Take your mind off sex, stop watching porn and don't astay Alone. Always stay around people that way you don't have to think of masturbarting.

Hismercy20:
I am a guy 26 years old and turning 27 in June. I have never engaged in any sexual act before until around 2017/2018 when I started masturbating but I later stopped in 2019/2020 because truth be told, masturbation drains.

Now, I have a partner and we have tried to have sex but all to no avail because I do ejaculate just three minutes into romance. I have taken drugs, taking herbal mixture in fact someone even referred to me to a thread here on Nairaland to buy herb but all to no avail.Please nairalanders/doctors, help me. I don't know what's causing this problem.i explained to my biological mum, she sent another herb and I have been taking it for the past two months now and no improvement.This is affecting me psychologically, I cannot even concentrate on something else and my mum is also worried.

Please how do I cure this?

placeofallure:


@ Hismercy20, believe me, it's the mind. Like the advice says, take your mind off it. You're probably too excited or anxious. Give yourself time to revamp. In between; exercise, eat well, less stress, face your work and make good money. The come back and try....

She will sing like a humming bird

You sound like a counselor and give advice like an expert.

Baba take black bullet drink, 20mins before knacking...no way you'll release within 15mins minimum.

I agree with you. Has similar issues but mine was caused by stress 😩. Just relax and take it one step at a time. Your lady is lucky and inexperienced too, you improve together.

Banilla:
Stop using drugs... Never take anything herbal medicine or mixture or whatever.

Maybe you're not used to it (sex) yet... So you're overly excited. You haven't had sex till now and you don't masturbate. Give it time, you'll adjust.

Then see a doctor.

Nothing is wrong with you. However if you take too much sugar try and cleanse your system.

I feel the problem is that you've not mastered your emotions after your first sex. Most people had that embarrassing situation the first or second time. It's normal, but you must evolve after that. You don't rush into the action as led by your excitement; you get the job done and allow your excitement for later. If you feel the rush, slow down or pause to continue smooching. You need to relax. Stop thinking yourself into messing it up.

I will advise not step back from sexing that you girl. It puts more pressure on you. You need to be in control.

feckos:
Nothing is wrong with you. However if you take too much sugar try and cleanse your system.

I feel the problem is that you've not mastered your emotions after your first sex. Most people had that embarrassing situation the first or second time. It's normal, but you must evolve after that. You don't rush into the action as led by your excitement; you get the job done and allow your excitement for later. If you feel the rush, slow down or pause to continue smooching. You need to relax. Stop thinking yourself into messing it up.

I will advise not step back from sexing that you girl. It puts more pressure on you. You need to be in control.

Thank you but the issue is I ejaculate during pre intimacy

Someone has advised you to do exercise.

You should also incorporate Kegel exercise to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles there are manyYouTube videos that can demonstrate the exercise for you.

Do you have difficulty having another erection after releasing during pre-intimacy?

ZionPriest:
Someone has advised you to do exercise.

You should also incorporate Kegel exercise to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles there are manyYouTube videos that can demonstrate the exercise for you.

Do you have difficulty having another erection after releasing during pre-intimacy?

I feel weak after ejaculating and It does take 15 minutes to 25minutes before I have another erection.

Hismercy20:


Thank you but the issue is I ejaculate during pre intimacy

Hmm... Still not an issue. First you need to be positive about this issue and give yourself a chance.

Master your excitement. Never get carried away whether during pre sex or sex itself. That's for the women.

I don't know your religious believe, but olosho can really help you in this mess.

Hismercy20:


I feel weak after ejaculating and It does take 15 minutes to 25minutes before I have another erection.

This actually confirms you don't have an issue at all. Most men don't get another erection for 30mins to 1hr. Your refractory period is perfect for your age.

feckos:


Hmm... Still not an issue. First you need to be positive about this issue and give yourself a chance.

Master your excitement. Never get carried away whether during pre sex or sex itself. That's for the women.

I don't know your religious believe, but olosho can really help you in this mess.

Okay
Thank you !

Hismercy20:
I am a guy 26 years old and turning 27 in June. I have never engaged in any sexual act before until around 2017/2018 when I started masturbating but I later stopped in 2019/2020 because truth be told, masturbation drains.

Now, I have a partner and we have tried to have sex but all to no avail because I do ejaculate just three minutes into romance. I have taken drugs, taking herbal mixture in fact someone even referred to me to a thread here on Nairaland to buy herb but all to no avail.Please nairalanders/doctors, help me. I don't know what's causing this problem.i explained to my biological mum, she sent another herb and I have been taking it for the past two months now and no improvement.This is affecting me psychologically, I cannot even concentrate on something else and my mum is also worried.

Please how do I cure this?

Just be calm, maybe your body is still on withdrawal system from mastubation

frozen70:


Just be calm, maybe your body is still on withdrawal system from mastubation

Okay. Thank you!

