Karleb:
Why una dey marry this kind men?

Na wetin dey market be that

Why not? He's the father of the house. Not blaming him. When things got tough,his faith wavered. A woman's faith should stand when her husband's faith fails and vice versa.He became more wretched in the village. His coming back to the township put him back on his feet! All glory to God.

Konjiboii:


I'm glad it worked out eventually, do you still love and acknowledge him as a man, and does he provide now ?

My dear, I proved God beyond every reasoning! A miracle how we survived!

henrimoto:
6 kids!! Ha! HIS GRACE alone.

Thanks for engaging, Malcolm.😆

malcom1X:


He did not abandon the kids, it was you who refused to follow him.

Now he's back just showed that he was right in taking that decision.

It means he is back. He's no more as broke as the way he was.

Caleb15:

Na wetin dey market be that

I no go accept that o.

Maybe she no get luck abi she marry cause of gbola.

AutoChick4U:
baby mama when she's married? Seems u don't know some men are like shackles to some women. Abeggi. Village is bad and simply reeks of failure unless the person wanna retire there

My dear village isn't bad as you see it, their are some people living in Villa comfortable and doing fine more than those in the city.If they venture into agro honestly it might be a different story in the coming months or years.
Do you know if the man relocate alone and find another woman and marry her.Do you know that the later has turned to baby mama systematically?

Zealag:
■ My dear village isn't bad as you see it, their are some people living in Villa comfortable and doing fine more than those in the city.If they venture into agro honestly it might be a different story in the coming months or years.
■ Do you know if the man relocate alone and find another woman and marry her.Do you know that the later has turned to baby mama systematically?

Why are you folks so unreasonable. She is broke and moving back broke to the village. Surely she will not be one of those folks living in those villas amidst all that poverty.

2. The man packed his own things alone. You sure say he never already abandon the woman as someone hinted at earlier. *** shudders ***

Kobojunkie:
So there are lots of jobs waiting in the villages then?

Don't misquote me pls, it's not a must he gets a job or work in a firm there in the villa.he can as well learn a trade, handiwork ,agro,rearing animals.
They should start from a manageable environ not where they will hustle and gather 250k then pack it and give landlord,it's a no brainier.
Even If dey find their self in family house in the villa and at the end of the year the 250K they supposed to give landlord they find it in their position and invest with it, it's gonna go a long way.
Nobody said if they travel to villa dey can't relocate back to city.sometimes for you to count 4steps forward - you need to count 1backward,2foward,3backward and 4forward

Nigerfine3:

You do not know how relationship would turn after marriage

Bro,

Na sweet mouth and fine boy she follow marry that man. See wetin she talk say the man dey do. Lateness to work. Not taking his office responsibilities serious that got him fired. Tell me if you can do all those things or you as a boss watch your employee behaving like that?

Kobojunkie:
Why are you folks so unreasonable. She is broke and moving back broke to the village. Surely she will not be one of those folks living in those villas amidst all that poverty.

2. The man packed his own things alone. You sure say he never already abandon the woman as someone hinted at earlier. *** shudders ***

If anybody come and meet you for advice, you will worsen the condition for the person with the kinda advise you will give the person.
Just pray you don't find urself in certain situations, Miss reasonable - sodic ologbon

Zealag:
■ Don't misquote me pls, it's not a must he gets a job or work in a firm there in the villa.he can as well learn a trade, handiwork ,agro,rearing animals. They should start from a manageable environ not where they will hustle and gather 250k then pack it and give landlord,it's a no brainier. Even If dey find their self in family house in the villa and at the end of the year the 250K they supposed to give landlord they find it in their position and invest with it, it's gonna go a long way.
Nobody said if they travel to villa dey can't relocate back to city.sometimes for you to count 4steps forward - you need to count 1backward, 2foward, 3backward and 4forward

You didn't read what OP said very well, it seems.

momsloved:
My husband has been out of job since towards the end of last year. Almost the same time I had my second baby. The truth is, the same me nursing my baby has been the same person struggling to provide for the home.
Knowing that he contributed to his lost of job. He goes to work late, different excuses, doing the job anyhow that the management had to fire him. This is the second job he's losing due to carelessness.
He wasn't still meeting up with responsibilities even when he had those jobs. He was always complaining of TP expenses, deduction due to late coming, his salaries was not benefiting us.
Our present accomodation of 250k, one bedroom apartment is expiring ending of next month and I don't know how we're going to pay for the rent. The previous rent I have always contributed when I had the money.

