I met this girl october last yr in my schl. She's in 200l while i'm in 300l. We met online, later met in person. We were connected instantly and we shared luv. We had sex the 3rd day we met, though it was so painful for her as she's only done it twice b4. Anyway she grew so fond of me that she always wanted me by her side. I initially thought this was good as she displayed pure luv towards me. But it got to a point that she wanted to see me everyday(as ASUU strike started nt long after), and she'll not want me to go home until very late in the night, that i always had problms wit my uncle due to that. But she did nt care. Whenever i did nt go there ontime she'll be weeping on the phone. Well, i got tired of it all so i forced her to travel to her parents place for xmas. Then real problem started. She calls me over 10 times everyday. She always say she misses me that she can@t wait to see me. I just got an off-campus apartment and she already promised to make the place her 2nd home. The problm is that i'm tired of her as i never wanted it to get this far. Besides, i'm currently on a cgpa of 4.23 and i'm aiming for a 1st class and she will definitely be an obstacle with the way she's obsessed with luv. I've told her about it but she won't change. I need candid advice pls, what do i do?I met this girl october last yr in my schl. She's in 200l while i'm in 300l. We met online, later met in person. We were connected instantly and we shared luv. We had sex the 3rd day we met, though it was so painful for her as she's only done it twice b4. Anyway she grew so fond of me that she always wanted me by her side. I initially thought this was good as she displayed pure luv towards me. But it got to a point that she wanted to see me everyday(as ASUU strike started nt long after), and she'll not want me to go home until very late in the night, that i always had problms wit my uncle due to that. But she did nt care. Whenever i did nt go there ontime she'll be weeping on the phone. Well, i got tired of it all so i forced her to travel to her parents place for xmas. Then real problem started. She calls me over 10 times everyday. She always say she misses me that she can@t wait to see me. I just got an off-campus apartment and she already promised to make the place her 2nd home. The problm is that i'm tired of her as i never wanted it to get this far. Besides, i'm currently on a cgpa of 4.23 and i'm aiming for a 1st class and she will definitely be an obstacle with the way she's obsessed with luv. I've told her about it but she won't change. I need candid advice pls, what do i do?

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You read the WHOLE THING?

@Op Please look into using the *Enter* and *Tab* keys more frequently. . .

Well, two paths you can take;

- Meet her (One on One, if possible) and tell her Outrightly how much of a pest she is & how u'd love it if she gave you some breathing space
Might sound harsh but the results will be Instantaneous. - You can't afford to miss that First Class

- Cope with the Dilemma.

Nothing in-between. . .

OP, tell her you guys need some time off to breath. Try to be less receptive (less texts, calls), infact make yourself less available to her

OP, tell her you guys need some time off to breath. Try to be less receptive (less texts, calls), infact make yourself less available to her

The problem is she is giving him the fender to bumper pattern.

Tomba. I like your honesty. You clearly like this girl, but she's fast proving to become an obstacle to your academics which is and should be  the most important thing to you right now! I like guys who refuse to mix business with pleasure no matter how sweet the pleasure seems to be. That CGPA is not to be toyed with!
You've clearly stated your intentions to her and i expect her to reason like a student and know that she is in school for a purpose. End the relationship in anyway possible. You'll break her heart yes, but in this situation it's for the greater good. I'm seriously not absolving you of any wrong doing because i also expected you to have known better than get emotionally involved with a fellow student, when it was obviously conspicuous that you cannot cater to her needs. . . especially her emotional needs! The mistake has been done. If i was in your shoes, i'll take her somewhere very quiet, and honestly tell her - by way of advise- why the relationship has to end! Hammer on the fact that you are both students, and[b] the "LUST" you have for her has the innate probability to becloud your sense of reasoning and misguide your sense of direction and orientation which would invariably be catastrophic to your aim of being in school in the first place![/b] End it. It's what i'd have done, given the circumstances!

Though that is the truth, she would kill him if he goes that way.

u started what u can't finish, the moment bleeped her, you shuda known! anyways, u know what to do, evasive tactics should be employed.

^Evasive tactics wouldnt solve the problem ooo. Poster just try to end it!

I meant ending it and then employing evasive tactics

Just call her and tell her how u feel, as nicely as possible

Time to break up with the lady. Killz said it all

You two are not compatible emotionally. She needs way more emotional attachment than you are able to give to her.

There is only one thing I see in this. Should the OP break up with said girl, he is an Arsenal fan (a gonner). She will travel to ijebu specially for you and she will invoke a jazz that has not been seen before and that Is the end

@op talk to her about it, let her knw how u feel about the whole thing and how u want the relationship. If she is not ok with it, my dear u walk away.

^Killz, abeg o.,. no talk dat tin again o.,. I hav cin desperate chics take desperate actions. Poster is lucky, this babe in question stil 'small'.

^Nah. no 1 is advicing him to do dat.

thnks guys. I appreciate ur replies. When i met her, she just got jilted by a guy she claimed to luv so dearly. She would weep many times for d guy to come back, but the guy was adamant. I felt the guy left her for the same reason i'm complaining about.

Call her to a quiet serene environment and tell her you are hiv positive. Show her a fake test result for emphasis. All other things will fall into place.

@Op,killz hs given u a sensible and realistic listen to him
@Mrs Chima,ur inability to be constructive even in a controvertial way is of great concern.

@ Poster.
Its nice you experienced this first hand. You learned a thing or two from it.
Face your studies dear. You will know when you are ready for them chicks.

This is going to be VERY TOUGH but try not to "break" her. She loved you after all & the in itself isn't harmful.

Think ma bro before takin action,
Ask her about her dream and tell her u wld L♥√ع to support her and she shld support urs also, dialogue is the best option, not force, i knw if u dialogue with her, she will reason with u, dnt u knw her  code?,

Listen, I advise you to face your studies and come out with good grade. You have made mistake by telling her that you already got an apt of campus.

This her love action might end up to be the worst nightmare in your life if you fail to achieve your aim for your future. Also, when you are dealing with luv whereby your partner is possessive, this is dangerous as this could lead to murder if you fail to keep to the promise to this relationship.

Since she cannot allow you see reasons, you might take an action by drawing a line to this relationship no matter what. You can sit her down to talk to her but, note " DO NOT ALLOW HER TO MAKE YOUR HOME AT THE CAMPUS, HER 2ND PLACE OF ABODE. That will be your greatest mistake as she must be a distraction to you aim. Be careful.

i found myself in a similar situation but i was unable to manage mine. i ended up with 3.49 cgpa which in the polytechnic is an upper credit. i was targeting distinction which starts from 3.50.i think you have to talk to her. let her know your target academically , ask her if she truly love you and let her know you truly care.if she truly love you, she will work towards ur goal.

oh no if you knew the meaning of ur handle in swahili. 2 meanings infact.

Making a first class with your current cgpa, is next to impossible, unless you are doing a 5 yr course. So go ahead and continue your bleeping.