michelin89:

Why are people with great intellect emotional vegetables?

because it takes more than being book-smart to handle romance.
one has to be street-smart!

Hmm. . .one simply has to loosen up. Intelligent people often set rather high standards for their partners to meet. Only a fraction can meet these, and this fraction will probably not want to end up with a partner as similar as they are, anywayz.

Mr, Cork:

michel.  Don't mistake niceness for weakness. Growth begins when we begin to accept our own weakness.  True Story!!

i'm AWED!
Jump up five times and end it with a clap for yourself.

@topic,not in all cases.
Have proof of really intelligent chaps who are the kings of romance.
The ones who suck are probably the one who take life too seriously than it really is.

No generalization,but not all r lyk dat,but am sure if u meet an intellectual individual with a high sense of romance,it wud b a life-time memory,i min if u meet me.

Mamma mia che rompi che siete. Just answer the question. You are also very right to prove me wrong.

MsDarkSkin:

Because typically intelligent ppl (esp. Those who are successful) have a keen eye for detail and are competitive by nature. Both qualities are enough to attract the opposite sex however they can also ruin a relationship. Such folks tend to have an ego and are less willing to compromise.

Very well said!

and which case study did you gather this fact from? I am an intellectual and I do not suck emotionally, actually the opposite. In lieu of this I will need more lights shed on where the evidence came from.

Ayo79:

and which case study did you gather this fact from? I am an intellectual and I do not suck emotionally, actually the opposite. In lieu of this I will need more lights shed on where the evidence came from.

Google the word 'NERD'!

maclatunji:

Google the word 'NERD'!

Being smart does not make you a NERD. You only become a NERD if you are smart and. . . . socially awkward, completely obsessive, lack confidence, and oblivious to negative perceptions.

You don't have to be a NERD to be smart, and you don't have to be stupiid to have a fulfilling relationship.

Ayo79:

and which case study did you gather this fact from? I am an intellectual and I do not suck emotionally, actually the opposite. In lieu of this I will need more lights shed on where the evidence came from.

what kind of person says "I'm an intellectual"?. . . .is this the proverbial case of the empty barrels?

violent:


Being smart does not make you a NERD. You only become a NERD if you are smart and. . . . socially awkward, completely obsessive, lack confidence, and oblivious to negative perceptions.

You don't have to be a NERD to be smart, and you don't have to be stupiid to have a fulfilling relationship.

I find that the work it takes to be really smart does tend to make you a NERD, Peter Parker comes to mind here!

I guess you could mention Tony Stark to counter my opinion, abi?

maclatunji:

I find that the work it takes to be really smart does tend to make you a NERD, Peter Parker comes to mind here!

I guess you could mention Tony Stark to counter my opinion, abi?

Sharon Stone is said to have one of the highest IQs on record of people still alive.  I'm sure you will agree she's not exactly the kind of person you'd describe as a NERD.

Many don't really have to put in so much work to be smart, smartness could really be a natural gift.

In addition, NERDS are mostly known to be found in the field of science and mathematics, while in reality, smart people come from any field.  Warren Buffet doesn't spend his time crunching numbers in his head or thinking about the remote possibilities that two isotopes may have the same number of nucleons, and yet, he's arguably one of the smartest people alive.

I dispute the initial assertion. Its an urban myth.
Having said that, emotional intelligence is very different from logical dexterity and accumulated knowledge.
Wisdom and knowledge aint exactly the same.
You might know that fire burns yet still be silly enough to stick your finger in it.

maclatunji:

Google the word 'NERD'!

Being very smart, clever, intellectual does not make you a nerd. I think this is why our kids do not want to study anymore because they do not find being clever as cool or attrractive to the opposite sex or appealing to their peers. But in truth being clever is actually very sexy and attractive to the opposite sex especially if you add a twist of swagger to it. So caling intellectuals emotional vegetables is far from the truth.
so you can go ahead and call me a nerd but I can bet I bang more chicks that you will ever dream of.

