budaatum:
It is your pain that is making you speak redpill. And if (hopefully, once) your pain cures so too will your limited view of women.

Amin loruko Jesu. Pain is a b-word.

Seun:

Amin loruko Jesu. Pain is a b-word.

15. Don't attempt to post censored words by misspelling them!

Is "Amin loruko Jesu" the reason you have not evolved Nairaland since when you said "let there be" and it is?

Seun:

Amin loruko Jesu. Pain is a b-word.

I thought they said you were an atheist

EbenezerTriumph:
when konji hold you, your brain go reformat.

This is exactly why you are just being used by your so called “girlfriend”. Rise above your primitive Nature.

Na mumu dey send money give woman

Haylel:

Kinda looked here and there and i've come to a conclusion not to help anybody, man or woman.
Charity? NO!
Pious giving? NO!
Help anyone? NO!
Let's be honest, most of the time, the helper gains nothing.

READ PROVERBS 19:17

Animegirl:
Is not about helping a woman, you men still want something more under her legs. You always feel entitled to her body, marriage, even her time, is only few good men that don't ask anything in return.

As a lady I always go back to appreciate, is not even a gender thing. But anytime I go back to appreciate is when can we see

I THINK MEN WHO COMMIT FORNICATION DON'T KNOW THEY ARE LOOSING EVERYTHING TO A WOMAN WHO VIRTUALLY DOES NOTHING FOR THEM. ATLEAST IF YOU ATE MARRIED YOUR WIFE WILL KEEP THE HOUSE IN ORDER, COOK FOR YOU AND IN RETURN TO MAKE LOVE TO HER. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR WIFE IS A DUTY, WHICH MEANS YOU DESERVE TO BE PAID FOR THE WORK YOU PERFORM ON YOUR WIFE, WHICH SHE PAYS INDIRECTLY BY TAKING CARE OF THE HOME, AND BY EXTENSION HAVE CHILDREN THAT YOU CAN SEND ON ERRANDS ETC

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

True. However, as in most things, exceptions tend to invalidate generic statements.
Some men also have entitlement mentality and some ladies have grateful hearts.
It all balls down on the person, majority of Nigeria men are more grateful while majority of Nigerian ladies are more entitled.

Same as your campaign against tribal slurs recently.
That the majority of a tribe is known to behave a certain way does not mean they all do. There is usually exceptions.

Animegirl:
Is not about helping a woman, you men still want something more under her legs. You always feel entitled to her body, marriage, even her time, is only few good men that don't ask anything in return.

As a lady I always go back to appreciate, is not even a gender thing. But anytime I go back to appreciate is when can we see

When can we see might not mean the way you pictured it

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

Seun please don't let my nominations go to waste. I can be romanceland moderator

FatherCHRISTMAS:

Seun please don't let my nominations go to waste. I can be romanceland moderator

Notorious beggar wants to be a mod?

EbenezerTriumph:
Seun I coughed out 200k from my savings to buy a phone to my girlfriend. Currently she says we should stop speaking at night when once it's 10pm only to find out she has been engaging on late night calls with her new crush.
The house she's currently staying I paid for it, sent her monthly upkeep and regular surprises but when it's a up to a week that I last gave her gifts she'll start acting cold against me

Damn🤦‍♂️

This hurt

EbenezerTriumph:
Seun I coughed out 200k from my savings to buy a phone to my girlfriend. Currently she says we should stop speaking at night when once it's 10pm only to find out she has been engaging on late night calls with her new crush.
The house she's currently staying I paid for it, sent her monthly upkeep and regular surprises but when it's a up to a week that I last gave her gifts she'll start acting cold against me

😭😭😭😭

Proserpina:
This is coming from a man who wants to get rid of misogynists and bring women/ladies back to his forum.


Interesting.

Honestly, I'm surprised.

I just stumbled on this thread now by mistake and surprised he was the one who created this dummy thread.

folake4u:



Honestly, I'm surprised.

I just stumbled on this thread now by mistake and surprised he was the one who created this dummy thread.

U guys let every thing trigger u ..it doesn't let u see what u should see .......isn't it clear he deliberately opened the thread to draw is conclusions on the complains from women..... because not long after that he opened a thread on dealing with it ...

