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Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Mindlog: 5:06pm On May 09, 2023 |
descarado: Since autism is on the spectrum, all autistic children do not reflect same as some are on the high functioning autism (HFA) while some are on the low functioning autism (LFA), some even have an added Neurodivergency of ADHD. His parents needs to seek professional help for better management, that would hopefully help him transit into a better functioning adult. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Cromagnon: 8:30pm On May 09, 2023 |
GloriousGbola:Practice makes perfect |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by NoToPile: 8:47am On May 10, 2023 |
The only challenge I see here is just because the child is autistic. I have a son who is very calm and would rather report to his teachers and me at home than fight back, his teachers even told me he is calm and doesn't like fighting back. One day he complained so much and out of frustration I told him to Fight back didn't know I gingered something in him. The teachers had to ask me at pick up time if I asked him to fight back, he actually overdid it and we all rested. No more nonsense from anybody for a while. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by fredoooooo: 2:14pm On May 10, 2023 |
Very very ideal .. never attack but always defend yourself.... If they stone you , you shoot them .. no mercy Ija wa ija o si , always guiding 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Levels1(m): 2:16pm On May 10, 2023 |
Foodqueen: Exactly what I told my daughter 2 years plus old, yesterday evening. Like you saw me yesterday πππ 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by tonicyril: 2:16pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1:Op, people will say it's not OK, well, even me will tell u same. But let me assure u that I am going to encourage my kids to always face and fight their fears so that dey don't become a prey in the future. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Poanan: 2:17pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: Which health condition? Bully knows how to bully even with his health condition, then he should be able to get beatings with that also. Let your son fight back they are both kids and you have to start teaching yoir son. The next time ypur son comes crying, make sure u beat him immediately and send him back to fight. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by drimzsmoke(m): 2:21pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: How |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by CaptainFM1: 2:23pm On May 10, 2023 |
It's best to tell them to stay away from troubles and trouble makers. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Spanki(f): 2:25pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: Dicey, but every parent can tell to an extent how strong his or her child is, if you size the bully up and you notice their age mates, report the bully to the school teacher, then mock him privately at home and whisper in his ears, beat that guy up!!! That is if you know your child is not weak. BUT if you observe the bully is older, track his/er folks and report the bully to them, and even to the headmaster or principal. I was a bully though. Hakeem Momodu was my preyπ€£ππ ππ 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Kobojunkie: 2:28pm On May 10, 2023 |
CaptainFM1:When I was bullied as a kid, I told my dad about it and he confronted the bully in front of his parents threatened to get the police involved too. That was the end of that issue. Him standing up against the bully on my behalf gave me serious confidence against bullies to last me even to this day. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Adakintroy: 2:29pm On May 10, 2023 |
What do you understand by ideal?. Ideal situations are situation in which we "Invision". All things consider, all things going in a certain way.... Real situations are all things consider in reality. Real time. Which mean he can beat your child to death or blind him. Do you Want your child blind. Teach your child self defense. But not to bully. But Defend himself from bullies. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by toluleke(m): 2:29pm On May 10, 2023 |
Don't tell your boy to fight back but whenever he retaliate don't caution him. It will tell him take action when you need to and be able to trust his decision. The guy may over power him but when you face a bully they draw back. They know the boy got a fighting spirit. Whenever you fight back you build strength and ground 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by emezuo17: 2:29pm On May 10, 2023 |
Bullies don't stop unless and until the one being bullied resists, allow your boy to not just resist but give the bully double of his own dose, the bullying will stop automatically. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by buygala(m): 2:34pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: Some parents deliberately or inadvertently get careless with their disabled kids, perversely hoping that some accident will come kill the child, thus freeing them of the burden of taking care of such kid. What they can't bring themselves to do, they creat an environment for chance to help them out It's what it is. 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 2:37pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1:I will not tell my son to fight back, but if I found out he was bullied, I will beat him properly because I will always train him boxing every weekend. He should know what to do with the training 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Aurelius1(m): 2:41pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1:Teach your son to return slap for slap, pinch for pinch and watch the autistic bully leave him alone. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by scoobyblogspot(m): 2:43pm On May 10, 2023 |
Is like your house should be a face me I face you... Never advise your child to fight anybody.. just pray that God should bless you and you stay in a peaceful place |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Nobody: 2:46pm On May 10, 2023 |
