vindoheney:

well, since i have been found guilty,what am i to do to make amends?

eeyah! sorry man!

May I suggest you simply give her a break. Since she has decided to stay off you, let her be. . . . . . Give her a break and find an appropriate time probably in the nearest future _{At least when the tussle is gone down} ! to discuss the reasons for your action with her.

Sorry it happened that way. All the best.

Really, i think she must have trusted u, to share her problems with u. Seeing her whole life right in front of her, might seem the whole world knows its her, even if her name is not there. I suppose telling her b4 hand like many people said b4 posting anything on here would have saved lots of havoc. Ask 4 forgiveness again & again & i hope she'll forgive u.

well, Naira bros and sis, my pals, i got a news for you.

i took ur advice and i asked for forgiveness and u know what

I HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN OF MY SIN. GO HOME AND NEVER SIN NO MORE. SO I HAVE REPENTED AND AS FROM NOW I WILL NEVER PASTE ANYTHING AT ALL BUT DEFINITELY VINDO'S REPY WILL ALWAYS COME.

i GOT TO ATONE FOR MY SINS U KNOW AND THATS EXACTLY WHAT AM DOING.

SO REJOICE WITH ME COS I AM NOT CARRYING ANY SIN. I AM GOING TO HEAVEN TO SEE MY DAD. THANX ALL, FOR I COULDNT HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN WIHOUT UR HELP. AND I AM SIGNING OUT THIS THREAD. THANX AGAIN AND MAY U NEVER FALL INTO TEMPTATION OF DOING WHAT I DID.

i don't see anything wrong in what you did.you were only trying to help her and be a better guy for her too

I've just finished reading the thread, and my conclusion is:
- You did not do anything wrong.
- You did not invade her privacy in any way.
- You did not put her name there, or her picture
- What you posted could have been about anybody.
- Therefore this young lady is[b] just being unreasonable[/b].

Sometimes, when a (bad) girl senses that you are feeling guilty, she would treat you that way, even when you've done nothing wrong. It's called taking advantage of someone's weakness. It's something I don't fall for anymore, and neither should you.

U never can tell maybe the girl never wanted the old relationship again and not you helping her to sought it out. from my perspective i believe she wanted a new relationship which u didn't see but nevertheless i believe your posting had a good intention at heart and u didn't do wrong has most people have said but to her she felt betrayed which i believe its her kind of person.the way out of this(if u still cherish the relationship), just apologise for doing it(not begging) and let her understand u didn't have the intention of putting her life issue to the public but let her understand that u only tried to help her find a solution. SHIKENA

@ ifyalways & bebe2007

una be correct babes. tell them life truth abeg.

@ seun

u be correct guy. i was beginning to wonder if i am the only one seeing it that way.

Seun:

I've just finished reading the thread, and my conclusion is:
- You did not do anything wrong.
- You did not invade her privacy in any way.
- You did not put her name there, or her picture
- What you posted could have been about anybody.
- Therefore this young lady is[b] just being unreasonable[/b].

Sometimes, when a (bad) girl senses that you are feeling guilty, she would treat you that way, even when you've done nothing wrong. It's called taking advantage of someone's weakness. It's something I don't fall for anymore, and neither should you.

CLASSIC! i'll say

i just think she's just tryin to bare her mind and does not necessarily need a solution.only for u to broadcast it even am sure transformers also read and posted thier opinion.
then to now finally spoil the show,u told her to come see how her probs is been solved hmmm.na wa oo!
anywayz na over-reaction ooo!
toht u said she has forgiven you?
else just leave her to get over it and start friendship afresh.chikena

Well on the one hand you were just trying to help and on the other you made her public access which isnt on man. Next time ask if you can use peoples info before using it. Apologise and see what that gets you and if she dont come around well she aint God and no man is above mistake.

Seun: I've just finished reading the thread, and my conclusion is:
- You did not do anything wrong.
- You did not invade her privacy in any way.
- You did not put her name there, or her picture
- What you posted could have been about anybody.
- Therefore this young lady is just being unreasonable.

Sometimes, when a (bad) girl senses that you are feeling guilty, she would treat you that way, even when you've done nothing wrong. It's called taking advantage of someone's weakness. It's something I don't fall for anymore, and neither should you.

