Hardunnii:

She can call him whatever she likes, what you should be concerned abt is teaching your daughter moral principles which will be a diff task, since you dont have one urself, poor girl goodluck.

Hardunnii:

@kimberluge for the record, av never known a man
On d issue, she probably didnt marry d gals dad, now she's moving in wit anoda dude, its wrong, call a spade a spade n not a garden fork

BABE!:

May wind blow up your dress and reveal your thong.  

May a random spade fall down from the clouds and hit your coconut head.  

sexkillz:

[b][/b]Really? Like seriously? Nothing wrong moving in with who you are not married to?

Ujujoan:

Okay maybe it's not a model idea, [b]but there are greater ills with the world than a lady moving in with her bf. [/b]Besides she obviously has her reasons . . . . who are you to judge her

sexkillz:

[b][/b]Really? Like seriously? Nothing wrong moving in with who you are not married to?

Ujujoan:

[b]Okay maybe it's not a model idea, [/b]but there are greater ills with the world than a lady moving in with her bf. Besides she obviously has her reasons . . . . who are you to judge her   

BABE!:

May wind blow up your dress and reveal your thong.  

May a random spade fall down from the clouds and hit your coconut head.  

Hardunnii:

I av said my own, if u like let d guy use you, well all u need do is find anoda n move in again. Just feel for d poor little girl

Bodija girl, you're pushing it.  Don't let me descend on you this beautiful morning.

My little girl doesn't need your nasty, stained, hypocritical, holier-than-thou, feelings. Throw your unsolicited feelings in the bin.

Oya, carry your Ghana-must-go purse and exit this thread. Farewell.

Ujujoan:

Okay maybe it's not a model idea, but there are greater ills with the world than a lady moving in with her bf. Besides she obviously has her reasons . . . . who are you to judge her    

Beync:

If you are married to this man, the child can call you husband daddy.it doesnt change the fact that she has a biological father especially as the child is going to leave in the same house with you and your husband.  teach her to love and respect your hubby the same way she would to her real daddy till when she grow she can choose whether or not to continue calling him daddy
we still call our uncle daddy and my causins too call my dad daddy. we grow with it and with still do. when they are together and we want to call any of them, we know how to differentiate, it feels so good honestly and it makes for close bound btwn families.

jay bee:

Wouldn't you rather people co-habitate rather than get divorce in the long run.

Nothing guarantees a marriage is going to work out and the less we use religion to look at things the better.

From a practical point of view, it's way better/quicker to break up and move da heck on than get divorced then spend years getting disassociated from the ex husband or wife.

sexkillz:

And that is the typical excuse when defending cohabitation! Cohabitation itself is one of those ills! Substituting marriage for cohabitation?  How would you truly stick to your man if you are not married to him? What's the point? Did you know, that when you are open to cohabitation, you will be open to separation when married? Co habitation only teaches us how to run away from problems confronting us! Instead of working on the relationship, we decide to tail, and move to the next person! If that is not a great ill of the world today, i wonder what ill is then!I'm NOT judging her, but Co habitation should NOT be suggested to anyone either! Nothing good comes out of it!

Hardunnii:

^^^^he who has ears, let him/her hear what the spirit is telling the church

Hardunnii:

@sexkillz Good points, help me tell them.

sexkillz:

Nothing good comes out of it!

coogar:

when you leave the confines of your present environment to the world ahead of you, you'd know cohabitation is actually better than living separately before marriage.

cohabitation helps you understand your partner. you already know what you are getting into rather than getting a shock after marriage.

imagine discovering hardunni is not a virgin like she claims after i have married her. . . . . .would that be pleasant?

whereas, that deceit would have been uncovered if we had stayed together before marriage. it now depends if i want to kick her out of my life or forgive her deception.

sexkillz:

No sir! Unless you can guarantee that people who cohabit do not get separated, or that after cohabitation and getting married afterwards, that they would not divorce either!

sexkillz:

Nothing guarantees that, neither does cohabitation! If that is the case, why dont you get married and try making your marriage happy! it's more satisfying knowing you are married, than cohabiting and knowing at the back of your mind that anything can happen tomorrow! Married couples are prone to solving problems in their marriage than cohabiting couples. If religion would atleast help us in living a more meaningful life as married couples, then why not?

sexkillz:

And that is why people cohabit! Fear of commitment! What is the chance that my marriage would go haywire just because someone else's did? It's because of the speed of breaking up and moving on to the next person that attracts people to cohabitation! How many cohabiting couples ended up happily in the long run?

