Newnas:


The woman had better be sharing the financial responsibilities in the home 50-50. Else, she'll pick her career and I'll pick a second wife.

I can't be suffering for an irresponsible wife.

felong:
Sometimes if you don't treat women this way, they won't be submissive and take you for granted. Once you install fear in her, she won't behave anyhow.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

armadeo:


Still not getting it I guess. You have all the power to decide but don't make a decision that you don't like from the beginning. If she has a job that requires anything you aren't comfortable with as a man let her go!!. Don't marry her and start trying to change the rules when the match had started.

In the example you have given above I would call you a bad husband if you were aware of the nature of job, went ahead to marry her and start threatening her second wife.

In summary if you're uncomfortable with any aspect of her life that you cannot absolutely tolerate then let her go.

bukatyne:


Isn't it easier to marry a woman whose career doesn't involve night duty than marry one and start giving her hassles?

Are you allergic to soft loving with peace everywhere?

Why do you lots thrive on struggle love like this? Why do you like to marry people not your spec then break their spirit to suit your interests?

'I can't cope with night shift work'; marry a career that doesn't require such. It is a different thing if ten years down the line, night duty enters the convo.

But to start with a career that requires heavy duty night shift when you don’t want it?

I can't comprehend.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

Postinor:
you would make a good wife

JpBiz92:
I can deliver number 2 to you in large quantities

Postinor:
is marriage not for better or worse before,u better change ur mindset before u end up as a lonely old woman without no man by her side

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

Newnas:

1. It's her responsibility to explain before getting married. If a part of my career requires something that I know could cause friction in my marriage then I make sure I explain it before marriage.

2. Is night duty a must? You're talking as if it's impossible to be a doctor or nurse without doing night duties.

pocohantas:
Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

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I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...

tiswell:
Na mumu dey wori u.

Kinehap:
Rubbish

If you can't work your marriage out you want others to divorce and be like you. Tommorow you will still look for a man to satisfy you.

If you are divorcing, avoid anything men.

Boldtrust:


Nothing. Just nothing. She goes into the marriage with a whole load of body counts, traumas and argumentative character.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

Kobojunkie:
So, a doctor in training agreed to hampering her own training schedule, right? You are trying to argue that it was not really the husband who made it difficult for the lady but the lady who wanted it difficult for herself but refused the work hard and all? She also locked herself out of her own married home after it all, right?

Idaytesj29:
■ He was talking about the night shift

Jennyclay:
the man is just a foolish confused man who has no reasons for his action.

The man is also a randy man reason his wife keeps getting STDs.

Honestly, I just hate Nigerian men!! They’re so disgusting and irritating

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

AllDModsAreMaad:


Wrong number even better, na better "the number you are calling doesn't exist" she be

DeLaRue:
In Nigeria, there's only the tiniest little chance of finding a suitable life partner that you can make a genuinely loving life with and live happily thereafter.

That's because, every facet of life here, ie. personal, professional, business and any other relationship you come into is almost always characterised by patent or latent mistrust, distrust, deceit, greed, lack of respect and decency, intolerance, bad faith, ruthless selfishness and so on.

Any expectation that a society which operates almost entirely on these flawed foundations can produce in large numbers individuals, whether male or female, of a character necessary for fostering mutually respectful, trusting, happy, and enduring marriages is misplaced.

You can't sow thorns and expect to reap oranges.

It all went wrong at the family unit. Nigerian boys and girls are not being brought up with the right values. By the time the average Nigerian chiild is in his/her mid teens, he or she's already disrespectful, deceptive, greedy, untrustworthy etc

Based on my personal observation of married friends and people around me, the vast majority of marriages are zombie marriages. The marriages are on auto pilot, years are going by, but absence of love, cheating, lack of mutual respect, intolerance, rudeness, coldness etc characterise most of the marriages.

nlfpmod:
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https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08

nlfpmod:
As shared by Vashti Vash Offo:



https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08

felong:
Sometimes if you don't treat women this way, they won't be submissive and take you for granted. Once you install fear in her, she won't behave anyhow.

Emaprince:
Yet women will never stop making marriage their number one prayer point.

They will never stop begging men to marry them?

Women should start by refusing to get married first...this world will be a very peaceful place without commitment to any one. That's exactly what men needs.