Bro your problem is excessive masturbating and porn watching.
I have experienced that issue b4 but immediately I stopped masturbating it stopped.
Because of masturbation your brain has been programed to only last long with your hand, try and stop porn or masturbation and eat a lot of garlic, onions,ginger and don't forget exercise.

Hismercy20:


Thank you for your suggestions but the problem is I ejaculate during the pre-intimacy. I cannot sustain an erection to the point of penetration

Oh I see. It's still a thing of the mind.
These will also help -
Make her touch other parts of your body instead of stroking your dick (if she does) during romance. The goal of masturbation is to cum quick with the least effort. The feel of her soft hand may send the "cum now" signal to your brain.
On your own try the Kegel exercise often. It's easy to do anywhere. In case you're asking what that is - contract the muscles that holds your urine back. Do those contractions as often as possible, anytime you remember. After sometime (days or weeks), you will be able to quickly stop urine flow midway, after the flow has already started in full stream. That's the proof that your exercise is working. If you can stop urination midway, you can also stop ejaculation once you feel the build up, using the same muscles before it gets to point of no return.
Also, some of my earlier suggestions are still applicable - breathe and fix your mind on your breathing (instead of thinking "oh yeah! I'm finally doing this, I'm enjoying this, so sweet, etc", you can keep counting 1-10 and just visualize those numbers in your mind, while romancing. - take short breaks, consciously try to relax your body too.
Some people recommended controlled masturbation to help deal with it, but I think that's only applicable for someone that doesn't last long during penetration.

Keep telling yourself you're okay, it's not a big problem, really. Truth is once you survive the pre-intimacy stage, you'll be able to last long.

Kodak9:
Bro your problem is excessive masturbating and porn watching.
I have experienced that issue b4 but immediately I stopped masturbating it stopped.
Because of masturbation your brain has been programed to only last long with your hand, try and stop porn or masturbation and eat a lot of garlic, onions,ginger and don't forget exercise.

Thank you though I stopped masturbating 2years again

crows2ravens:


Oh I see. It's still a thing of the mind.
These will also help -
Make her touch other parts of your body instead of stroking your dick (if she does) during romance. The goal of masturbation is to cum quick with the least effort. The feel of her soft hand may send the "cum now" signal to your brain.
On your own try the Kegel exercise often. It's easy to do anywhere. In case you're asking what that is - contract the muscles that holds your urine back. Do those contractions as often as possible, anytime you remember. After sometime (days or weeks), you will be able to quickly stop urine flow midway, after the flow has already started in full stream. That's the proof that your exercise is working. If you can stop urination midway, you can also stop ejaculation once you feel the build up, using the same muscles before it gets to point of no return.
Also, some of my earlier suggestions are still applicable - breathe and fix your mind on your breathing (instead of thinking "oh yeah! I'm finally doing this, I'm enjoying this, so sweet, etc", you can keep counting 1-10 and just visualize those numbers in your mind, while romancing. - take short breaks, consciously try to relax your body too.
Some people recommended controlled masturbation to help deal with it, but I think that's only applicable for someone that doesn't last long during penetration.

Keep telling yourself you're okay, it's not a big problem, really. Truth is once you survive the pre-intimacy stage, you'll be able to last long.

Thank you for writing this . I truly appreciate it

Hismercy20:

Thank you though I stopped masturbating 2years again

you still watch porn?

Stop eatin garri every day, it has now swollen and weaken your PC muscles.

Go and buy one of any of these drugs you can afford

1. anafranil 25gram
2. Paroxetine
3. Dapoxetine

Thank me later.

Hismercy20:
I am a guy 26 years old and turning 27 in June. I have never engaged in any sexual act before until around 2017/2018 when I started masturbating but I later stopped in 2019/2020 because truth be told, masturbation drains.

Now, I have a partner and we have tried to have sex but all to no avail because I do ejaculate just three minutes into romance. I have taken drugs, taking herbal mixture in fact someone even referred to me to a thread here on Nairaland to buy herb but all to no avail.Please nairalanders/doctors, help me. I don't know what's causing this problem.i explained to my biological mum, she sent another herb and I have been taking it for the past two months now and no improvement.This is affecting me psychologically, I cannot even concentrate on something else and my mum is also worried.

Please how do I cure this?

Is it that Nigerians have never heard the word "HOSPITAL" or "Doctor" before? Why come here with medical problems? Go see a professional/specialist. Damn

Hismercy20:
I am a guy 26 years old and turning 27 in June. I have never engaged in any sexual act before until around 2017/2018 when I started masturbating but I later stopped in 2019/2020 because truth be told, masturbation drains.

Now, I have a partner and we have tried to have sex but all to no avail because I do ejaculate just three minutes into romance. I have taken drugs, taking herbal mixture in fact someone even referred to me to a thread here on Nairaland to buy herb but all to no avail.Please nairalanders/doctors, help me. I don't know what's causing this problem.i explained to my biological mum, she sent another herb and I have been taking it for the past two months now and no improvement.This is affecting me psychologically, I cannot even concentrate on something else and my mum is also worried.

Please how do I cure this?