BABE!:

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To deceive their partner(s) and the people around them. To appear "holier-than-everyone else"; like you've been trying to appear on this thread.

Hardunnii:

Lol
Not everyone come here to impress ppl like u do. Live a responsible life, your daughter is lookin up to u

Hm. I'm here to impress? Aren't you the one trying to impress? Am I not the "irresponsible" one? Why are you lying? What happened to the spirit speaking through you a while ago?   It fled? It directed you to lie?

Discombobulated human.  

coogar:

so as to claim you are "holier than thou"
it's easier than admitting you have made massive mistakes in the past.

believe it or not - 90% of naija girls do it.
to be fair, i don't blame them though cos some men deliberately ask for it and women who don't want to lose a man they really love would lie to keep him. "ask no questions - i shall tell no lies".

kimberluge:

your not a spirit your jst a sexually frustrated gal  so stop deceiving urself! Am a virgin too so I shuld know

sexkillz:

No! I dont agree! If you get excited about the challenges you face and how  you go about solving them, why dont you take up Marriage on that challenge, make it your goal to solve any problems that may arise? Are you honestly going into marriage, expecting your marriage to have problems, so you can divorce? Cohabiting relationships has  a low weighted risk? Really? Do you know that some people feel used when cohabitation doesnt work in their favour? How many people do you meet out there that are ready to welcome the idea of marrying a lady/guy that has cohabited prior to meeting them? Now, if my cohabitation experiment does not work out, do you think i'll be ever willing to cohabit with another again? Instead of cohabiting, is it not wiser to get married, take up the challenge and be determined to make your marriage work?

It's not a Nigerian mentality as Nigeria is not the only Religious country nor is nigeria the only country where cohabitation occurs! Those problems you mentioned about Nigeria, how many of them are a direct result of Religion? The law of the land where you currently reside, does it recognize cohabiting couples or married couples?

What causes unhappiness in marriages? Can they be avoided? No one should continue in an abusive relationship yes, but is that the way forward? Do you actually know what people go thru, to keep their marriages alive and strong? Is "Loveless marriage" Restricted to Nigeria alone?

If religion is good, why not mix it with a little common sense? Marriage is not for everyone, is cohabiting for everyone then? What is the difference between living as cohabiting couples, and living as married couples?

Hardunnii:

It doesnt make sense, does it?? Sínce d guy wíll fíñd out

Goldieluks:

Babe has a daughter? Lol.

Well as for your question,since the guy is Nigerian,I don't think it would be a bad idea if your daugther calls him 'uncle' before his name,for example 'uncle mark' or something.  Cause obviously calling him 'sir,mr, or dad, gives it a different meaning entirely. But had it been he's not Nigerian,'mr' would have been appropriate.

Hardunnii:

@kelz and co are u guys mad at me being a virgin or d declaratn Well few of us still av morals, if u do, u are supposed to know your body is a temple of God, so u should nt defile it.

coogar:

marriages fail, cohabitation can also fail - all i am saying is cohabitation eliminates the illusion that comes with living separately before getting married.

everyone wears a certain mask in a relationship(initially), we all put up our best attitude at first and by the time our partners discover the real us in marriage - then they are bitter cos they have married the person they did not think they were marrying in the first place.

you ask - what is the joy in marrying someone i have been cohabiting all my life? i am sure you are claiming you have never seen couples who cohabited and are enjoying their marriages far better than the other divide("holier than thou". the hypocrisy even gets disgusting when it was found out that nigeria has the most unfaithful women on the planet despite the fact that cohabiting is a taboo in the country.

who is fooling who?

that's the essence of dating! try as many outcomes as possible to improve your chances of meeting the right woman!
i would never know a better woman if i have been stuck with one all my life. people date to seek the best before they are ready to marry. and if there's one thing you should be prepared for in life - there's no absolute guarantee to anything.

Hardunnii:

@kelz and co are u guys mad at me being a virgin or d declaratn Well few of us still av morals, if u do, u are supposed to know your body is a temple of God, so u should nt defile it.

sexkillz:

Speak for your self on that regards boo! If you dont listen to everything, what's the point of listening to some in the first place?

sexkillz:

Not when the 1st century solutions work better then 21st century ones!

sexkillz:

Is it applicable in all cases? Are you saying you dont get to know people during dating and courtship?

Cohabitation remains a personal decision! But should i cohabit without knowing all the facts? Should i cohabit because you do? What is the % of happier couples from cohabitation, as against happier married couples from scratch? Let's say i am not a Nigerian, can you make better points than these? All i see is you bringing up Nigeria! Do you know if i grew up here or not?

Is dating = Cohabitation? If you have dated 10 ladies, and finally one seems to be the right one, what is the point of cohabiting with the right one?

kelz88:


It's the way you went about judging the next person, and not cos of what you are, or not.