On this one, seun, your thoughts are mostly ludicrous, an offender confessed his own wrongdoing, yet you opined he's done nothing wrong? an offender confessed to posting on the internet the confidential matter of another person - even owning up to that person and you wrote he's not invaded her privacy? an offender, in all fairness and openness claimed what he posted was about his friend and yet you pontificated it could have been someone else? because the offender didn't attach the picture and/or include the name of the person involved?

therefore, you -seun- felt the lady is being unreasonable? how incredulously ludicrous!
i ask: does good intention justify a bad act?

and it must be made clear that when dicussing issues we must carefully consider what we're looking at, the case here isn't about the lady's overreacting or not; the case is about the guy's action being proper or improper, and i must say the best person to decide that is the aggrieved party! she took the guy into her confidence, think about that! and the guy confessed unwittingly to her that what was confidential has been thrown open for all to consider, the issue is about betraying confidence

simple!

ademiife:

On this one, seun, your thoughts are mostly ludicrous, an offender confessed his own wrongdoing, yet you opined he's done nothing wrong? an offender confessed to posting on the internet the confidential matter of another person - even owning up to that person and you wrote he's not invaded her privacy? an offender, in all fairness and openness claimed what he posted was about his friend and yet you pontificated it could have been someone else? because the offender didn't attach the picture and/or include the name of the person involved?

therefore, you -seun- felt the lady is being unreasonable? how incredulously ludicrous!
i ask: does good intention justify a bad act?

and it must be made clear that when dicussing issues we must carefully consider what we're looking at, the case here isn't about the lady's overreacting or not; the case is about the guy's action being proper or improper, and i must say the best person to decide that is the aggrieved party! she took the guy into her confidence, think about that! and the guy confessed unwittingly to her that what was confidential has been thrown open for all to consider, the issue is about betraying confidence

simple!

Well said, in fact, very well said.

@poster,
seems like you thought wrong bro but since you've admitted and shown remorse, she should grow up and forgive even if things dont go back to the way they were
goodluck

@ poster

Nah! i dnt tink so but jus allow air into the situation and then apologise all over again,am sure she'll forgive u this time.Gudluck

maybe the girl in question had read this thread over and being convinced that her anonymity is still intact, now decided to forgive the poster  . . . . UNA GET TIME SHA     

but really . . . could we know the real age of the poster ? 

am wondering why that kind of sh@t could get me bovvered ? I mean I got too many issues to deal with in my personal life than opening a thread for another chic's man's problems and opening another to justify the initial thread . . . who knows ? there might still be some threads that the poster will generate out of this    _{*smirks of using panadol for another man's headache*} 

and maybe, just maybe there is some hidden agenda suspected by the chic somewhere or else . . . .why the pettiness ? 

e yah my brother u Bleep up though but u can post her email address so i can help u apologise to her.

@Poster

My simple advice is to find someone else. If a case this trivial is this much of an issue, how much more when the real misunderstanding occurs or the "big one" airs up. I guess all hell will break loose. She has a lot to learn because that is plain immature. There are other girls (it isn't like a collector's item). There is more to life than drama and relationships. If your goal is to got through thick and thin together and nothing is causing trouble, then I think you should reconsider.

Peace

devil united! ! !

mip:

e yah my brother u mess up though but u can post her email address so i can help u apologise to her.

most of us are as guilty,if we say its totally wrong to discuss peoples probs on the land,i think i may do the same if i take her probs to heart. he made the wrong move telling her to go and see it ,that was wrong ,you could have taken the wise counsel to her like the high priest from the land,i have done it ones and i am sure i will be in your shoes right now if i had told her to go see for her self ,with the kind of guys we have on the block it was fire, some rubished the story saying it does not fit into modern times ,a story i got from someone in tears. give her time and let her know why you did that,i think she may understand if you make very strong efforts to let her See u are sorry

Bros u made a mistake by telling her u have posted something on the web for the public to see. Even if u want advise from the NLders you shouldn't have told her,


any way i think i was on her shoe would have cut of the relationhip, becuase u are not TRUSTWORTHY

What you read here
What you see here
What you do here
what you say here
what you suspect here
what you eat here
what you drink here
LET IT REMAIN HERE.

Sometimes we make each othe cry, sometimes we,

You are wrong man, you shouldn't have even shown her the post. You where trying to meet her needs but just like Somze said, sometimes we try to help but we do in a wrong way that is why we need to seek advice.

Just be calm, try explaining to her that you where trying to help and apologize again, i hope she considers.

But please dont do that next time, its not right.

Nothing wrong in pasting the story here, afterall you made it anonymous, but you did wrong in sending her the link, you could’v fed her with the responses without telling her the source, but she is over reacting, don’t worry she’l relax and know you meant well.

. . . another intellectual LovePeddler kicked off the ladder into the abyss.

Will you men ever learn?

Stop trying to curry favor by helping 'fix' her relationship - admit you want to have her for yourself and things will be much easier.

If she says No. . .move on to another relationship.

She was angry for a gud reason; Iam sure if u sincerely apologize to her she would listen to u. Gud to learn from a mistake in case of another time

@ engee2
u tell everyone all about yourself if it's no problem