therese chizoba: This word change sef,I didn't mean manipulation I meant the other one

greatgod2012: In my own opinion, i think children should start sleeping in their separate rooms as early as possible(may be 3 yrs old) for some reasons like children's independence/privacy, parents'privacy, etc, what is your own opinion on this, at what age should children be left to start sleeping in their separate rooms? Your comments/opinions are welcome

pastormustwacc: This is serious. If the child is prone to nightmare or the child is chronically ill e.g. a sickle-cell, asthma, epilepsy. Special considerations should be taken.

Ricky_Ross:

3 years is cool but these days children are growing too fast and can be cunny. I was knacking my wife last nite and my 2yrs old son was just fighting me, each time i grab my wife the poor boy fights back, he probably thought I was beating his mom. Actually he was sleeping when we started but the moaning and everything woke him up and he doesn't like sleeping in the children's room without his mom.

Princessaleeza: My girl is almost 2yrs & she cant sleep alone,if her body has not touch mine she ll not sleep. She is separating me from my husband.My husband we av 2 sleep in d sitting room & leave d bed 4 both of us cos she ll not allow d Dad 2 sleep beside me,she ll rather be @ d middle. So i dont even no when she ll be sleeping alone.

jidegirl12:

That's very dangerous o! I have a strange superstitious believe in my head that baby will be wayward when he/ she grows up if we make love in the same bed with them

greatgod2012:
very right, imagine my 5yrs old boy asking his father why his p*e*n*i*s is bigger than his own.

Clemzy16: As soon as the child is able to sleep on his/her own.

Classicalman: Na today? Abeg 6mths is too early. My 6mths old baby is always fond of trying to roll off the bed. Imagine if d baby rolls off and falls hitting his or her head on d marble floor, because u kept him or her in a seperate room. Too dangerous.

greatgod2012:
very right, imagine my 5yrs old boy asking his father why his p*e*n*i*s is bigger than his own.

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..And you think this is a bad thing for a "boy" to ask HIS FATHER?

Let me allow you in on a little secret!

The whole "brouhaha viz-a-viz rampant deviancy" within the Western worlds is routed in this "independence and privacy" for Kids!
*Who are Children supposed to "see first, learn from and emulate" .....if not their parents?

*Is that Boy up there, supposed to ask his Teacher, friend or neighbor?...
.......Or is he supposed to learn by "experimenting"?

*Do you know that by asking such question of "his Dad", the boy is getting "first hand" assurance from someone he absolutely trust?
*Who should be the best "sex education teacher" for a kid, if not the parent?

*if you tell your child that "babies fall from heaven" when Daddy and Mummy are "fast asleep", how then would you convince that child not to engage in early sexscapaid?....and not fall into teen pregnancy?

Do you realize that one of the reasons "Homosexuality" is less rampant amongst we Africans is because from an early age in life, we are "exposed to both sexes" through "uninhibited interaction" with our brothers and sisters (like bathing together, sleeping on same bed/mat, wearing just about any "color" without discriminating that "pink is for girls and blue is for boys only", e.t.c, seeing our Mums and Dads dress-up in our presence and we dont develop any "sexual emotions", e.t.c)

Am not saying that children cannot have their own room but that should occur around age 13 or 14 and even then, it should be one room for "all male" and another for "all female" children!

That way, they would have developed (or develop) emotionally and would have learnt to control themselves properly, in the presence of the "opposite gender"!
I have seen some of these children who own rooms from 3years old, lock their parents out of their room, anytime they are annoyed ...and what can you do, no be you give am "independence and privacy"?

Honestly, l see a lot of 'white folks" who have never seen unclothedness in real life till they are like 18years and when it "descends" on them suddenly, they just loose all manner of self control! Rape is the next thing, if you cant control your sensual emotions, abi na lie?

As for me, all my 'male' children stay in the same room .....and the older ones will "nurture" the younger ones.
Growing up, one of the reasons l couldn't have "early sex" was because l cant bring a lady inside "our room"....my senior brothers cant also because we (all boys) use the same room!
If l had a room to myself, walahi.... make l no talk!

When my children are still very young, (under 8yrs), we bath together at times but as they get more "aware", l restrict it to the male children while the females are still free to scrub Mummy's back at will, in the bath tub!

Wetin? Oginni" Kilode?

Dont you know that this "independence and privacy" comes second, but "intimacy, trust, "respect and appreciation" for each gender, family bond, closeness, "family smell" (for want of a better word! ) are very important and COME FIRST, when a child is growing?[/b]

Can you explain to me why an "average white adolescent" (14 - 28) would not bathe an eyelid before slapping his father or ra.pi.ng his mother ...... (and the parents are ready to drive him out, ready or not, when he is 18yrs) but you hardly see such things within our own shores? (at least it is not the norm ....and Gerrout, ...dont give me that "example" in your head, )

Can you tell me why it is considered "taboo" for a father to use his hands to "clean-up his female child" while we Africans can do it without even giving it a second thought? (l clean my baby daughters when they poo ....and l dont grate my teeth doing it! )

The Yorubas will say "e je ka'tibi isanna kiyesi Oogun"! (let us appreciate wisdom from little things, literally translated).

How would you be able to do all these things with a "free mind" when you create that "barrier" between you and your children from a very early age?

Abeg, we may be trying to copy the white man's culture but please, let us restrict ourselves to the good aspect only!

Anyway, make l relax..... l dey come

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