Very correct. what else marriage bring those days if not heartbroken, las las DNA go still separate Una. Make ah continue my baby mama thing abeg

Kobojunkie:
Interesting claim! So, what you would have us believe is that the divorce rate recorded even in Plateaus state back in the 1980s was a result of Western media?

Denial is a sickness ravaging the minds of many a Nigerian, it seems!

thats my own observation, not the absolute reason for the failure of marriages today but part of the cause. socially and technologically exposed societies and underdebeloped ones dont always have same reasons for similar priblems !

and save ur "Denial is a sickness ravaging the minds of many a Nigerian, it seems! " talk ok.

bishop212:
■ thats my own observation, not the absolute reason for the failure of marriages today but pary of the curse. socially and technologically exposed societies and underdebeloped ones cant have same sickness.

Seems more like a conclusion drawn from your refusal to accept that the society which is Nigeria ought to be responsible for its many problems and issues.

Beverlyjean:


U don't know how the devil and evil works

This mindset is the reason Africa is a primitive sh1thole..
Whilst others have taken responsibility for their actions and moved forward..
You are here lecturing on how the Devil conduct his evil businesses.

bluefilm:
This is bullshít. Marriage is still important to those who feel like marriage is important to them

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FireUpNow:
It's a lie. Those who still values marriage are enjoying it

Of course, marriage is but does that change the fact that marriage is on the decline meaning that the percentage of those venturing into marriage at the end of each day has seen a big drop? No! Is it necessarily a bad thing? No!

'I couldn't agree less' means you DON'T AGREE with the OP.

What you meant to say was 'I couldn't agree more'

TooResilient:
I couldn't agree less. When I was growing up, having kids out of wedlock was an abomination. Any girl/lady in such a situation is terribly looked down on.

But as it seems today, people have undervalued the marriage institutions. Men just want to have kids without being bound to a particular woman.

Women are advised to just get a man to impregnate her so she can have children whether the man stays or not.

In the next few years, just watch. Humans will start living like animals, just f^ck anyone and have children, no sacred commitment

Kobojunkie:
Seems more like a conclusion drawn from your refusal to accept that the society which is Nigeria ought to be responsible for its many problems and issues.

that still cannot excuse the place of external influnce on societies ( globally through the media in our current dispensation of tech)whether u are ready to see it or not.

bishop212:
■ that still cannot excuse the place of external influnce on societies whether u are ready to see it or not.

Given the fact that as far back as the 1980s, the official divorce rate in parts of Nigeria were equally high, this claim of external influence, particularly the Western media, holds little to no water. You need evidence and facts, to blame the problem on external influence.

It is not all about procreation. It is a complex institution that is complicated and unpredictable at times. Behavioural attributes and communication constraints are some of the factors that affect marriage

AuwalYusuf812:
. What is it all about then

Marry monster at your own risk

Kobojunkie:
...Of course, marriage is but does that change the fact that marriage is on the decline meaning that the percentage of those venturing into marriage at the end of each day has seen a big drop? No! Is it necessarily a bad thing? No!

Blame the economic power of people as times are getting tougher also moral values is eroding drastically. People of today lacks contentment. Could it be that the family unit dying? The society is it a total reflection of the family unit.

Every crap has a piece attached to it.

Marriage is only irrelevant for those who don't know its relevance.

Kobojunkie:
None! It is merely an option available to those who see benefit in it.

Ever asked why life is not fair....?
You choose Y or N.....
No in-betweens

Kobojunkie:
Look, the fact of life is this, people will almost always prefer to buy products that will be of more benefit to them than to others. Marriage needs to be of great benefit to both men and women before they choose to commit.

In the days of our ancestors, the benefits were outlined in the traditional marriage laws of the time. Those laws no longer hold weight in the society we live in today. People are less inclined to follow along with the old ways just because it is that. They now understand that the choices they make directly impact their particular quality of life and so many are less likely to make sacrifices for the good of others. This means the marriage laws or rules needed, including the guaranteed benefits list, ought to be updated to keep people interested.

2. Marriage can only be beautiful if what it offers is better than the competition.

You cannot determine the depth of river by standing at its bank.

triplechoice:
■ You cannot determine the depth of river by standing at its bank.

No one is attempting to determine here the depth of the river that is marriage. What we are saying is that the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to and it may be time to fill parts of it in so the cost to the individual of crossing it is no longer as great as it used to be.

Faposky95:
■ Ever asked why life is not fair....? You choose Y or N..... No in-betweens

I have absolutely no reason to want to ask that question at this point. That is because I have to accept that Life itself is unfairness and there is no mistake as to why it is exactly that way.

FireUpNow:
■ Blame the economic power of people as times are getting tougher also moral values is eroding drastically. People of today lacks contentment. Could the family unit dying? The society is a total reflection of the family unit.

Aaabegi!

In 1981, the divorce rate in the State of Plateau, Nigeria, was recorded to have been around 81% among newlyweds. in 2012, a report went out that the divorce rate in Northern Nigeria was among the highest in the world. Now, of course, these reports come from the North where divorce is respected and tracked. In much of Southern Nigeria where divorce is traditionally found, official divorce rates have notoriously been maintained at below 0.1%. This does not consider the rate of marriage abandonment, the acceptable form of divorce among southerners, and equally as high as at least 50%. What has the economic power to do with the high divorce rates recorded even in Plateau state back in the 1980s?