Dude even responded with "Amin loruko Jesu" to someone on this page.....the nigga is an atheist ...u guys cant even see his sarcasm

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

oshey baddest 🙌

Proserpina:
This is coming from a man who wants to get rid of misogynists and bring women/ladies back to his forum.


Interesting.

Can't a man ask a simple question anymore?

EbenezerTriumph:
Seun I coughed out 200k from my savings to buy a phone to my girlfriend. Currently she says we should stop speaking at night when once it's 10pm only to find out she has been engaging on late night calls with her new crush.
The house she's currently staying I paid for it, sent her monthly upkeep and regular surprises but when it's a up to a week that I last gave her gifts she'll start acting cold against me

A great mosdii once said "Nigerian girls are useless,all of them..



Now look at what you wrote up there,lay a hand on your head and say
"God am a fool and also useless like Nigerian girls,lord kill every wimpy simply spirit in me this 2024.....

EbenezerTriumph:
Seun I coughed out 200k from my savings to buy a phone to my girlfriend. Currently she says we should stop speaking at night when once it's 10pm only to find out she has been engaging on late night calls with her new crush.
The house she's currently staying I paid for it, sent her monthly upkeep and regular surprises but when it's a up to a week that I last gave her gifts she'll start acting cold against me

You have been SIMPlified

Run!

capnies:


I THINK MEN WHO COMMIT FORNICATION DON'T KNOW THEY ARE LOOSING EVERYTHING TO A WOMAN WHO VIRTUALLY DOES NOTHING FOR THEM. ATLEAST IF YOU ATE MARRIED YOUR WIFE WILL KEEP THE HOUSE IN ORDER, COOK FOR YOU AND IN RETURN TO MAKE LOVE TO HER. HAVING SEX WITH YOUR WIFE IS A DUTY, WHICH MEANS YOU DESERVE TO BE PAID FOR THE WORK YOU PERFORM ON YOUR WIFE, WHICH SHE PAYS INDIRECTLY BY TAKING CARE OF THE HOME, AND BY EXTENSION HAVE CHILDREN THAT YOU CAN SEND ON ERRANDS ETC

A wife is a good thing honestly

That is why men pay to have a wife

Let me correct you here... In any forum of discussion, the rules are that, you attack the "Agenda" of discussion NOT the "Presenter" or the "Personality' but you left the Agenda to attack the presenter, that's very wrong too.

You talked about discernment in your comments, but yourself failed to discern that the OP was referring to Ladies within his locality & environment only. If you reviews post and comments of folks here justly, you would identify that the bashing or name calling of ladies here referred to Nigerian ladies alone and NOT other nationals.... You scope of reasoning and comments should not have been widen outside Naija girls, except that you needed a loophole to make your point

Most often than not, you would have seen post and comments by men attacking their fellows against domestic violence, physical abuses and ill treatment against women. If you follow comments here holistically, you would notice that the males oppose themselves when their fellow is wrong supporting the women... But same is not likely seen among females and women.

Seun as well as other public moderators is not perfect and can never be seen as perfect in giving comments at all instances... But that's not a good reason to daint and ridicule his personality as the head of this great forum,NL.
I think you owe him and every good thinking participants here an apology.

Reading through his post, you could see some jovial aspect on it - that it wasn't meant to attack the female gender. Yes! You have every right, as a participant to address issue you felt inappropriate or unjustly., but do it in a manner that would not sound as hate.

Mind you, you cleverly, ignorantly or deliberately did not comment or opposed the bad treatment he got from your fellows.

Nairaland is a good place to be! So far, the pioneers are doing great job. It takes multitude of intelligence to lead a public forum. Seun you try! Keep it up.

etrange:


It's disappointing to see you putting people in a box based on gender. Your fighting tribalism by declaring war on name checkers, but you're not discerning enough to know that calling out a whole gender based on your experience with some ladies isn't any different. How many women have you helped? How many countries have you lived in? How many cultures have you experienced? How did you come to this sweeping conclusion about an entire gender? You really think it's smart to profile the women of this world based on your experience with some ladies somewhere in Nigeria? You think some of us don't have men we've helped that did not show any appreciation? You think we don't have uncles and male cousins that feel entitled to our wealth? If you type this way on NL, how do you intend to combat sexism? Or you just don't know how important your posts are as the owner of this platform? Do you have an idea how many people have used this your post to push thier anti-women narratives on other threads? Shame.

