Too much intelligence kills , OP be calming down what you are trying to do is pure folly. You want to damage the home you are yet to build. My piece of advice is that you should look for another lady to marry if you no longer trust your ex . And if you don't trust marriage go for adoption. If your ex is a gold digger she will ditch you by agreeing to your terms and settle the matter with a cool guy . And later tell you that none of those kids belong to you in the future by handing them over to the original father, if you think that DNA can save you OP nah long thing ooo . OP is about to sell himself to Nigerian gold diggers

lenghtinny:
Why didn’t you marry in your first world country…

She’s daft to offer you what’s left of her dignity all in the name of dual citizenship….

The only reason you are bold enough to approach her with the offer is because you are doing far better than her

You feel you are doing her a Favour with this ridiculous offer but there are other means through which you can feed your damaged ego….

you’ll realise this man probably has nothing hence running to Nigeria to find a naive single mother to settle down with. Men with money and success do not behave like this. They have many options even in the west. There’s obviously something wrong with this man, he is not normal.

beekind:

In a country where even girls with no baggage are still searching for husbands in their mid 30s . Or who are the ladies dating all these married men.
It seems objectivity is a lost art in Nigeria as majority of Nigerians tend to ignore the reality, sometimes I think they deliberately do this or the educational system is so bad that its become really difficult to reason without emotions.

Otherwise, how would you say having a child who is a dual citizen is not a blessing, when more than half of single girls are there dating married men, so are they any better than this lady if she takes this offer ?

You are just living in the world of your
own fantasy...thinking you are making sense. If you insinuate a lot of woman are already damaged and not good for marriage...it should be probably because of where you stay or your present location...stop generalizing. Good women and men are still marrying every Saturday.

lenghtinny:
Does that in anyway make it right

People like you are the type that make stupid people famous by encouraging their folly….

He should post it on Reddit or Quora, maybe he will get the kind of response he desires

I've seen people ask more uncomfortable questions in those forums. And this is just like a contractual union. Haven't you head about the marriage between Janet Jackson and a Saudi prince.

Op.
Just 1 question, how will you feel as a father if a man gives your daughter this same option?
Funny thing is that what goes around comes around. Sometimes it is refered to as karma.

olabrinks:
Some women have suffered sha. What the heck is dual citizenship and how is that a big deal? A single mother of 1 should make herself a single mother of 3 because of what? Women please go to school and make something of yourself ohhh.. to avoid situations like this please!

We’ll probably see this man has nothing abroad..none of the decent well to do babes there can even look your way. So going to Nigeria is the only way out for you to settle down.

You are spot on. Can you imagine the garbage this guy just vomited

Who will you say is the mother of those kid and what marriage certificate will you provide to prove you married the mother and she born the kids for you before processing their documents. Ogbeni go pay her dowry and do the right thing.

I kinda relate with you bro. Relationship is very difficult mostly for young ones nowadays cos of fake life media. I’ll say this go for the lady based on your last words which u claimed u still love her. However it seems to me u still don’t know what u want , this issue of ‘deal’ my guess would be it will crumble once she get u what you want which seems u just want kids. It appears u just wanna be called daddy not a husband. I also didn’t like the part of your tone where u sounded as though u doing d lady and her family a favor by getting involved. Bro no one knows tomorrow so humble yourself, wife her and bear your losses n blessings as they unfold. Goodluck

beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

all I can say here is God will punish Nigeria leaders and Africa leaders at large.

beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

If she's good enough to have your children, then she's good enough to be your wife. Do the right thing.

A lot of ills in our society are as a result of children growing up in separated homes

beekind:

The bolded is exactly what I thought until I found out that majority of those you think are decent girls are just pretenders especially in religious settings.
When you meet them outside of religious settings, you can lay them on the same day.

I am not making this up, I have been in the country long enough to realise whatsup.

I am not saying there are no good girls but majority are baaaaaaaaaaaaaaddd...

Have you met me? Decent ladies still exist...you're the one looking for a cardi b with a touch of holy mary. Congratulations on being a baby daddy in advance.

beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

are u saying if a girl born for u she became a citizens

beekind:

Typical Nigerian youth, unable to articulate himself properly or comprehend what is being said would rather resort to insult.

