot of measuring up to do.

You are very much right! If she's a virgin, then there's nothing wrong with what she's doing. With time things will change. But if she's not, there are a lot of things going on. Either she's into a very rough sex like BDM and stuff.

Kobojunkie:
1. if one of your major priorities in marriage is sex, why would you think it reasonable to date and then marry a woman who does not want to be intimate with you during courtship though? No be brain damage be that there?

2. Wrong! She may be attracted to you but due to private convictions believe instead that she is better off holding off until after marriage. So, let's not even attempt to lay the blame on the woman at all.

On point!!!

Mindlog:
What do you want to be told?

Ask him!!! Something is wrong somewhere. Women can pretend!!

All you have in your head is SEX, SEX, SEX. Anyway, what do you expect from unemployed or underemployed broke ass nigga?

Take your cross. Continue to keep her while you look for sex machine outside


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Ajalalomo:
All you have in your head is SEX, SEX, SEX. Anyway, what do you expect from unemployed or underemployed broke ass nigga?

If you can’t meet up, just say that