Marry with the fear of God

Chingyyy878:
Weddings are so expensive nowadays. To young people that want to start their lives, go to court and have a small dinner with your close friends and family. You can do the party if you’d like years later.

Thanks!

Na so.

Samantha124:
So to hell with our African heritage, right?

Don't mind them, traditional marriage is a must as Africans

Samantha124:
It doesn't matter how I feel or think about it because they're not part of my culture and we need to learn to respect other people's cultures as long as they don't interfere with ours.

And besides, traditional wedding is a celebration which involves uniting two people who are in love.

Culture is dynamic and subject to modifications... It is man-made not Divine or Supernatural.

No culture has remained exactly the same since inception.

You don't hide behind culture to indulge in wastefulness and bankrupt suitors, or make them turn to crime in desperation to fulfill traditional rites.

Modifying practices is simple... Many wedding practices are being modified yearly to factor in decline in economy, except for places that want their suitors to be criminals or their daughters to remain single for a silly while.

Bro, 90% of ladies are not interested in married life. Their only interest is the wedding day. They want their friends and family to wear aso ebi. After a year they find excuse to divorce and go back their trade.

Prostitution as a divorced woman or widow pays more in Nigeria. Go figure.

Chingyyy878:
Weddings are so expensive nowadays. To young people that want to start their lives, go to court and have a small dinner with your close friends and family. You can do the party if you’d like years later.

Thanks!

I'm my life I would never do court marriage...that one na living in bondage,any small mess up babe don carry me go court dey shout my lord mbanu

Samantha124:
So to hell with our African heritage, right?

cultural obligation is to visit bride's family with wine and ask for her hand in marriage and then pay bride price.

wedding list is not part of our culture.

Samantha124:
What about traditional wedding?

Do the court wedding, and be in peace. The money to be wasted on the traditional or church wedding can be used for a project or something profitable.

The court wedding certificate or license is the only recognized marriage document if you step out of this country.

You don’t want to be frowning face after wedding because you are broke.

All that extravagance marriage ceremonies are not for couples who are still struggling.

Our new generation needs to start thinking smart, and stop practicing all these wasteful cultures.

TrustNone:
that is for immoral sinners like you that advocate for cohabiting and sex before marriage

I knew you were a dumb billy goat, but I didn't realise your lack of critical thinking has eaten deep into your brain folds.


What in my comment are you drawing a juxtaposition on? What is for people like me? I said I wasn't doing a 'small, court wedding' like the OP advised since I am not 'starting my life now', and you're saying...what? Abi you don't understand English? "Not by a long stretch?"

What is for immoral sinners? Where in my comment did I mention sex or cohabitation before marriage?


Ode oshi.

I prefer TM.. Court marriage is for the ladies. TM is for traditional men like me..

ednut1:
rest, court marriage is recognized by law and it’s cheap

Why are you insisting on court marriage ,I believe you have ulterior motives behind it ,i don't think it's all about cutting cost,this gender think say them wise

After spending billion


1month after d woman become

BOSS.

After 1year


Divorce in progress.

Way forward

Babyboyforeal:
in where i came from Edo state we don't play with traditional marriage it's highly regarded

i know. My father escorted one of the landlords in our area for his wives burial in edo state. Apparently they didn’t do traditional marriage. The man was made to marry the corpse.

It is only when it comes to a large, traditional wedding that you people will remember that these things are not set in stone, and people should modify as it suits them.


But you will not apply the same critical thinking to bearing surnames, paying bride price, kneeling down at a wedding ceremony and whatnot, and question why you're doing some things our "ancestors" handed down to us.

Yeye.

Bigmouth3:

Why are you insisting on court marriage ,I believe you have ulterior motives behind it ,i don't think it's all about cutting cost,this gender think say them wise

you are assuming i be woman Lol. The people afraid of court wedding are mostly broke self and have no property the court can take in the first place 😆

Magnoliaa:


I knew you were a dumb billy goat, but I didn't realise your lack of critical thinking has eaten deep into your brain folds.


What in my comment are you drawing a juxtaposition on? What is for people like me? I said I wasn't doing a 'small, court wedding' like the OP advised since I am not 'starting my life now', and you're saying...what?