STYCNig:
Let me correct you here... In any forum of discussion, the rules are that, you attack the "Agenda" of discussion NOT the "Presenter" or the "Personality' but you left the Agenda to attack the presenter, that's very wrong too.

You talked about discernment in your comments, but yourself failed to discern that the OP was referring to Ladies within his locality & environment only. If you reviews post and comments of folks here justly, you would identify that the bashing or name calling of ladies here referred to Nigerian ladies alone and NOT other nationals.... You scope of reasoning and comments should not have been widen outside Naija girls, except that you needed a loophole to make your point

Most often than not, you would have seen post and comments by men attacking their fellows against domestic violence, physical abuses and ill treatment against women. If you follow comments here holistically, you would notice that the males oppose themselves when their fellow is wrong supporting the women... But same is not likely seen among females and women.

Seun as well as other public moderators is not perfect and can never be seen as perfect in giving comments at all instances... But that's not a good reason to daint and ridicule his personality as the head of this great forum,NL.
I think you owe him and every good thinking participants here an apology.

Reading through his post, you could see some jovial aspect on it - that it wasn't meant to attack the female gender. Yes! You have every right, as a participant to address issue you felt inappropriate or unjustly., but do it in a manner that would not sound as hate.

Mind you, you cleverly, ignorantly or deliberately did not comment or opposed the bad treatment he got from your fellows.

Nairaland is a good place to be! So far, the pioneers are doing great job. It takes multitude of intelligence to lead a public forum. Seun you try! Keep it up.

Attack the agenda? You mean you wanted me to start telling an adult "oh, not all women are like that, it is an individual thing"? No bro, I did not come to argue petty things that anyone with a brain already knows. I came to fault his delivery. In other words, the appropriateness of his delivery was my own agenda. Even if he had said Naija girls, it wouldn't have changed a word in my response because Nigeria has more than 100 million women with different cultures and personalities, and showing appreciation has nothing to do with biology.

Yes, you are right, when we see threads about a guy doing something bad or raping someone, you read Nairalanders call him out and say things like "he should be castrated", etc. But there is a difference between condemning the culprit and being sexist. It is a common knowledge that once the topic is about a lady, even when it's just a controversial act and not necessarily a crime, you see them calling out the gender and not just the lady in question. That right there is sexism. Heck, they don't even need a lady to be the culprit, they call out women even on unrelated threads. The romance section is full of threads created to disparage women. How many ladies do we have left on this platform for you to be comparing how they react to threads? In a move to tackle tribalism on this platform, Seun recently promised to bare his fangs against those Nairalanders that check the names of offenders just to know and call out thier tribes. What beats me is how none of you see that calling out a gender cause of the actions of certain individuals also follows the same basic principle of discrimination as tribalism, racism, classism, etc.

I have nothing against Seun. The young man has a difficult job, and I appreciate that fact. He was following me before Nairaland went down in 2014. I have hailed and supported him against others when I felt he was in the right. Likewise, I call him out when I feel he is in the wrong. It is our social responsibility to hold each other accountable. Therefore, his perfection or lack of thereof has no bearing on my response to him. By the way, I am not a lady. I am a man saddened by the unnecessary bias and worried by what it could mean for the future generations. You assuming my gender based on the fact that I'm holding my fellow men accountable only goes to show how deep-rooted the problem is. It means that by your standards, part of being a man is supporting men and there lies the problem, kind sir.

I'm happy that women are engaging with this thread, even if it is to express their displeasure. That's what this section needs. At least they know that whatever they have to say will not be dismissed or attacked unfairly on this thread, because someone who is fair-minded is watching it.

I have observed a difference between the way that young women and young men respond to gifts. I'm not sure that it applies to older people. My female friends often tell me what other men are doing for them as if they expect me to join an expensive competition for their attention. It seems clear that the way young men chase young women makes them feel entitled to receive gifts. Making it difficult to appreciate every gift.

It's just an observation that I made from my life, and I wanted to see if other people have had the same experiences or if I'm completely wrong.

Seun:
I'm happy that women are engaging with this thread, even if it is to express their displeasure. That's what this section needs. At least they know that whatever they have to say will not be dismissed or attacked unfairly on this thread, because someone who is fair-minded is watching it.

I have observed a difference between the way that young women and young men respond to gifts. I'm not sure that it applies to older people. My female friends often tell me what other men are doing for them as if they expect me to join an expensive competition for their attention. It seems clear that the way young men chase young women makes them feel entitled to receive gifts. Making it difficult to appreciate every gift.

