Orikinla:

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If she should do so, trust the man to use it to insult her one day.

chaircover:

The man should propose; he is the one marrying the girl and not the other way round.

What the man should have done when he saw the lady about to get on her knees to propse was to quickly get down first and him do the proposing saving the girl the embarasment.

Many of us tease our husbands that they were "begging" to marry us & I would imagine the guy will tell the babe the same thing after they get marred.

BTW was it Feb 29th? cos that is the day that women are allowed to propose to their heart throbs  

kabukabu:

Wow
hold onto your horses lady , a woman proposing to her man doesn't automatically mean he is exempt from his male duties, perhaps he could be a tad undecided and just needed the extra ooomph from his lady.
Relax.

BABE!:

Uncle Ego, why are you screaming though?

Being in the 21st century doesn't mean we have to turn the "norms" upside down. 2011 this, 2103000 that-- Na wetin sef? Sticking with the norms doesn't make us cave men na.

Even if we want to switch up things for a change, at least we should do it "right". Doing it "wrong" is when a woman asks for her man's hand in marriage, and she expects her man to continue being the "man".

That's just some messed-up way of thinking.

My Nairaland brethren, imagine this scenario. A lady is dating a guy who has not proposed to her. She has been dating him for, say, five years and has been patiently waiting for the day he presumably gets on his knees and pops the question. This day, however, has yet to come, and she is running out of patience. Hmmm! What to do, what to do? She decides to take matters into her own hands: she decides that she will get on her knees and pop the question. One day while she and her boyfriend are having dinner in a fancy restaurant, she, in the presence of her friends, kneels down and proposes to him, and he says yes.

E be like say some people never get the koko of this yarnings!. . . Oya, read the above very slowly! When you finish, come for explanation!

How on earth do you think after 5 years of dating a lady, she wouldn't have known you so well, to know that you are probably shy to propose to her? And then when she boldly does and you accept, you expect her to lead you to the altar, and also assume your responsibilities as a man? Absolute Absurdity! Let's avoid sentimentality inna here! The question is about she setting the ball rolling, by asking you to marry her, not assuming your responsibilities! Oh Oh Oh! You mean she should wait till after 10 years for you to pop the question? SMH! Some men and their foolish egotism! Na wa oh! Anyone that still thinks that because a woman took the first step, your responsibilities as a Man, should be relegated to her, should better wake up, smell tha coffee, and realize that the train has left the station! This is 2011! next year is 2012! We are progressing, and NOT regressing! It is acceptable doesnt mean you, as a MAN, must wait for her to take the lead! But if he is too shy to take the lead? Ladies, all it needs to get an engine running in most cases, is a little twist of a key!. . . .

sexkillz:

E be like say some people never get the koko of this yarnings!. . . Oya, read the above very slowly! When you finish, come for explanation!

How on earth do you think after 5 years of dating a lady, she wouldn't have known you so well, to know that you are probably shy to propose to her? And then when she boldly does and you accept, you expect her to lead you to the altar, and also assume your responsibilities as a man? Absolute Absurdity! Let's avoid sentimentality inna here! The question is about she setting the ball rolling, by asking you to marry her, not assuming your responsibilities! Oh Oh Oh! You mean she should wait till after 10 years for you to pop the question? SMH! Some men and their foolish egotism! Na wa oh! Anyone that still thinks that because a woman took the first step, your responsibilities as a Man, should be relegated to her, should better wake up, smell tha coffee, and realize that the train has left the station! This is 2011! next year is 2012! We are progressing, and NOT regressing! It is acceptable doesnt mean tou must wait for her to take the lead! but if he is too shy to take the lead? All it needs to get an engine running in most cases, is a little twist of a key!. . . .

eghost247:

U Sounding cocky

eghost247:

if it were a topic about what a man can do a woman can do better im sure u would be saying the reverse

pm05337:

The Bible says "he who finds a WIFE finds a good wife and obtain favor (Prov 18:22). World standard vs Bible standard.

omoalayo:

What if She is not beautiful and u don't want her, ?