The simple truth is that originally, women married young and while yet inexperienced and all they lived for is to understand her husband, groom the children and the other room while the men provide, protect and lead the family

Nowadays, women tend to acquire experience before getting married therefore carrying their perception about life into marriage and trying to outsmart their husband in decision making

Kobojunkie:
The business of marriage is in jeopardy because it is no longer as competitive as it used to be. The benefits that used to separate the married from the competition are no longer apparent — or even of value— and as such the attraction continues to diminish.

In a nutshell, marriage has lost its unique selling point.

Ilekokonit:
∆ In a nutshell, marriage has lost its unique selling point.

Precisely! The product needs improvement work done on it either through enactment of new laws and benefits for those who would choose it all while protecting them at the same time. And it could also benefit from some rebranding work.

Kobojunkie:
No one is attempting to determine here the depth of the river that is marriage. What we are saying is that the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to and it may be time to fill parts of it in so the cost to the individual of crossing it is no longer as great as it used to be.

You have given a wrong interpretation to the parable.

Having a direct experience of something is sometimes the only only way you can judge iif it's actually good or bad and not by listening to the experience of others who had it bad

Those ones will so mess up your mind with their own negative experiences to the extent you start imagining that "the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to "

The river is there for you to step into and use for your own benefit. How you achieve that is dependent on the effort you, yourself ,put into it.

triplechoice:
■ You have given a wrong interpretation to the parable. Having a direct experience of something is sometimes the only only way you can judge iif it's actually good or bad and not by listening to the experience of others who had it bad
Those ones will so mess up your mind with their own negative experiences to the extent you start imagining that "the river does not seem to benefit many as it used to "The river is there for you to step into and use for your own benefit. How you achieve that is dependent on the effort you, yourself ,put into it.

This here discussion has absolutely to do with whether one has experienced it or not. The fact is clear to all, by way of the statistics available, that more and more individuals are opting for alternatives to marriage. So, I am not certain of the place of experience in all of this.

Kobojunkie:
Precisely! The product needs improvement work done on it either through enactment of new laws and benefits for those who would choose it all while protecting them at the same time. And it could also benefit from some rebranding work.

Marriage is not a product you buy from the market. It's something you have to build together with a willing partner you have chosen to love for the rest of your life. If you're not ready for that , then don't go into it.

Enactment of laws and protection from government are not the things that would make any marriage successful .

Kobojunkie:
This here discussion has absolutely to do with whether one has experienced it or not. The fact is clear to all, by way of the statistics available, that more and more individuals are opting for alternatives to marriage. So, I am not certain of the place of experience in all of this.

Where are you getting the statistics from? From all over the world or a particular region?

And what's alternative to marriage and your definition of marriage?

triplechoice:
■ Marriage is not a product you buy from the market. It's something you have to build together with a willing partner you have chosen to love for the rest of your life. If you're not ready for that , then don't go into it.
■ Enactment of laws and protection from government are not the things that would make any marriage successful .

Lol.. the moment you sign the agreement papers or you fulfill the traditional marriage requirements, you pretty much bought the product called marriage. What you do with it afterward is between you and your marriage business partner.

2. Make marriage successful ke? We are talking about making it more enticing than it has currently become.

triplechoice:
■ Where are you getting the statistics from? From all over the world or a particular region?
And what's alternative to marriage and your definition of marriage?

Right there in Nigeria. https://punchng.com/marriage-experts-worry-over-rising-divorce-among-young-couples/
■ Singledom and relationships without marriage commitments are alternatives.

Kobojunkie:
Lol.. the moment you sign the agreement papers or you fulfill the traditional marriage requirements, you pretty much bought the product called marriage. What you do with it afterwards is between you and your marriage business partner.

2. Make marriage successful ke? We are talking of making it more enticing than it has currently become.

I'm afraid you have a very distorted view of what marriage is. The signing of the dotted lines are mere formalities. Focusing on that as if that's all that matters will distract from the goal .

Random strangers don't just walk into the registry to " buy" the product . Do they?

triplechoice:
■ I'm afraid you have a very distorted view of what marriage is. The signing of the dotted lines are mere formalities. Focusing on that as if that's all that matters will distract from the goal . Random strangers don't just walk into the registry to " buy" the product . Do they?

My view is not in the least bit distorted at all. Those formalities establish what you call a marriage — which means you have obtained the product. And marriage is the goal of those who sign those dotted lines. Whatever they do after that is considered marriage? So?

Yes, even random strangers are not barred by law from doing just that. So, I am not certain what you are going on about here.

Don't dabble into issues that you lack the capacity to understand on a sophisticated level. Just stay in your shallow silo. This one is above your pay grade.

Tranquility2345:


How is cellphone one of the worst things to happen to humanity? You must be an illiterate.

look around you...and see all the women ready and willing to go UnCloth for clout; all the women who have no respect for men; all the women who believe they are men and forget the essence of marriage.... who are we kidding?! what man in his right mind would want to settle with such fail minded women? all the sistas wanting to be married yet also wanting to continue living like as if they were single. who will marry these ones sef?! sista dressing like a young slut after marriage, who are you trying to impress? sista posting sultry pics on SM (with all your tittays and bootay out), whose attention are you seeking for?

sadly, i dont blame men today who decide to not want to get married and instead would rather ride it out with just common GF and babymamas... but then again, many men are dying to marry some of these women out there. TO EACH THEIR OWN i guess!

I don't know the narrative you want drive home, but it will not work people are still getting married happily and enjoying it. In fact that business will boom as people are looking for superior knowledge to make their marriage work better

uche87:


Osahon George Osayimwen writes from England.