Companionship! (1st post, )

I never take care of myself finish i wan marry.

understanding and trust each other,

"Marriage is an investment in one's future. Sure, you sacrifice some of your 'sweet' single years, but in exchange you get to make a long-term investment in one person, building a deep, abiding love that has the potential to last a lifetime.

Marriage also individually offers a couple the kind of stability and support that allows them succeed in all other aspects of life. Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama from crazy men and women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring partner? "

afam4eva:

I never take care of myself finish i wan marry.

lol. they r liabilities and troubles, right?

I agree, getting married is for companionship.

Money first

sylve11:

lol. they r liabilities and troubles, right?

Kinda. I find it very difficult thinking about someone else. It's like carrying a heavy load. It's even worse when you're a man.

chelseabmw:

Apart of love. . what are your reasons? Security ? Emotional stability ? Financial security ? Raising kids ? Or some other reasons ?

none of the above

Kids

Having kids that will later take care of you in old age and having a companion so you don't die an old and lonely man cos every other person around you, even your kids will eventually leave to start their own family and you re going to feel very lonely without a companion.

People get married because their parents force them.

Dude it depends

Not done with sampling,

Mr, Cork:

Pendo.  sweeery  you make nathasha look so ugly. Can i marry you instead?

hey hey! tread carefuly.Natasha is my kid sis u know.
And by the way where have u seen ,me? I dont live in peckham u know.

The whole essence of marriage is for procreation.any other reason is man-made !

For the glory of God. Because, I DO NOT share the selfish reasons of those who cannot live a normal life without marriage. I keep on repeating that bad marriages are the causes of the corruption, greed and wickedness plaguing Nigeria and the other corrupt and poor countries in the world. Go to the slums of the poor majority, you will see that most of the social problems are caused by dysfunctional families started by bad and wrong marriages. Marriage like religion is a very hypocritical practice among the majority who pay mere lip service to their matrimonial vows. If not for the FEAR OF GOD, I would have been sleeping with the wives of my friends and neighbours. Adultery is very common among them. Married couples do not behave like they are married. That is why I wrote "In the House of Dogs". IF YOU CANNOT BE FAITHFUL AND CANNOT SECURE YOUR FAMILY, PLEASE DON'T MARRY. So that you will not bring your matrimonial failures to disturb others. I hate the sight of married couples in the slums living like dogs. God does not force anyone to marry. Marry, marry, marry! How much is your marriage contributing to our GDP and GNP? Since 2008 to date, I have spent nearly N1 million on helping victims of bad marriages. You married id-i-ots make me sick with your liabilities. My late father  married early and left 6 children and I spent over a decade caring for my siblings and that cost me going to a college in Oxford. I worked as a national consultant for the UNICEF and most the programs are for taking care of poor children of poor married couples in slums. Then I was commissioned by the Johns Hopkins University's Population Communication Services as a public health illustrator and translator to produce family planning methods booklets for millions of poor couples in Nigeria  to plan their families. But the dogs will continue to breed  like dogs and cause more poverty in the society. Many of them cannot even afford to pay the examination fees for GCE/SSCE for their children. One particular case, I had to pay for a pupil and also bought food for the family. Why did all those telling the couple to marry not providing for these dogs? Who gave birth to the over 20 million unemployed youths in Nigeria? Unproductive and under achievers posing and posturing as married couples whose millions of  poverty-stricken children are more of liabilities than securities. Only in underdeveloped countries like Nigeria do majority of ignorant people place too much importance on marriage, because that is the best thing they can achieve in this world. Is it not PRIMITIVE that the greatest ambition of majority of Nigerian girls is to get MARRIED?

I believe its for companionship. Its also a beautiful thing when kids come out of a beautiful union.

~Bluetooth:

The whole essence of marriage is for procreation.any other reason is man-made !

says who??

@op, consummation of an eternal friendship

Orikinla is one angry murrerfulka,

procreation is secondary,bt the primary reason 4 marriage is more dan dat. children comes as a blesin of the union after it was based on this reasons!

Child(ren).

For companionship wat else and to avoid fornication

obowunmi:

Orikinla is one angry murrerfulka,

. I am angered by the horrible and terrible state of Nigeria caused by ill-bred people from dysfunctional families of adulterous couples. Couples who fail IQ tests and cannot prove that they can provide for their family should not be allowed to marry. Families with more children should pay more tax.

