Just like most things, marriage faces its challenges but can never lose its relevance. Our women, society and traditions that expect so much from the male folks (husbands) haven't made things a lot more difficult.

I disagree

The author is neither here nor there

In Africa, it's economy that's fighting marriages but in the west, its lucifer himself in the form of LGBT, and woke nature.

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The institution is divine
Otherwise enemies yapa
The reason the institution is existing
Is there is no alternative
That can come closer

LGBT or whatever can not take away marriage

Even cloning can't.
So marriage is here to stay.

sweetTai:
Marriage is very relevant amongst matured people.

there is nothing like mature in marriage, both parties are suffering in silent.....

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I wonder sometimes. As a lady, I don’t know if it’s just me but the thought of marriage doesn’t excite me. Is it weird

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Marriage was killed once government got fully involved and made it a business contract in which one party is rewarded more if the contract is breached. Children used to be seen as blessings from God but these days women have turned it into a bargaining chip and a handcuff to chain unsuspecting men into financial slavery.

Many men opt for love gamble without signing the dotted line to avoid stories that touch especially the "no-fault" divorce laws. A woman professing love for a successful man these days is not different from a yahoo guy fishing for clients.

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Marriage is loosing relevance to you because you have choose to focus on the wrong set of people, hence that’s where your anger is coming from..

I’d advise you channel your view and direction to those who are successful in the same marriage that others are finding difficult ; I’m pretty sure you will delete these things you just wrote out from your mind and tender an apology for this miseducation you are doing..

nairalee:
What exactly is the attraction for marriage now?

Loneliness? Life is no longer as boring as in the 60's (u can now create your own fun in your own bedroom)

Procreation? [/b]With the advent of baby mamas we've realized it's cheaper and easier to get children without marriage

[b]Sex? [/b]U can simply get sex now with small change without even stressing yourself.

[b]Cooking? [/b]With technology u can order any food of your dreams in 30mins or less.
[b]
Domestic chores? U can simply get a maid or machines to do basic chores.

Many of the past incentives for marriage are now outdated plus all the TERRIBLE news we hear/read daily.


Marriage is no longer as marketable as before

Just this week, a work colleague came in wearing a shawl

This man was apparently happily married with three children

When we talked further, he took off the shawl to reveal deep scars on his head.

He had a nasty quarrel with his wife. Whilst he was asleep, she used pestle to hit him on his ribs and on his head.

It's hard to feel optimistic about marriage when you hear some of the nasty stories of what men are going through in silence.

EreluRoz:
Nonsense

Only damaged people see marriage that way. If your parents had that mindset you won't be in existence.

Trying so hard to discredit marriage while applauding unlawful cohabitation

God bless you. 😊

I doubt a lovely and happy families, Family clans, Family Relatives, Communities and nations, the love, feels for one another could ever exist in the absence of Marriage.

vibbb:
Lots of people (Ladies) miss interpret the through meaning of feminism and that has been a major set back to family life. Once you are being infected with feminism virus family life tends to have no true meaning any more. Most women who are crusaders of the so called feminism don't understand the through concept and applications.

Nonsense!

uche87:


Osahon George Osayimwen writes from England.

How do you expect most marriages to work, when some marriages these days, has become transactional? Most folks are now getting married to strangers instead of to their friends. Some just want to get married cos all their friends are already married, and they seem like the odd one out.

If you ask me, marriage is beautiful. Pray to get it right with the right person, and who knows, you might have your happily ever after here on earth.

To some not all.

Taquin:
I wonder sometimes. As a lady, I don’t know if it’s just me but the thought of marriage doesn’t excite me. Is it weird

Even me too,...l just don't know am not so eager

Marriage is a scam nah. Those of us who are married and are not afraid of the truth knows this. Marriage is a bigger scam than Religion. Now the western world is doing away with the two frauds

I'm glad this is your opinion and it's valid but like the knight of the English language will always say, I wouldn't have delve into it if not for AI.

