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Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 6:14pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: Manipulative lies lies lies lies. This is all sentiments. U av no idea of the real situation. We are human not machines. A woman cannot cheat and expect the man to be logical. U av no freaking idea 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by pocohantas(f): 6:16pm On Jan 22 |
chidiokay: Nobody is forcing you guys to marry. I wonder why you are crying enough to type this senseless epistle. When you divorce your wife and leave those kids for her to take care of alone, come let's have this conversation. I bet she wouldn't even miss you. What kind of husband and father fools around online for years? Women dey marry sha, but normally you be her level. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 6:21pm On Jan 22 |
Afodot0022: When u innocent as a man it's difficult to move on. Very difficult, it takes God. Women lie alot just to get divorced, God help innocent men please. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by EreluRoz: 6:22pm On Jan 22 |
royalfly:If she confirms the kids are not yours then automatically you are not under any obligation to care for those kids, let her look for the father to assume duties. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by STYCNig(m): 6:37pm On Jan 22 |
1. The above can only happen to Men who would oppose wisdom words of Elders. 2. When strong advice is given here on how to handle such creatures from foundation on time, some men who would definitely be a victim of this type of incident will side the opposite. 3. I think we should help men by uncovering the real Bitter and Anti Pills that would mitigate them from being victims. 4. The big issue is if we choose to tell you A-Z of women here, will you accept it and put same into practice? Until we are sure, we wouldn't want to waste such brave resources of knowledge. 5. Naija Women knows a man they can't toil with and they know those they can play fool off. 6. The attitudes of Nigerian women is just exceptional to them, other nationals aren't behaving like Nigerian Women. I don't want to sound harsh, but in such circumstances above, if you were not at fault... There are codes you could initiate to make her live the rest of her life in regret... But do you have the Mind? Crack; the best crack code to use against wicked Naija women is Emotional turture. It can make them commit suicide, depreciate their health, steal their joy and peace all the days of their lives.... It all depends on how wealthy and vast you are in deploying different emotional instruments. There are Emotional Codes you can also use to make those children at her custody see her as a wicked Mum, irrespective of how she tries to indoctrinates them against you.... i.e the more she indoctrinates them against you, the more they will hate her and cry to change custody to be with you. We can help men, but not until we are sure that those depths of knowledge will be utilized. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Father254: 6:45pm On Jan 22 |
[quote author=Afodot0022 post=128065540]Thanks for your words Poco, your comment is embedded with knowledge and wisdom. True there is no perfect marriage out there but attimes taking a break is just necessary. Cheating from her was even the least of what she does, for me to back out, have already out way the negative and positive and realize leaving will be more advantageous to me.she is not supportive, she is disrespectful, she belittle me to every tom dick and harry, she doesn't cover her family affairs but rather expose to the public, she is more loyal to her family than her own immediate family,to crown it up, she added infidelity to it, this is just too much to take from a woman as a man, even though there is no perfect person,some people are more better than the others. The reason why I don't get bothered about this new babe am with now despite discovering some trait in her, I don't see myself getting into marriage again cos I don't see any advantage marriage is to a man except just responsibility and bills. Anyways thanks Poco. What if they deny you access to the kid . No call s no pictures no video calls. How do you handle this situation? |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Father254: 6:48pm On Jan 22 |
poweredcom: Nigeria women are better than Kenya women are next to the devil. When they sting you take grace to recover. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by chidiokay: 6:50pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: Front sit reservations at shiloh annually and kayamantra is that not "Force" enough abi you wan add rope nii kian! have "this conversation" as my what ?? mentor, therapist or guardian Beelzebub, wall gecko thinking of itself as a lizard i think its time you read laws of attraction, stop pushing your luck |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by BABANGBALI: 6:52pm On Jan 22 |
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Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by pocohantas(f): 6:52pm On Jan 22 |
chidiokay: Lol. I know how attraction works. Sadly this is the closest you can come to me by that law. In reality you are with your kind. I hope you wouldn't be needing the rope soon. The delusion to think I attend Shiloh or have any need to. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 6:53pm On Jan 22 |
EreluRoz: Confirms? She said so and moved out of the house with soldiers. Should the man still be running after her to confirm or just let her be till she is ready to co perent by bringing proof that the kids are his? When she left she was sent some money for school supply but claimed it was money owed her while she was in the house keep in mind that she was the one who asked for money for the school supply but would end up using that money in addition to her own to change the child school 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 6:59pm On Jan 22 |
pussyphilia: Shit ...... God who is this please? Worst of it all she may be a married woman. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by chidiokay: 7:01pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: Lier !! you know laws of attraction yet you are happy sukki papito chose you You better buy laws of attraction from an accredited bookshop and throw that one you bought inside amukoko traffic away .. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Raalsalghul: 7:02pm On Jan 22 |
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Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 7:02pm On Jan 22 |