Who exactly are you recommending this village hustle of yours to?

Kobojunkie:
You didn't read what OP said very well, it seems. Who exactly are you recommending this village hustle of yours to?

People change, change is constant.Write people off at ur own peril.Condition fit make person change anytime in life

Zealag:
■ If anybody come and meet you for advice, you will worsen the condition for the person with the kinda advise you will give the person.
Just pray you don't find urself in certain situations, Miss reasonable - sodic ologbon

Telling OP to buckle up as an adult who is equally capable of rescuing her family out of the fix it is in is worsening the condition? I hate to give impractical advice for sure since the real world is way harsher than the pictures you guys like to paint there.

Zealag:
■ People change, change is constant.Write people off at ur own peril.Condition fit make person change anytime in life

ROFLMAO


See what I mean... very unrealistic !

Text me your acct details and phone number

He shouldn't compare life in the village with the city, even in the village things won't be that easy for him, maybe he want to farm in the village, just kindly talk to him that you won't be going with him for now, that you will be coming to visit him once in a while, you can start from somewhere by frying of akara, yam with egg or cooking of food in small quantities and sell, or selling of drinks and pure water in a big buckets, and other ventures with little capital, God will surely weep your tears, just start small.

DeeBaDan:
Don't go. Let him go alone

You find a very cheap accomodation and do menial things you can do and make up to 50k per month. Like fried potato chips, fried plantain chips. Supply to shops. God will take care of you


When the chips are down, men drop professionalism.and go for what's available. If he can't forgo his pride and learn driver to get a car or bus he can drive and make daily income, divorce him. You don't need a loser as a mother of children. When things get tough, men ought to get tougher not fold up.


Going to village isn't proactive, productive, profitable or strategic. His inclinations as a man should tilt towards profitability not to recline to some nonsensical ideas. I travel.across multiple villages across the entire Nigeria. Let him go and try it for six months if he thinks the poverty in the city and that of the village are on the same.par

You are heartless and stupid at the same time, why will you advice someone's wife not to listen to her husband?

Kobojunkie:
Telling OP to buckle up as an adult who is equally capable of rescuing her family out of the fix it is in is worsening the condition? I hate to give impractical advice for sure since the real world is way harsher than the pictures you guys like to paint there.

My dear just pray you don't find urself in some kind of tight conditions.Forget all this long capping

I support the post below 100%. Divorce the looser and get busy with your life. God will take care of you and your two kids.
WHAT GOD CANNOT DO DOES NOT EXIST.
HE CAN ALSO GIVE YOU A GOOD HUSBAND WHO WILL BE READY TO FATHER YOUR TWO CHILDREN

DeeBaDan:
Don't go. Let him go alone

You find a very cheap accomodation and do menial things you can do and make up to 50k per month. Like fried potato chips, fried plantain chips. Supply to shops. God will take care of you


When the chips are down, men drop professionalism.and go for what's available. If he can't forgo his pride and learn driver to get a car or bus he can drive and make daily income, divorce him. You don't need a loser as a mother of children. When things get tough, men ought to get tougher not fold up.


Going to village isn't proactive, productive, profitable or strategic. His inclinations as a man should tilt towards profitability not to recline to some nonsensical ideas. I travel.across multiple villages across the entire Nigeria. Let him go and try it for six months if he thinks the poverty in the city and that of the village are on the same.par

Life is tough

Zealag:
■ My dear just pray you don't find urself in some kind of tight conditions.Forget all this long capping

I can never find myself in such a situation that began with since I like being honest with myself every step of the way in this life. And I like being honest with others as well.