Marriage in Christ is a blessing,God's word remains unfailing.

DarkLover:
I'm getting married next year to have a firsthand view. Yeah, marriage is losing its relevance but some marriages are still a good sight to behold, mine would be one too

Yes, some marriages are good sight to behold for people to see, but in the closets, they are scams.

Will you believe that Rev Chris Oyakhilome's former wife Rev (Mrs) Anita Oyakhilome will kick his ass out with all the fake outings they portray? That's how 95% of marriages are. Couples just show off fake smiles and love, underneath, it is plenty trouble.

TonyeBarcanista:
Kindly be specific sir... The world doesn't begin and end in Europe, Canada and United States.

For proper perspective, the institution of marriage in the West has lost its value due to their matriarchal nature, LGBTAIA+++ and others that are against family values.

However, marriages in Africa, Middle East, Russia, Asia and several other conservative societies have remained intact due to the presence of these family values that are lacking in so-called liberal societies.

You cannot be in UK or Canada and expect a marriage to be like when you were in Nigeria or Ghana. This is the reality, Japa has its downside. Liberal societies don't give a damn about family values, unlike conservative societies.

Cheers

What is Russia doing in your list?

nairalee:
What exactly is the attraction for marriage now?

Loneliness? Life is no longer as boring as in the 60's (u can now create your own fun in your own bedroom)

Procreation? With the advent of baby mamas we've realized it's cheaper and easier to get children without marriage

Sex? U can simply get sex now with small change without even stressing yourself.

Cooking? . With technology u can order any food of your dreams in 30mins or less.

Domestic chores? U can simply get a maid or machines to do basic chores.

Many of the past incentives for marriage are now outdated plus all the TERRIBLE news we hear/read daily.


Marriage is no longer as marketable as before

I've come to realise that so many people on nairaland are products of dysfunctional upbringing or a single parent household especially the males, or they are not loved at home, that's why they preach the abolishment of marriage, to continue the moral degradation of the society.

Shimran:


God bless you. 😊

I doubt a lovely and happy families, Family clans, Family Relatives, Communities and nations, the love, feels for one another could ever exist in the absence of Marriage.

There's no one from a decent home that'll ever talk down on marriage, one of the easiest way of spotting a damaged person is his idea and views on marriage. So many young people especially Nigerian men needs therapist because the government has messed them up. It's sad

olaniyilukman:
there is nothing like mature in marriage, both parties are suffering in silent.....

You just proved her point.
Mature people don't suffer and keep quiet.

Until we discover the punishment for zina

Marriage is now Poverty Alleviation or Get-rich-quick scheme for ladies. Young men are no longer interested. In most cases they are the ones that bring money and sacrifice to the table, the other gender once they bring private part to the table like ds, they believe they have done what no one else can do

Marriage is supposed to be like a retirement plan meant to be enjoyed but marriage of this time is like war, pains and troubles. Men doesn't respect and value women so women are trying every means to succeed more than men. I told my boss that I just want to be a mother

cutecommend:
If people's first and best love was their spouses, and if the first love of their spouses was them, and if their first ever sex experiences was between them and their spouse in marriage; and the first ever sex experience of their spouses was with them in marriage. And if husbands are hardworking, loving teachable and kind, and wives are submissive, teachable and respectful, maybe marriage will be better...

One size does not fit all

What may work for you may not work for others.

This is a lie, marriage will never loss it value.

4 of my friends including a sibling that married in the last 2 years have went back to their late night and olosho lifestyle.
REASON: They all married out of shame to either get a very young girl or to marry someone they can boss over or something beautiful their friend's could envy.
Last, Last, After 6 months they preferred their former olosho than their wives. The woman on the other hand was eager to get baby to tie their husband. After first post-partum they totally lost their husband.


For me, with half naked girls walking everywhere, it seems I have generalized every woman to be too close to an olosho to be valued.