You must be a very wicked human being to make this type of condition, a stingy man.

.

Shey you get sister ur mind go dey! Because of dual citizenship ur mouth just dey tun like tap you dey feel like king oloshi

It's either you are a gigolo or a fraudster, you don't trust her to be your wife but trust her enough to have kids with her?? WTF

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

server it as it's hot

You bad ga ni

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

good question 👍

My brother if you are actually discipline, u will not fall victim; avoid slay Queens, avoid ladies that wear make up, Mary Kay, wigs etc. Go for a girl that dress natural, Do all the STDs test before you marry her.

Lance008:
Are you for real
This is not a deal bro
You are only helping her there are a lot of decent single girls that will be ready to marry you

Stop this and let that poor girl breeeeet

I suggest that you have already decided that there are no decent girls here. You are now mocking us in a sophisticated way because you have found someone who is a good match for you. You should go to a forum where people share your views. There are many such forums out there. Ask your question there.

This proposal reeks with infantile narcissism. Youre only thinking of yourself and consider it a favour to this single mum for asking her to give you two children.

Firstly, it is naive of you to conclude that you can never find a decent and godly lady in this country. Obviously, you have always been in the midst of indecent and wayward ladies.

There are thousands and probably millions of young, decent, untainted and godly ladies in Nigeria. The set of people you move with determine the people you meet. Birds of the same feather flock together. If you want to find good ladies, you have to be good yourself. Your inability to find a decent lady is an indirect indictment on yourself.

I hope the lady has a matured person around her to give her sound counsel on your proposal so that she doesn't enter into this "one chance"

If all you want is to have two kids why don't you consider adoption?

Beyond that, I advise you consider your old age. You won't remain this age for ever. Do you think your children would be proud of you when you're older and they get to know how you had them?

Please consider the uncountable variables of life, much of which are beyond your control.

I advise that you have your own family and build a home together with in a loving environment.

Oga dual citizen, you were obviously not born in the “West “ that means your dual citizenship was acquired, so this lady too and any Nigerian can acquire and millions have acquired dual citizenship , Oga please don’t put patronizing propositions to people because you were lucky enough to have taken a step before them. Go back to your western world and get a wife .

Persephone1:
Nigerian women don suffer

Chief! Ah ah you are selfish o! So if you don't eventually marry her nkor? You then finish and waste her life because which man would want to marry her after having 3kids with two different men?! Carry your dirty stinking dual citizenship comot! You are educated and know better! Ain't your friends even telling you the truth or are they YES people because you are probably dashing them small money. If you cannot marry her the right way, tell your people to look for wife in the village and marry. Don't add and make life worse for her in the future. Damn! Omo Walahi, Women are suffering o. Ehy.

Persephone1:
Nigerian women don suffer

Na this OP fit una

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

Or even his Daughter

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

It has nothing to do with him if the offer is thrown to his sister, this is a personal decision.

1. The fact that u have dual citizenship makes nonsense if the situation!
2. You are talking likry noonyr ever stays in Nigeria and make it. The way u were emphasizing 'dual citizenship' is very irritating
3. You belive that you are her track to success, damn it, u are not! Its just that these girls have head but they rarely use it!
4. You are not the best thing that has ever happened to her, get that straight.

Sorry if I offend anyone with this post. The Op sounded very irritating! Even though am a man, I never look down on single mothers. They also never wished they were in that position! He did in his post.

beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

You are very insensitive and selfish.

AllenSpencer:
I want to believe the girl is hungry and why you had the effrontery to throw such proposal at her!

She should become a baby mama because of dual citizenship? Does dual citizenship guarantee her love, affection, or marriage. Will same dual citizenship put food on her table in an eventuality?

Location does not “GUARANTEE” that kids will be a blessing. There are records of kids becoming very successful within Nigeria and internationally.

I don’t see a single thing she has to gain. If she was selling the babies to you, that would have been better. She has absolutely nothing to gain. All promises made are not guaranteed. Moreover, the proposal is insultive.

for Christ sake she is already a baby mama

Fool. U are looking for free sex u can't answer Wich country