Huh? You mean after 5 years of Dating someone, this quadruplicated balderdash would still come out of his mouth?. . . . . Oya mi lenu o!. . . .

kabukabu:

Wow
hold onto your horses lady , a woman proposing to her man doesn't automatically mean he is exempt from his male duties, perhaps he could be a tad undecided and just needed the extra ooomph from his lady.

Relax.

horny4u:

Lol !!!!

He sure will be tad undecided in everything important that will move their life forward or otherwise.

If after 5 years he was undecided about marrying her i fear:

She may have to continually give him a push for every important decision.

She may not have married a decision maker.

She may actually have married a " I don't know what to do" to every important question in their life.

She may have to wear the trouser when life throws big ideas or otherwise to them.

Having said  that if marrying a go getter, a decision maker, a guardian  is not important to her then please go ahead as this is 2011 and many women are taking control and making it happen ( as she will have to forever).

Wish them all the best as they need it   .

Ehn Hen! Thank you!. . . . You spoke the truth in a swaggerlicious way! You did not say he should relegate his responsibilities to her! That is so good of you! And this scenario of lady proposing to man happens in rare cases! Doesnt in any way mean it's wrong! If a man allows a woman to also play out those your movie scripts? Na him cup of bournvita be that abeg!

horny4u:

Lol !!!!

He sure will be tad undecided in everything important that will move their life forward or otherwise.

If after 5 years he was undecided about marrying her i fear:

She may have to continually give him a push for every important decision.

She may not have married a decision maker.

She may actually have married a " I don't know what to do" to every important question in their life.

She may have to wear the trouser when life throws big ideas or otherwise to them.

Having said  that if marrying a go getter, a decision maker, a guardian  is not important to her then please go ahead as this is 2011 and many women are taking control and making it happen ( as she will have to forever).

Wish them all the best as they need it   .


p.s saying Yes can be anything he may have had pity on her, eyah or he may have been embarrassed into saying yes.

pm05337:

Not quoting the Bible out of context. A man should be the one to propose, Simples!!!

If you cant show me where the bible CLEARLY stated that a man should be the one to propose, then you have to accept you quoted the bible out of context!

BABE!:

I've never really understood that quote. What a man can do, a woman can do better? It doesn't even make sense. It's a random quote that some random woman made up to console herself. Therefore, if I "see" a topic like that, i'll most likely not comment.  

pm05337:

Pls read Proverbs 18:22

^^^ Done! But still cant find where it said a man should propose!. . . . You are still out of context! Admit or try again!

coogar:

i don't believe you, madam.
you are one of the feminists in this habitat!

coogar:

there's nothing wrong with a woman proposing to a man? women have been liberated. they now head various organizations, they rule countries, etc.

Why are you arguing with yourself?   Did I say/imply there was anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man?

There's nothing wrong with it, HOWEVER, she should know that talk is not cheap! Her proposing to her man means they've switched roles henceforth. If the guy decides to neglect his manly responsibilities--she shouldn't vex.

That being said, the man can still decide to take up his manly roles. That is his choice though.

coogar:

surely, kneeling down and proposing to a man shouldn't be the most difficult task ever. as a matter of fact, i need you to propose to me right now.

Coogzy, marry me-?  

E.nosa:

Biblically, that's not acceptable. proverbs 18:22 says; he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtain favour of the lord. Note 'HE THAT FINDS A WIFE' NOT 'SHE THAT FINDS A HUSBAND'.

So woman propose to you right now, you go say no? Oya lie! See bible quoting out of context! So the 5 years he spent dating her, he was finding torchlight? Cheeeeeiiiiii! NA WA O!!!   Now, diagrammatically show me where it says MAN MUST PROPOSE TO WOMAN!!!

BABE!:

What you quoted was actually more of "an anti-feminism/indifferent towards feminism" comment. So, what are you on about?

Why are you arguing with yourself?   Did I say/imply there was anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man?

There's nothing wrong with it, HOWEVER, she should know that talk is not cheap! Her proposing to her man means they've switched roles henceforth. If the guy decides to neglect his manly responsibilities--she shouldn't vex.

That being said, the man can still decide to take up his manly roles. That is his choice though.

Coogzy, marry me-?