BABE!:


Typical.

**Speaking in my Southern Accent**

"The bable says, Thou shalt not cohabit"

sexkillz:

***Speaking in Osun Accent***
Unless you tell me right here and now that you are not a Christian, and that you have never adhered to what the bible says, then i'll let you pass. Else what you just typed above is what my village elders refer to as "Hypocritical Nonsense, that makes NO sense!"
If you are a christian and refuse to listen to what the Bible says what the hell are you then?

Easy on your choice of words. Don't push it.

I'm a christian. I don't listen to everything the bable says. You're not even supposed to. Or are you?

21st century Christians are fond of solving 21st century problems with 1st century solutions.

Jesus is not proud of us. Trust me. We are a bunch of lazy folks; too lazy to think.

jay bee:

Offcourse no guarantees in life hence the reason why we all get excited about the challenges we face and how we go about solving them. If you are to look at it from a risk environment point of view, you will agree with me that cohabitating and having a broken relationship has a low weighted risk using permanent heart scars as the key determinant factor when compared to getting married and then getting divorced

I'm sorry to say but that's just a Nigerian mentality bore out of teachings from various religious houses. Why is it not a surprise that Nigeria is probably the most religious country on heart but yet we most certainly have the highest socialogical problems planet earth has to offer. The reason for that is not far from us not just using how god giving brains and looking at things from practical viewpoint instead of viewing things at all times by what the pastor or Imam says.

What's the point being married but obviously unhappy and unable to do anything about it because of the stigma of being a divorcee? Do you actually wanna go research on statistics of people in loveless marriage in Nigeria.

Religious is good yes but be common sense should always prevail

sexkillz:

Helloooo! In the world ahead of me, are there married couples or not? If cohabitation is better than living separately before marriage, can you guarantee that my marriage would not fail, after we cohabit? What's sweet about sinning before you get married? Unless you are an atheist! So what is the JOY in marrying someone you have been cohabiting with all your life? What's the difference?

Really? And dating and courtship? What's the purpose of that? Is dating used to measure the number of girls you tried your hands on or just what exactly? What shock? And what is the guarantee that the next lady wont give you a shock? And the next? or the next? Now how long will you keep expecting a shock?

No! It wont be pleasant! Would it be pleasant that Hardunni cohabited with someone else, and discovered a shock in him, and left him, and you found out that she is NOT a virgin because she lost it while cohabiting? Haha!

And how many times will you keep kicking out! Or lemme get something right. . . Does cohabitation involve sex? If it does and you kick her out, who are you leaving her over for?

Hardunnii:

Dont know why ppl keep sayin ppl who r not happy in mariages, wat abt the ones that are happy?? In everytin, try to luk at d postives, my folks are still happily married, they had their ups n downs, bt they r still together n we d children benefited most.

Hardunnii:

@coogar why would anyone lie abt virginity

Hardunnii:

Dont know why ppl keep sayin ppl who r not happy in mariages, wat abt the ones that are happy?? In everytin, try to luk at d postives, my folks are still happily married, they had their ups n downs, bt they r still together n we d children benefited most.
@coogar why would anyone lie abt virginity

Hardunnii:

@coogar why would anyone lie abt virginity

kimberluge:

your not a spirit your jst a sexually frustrated gal  so stop deceiving urself! [b]Am a virgin too so I shuld know [/b]

BABE!:

Easy on your choice of words. Don't push it.

I'm a christian. I don't listen to everything the bable says. You're not even supposed to. Or are you?

21st century Christians are fond of solving 21st century problems with 1st century solutions.

Jesus is not proud of us. Trust me. We are a bunch of lazy folks; too lazy to think.