Shut down

DeeBaDan:



Shut up

Cloudflare:


Drop the name of your village and the state it's located let's ascertain the obvious.

You go tell me whether successful businessmen we have in Nigeria were in their villages doing businesses. Una go just dey talk anyhow. Why u no relocate to your village since there are opportunities there?

so to your Wacky mind. everyone in the village are cutting palm tree? If you care to know my village, I'm from Agbor-Obi, Ika South LGA. My village is not your village, don't ever think that every village is like your village. Please travel and educate yourself.

Pls, advice me on what to do. I'm really fed up.
My kindly advice. Some women are really going through alot for some stupid men. Please don't go to the village with him.

Which state are you currently?

Call from the village… when these people call, you must answer.

momsloved:
Good afternoon everyone, pls I urgently need your advice and suggestions on this.

My husband has been out of job since towards the end of last year. Almost the same time I had my second baby. The truth is, the same me nursing my baby has been the same person struggling to provide for the home.

Knowing that he contributed to his lost of job. He goes to work late, different excuses, doing the job anyhow that the management had to fire him. This is the second job he's losing due to carelessness.
He wasn't still meeting up with responsibilities even when he had those jobs. He was always complaining of TP expenses, deduction due to late coming, his salaries was not benefiting us.

Our present accomodation of 250k, one bedroom apartment is expiring ending of next month and I don't know how we're going to pay for the rent. The previous rent I have always contributed when I had the money.
Presently I have no job. I left my job during delivery, but I'm hoping to start looking for job very soon. Yet, I'm not idle. I'm still trying with little business to cartar for the house.

The issue now is, he has arranged his stuffs preparing to relocate to the village and he wants us to go together because he can't afford to renew the rent.
I told him I can't go to the village with him, we are too young to start retiring to the village. What about good school for the children especially my first child? But he has decided to go without us, leaving us with the whole responsibilities.
I'm afraid, I can't afford everything here either. But going with him to the village is also very scary. A man who ignore us when there's nothing in the house, waiting for me to fix, how can I trust him and relocate with my two children to his village? I can't speak their language and it's an interior village, How do we survive there?
He's not even considering all these.
Pls, advice me on what to do. I'm really fed up.

This is very sensitive

Seat him down to discuss with him and point out reasons why it's not a good option

Meanwhile get a self contain accommodation that you can afford to pay the rent

vickydevoka:

He is not lazy oga. Give am job to see whether him no go do. Just say he didn't plan well B4 marriage. As a man , always take 90 percent decision of your life. Bcus when u are down , u are down alone

if he gets another Job, how sure are you he won't loose the job again out of carelessness? I am sure you read where she said, he has lost two jobs due to his carelessness.

Eagba:
Olodi with I too know personality.
I said Owerri west, because you see Owerri there and conclude it's Owerri. Owerri west is a local government area that different from Owerri. My part of Owerri west is a village. For your information, most parts of Scotland are considered villages

but why are you finding it difficult to mention your village name? You have been beating around the bush since that guy asked for your village name😁😁
Whether Owerri southwest or Owerri Eastnorth mention your village name.

How did you end up with such a person

agbonkamen:
but why are you finding it difficult to mention your village name? You have been beating around the bush since that guy asked for your village name😁😁
Whether Owerri southwest or Owerri Eastnorth mention your village name.

Even when dem mention village, it is almost 100% that the school they intend to boast of, the villagers living there cannot even afford to or dream of attending cause of high costs. If people living in the village cannot afford to attend the school in question, of what real meaning is there to mention the school's existence in this kind of conversation at all?

agbonkamen:
if he gets another Job, how sure are you he won't loose the job again out of carelessness? I am sure you read where she said, he has lost two jobs due to his carelessness.

Motherhood. You nor dey post pic again madam