To aviod temptation

Orikinla:

For the glory of God. Because, I DO NOT share the selfish reasons of those who cannot live a normal life without marriage. I keep on repeating that bad marriages are the causes of the corruption, greed and wickedness plaguing Nigeria and the other corrupt and poor countries in the world. Go to the slums of the poor majority, you will see that most of the social problems are caused by dysfunctional families started by bad and wrong marriages. Marriage like religion is a very hypocritical practice among the majority who pay mere lip service to their matrimonial vows. If not for the FEAR OF GOD, I would have been sleeping with the wives of my friends and neighbours. Adultery is very common among them. Married couples do not behave like they are married. That is why I wrote "In the House of Dogs". IF YOU CANNOT BE FAITHFUL AND CANNOT SECURE YOUR FAMILY, PLEASE DON'T MARRY. So that you will not bring your matrimonial failures to disturb others. I hate the sight of married couples in the slums living like dogs. God does not force anyone to marry. Marry, marry, marry! How much is your marriage contributing to our GDP and GNP? Since 2008 to date, I have spent nearly N1 million on helping victims of bad marriages. You married id-i-ots make me sick with your liabilities. My late father  married early and left 6 children and I spent over a decade caring for my siblings and that cost me going to a college in Oxford. I worked as a national consultant for the UNICEF and most the programs are for taking care of poor children of poor married couples in slums. Then I was commissioned by the Johns Hopkins University's Population Communication Services as a public health illustrator and translator to produce family planning methods booklets for millions of poor couples in Nigeria  to plan their families. But the dogs will continue to breed  like dogs and cause more poverty in the society. Many of them cannot even afford to pay the examination fees for GCE/SSCE for their children. One particular case, I had to pay for a pupil and also bought food for the family. Why did all those telling the couple to marry not providing for these dogs? Who gave birth to the over 20 million unemployed youths in Nigeria? Unproductive and under achievers posing and posturing as married couples whose millions of  poverty-stricken children are more of liabilities than securities. Only in underdeveloped countries like Nigeria do majority of ignorant people place too much importance on marriage, because that is the best thing they can achieve in this world. Is it not PRIMITIVE that the greatest ambition of majority of Nigerian girls is to get MARRIED?               

jeez!! So much disgust 4 poor married folks. Sir i clearly get what you are saying, your job exposes u to situations like that, however i don't think there wz any need 4 d name calling. That wz jst nt good. There r beta ways to express ur view on such issues. Hope u dnt tell d kids of such dysfunctional family that there parents are dogs who breed here and there.

Orikinla:

For the glory of God. Because, I DO NOT share the selfish reasons of those who cannot live a normal life without marriage. I keep on repeating that bad marriages are the causes of the corruption, greed and wickedness plaguing Nigeria and the other corrupt and poor countries in the world. Go to the slums of the poor majority, you will see that most of the social problems are caused by dysfunctional families started by bad and wrong marriages. Marriage like religion is a very hypocritical practice among the majority who pay mere lip service to their matrimonial vows. If not for the FEAR OF GOD, I would have been sleeping with the wives of my friends and neighbours. Adultery is very common among them. Married couples do not behave like they are married. That is why I wrote "In the House of Dogs". IF YOU CANNOT BE FAITHFUL AND CANNOT SECURE YOUR FAMILY, PLEASE DON'T MARRY. So that you will not bring your matrimonial failures to disturb others. I hate the sight of married couples in the slums living like dogs. God does not force anyone to marry. Marry, marry, marry! How much is your marriage contributing to our GDP and GNP? Since 2008 to date, I have spent nearly N1 million on helping victims of bad marriages. You married id-i-ots make me sick with your liabilities. My late father  married early and left 6 children and I spent over a decade caring for my siblings and that cost me going to a college in Oxford. I worked as a national consultant for the UNICEF and most the programs are for taking care of poor children of poor married couples in slums. Then I was commissioned by the Johns Hopkins University's Population Communication Services as a public health illustrator and translator to produce family planning methods booklets for millions of poor couples in Nigeria  to plan their families. But the dogs will continue to breed  like dogs and cause more poverty in the society. Many of them cannot even afford to pay the examination fees for GCE/SSCE for their children. One particular case, I had to pay for a pupil and also bought food for the family. Why did all those telling the couple to marry not providing for these dogs? Who gave birth to the over 20 million unemployed youths in Nigeria? Unproductive and under achievers posing and posturing as married couples whose millions of  poverty-stricken children are more of liabilities than securities. Only in underdeveloped countries like Nigeria do majority of ignorant people place too much importance on marriage, because that is the best thing they can achieve in this world. Is it not PRIMITIVE that the greatest ambition of majority of Nigerian girls is to get MARRIED?               

@bolded you harsh o!

hey kramer,
your first post? it took dis post to pull u out ur shell, some weighty then, lol

You can have a productive companionship and have children without marriage. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are not yet married, but they have great companionship and lovely family. Many Nigerians still think like cave men and women. A couple will have children like dogs and pigs and turn around to say God gave them? Did God tell you how many times to fork?

@orikinla. You are da bomb.
Yeah tell em.
I think most people ambition on earth is to go cleave and pro-create and add to the pop explosion, then abuse the government of the day as being corrupt or inept.
Marriage is a holistic institution but trust ma people, especially the slum dwellers, they have turned it to a competition where children are bred like fowls.
No control.
The so called married women bear MRS  and use it as a get-away ticket to coded adultery/fornication (and the MR too).
Marriage should/may happen when 2 consenting/matured adults decide to settle down and stop sampling and have children as companion while contributing to the GDP or GNP and not an avenue to contribute negatively to an about-to-explode world population.