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Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 12:26pm On Apr 22, 2006 |
i've been in love but it doesnt last |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 6:08pm On Apr 22, 2006 |
I remember this topic! |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 10:55am On Apr 23, 2006 |
yes i have,but it didnt last |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 2:30pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
Why doesn't it last? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 2:31pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
the boys can mess it up |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 2:33pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
The gurls do mess up sometimes too. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 2:48pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
yea,but for me the boys they mess it up but they regrets |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 6:21pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
Hmm. I love being loved. But then, who doesn't? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 6:24pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
everyone loves it |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 6:27pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
So eve, are you in love now? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 6:39pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
a babymine: am stay single |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 6:57pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
Hmm. Have you been hurt before? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 7:07pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
babymine: manytimes,it's makes me run away from boys, and i cant stand to be hurt again that way |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 7:11pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
So sorry, dnt worry, you'll meet the right person who will never ever hurt you. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by yemstar(f): 7:13pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
Never been in love, i tend to run in the other direction |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 7:18pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
babymine: thank you my sista,well am stay waiting for mr right to come walking right to my door |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 7:20pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
@ Yemstar You're kiddin, right? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by yemstar(f): 7:26pm On Apr 23, 2006 |
nope |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 11:06am On Apr 24, 2006 |
Then you must be pretty young or you've gone thru a bad experience. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by yemstar(f): 2:30am On Apr 25, 2006 |
Lets just say am young at heart |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by stormz(m): 4:18pm On Apr 28, 2006 |
see im a guy n to be honest yer most of us can b jerks n not think about ur feelins but im sure therez a guy out there specially for u who'll treat u like a queen dnt give up on love trust me, i no wat im talkin about |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by eveseh(f): 7:45pm On Apr 28, 2006 |
stormz: well thanks |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by kimba(m): 8:09pm On Apr 28, 2006 |
Love, love, love, who can help me out here: If "In Love" could be thought of as an-enclosure, question: when do you know you are 'In Love', as in "In Love", no jokes, no faking, no infatuation, no exagerration of your feelings, as in it has passed the level of appreciation, crushes, or fondness, as in "really-in-love", any signs, feelings, 1-2 and 3's, emotional status(at that time) distinctly different from other times in one's life, first hand experiences pls, ex: a lady almosts kills herself coz the "man of her dreams", that she was "in love" with didnt/wasnt "in love" with her. Methinks shes crazy, or maybe not, maybe im wrong, could it be she was "so much in love" that she thought she could never "be in love again" and that she better kill herself? can someone be so much in love as to kill herself? ladies? pls what could be the extent of that driving passion? or am i causing confusion? so i came to my conclusion below: - a friend, thinking he was confiding in me, once told me about his "been in love" with a girl and the girl was not "in love" with him. I thought it weird. I coudn't give an advice to him, so another question. conclusion Methinks you cant really be in love with someone until your "been in love" is reciprocated, as in the person is in love with you, am I right? |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by chinani(f): 8:30pm On Apr 28, 2006 |
kimba:Yes she's crazy. Yes she's in love. She's crazy in love as they say. Sad but true. kimba:No, you can be in love w/o reciprocation. That's happened to me before. We won't discuss it. But as for your friend, I think that anyone who can state they are in love w/ someone and that their love is not returned is truly in love. What should you tell him? Be sympathetic and tell him that the best love is "freely given & eagerly returned". Tell him that, yes, he is in love, but a day will come when he is in love w/ a woman who is in love w/ him and her reciprocity when increase his love and dwarf his current feelings. You know you are in love b/c of how you feel about the person. It's an overall intensity of feeling. But it's also an acceptance of who the person is. Like you can see that other men/women are out there & maybe more attractive but The nature of love is that it is encompassing. So much so that when the love is not returned it is devastating. Truly. Being in love takes a lot of humility which is why it does not die from lack of attn (from the object of affection). K, I'm rambling now. Peace. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by kimba(m): 2:56pm On Apr 29, 2006 |