Are we not generalizing wrongly-so to speak?

violent:


Sharon Stone is said to have one of the highest IQs on record of people still alive.  I'm sure you will agree she's not exactly the kind of person you'd describe as a NERD.

Many don't really have to put in so much work to be smart, smartness could really be a natural gift.

Sharon Stone ko Rolling Stones ni. The person that did that IQ test has an agenda.  

The OP said smart people, she did not say geniuses.  Trust me, even smart people have to work hard to become truly outstanding! That work does tend to drive you to the direction of NERDINESS. It does not mean you cannot be good at relationships or being sociable but it might not come naturally. Remember, when you were in secondary school the not-so-bright students compensated for it with colourful personalities.

The smart ones would just stick-out like sore thumbs because of their brillliance and were tagged "Efico", "Igi-Iwe" and other such names.

There is nothing wrong with being a NERD.

NERDS R COOL

duduspace:

I dispute the initial assertion, Its an urban myth.
Having said that, emotional intelligence is very different from logical dexterity and accumulated knowledge.
Wisdom and knowledge aint exactly the same.
You might know that fire burns yet still be silly enough to stick your finger in it.

Wisdom itself is abstract, it cannot be proven or measured, it can only be assumed,  . . .and in cases where it's assumed to exist, it's usually a product of the practical application of accumulated knowledge.

While all generalizations are wrong, the OP has some points:

First highly intellectual people are mostly logical people. Logic and Emotions don't go too well together. IQ (Intelligence quotient) is not the same as  EQ (Emotional Intelligence quotient).

A strength in academics, career or at work may actually be a weakness in a relationship. Many intellectual people aren't flexible enough to make the transition.

A ''head'' person interprets, analyzes and justifies everything with the head. This will be in serious conflict with matters of the ''heart''. The result: untold conflicts in the relationship.

Unless, an intellectual person has developed enough self-awareness to inculcate emotional maturity,  he will have serious issues with relationships.

DeeMain:

While all generalizations are wrong, the OP has some points:

First highly intellectual people are mostly logical people. Logic and Emotions don't go too well together. IQ (Intelligence quotient) is not the same as EQ (Emotional Intelligence quotient).

A strength in academics, career or at work may actually be a weakness in a relationship. Many intellectual people aren't flexible enough to make the transition.

A ''head'' person interprets, analyzes and justifies everything with the head. This will be in serious conflict with matters of the ''heart''. The result: untold conflicts in the relationship.

Unless, an intellectual person has developed enough self-awareness to inculcate emotional maturity, he will have serious issues with relationships.

You see what I am talking about. This person just put everything in proper context, don't be afraid of your Nerdiness- embrace it lovingly and take sometime to do not-so-logical stuff.

Take me as an example; I am here making Mukina2 happy by posting on many of her frontpage threads when I should be 'hard at work'. It is not so logical for productivity in the workplace but I have decided to take some load-off and just chill. However, I can feel the Nerd in me trying to take-over. He should be back in about 2 hours.

DeeMain:

While all generalizations are wrong, the OP has some points:

First highly intellectual people are mostly logical people. Logic and Emotions don't go too well together. IQ (Intelligence quotient) is not the same as  EQ (Emotional Intelligence quotient).

A strength in academics, career or at work may actually be a weakness in a relationship. Many intellectual people aren't flexible enough to make the transition.

A ''head'' person interprets, analyzes and justifies everything with the head. This will be in serious conflict with matters of the ''heart''. The result: untold conflicts in the relationship.

Unless, an intellectual person has developed enough self-awareness to inculcate emotional maturity,  he will have serious issues with relationships.

Thank you! Well said!

DeeMain:

While all generalizations are wrong, the OP has some points:

First highly intellectual people are mostly logical people. Logic and Emotions don't go too well together. IQ (Intelligence quotient) is not the same as  EQ (Emotional Intelligence quotient).

A strength in academics, career or at work may actually be a weakness in a relationship. Many intellectual people aren't flexible enough to make the transition.