You want your 3 years old child to fight an autistic child who doesn't understand or know how to express his emotions and behavior? Ha ha! Where's the love and sympathy? Would you be there to control how much your child learns from your defense lessons and turn hostile? Isn't a three-year-old too little to be exposed to a lesson that can go wrong? Isn't a three year old too young to be exposed to power and responsibility that comes with it? It would have been more understandable if you sternly warn the kid's mother yourself. Rather than train your child to become Mike Tyson, why not give him a candy to give to the autistic kid?. Who knows that may soften him up and help him realize someone cares and not everyone is an enemy. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Bahamas95(m): 2:47pm On May 10, 2023 |
OP don't do that, let him defend himself! You're gradually turning that boy into a weakling. I remember what my mum always tell me and siblings when we were kids. "Don't look for trouble, but if your mate hit you hit them harder"....... Nobody can intimate me, even if you can beat me I won't just allow you hit me without hitting back. I go make sure say I leave "signature" for your body. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by gfelo(m): 2:49pm On May 10, 2023 |
Don't teach your son that, you might create what you can never control later. My baby girl is only 2yrs but now I am praying for her, she started bullying me and her mother when she was younger anytime we scold her, I was saying she is just a child, now I have enrolled her in school, she bully everyone in school even her teacher whenever they scold her, this has been my plight, my baby girl is never scared of anyone whether her senior or junior. Within the street whenever she go out to play fight is all she do, I have started locking her indoor this days, and if I lock her she will be crying, I don't know what to do. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Mummyfour(f): 2:50pm On May 10, 2023 |
Enrol your children in a self defense or martial arts class. We all need it. The good thing is that they are taught how not to abuse the knowledge and also to know what skills to use for a particular kind of fight or combat. I will allow my children defend themselves definitely. I won't want my son's or daughters running under the bed in fear for their mates. Modified But In the case of the autistic child, your son should be told in clear terms that the boy is not really a bad person, but because of his condition. You may have to talk to the autistic child 's parents and also tell your son to try as much as possible to avoid him |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by neonly: 2:54pm On May 10, 2023 |
I had similar experience with my son 13yrs Inside school bus der was a particular kids dat bully him akways Solution I went to school to report D bully was called I saw d boy that shouting at my son how could dis type of person bully you Instructed my son anytime he try it again fight back or use your lunch box to hit his head make parents c come fight themselves later now Teachers were shock at my response Since then every kids avoid my kids when it come to trouble Telling yur kid to fight back is not wrong abeg Naso Nigeria problem take start 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by GOVERNORR: 2:54pm On May 10, 2023 |
Omo! Remember when I was 13 and I was embarrassed after fighting a guy bigger than I.. Came home crying and the football field was just across the road opposite our house.. My dad came out from his room with towel on his waist and instructed me to head out and he followed me. Dad, oya who did you fight with and I pointed. Dad says oya go and continue fight.. I first land the guy blow for nose without him seeing it coming. After dad saw blood he then said that's enough oya go home and knee down Him flog shege for my body and said avoid fight before it happens he was a nepa staff with lots of wires at home 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Juoflife1(f): 2:56pm On May 10, 2023 |
It is good to train kids to defend themselves. But in this case, the autistic child is not bullying. He just doesn't know what he's doing. Autistic children hit themselves and others. His parents are supposed to watch him all times. Pls, you have to keep an eye on your child. If anything happens, people will blame you because you should know better. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Davidave(m): 2:58pm On May 10, 2023 |
My life changed for the better the day my dad told me, "You won't get in trouble at home for defending yourself. Hit 'em back if you have to. Just don't be the one to start it." I was about 9 years old. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by BuddhaPalm(m): 2:59pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: Even though he is autistic, he must have learned not to put his hand into the flame of a burning candle, for example β because it will hurt him. In the same way, once your son woze him once or twice, he will arrange himself. You said it yourself, remember he calmed down briefly when your son reacted earlier. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by sunnymighty(m): 3:02pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: That boy is autistic and does not understand what he is doing. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by Karnice600: 3:03pm On May 10, 2023 |
victorVIC1: If I were you I won't encourage my son to hit back. They are just kids. Don't feed his mind with the adults' pill. There are other ways to go around that. |
Re: Is It Ideal To Ask One's Kid To Fight Back by makun01(m): 3:05pm On May 10, 2023 |
Time when i dey small if them beat me for outside i run come house, na better flogging i dey collect pass the beating wey i chop outside seff. Na so i man up dey fight some of my mates and seniors in the hood. Omoh street sweet oo 1 Like |
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