pocohantas:
The simple solution is to break up with the guy and move on. Once you realise he is a padlock bf or gf, simply move on.

Reminderz:
OP I saw your mention earlier, and you made some valid points... it's true that some men just want to be friends with benefits with a girl without any commitment or taking the next step in the relationship... but in most cases, even when the relationship is well defined by the man and he has made his intentions known, the lady still keeps her options open and cheats on the man, sometimes even when the man has already proposed and visited his parents...

women should learn to keep their legs closed and remain a virgin, by doing this, a man won't be scared to take things forward with the lady... but most ladies are hoes and lacks qualities needed in marriage and to maintain a home, so men who are ready won't see the need to commit fully to women like this... until women learn to remain chaste, this will forever continue.. men are now becoming wiser and not settling for less...

Persephone1:
Well written.

There are lots of undefined relationships out there. When people say they are in a relationship the first question that crosses my mind is "ship to where". You see lots of people dating without a purpose while sex and money remain their only common page. Do people even know the meaning of dating? How many people are deliberate with their relationships? Do they go further to read books on relationships? No, but they are very quick to profess love, have sex, break up, cry wolf, and move on to the next.

In a purposeful relationship, there are stages. The talking stage, the dating stage, the courtship then the marriage or long-term commitment. With each stage comes its peculiarities, do's, don'ts, and expectations. But people bring the last stage to the first and accept the perfect result. The op of that other thread and his lady are on parallel lines yet they are in a relationship. Lol, You don't expect peculiarities of the courtship stage from someone who in her mind is just dating you

Define your relationship, make sure your partner is on the same page as you, and watch things play out.
Personally, there are some things I except of a person I court but I don't expect of just a guy I talk to especially when it comes to emotional needs. Lol I may ignore an "Okay" response to a rant from an average guy but will "enter same trousers" with a guy I'm dating if he gives the same response. 🥴

Do not expect so much from people you are not committed to. Give a woman a reason to make you "first and only" and she will make you "THE ONLY ONE" . VERY SIMPLE STUFF 🤷

TheOldGods:
virginity is not only a woman's thing. A man that wants to marry a virgin should keep the same energy and be a virgin. No person deserve to be second class. That statement alone is double standard

TheOldGods:
virginity is not only a woman's thing. A man that wants to marry a virgin should keep the same energy and be a virgin. No person deserve to be second class. That statement alone is double standard

Thegamingorca:



Happy belated birthday Poco

TheOldGods:
Dude is 35 and not committed to this lady, yet he wants the lady to be committed to him. Double standard

Person wey never ready

PerfectStranger:

Virginity for men? Is you kidding me?

Persephone1:
Well written.

There are lots of undefined relationships out there. When people say they are in a relationship the first question that crosses my mind is "ship to where". You see lots of people dating without a purpose while sex and money remain their only common page. Do people even know the meaning of dating? How many people are deliberate with their relationships? Do they go further to read books on relationships? No, but they are very quick to profess love, have sex, break up, cry wolf, and move on to the next.

In a purposeful relationship, there are stages. The talking stage, the dating stage, the courtship then the marriage or long-term commitment. With each stage comes its peculiarities, do's, don'ts, and expectations. But people bring the last stage to the first and accept the perfect result. The op of that other thread and his lady are on parallel lines yet they are in a relationship. Lol, You don't expect peculiarities of the courtship stage from someone who in her mind is just dating you

Define your relationship, make sure your partner is on the same page as you, and watch things play out.
Personally, there are some things I except of a person I court but I don't expect of just a guy I talk to especially when it comes to emotional needs. Lol I may ignore an "Okay" response to a rant from an average guy but will "enter same trousers" with a guy I'm dating if he gives the same response. 🥴

Do not expect so much from people you are not committed to. Give a woman a reason to make you "first and only" and she will make you "THE ONLY ONE" . VERY SIMPLE STUFF 🤷

eazzzy1:
A more suitable analogy would be; you go to a dealership to buy a car, you try to test the car but it wouldn’t start. You then conclude the reason it wouldn’t start is because you haven’t paid for it. Your assumption is, once you pay and tow it home, it’s very likely to start functioning properly.

Are you saying married women don’t go out with other guys? Are they also keeping their options open? This is how you assume yourselves into bad marriages then start disturbing people with tales of your marital woes.