~Killz~:

No, it because of the "space" needed for a relationship to thrive. . .

~Killz~:

It's a worse case scenario you just laid out. If i find myself in such, i won't lie to myself for i am imperfect. It is not going to be easy, It even breeds contempt the more. . . You can't deny that!

nwani oma:

You get all the space you need get married and get shocked

Nah. You know that's false. By space i mean privacy. I don't need the whole world knowing i'm dating you. . . Gosh, i also need to miss you. How can i miss you when i see you every morning afternoon night? Well, if it works for you sha o. . . All the best!

Koolking: Any way, different strokes for different folks. Once again I have no reservation who I date and where she is coming from provided I am comfortable and compatible with the person. Maturity should be a watchword in relationships. My take pls

sexkillz:
Yeah Man. I get you. There is a difference between knowing what to do and not knowing what to do. In your case, you know what to do, and what is best for you. But sometimes, some people do not know themselves, nor what they want. When such people asks me for advice such as dating a neighbor, i will only get as honest as i can. . . if i can't do it, i wont ask you to do it. So, someone asking me if it's advisable, my answer will continue to be what? Continue to be emboldened capital lettered NO!

~Killz~:

You get to see much of her unnecessarily. You tend to start feeling jealous when you see other guys around hitting on her. Basically, you'll find it hard to trust her after a while, and you'll just hate her for nothings sake! It's not advisable, unless you want frequent heartbreaks.

It's even better if she was 1000 meters away, i.e 1km away, than 100 meters. . . That's a NO NO!

lalaosky:
Thanks bro

~Killz~:

You get to see much of her unnecessarily. You tend to start feeling jealous when you see other guys around hitting on her. Basically, you'll find it hard to trust her after a while, and you'll just hate her for nothings sake! It's not advisable, unless you want frequent heartbreaks.

It's even better if she was 1000 meters away, i.e 1km away, than 100 meters. . . That's a NO NO!

pendo89:

Guys will still hit on her wherever she is,near or far. So what you don't see doesn't hurt? how about what you hear?
Do we trust our partners even though we can't see what they are doing 24/7?
If you cannot trust ur partner around guys or ladies then don't bother dating. Put a tracking devise inside them for ur comfort.
It's a jungle we live in, full of predators. One must learn to co exist with the predators and survive to see another day.
Hate her cz she's talking to guys? if she double dates just break it! But if she loves you alone, is she prohibited from talking to guys? a bit immature if asked.
What frequent heartbreaks? She breaks ur heart once and you cut it off and move on.Just don't dont commit a criminal offence as you do so.That way u remain friends.

Do we have couples that met in campus? student accomodation,sharing everything within the years spent there?
How comes familiarity didn't breed concept? At times this statement sounds like a fallacy.


My answer is yes.If he is single and posesses the qualites I admire.

pendo89:

Guys will still hit on her wherever she is,near or far. So what you don't see doesn't hurt? how about what you hear?
Do we trust our partners even though we can't see what they are doing 24/7?
If you cannot trust ur partner around guys or ladies then don't bother dating. Put a tracking devise inside them for ur comfort.
It's a jungle we live in, full of predators. One must learn to co exist with the predators and survive to see another day.
Hate her cz she's talking to guys? if she double dates just break it! But if she loves you alone, is she prohibited from talking to guys? a bit immature if asked.
What frequent heartbreaks? She breaks ur heart once and you cut it off and move on.Just don't dont commit a criminal offence as you do so.That way u remain friends.

Do we have couples that met in campus? student accomodation,sharing everything within the years spent there?
How comes familiarity didn't breed concept? At times this statement sounds like a fallacy.


My answer is yes.If he is single and posesses the qualites I admire.

Story story. . . I'll only believe this if you can tell me humans have lost the capacity of being jealous. . . You talk as if there are no emotions attached to seeing someone else hit on your lady "everyday". You think it's that easy as you make it sound? I'd rather they "hit" on her without my knowledge than actually witnessing it, or having friends or fellow neighbors discussing her, calling her a flirt or a cheat when they see other guys with her simply because the whole neighborhood knows we are dating. . . Thanks, but i'll pass on Dating my neighbor. . . Again and again and AGAIN!

madprof: I did it, now we're married with twins. So don't tell me it's wrong.

sexkillz:
Story story. . . I'll only believe this if you can tell me humans have lost the capacity of being jealous. . . You talk as if there are no emotions attached to seeing someone else hit on your lady "everyday". You think it's that easy as you make it sound? I'd rather they "hit" on her without my knowledge than actually witnessing it, or having friends or fellow neighbors discussing her, calling her a flirt or a cheat when they see other guys with her simply because the whole neighborhood knows we are dating. . . Thanks, but i'll pass on Dating my neighbor. . . Again and again and AGAIN!

sexkillz:
Story story. . . I'll only believe this if you can tell me humans have lost the capacity of being jealous. . . You talk as if there are no emotions attached to seeing someone else hit on your lady "everyday". You think it's that easy as you make it sound? I'd rather they "hit" on her without my knowledge than actually witnessing it, or having friends or fellow neighbors discussing her, calling her a flirt or a cheat when they see other guys with her simply because the whole neighborhood knows we are dating. . . Thanks, but i'll pass on Dating my neighbor. . . Again and again and AGAIN!

pendo89:

1.No we haven't lost the ability but there's a point in life where our emotions mature.That stage where we can trust our better half to go on a biz trip with male workmates and still trust that she will not endulge in anything silly.A partner is not a dog on leash.

2.If they keep hitting on ur lady daily it means she is desirable.I think the opposite is worse.Think about it!You get hit on as well,that's ok as long as you know ur boundaries.Its okay to let birds fly over ur head but don;t let them lay eggs on it. I would only feel horrible if she flirts with those hitting on her but if she respects me I have no qualms.Some risks test ur relationship.
You will never know how deep you love each other till u face some risks and overcome them.Avoiding doesnt make you grow at all.

3.You telling me the reason u cant date her is cz 'neighbours will talk' Damn! you cant stop people from talking! even here on nl they talk.They have been talking since Adam and Eve.If people dont talk about you,then you are irrelevant and useless. Thing is this,are they talking good of her/him? are they talking out of jealousy? Why listen to gossiping neighbours? Ok if you happen to hear aren't u able to sift,spit and stay strong??Where in this world will you find a place without gossipers?

pendo89: 4.Are u telling me that you would ignore that sweet neighbourhood girl with all the qualities u admire and hook up with some crazy one far away? cz neighbours will talk?? very shallow for me.

Its just my opinion.I wouldn't mind really as long as I got nothing to hide.

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~Killz~:

You get to see much of her unnecessarily. You tend to start feeling jealous when you see other guys around hitting on her. Basically, you'll find it hard to trust her after a while, and you'll just hate her for nothings sake! It's not advisable, unless you want frequent heartbreaks.

It's even better if she was 1000 meters away, i.e 1km away, than 100 meters. . . That's a NO NO!

sexkillz:
No one said it's wrong. There's a difference between something being advisable and something being wrong. That it worked for you is not enough reason to recommend it to someone else. If you want to recommend it, do so with the side effects as well. Not everyone has the same mentality as you do. Some people like asking questions every step of the way in their relationship. It's a sign that they are pretty lost, don't know what relationship entails, and don't know what to do. When such people approach me for advise, i'd rather be honest and straight forward about it.

Now, what if after reading your experience and i start dating my Neighbor, should i expect to get married to her, and expect twins too?