hardbody: is love synonymous with sex, if no, cant a man love his wife and still do the thang with someone else, i am inexperienced, so i am just ventilating my curiousity

woodcook: @op it pains me when people tend to punish everyone for the sake of one guy. That your bf is cheating on you and expect you not does not mean thatz how all men are. How would you feel if a guy who is so unfortunate to "yoke" himself with a way-ward chic, comes out to say all chics are way-ward?

Well back to topic, the truth is what goes around comes around, you don't cheat and expect not to be cheated on at best not from you current partner. bt for sure it will happen just a matter of time.

woodcook: @op it pains me when people tend to punish everyone for the sake of one guy. That your bf is cheating on you and expect you not does not mean thatz how all men are. How would you feel if a guy who is so unfortunate to "yoke" himself with a way-ward chic, comes out to say all chics are way-ward?

Well back to topic, the truth is what goes around comes around, you don't cheat and expect not to be cheated on at best not from you current partner. bt for sure it will happen just a matter of time.

woodcook: @op it pains me when people tend to punish everyone for the sake of one guy. That your bf is cheating on you and expect you not does not mean thatz how all men are. How would you feel if a guy who is so unfortunate to "yoke" himself with a way-ward chic, comes out to say all chics are way-ward?

Well back to topic, the truth is what goes around comes around, you don't cheat and expect not to be cheated on at best not from you current partner. bt for sure it will happen just a matter of time.

Chrisbenogor: Life my dear friends is a war, sometimes its hard to swallow because we are all brought up thinking we have to be nice and we have to carry other people along that we tend to forget that our primary instinct is to survive. One of the biggest and the most fought war fronts since the history of man is in our “romantic” relationships, personally over the little time I have spent in this world I have found this war to be very ferocious and fought with so much passion but with very little tactical awareness. The main reason is that most of us ignore the main rule of warfare which is know thyself and thine enemy, today that enemy is the Man and we are going to try and understand how this man fights his “romantic” battles.

You see a man is a very straightforward creature, if men were to be a programming language we would be a basic machine level language that understands just zeros and ones, a man does not need a valid reason to want to have sex with another woman aside from the fact that she looks “hot” on a very basic level. A man does not need to do any permutations and think is she good enough or is she smart enough? Maybe to have a real relationship or to settle down with yes he might consider that, but in a very basic and primal way a man is moved by what he sees. So when I hear ladies say “what I cannot stand is cheating, if he does it once I will kick his ass to the curb” , I ask is that what the real problem is?

During one of these spats recently I asked my friend which scenario she thinks would hurt her the most:

- You find out your boyfriend went to strip club with his friends and ended up having sex with a hooker

- You find out your bf has been secretly having lunch with his EX for the past month

Nine out of ten times they have a damascus moment and realize that it is emotional betrayal that is much more important than a man having sex, but she says, why is it that when a woman goes out to a club and ends up sleeping with a guy she is called names? Well that is because women usually have to cross that emotional barrier first before it gets to sex. I like to look at it from an evolutionary point of view, you see a woman’s child is always her child, and as such her own issues are things like will this man be able to take care of this child, provide food and shelter for us or is he just going to run a way ? In that light a woman has to be a lot more careful and scrutinize who she is getting into bed with. The man on the other hand has a bigger dilemma, he does not always know for sure if a child is his own, so he wants to “try as many times as possible” to make sure that his own genealogy continues to exist.

Now like I said I know this is probably hard for some of you to swallow and some might look at this as a justification for a man to cheat but it is really only an explanation of how a man works. No amount of wishing away would change the fact that men will cheat regardless of what the stakes are, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, JFK, Tiger Woods………the list is endless. The trick is to know when the man crosses the emotional line and from then onwards the gloves come off, protect yourself as much as you can, betrayal is the real pain in any heart break.

I am a staunch believer that a relationship is 40% love, 40% commitment and 20% of sacrifice, as a man I often remind myself of this and it keeps me from straying. This does not mean that we should hide how we really see things, I think embracing who you are and comparing it viz a viz what you want from life or what you have committed yourself to goes a long way in dealing with this “demon” we carry inside. The world is fast changing and one of the big tenets of evolution is the specie that fails to adapt ultimately goes extinct.

In the words of the famous Sun Tzu:

1. Therefore, I say: Know your enemy and know yourself; in a
hundred battles, you will never be defeated.
2. When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself, your
chances of winning or losing are equal.
3. If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself, you are sure to
be defeated in every battle.

As always I appreciate your comments. Have a nice weekend guys.
http://leenigma./2012/05/18/rules-of-engagement/

chiozor: Women Bleep wit their mind and all their life,men just flings.women gives only sex so why they share d only thing in them is weird to me

lalaosky:
u need education ASAP...spewing crap!...SMH

Well that is because women usually have to cross that emotional barrier first before it gets to sex. I like to look at it from an evolutionary point of view, you see a woman’s child is always her child, and as such her own issues are things like will this man be able to take care of this child, provide food and shelter for us or is he just going to run a way ? In that light a woman has to be a lot more careful and scrutinize who she is getting into bed with. The man on the other hand has a bigger dilemma, he does not always know for sure if a child is his own, so he wants to “try as many times as possible” to make sure that his own genealogy continues to exist.

Papa Crotch:

Roki looked for you. I am looking for a swim suit model, I want to future you on sport illustrated. They are craving for your shape. I told them how expensive you are, they are ready to pay your double the usual fees. I know its a dream come to through.

Papa Crotch:

Roki looked for you. I am looking for a swim suit model, I want to future you on sport illustrated. They are craving for your shape. I told them how expensive you are, they are ready to pay your double the usual fees. I know its a dream come to through.

Papa Crotch:

Roki looked for you. I am looking for a swim suit model, I want to future you on sport illustrated. They are craving for your shape. I told them how expensive you are, they are ready to pay your double the usual fees. I know its a dream come to through.

sosoluv: why do men expect women to dedicate to them what they are not ready to give back in return?

sosoluv: I would like to meet that one guy who doesn't cheat! No luckygame I'm have been flying solo for some time now

MRbrownJAY: @OP
to understand MEN, you have to look at how the LIONS are behaving in the jungle. that should give you an idea of the creature that you are dealing with.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
to understand MEN, you have to look at how the LIONS are behaving in the jungle. that should give you an idea of the creature that you are dealing with.

90love: Because they are selfish and power hungry. Men don't think as thoroughly as women about long term coniquences and re just opportunists.

wizzy11: @Op
Let me ask you a simple question, do Men cheat with ANIMALS? Is it not ladies/ fellow ladies like you they cheat with?
Ladies are hardly contented. And believe me, there are Great men out there, of which I can say I'm proudly one, Never cheated, but rather was cheated on.
So if you attract Dogs, that does not Mean there are No Saints.

naturalwaves: Go out and see.Ladies don't even know wat they want and they are d most infidel.They av a higher level f promisciousity.Won't d lady dating a married man av a bf or partner somewhere?Even wen it comes 2 sex,only few can say no.NYSC service year was a great eye opener.Gurls coming 4 service wil av one so called mumu,gentle boy,ready 2 marry her smwhere.Comes 4 service and wil lyk 2 av a stand by guy 2 dat wil be banging her perpetually 4 one year.Needs money and wil go pick up an Alhaji.Myt av even dated in camp b4 posting,myt even stoop so low 2 date a soldier.D most astonishing one wen a girl begs 4 sex.Wake up,things av changed.Dis is not a random sampling o.It happens in abt 6-7 out f evry 10 gurls and d gurls 4rm d East are more fond f dis shameful behaviour.