What is for immoral sinners? Where in my comment did I mention sex or cohabitation before marriage?


Ode oshi.

oponu Keep rolling on the bed of fornication and swimming on the River of adultery.
Your doom is coming soon.
Awon Oni ranu oshi

Lovemeharder:
I also prefer a small marriage blessing or court wedding, cos after all the huge spending in doing one Big white wedding nobody will look you and your wife's face.
The last wedding I attended, I saw very few gifts that was presented to the couples and it was not encouraging at all.
People will come, eat and drink well, then go back to thier respective homes.

Why won't they come and eat? You invite the public to a feast and you want them to bring gift? Na WA for una. Nobody send you to do what you can't shoulder. Even at all, some of the invitees might even be co-shareholder in the new wife/husband.

Who do wedding

For

Bible?


Only WOMEN benefits form d wedding

Things.

Magnoliaa:
Well, since it's for people who want to "start their lives now," no problem.

Not for me by a long stretch.

And why is a marriage referred to as 'starting one's life?' All the years wey you don dey live, nko?

Start their married lives together.

Fountainofyouth:
Some young couples have the money to do big expensive wedding, so rest, at the end of the day couples would do whatever they like.

avoid this type mindset. They are the showoff and materialistic type that will drain you and still accuse you of not being a responsible man.

Just imagine are comments.

Lovemeharder:
I also prefer a small marriage blessing or court wedding, cos after all the huge spending in doing one Big white wedding nobody will look you and your wife's face.
The last wedding I attended, I saw very few gifts that was presented to the couples and it was not encouraging at all.
People will come, eat and drink well, then go back to thier respective homes.

You're getting it twisted! You're inviting people to celebrate with you on your wedding day, it wasn't met for you to exploit them or demand gifts. I will even advise, do not expect gift(s). Gifts are voluntary, that's why it's not advisable to do more than your financial power.
You can decide to cook for your audience or not.
INVITEES ARE NOT CHOOSERS, DON'T BE MEN PLEASER. IT ALWAYS END IN REGRET!

So your ancestors weren't giving the groom's family any wedding list?

obi58:


cultural obligation is to visit bride's family with wine and ask for her hand in marriage and then pay bride price.

wedding list is not part of our culture.

Samantha124:
So your ancestors weren't giving the groom's family any wedding list?

with what paper?

If your wife to be insists on traditional, and white wedding. Simply divide the bills. If she refuses, look for another lady within your budget. It only after marriage you will realize that it's all about procreation and nothing more. Afterall it's not like you are marrying a virgin. Love self na scam. Those who have ears let them hear.

If in your tribe you guys hide behind culture to indulge in wastefulness and bankrupt suitors, then that's your problem... Not every tribe is like yours.

Angelfrost:


Culture is dynamic and subject to modifications... It is man-made not Divine or Supernatural.

No culture has remained exactly the same since inception.

You don't hide behind culture to indulge in wastefulness and bankrupt suitors, or make them turn to crime in desperation to fulfill traditional rites.

Modifying practices is simple... Many wedding practices are being modified yearly to factor in decline in economy, except for places that want their suitors to be criminals or their daughters to remain single for a silly while.

That's good.

tollyboy5:

I will not do court wedding . God 4bid, i will gather money do traditional wedding in a little way that's all.

IamAsiri:
Start their married lives together.

Oh...okay.

That makes sense.

Samantha124:
We are Africans and traditional wedding is part of who we are.

So is abject poverty

You can't force people to do your bidding. It's left for those who intend doing wedding; if they can afford it, no problems, allow them do their thing.

I find it so unreasonable to spend anything more than times 3 of my monthly income on a wedding. Whatever my income is, my maximum budget for a wedding is times three of that sum, whatever that may be at the time, or in the alternative, no more than one third of my savings.

Anyone who doesn't like it can find someone else to marry.

People are out here spending their life savings on a wedding when they could have started a business or taken some other life-changing decisions.

Marriage that 7 out of 10 times they end up hating each other within 2 years.

Yeah... Just because guys want to adopt a white man's culture in everything you do.

The same white man who's sticking to his own culture by doing the white wedding.

being:

Who says culture has to be static?! Culture is dynamic samantha..