A ''head'' person interprets, analyzes and justifies everything with the head. This will be in serious conflict with matters of the ''heart''. The result: untold conflicts in the relationship.

Unless, an intellectual person has developed enough self-awareness to inculcate emotional maturity,  he will have serious issues with relationships.

true talk

I can't imagine my partner not being able to engage me in critical and analytical discussions.

Most Nigerian ladies,especially the seemingly pretty ones(albeit artifical) do not even know who their state governors are. All they occupy themselves with is the latest human hair and shoes in vogue and when you attempt to enlighten them,they tag you as being boring.

DeeMain:

While all generalizations are wrong, the OP has some points:

First highly intellectual people are mostly logical people. Logic and Emotions don't go too well together. IQ (Intelligence quotient) is not the same as  EQ (Emotional Intelligence quotient).

A strength in academics, career or at work may actually be a weakness in a relationship. Many intellectual people aren't flexible enough to make the transition.

A ''head'' person interprets, analyzes and justifies everything with the head. This will be in serious conflict with matters of the ''heart''. The result: untold conflicts in the relationship.

Unless, an intellectual person has developed enough self-awareness to inculcate emotional maturity,  he will have serious issues with relationships.

I disagree with this point of view (as usual).  Emotion itself is entirely driven by intellect.  Everything you feel, you feel because you are who you are, and who you are itself is a product of your thoughts and intelligence.  Someone's emotional template (who they are and how they respond to the world) could be viewed as an intellectual template because intellect is understanding real things and your emotions determines what it is that you process and how you process them.

As an example, Intelligent people do have se[i]x [/i]ual drive, a natural reaction to their response to the external world.  Intelligent people still think of boo[i]b[/i]s, or[i]g[/i]ies, getting laid, blond girl, hot panties. . . . .they process this with their emotions and their body respond accordingly.

Intelligent people still feel sad when a relative dies.  They think (intellect at work) of the loss of friendship and relationship and their body responds (emotion at work) by shedding tears and sobbing.

Being an intellectual does not, and should not make you a GEEK.  Both are two separable terms.   

Intellectuals don't necessarily think about academics and work all the time, only GEEKS do.  Intellectuals can sit and have a normal conversation with the average Joe, GEEKS can't. Intellectuals do fall in love, can think with their heart and can ultimately keep a relationship, GEEKS may find it difficult to do so.

Intellectuals a not inept at romance. What is true however is that they are highly turned on in a different way i.e through mental stimulation. They view romance in a different light from the regulars, and do it differently too. You can get there attention from having intellectual discussions with them.
A perfect romantic date would be say going to a book fair or seminar with their relevant others rather than to movies or where regular blokes go to.

This simply means an intellectual and another intellectual would have a perfect romantic life.

An intellectual + regular/ dumb= NO!

Amya:

This simply means an intellectual and another intellectual would have a perfect romantic life.

An intellectual + regular/ dumb= NO!

You are kidding me. They'd have the most horrible relationship. We'r not talking about attraction, but about relationships.

Attention is primarily on other substantial things

I do hope we are not, in any way, making the mistake of insinuating that people who are romantic by nature are ''regular''(whatever that's supposed to mean)/dumb?

They'd have the most horrible relationship. We'r not talking about attraction, but about relationships.

Because?

I also implore you all to leave the assumption that smartness only exist in that damned world of science and mathematics.  Take a quick trip to the world of arts and literature and you may find that some of the world's smartest men wrote some of the best romantic lines ever.  A quick example will be Shakespeare.  Others exhibited the emotional and romantic sides of themselves with astonishing paintings.  an example will be Richard Parkes Bonington,  . .Yet, less dramatic others wrote some of the world famous song lines.

Who says intellect and emotions don't mix?  If you read some Shakespearean romantic lines, you will quickly dismiss your assumptions that a man that thinks with his head is incapable of thinking with his heart.  Shakespeare will arguably have one of the highest IQs in the history of the world.

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