@CHinani thanks, but as you say: Yes she's crazy. Yes she's in love. She's crazy in love as they sayI meant "crazy", shes out of her mind, totally unserious, why should she try to kill herself in the first place, is she nuts?, i meant crazy, your saying shes "crazy in love" is confusing. Can someone really be crazy in love, i mean crazy to the point of been crazy? , i believe if one truly loves/is in love, one begins to see things "more-clearly" not just taking irrational decisions one after the other, they say love is blind, but, or ? The nature of love is that it is encompassing. So much so that when the love is not returned it is devastatingTrue New issue: as you say Chinani, You know you are in love b/c of how you feel about the person. It's an overall intensity of feeling. But it's also an acceptance of who the person is.There are some people you like, really like, there are others you love. Accepted? Let me use myself as the test-vector so i could describe this clearly: I could feel happy, in fact very happy, or eager to hear someone's voice, who happens to be a childhood buddy, even tho shes female, as in very good friends, having done everything from childhood till now, practically together, in fact, people know the two of us as best-friends since childhood!!!!!, but truth is it doesnt go beyond that point, as far as im concerned /as far as she's in my mind, but for the fact that we might have come a long way, the bond is there, no doubt, and truly, she means so much to me, and vice-versa, but just to the level of friends, very good friends on my part, Now, she can't just understand, as in she would want something more than friends, considering we've been friends for a long time, in fact she thinks and feels, "it" is there already, but e'en tho we talk about it, she knows that im interested in someone else, as in, In Love with someone else, and that she is still my friend, but she can't accept it because we are childhood friends, and she says she can't live without me, In fact she doesnt mind telling me that i should stop the relationship with the other party, that shes jealous etc, (now isnt that too bad ) The other problem is the guy concerned would like to do his best to keep his relationship with his child-hood friend, make her understand that they are friends but cant be lovers, and his doing so is straining his relationship with his real-gf, Now(im speaking for myself), how can I advice the guy, how can I advice the girl, what do i tell them one-one-one, |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by chinani(f): 6:27pm On Apr 29, 2006 |
@Kimba That's a difficult situation. I would tell the man in the situation (w/ a gf and the childhood friend) to continue to be a friend to the girl. He should be clear and unwavering in his stance to her but should also be like "I don't see you that way and I won't change my mind." That's the way it has to be I think. As for the girl, you should encourage her to look at other men. Maybe introduce her to friends/men. It can be hard to meet ppl. I'm guessing that's the problem in the young ladies case. Also, encourage her to stop talking to this man. Absence makes the heart grow fonder but it also makes a person forget. When he "leaves" her she will feel the void and fill it w/ someone else. Sometimes you must be cruel to be kind. Tell this man this. But realistically the girl won't stop loving this man. She must tire of being alone and leave the idea of him alone. But him? No she'll have to love someone else first. Just my thoughts. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by kimba(m): 9:43pm On Apr 29, 2006 |
@chinani Sometimes you must be cruel to be kind.thanks for the advice |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by babymine(f): 11:00am On May 01, 2006 |
Love, love, love! |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by Ama(f): 11:31am On May 01, 2006 |
"Yes i have been and am right now, it feels so good something deep down in my stomach comes up my throat, i feel my heartbeat when i think of him, and i'm so happily inlove " That's really nice @venice. Make the most of it and enjoy it! Some people are immuned to love. Not quite sure how it happens but it does. People these days make others feel that falling in love is a bad thing. I don't want to get all phylosophical about what love is. If your heart beats when you think about the person, then that is good enough for me. Life is too short so you make the most of it. You might get heart broken but it's all part of growing up and you learn to deal with it. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by Damest09(f): 12:41pm On May 01, 2006 |
Never in love and still doubting it |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by chinani(f): 8:11pm On May 01, 2006 |
@Ama Haba, heartbreak! You make "learn to deal with it" sound like having to take cold showers or something. |
Re: Have You Ever Been In Love? by Ama(f): 8:20pm On May 01, 2006 |
chinani: I know! dealing with IT is not like taking a cold shower. It's probably more like having COLD TURKEY. But then you have to weigh the two and decide whether the joy that you get from being in love is worth the pain of being heart broken. As you get older, you develop strategies for dealing with heartbreak. Jumping off a cliff is definitely not one of the options! Life is all about pleasure and pain. Pain only becomes unbearable if you don't know how to deal with it. |
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