peanutbutterr: To hell with the kids and the mum... karma will hunt them even after death. Who cares. People are so wicked. U can't hurt someone and give them rules to follow. To hell with all of them |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by AlphaHakimi: 7:04pm On Jan 22 |
OP I perfectly understand your point. But if we should tell ourselves the truth, the pain of providing for your kids is not basically because you provide. It stems from the fact that the money you send will be used by your ex-wife for her own personal needs instead of the kids. Most women after divorce use the kids to siphon money from their ex husband's. They lie about the kids health, the inflate school expenses, the inflate groceries and every other thing needed by the kids. They now use the money meant for the kids to live their lives. This is exactly the scenario that men abhor. After divorce, most men are willing to allow their women to go and live their life the way they want but most women make it their life's mission to destroy the man. OP, if it's possible, pay for only verifiable expenses. Go to their school and pay the fees directly. If they are sick, go to the hospital and pay directly. Buy the groceries and send to them. Your ex wife should also contribute monetarily in taking care of the kids. Also ensure you evidence of what you do. Don't be scared, in future, your kids will understand especially the male children. Shalom 4 Likes |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by pocohantas(f): 7:07pm On Jan 22 |
chidiokay: Of course. Who exactly was he supposed to choose? Your wife that throws grammatical bombs and cooks hideous meals? C'mon dude. Life is not a Nigerian film. Ain't no rich prince marrying an ata rodo seller. No disrespect intended. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 7:10pm On Jan 22 |
chidiokay: To hell with all of them. U av never been there so don't even try to reason it we can only pray that the man finds it in his heart to provide foe the kids with time. Keep in mind the guy is not intentionally leaving the kids. He is hurt beyond understanding. See ehnn u all will never understand. Cheating by a woman, even bragging about it. Running her mouth that the kids are not his. Even leaves the house with help of soldiers for no reason. Sent money even while she us away for school supply ends up changing the child's school. How are u going to deal with all that. U just need God to survive that |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Raalsalghul: 7:11pm On Jan 22 |
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Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Raalsalghul: 7:13pm On Jan 22 |
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Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by chidiokay: 7:19pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: Maybe he is not children considerate, well that is his cup of tea ! if not for anything @least pick for the sake of the children fine you no gree fine, gbogbo toothpaste lo tii try you still get bad mouth spiced with odor well all man for himself |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by VULCAN(m): 7:21pm On Jan 22 |
You wrote an epistle to Men. You then ignored the words of encouragement and support from other Men. You then responded to a Woman by writing an epistle. You made it worse by thanking the Woman who mocked and low level gaslighted you. My conclusion: You are a Weak Man. Looking for validation from Women like Pocohantas Afodot0022: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by FFIA: 7:22pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas:Pocohantas we know you oh! You will soon answer questions my elephant. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by royalfly(m): 7:23pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: She divorced u not u divorcing her even when she cheated. U did not leave d kids for her but was playing and bragging about her going to take care of the kids to the entire world. @p. U are intelligent, do you know what pain is? I don't need to ask. I can tell u are a single mother. Most men are actually responsible. With time the man may be involved. But don't hurt an angel and expect an angelic response. A woman don't run out of a home after cheating and expect the man to care. A man logical reasoning is not that way. Cos we men don't mean we not humans |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by pocohantas(f): 7:24pm On Jan 22 |
chidiokay: You wish. You never start to wail. At the right time you would lay on a railway track and end it all. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by pocohantas(f): 7:24pm On Jan 22 |
FFIA: Obviously you wish you do. |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Kuriou: 7:25pm On Jan 22 |
Ekakamba: Before Nko? |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by FFIA: 7:27pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas:Have you been able to control your weight? |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by Ed12(m): 7:28pm On Jan 22 |
pocohantas: It is actually vice versa.... Women are the most wreckers of marriage institutions. Men maybe flawed but woman are brutal naturally in matter of mating 5 Likes |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by 12inchess: 7:37pm On Jan 22 |
Blackman101: Na this part dey vex me pass. Some Nigerian women are very wicked. So the ex husband is only good for financial provision. He too cannot enjoy the company of the children. I will say you're quite ignorant (for lack of not wanting to use a more derogatory word) to accept such an arrangement. Even if you went ahead to marry someone else you should still have the right to your kids company and love. It's like you spend your time and effort watering and planting a tree and then only your neighbor is enjoying the benefit of it's shade. Guy wise up ooooo. Make dem no do wetin dem do Do2dtun to you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Cope, Divorced And Separated Men by chidiokay: 7:43pm On Jan 22 |
royalfly: Bro don't need to be there or a divorcee to know how i will feel about my flesh & blood in any situation, "ko se le rii afin dan eru ba oloro nii " no scenerio is new under the sun. What as the innocent kids got to do with the nonsense divorce, as far as these case is concern i am even disappointed the man thought of abandoning his children .. the mere thought naa fvckup Whatever issues he has with the wife is his fvcking problem leave the kids out of it, he chose a wife and he chose their mother .. Real Men take responsibilities. When dey say shine your eye before marriage you na go dey form Man on mY Own & oversabi, if you feel your ex wife is not raising your kids properly, step in or make solid provisions |
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