Na morals I go chop? Abeg, lemme enjoying the good sex I'm getting.
Keep up the holier than thou attitude. Hope you're looking forward to the painful [b]s[/b]hag on your wedding night.

kelz88:


It's the way you went about judging the next person, and not cos of what you are, or not.

Na morals I go chop? Abeg, lemme enjoying the good sex I'm getting.Keep up the holier than thou attitude. Hope you're looking forward to the painful s[/b]hag on your wedding night.

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And moro u marry anoda 'spoilt gurl' and she doesnt bear a child? wud u go probing to see if her womb has been off in one or 2 medical bruhaha?

Being a virgin isnt a crime Mr, most of u unmarried ones would like them for a relationship and subsequently marriage. compared to a gurl who cant even count the number of men she has sucked there dikkk before driving it into her punny.

Hardunnii:

Ofcourse, lookín foward to that night
Btw, i dnt judge, i only adviced nt to move in uñtil she's married to d guy

She can call him whatever she likes, what you should be concerned abt is teaching your daughter moral principles which will be a diff task, since you dont have one urself, poor girl goodluck.

Da Doctor:

THE QUESTION ISNT WHAT YOUR DOTA WOULD CALL HIM, BUT HOW BOTH WOULD RECEIVE EACH OTHER NOW AND IN THE FUTURE. SINCE U ARE INTO IT. LET your EXPERIENCES TEACH U TO REMAIN IN your MARRIAGE. AFTERALL IT WAS FOR BETTER FOR WORSE OR DID HE GET U PREGNANT UNKNOWINGLY AND NOW U WANA MARRY your LEGAL HUBBY?

Da Doctor:


AND HOPE THIS ONE WONT GIVE U 2 CHILDREN AND DIVORCE U. NASTY FOOL!!! WHOEVER IT WAS. U OR YOUR REP COS I CANT BELIEVE ITS U. U ARE TOO KINNY TO STAND SUCH.

Hardunnii:

Ofcourse, lookín foward to that night
Btw, i dnt judge, i only adviced nt to move in uñtil she's married to d guy

coogar:

haha - it's the clash of the virgin titans.

wiser to get married with your eyes closed and then discover you have married a demon? how would that marriage work.
people who feel used when cohabitation doesn't work in their favour still have the chance to marry. compare her to the people who feel used when marriage doesn't work. . . .she's now a divorcee(something most naija young men would run away from).

who are you more likely to marry - a cohabitant or a divorcee(provided all other qualities about them are equal)?

it's a nigerian mentality and probably majority of the 3rd world countries. young women don't leave their parents house until they are ready to marry and we are talking about mid-20s to early 30s. but in a world where 16 year old women have left home and they have partners. does it make economic sense for them to be living separately and paying bills?

sexkillz, i put it to you that if you are staying alone and paying your bills by yourself when you were a student, you would cohabit!

various factors cause unhappiness in marriages. people can be happy/unhappy in marriages/cohabitating.
you are hardly making a point here.

living as cohabiting couples - neither of the parties is trapped.
living as married couples - they are both trapped(should there be a deception from any of the parties).

that is the difference!

pendo89:

lots of confusion,judgement,unfair critism,lies and heresy in one bowl.
very interesting read though.

sexkillz:

Which of the above does dating and courtship not solve?

NONE!

It's not a Nigerian mentality! You are using Nigeria to make your point! Did Nigeria ask me to cohabit? And if you want to start comparing economies, you'll also tell me it's my fault that the economy is this way! Can you really compare economies?

I did not! And would not! Makes no sense to me still!

Yeah! That's fear of commitment! I understand!
If you respect the institution called marriage and all it stands for, you WONT cohabit!

Da Doctor:


And moro u marry anoda 'spoilt gurl' and she doesnt bear a child? wud u go probing to see if her womb has been off in one or 2 medical bruhaha?

Being a virgin isnt a crime Mr, most of u unmarried ones would like them for a relationship and subsequently marriage. compared to a gurl who cant even count the number of men she has sucked there dikkk before driving it into her punny.

BABE!:

Who told you I'm not married to the guy? The spirit?

BABE!:

Really killz? You listen to everything the bable says? Aight, lemme test the authenticity of your assertion.

The bable says "Slavery is appropraite and neccesary". Killz, do you support slavery?

The bable says "Respect and obey every form of political leader ruling over you."
Killz, what do you think about Hitler?[/color]

Hardunnii:

Yeah, d spirit showed me, lay good examples for your daughter, give her a stable home

You're a mess. A big ol' mess. A stable home = marraige? Olodo.  

BABE!:

You're a mess. A big ol' mess. A stable home = marraige? Olodo.