It's just an observation that I made from my life, and I wanted to see if other people have had the same experiences or if I'm completely wrong.

Uncle Seun reason am now

As very young children we all grow up seeking the approval of our elder siblings, parents, teachers etc.

At a certain point in the teenage years for women they start to notice that not only do they now have automatic approval from guys but guys are now seeking their approval. The beauty of biology

Guys will often say whatever, do whatever and gift whatever just for their approval. The gifting of things can naturally start to lose its value. This would be the same for men if this was our lived experiences.

I personally feel a lot of the behavioural differences between the sexes is as a result of the different lived experiences. I suspect men would behave like women in many other ways if they lived through most years of their lives being treated like women. And vice versa

Seun:
I'm happy that women are engaging with this thread, even if it is to express their displeasure. That's what this section needs. At least they know that whatever they have to say will not be dismissed or attacked unfairly on this thread, because someone who is fair-minded is watching it.

I have observed a difference between the way that young women and young men respond to gifts. I'm not sure that it applies to older people. My female friends often tell me what other men are doing for them as if they expect me to join an expensive competition for their attention. It seems clear that the way young men chase young women makes them feel entitled to receive gifts. Making it difficult to appreciate every gift.

It's just an observation that I made from my life, and I wanted to see if other people have had the same experiences or if I'm completely wrong.

the truth is that men show more appreciation than females, I'm talking from experience.

I assisted my niece when she was in the University till she graduated, she could not even call to thank me for all the sacrifices I made for her, this is someone that would call me all the time to ask for money and I never disappointed her for once, but it's more than Three years since she finished and stopped calling me.

Meanwhile I don't forget people that help me no matter how small it is.

Seun:
I'm happy that women are engaging with this thread, even if it is to express their displeasure. That's what this section needs. At least they know that whatever they have to say will not be dismissed or attacked unfairly on this thread, because someone who is fair-minded is watching it.

I have observed a difference between the way that young women and young men respond to gifts. I'm not sure that it applies to older people. My female friends often tell me what other men are doing for them as if they expect me to join an expensive competition for their attention. It seems clear that the way young men chase young women makes them feel entitled to receive gifts. Making it difficult to appreciate every gift.

It's just an observation that I made from my life, and I wanted to see if other people have had the same experiences or if I'm completely wrong.

not just young men, it started from our father's. Naturally Africa has always been a patriarchal society.

In the old days women were considered as possessions so to adorn your wife with expensive warlords and jewelry was also a way of showing off your status symbol.

Women were raised to expect gifts from men not work for them. Women were taught it's their entitlement to be given gifts to fulfil their role as women which was primarily to look good for their man.

So it's a far reaching problem from the basic ideology which was passed down and like all things evolved but in this case devolved.

You’re absolutely on point . When I was running my ND program, there is this guy that did feed me for a like semester, then he liked beans , he would cook and halla my name through the window to come out and take my portion..



Fast forward to now, not bragging I’ve done x10000 of what he did for me then…
Also there’s this girl that helped me with my project back then, even though I ended up knacking her, I still come through for her time to time…

seanwilliam:
You’re absolutely on point . When I was running my ND program, there is this guy that did feed me for a like semester, then he liked beans , he would cook and halla my name through the window to come out and take my portion..



Fast forward to now, not bragging I’ve done x10000 of what he did for me then…
Also there’s this girl that helped me with my project back then, even though I ended up knacking her, I still come through for her time to time…

Wetin this thing wey you write get to do with anything? E be like say all the soapy don dey affect your mind

Seun:
If you help a man, he will appreciate it for a long time. If you forget, he will remind you. It is as if he owes you a debt. The guy that helped me to bring back Nairaland in 2014 could do no wrong in my eyes until last year. And even now, you won't catch me saying anything against him.

If you help a woman, she will appreciate it for a short time. 3 days. A week. A month. 3 months. Then it's as if you never helped her. It's history. Your help is like a subscription. Once it expires, you can be ghosted. Unless you renew it. And there are many other subscribers, so stop feeling as if yours was such a big deal. 😭

PS: Please o; I don't do redpill. Women are not ungrateful. They recieve help all the time, which they deserve. I'm just speaking from pain. 😭

Your help is like a subscription........Words of wisdom from senior man.