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Offpoint:
Apologies, there was no better way to word it than to be blunt about.

Riele is a young and vibrant woman, I admired her courage to stood up for what's right, something some older women might not be able to do.
I wouldn't know her pass experiences with few men. Maybe she had suffered sexual molestation OR an attempted molestation.
Maybe it's mainly base on what sees or read about in the media or in reality. I wouldn't know....

There's a beast this young lady is nurturing and that beast is 'Hatred and resentment' towards her opposite sex. if she doesn't realize it at this stage, she might nurture this beast until it's fully grown into a monster and when it's fully grown into a monster it'll start eating her up.

She's doing what is right, but with a wrong approach... it's left for elders to caution and guide her on how to approach issues.

Same way I condemn guys here generalizing that all ladies are prostitutes base on few experience, it's the same way I'll do with the opposite sex.

From all indications...u have a little spiritual experience...I have been following this topic from the the onset and I was obliged to break my silence based on what you utter.... You have spoken absolutely true hence owe no one apology!

As you rightly said the young lady in question is going extreme on the battle she CAN'T win.. someone applaud she is an hero... Well.

Let me put it straight, why can't she look inward to tackle her weakness? Is that supposed to mean she's perfect? Why can't she channel her energy to benefit her and not trying to emulate Jesus our saviour.. Rubbish!!

I have lady's experience at my fingers tip hence and I can accurately deduce her personality..
(Note: I am addressing fundamental issues here and not direct matter to her directly, she just be use as a case study please... accept my apology)

doggedfighter:
Go ye and flaunt your assets

Yeah.. according to John 4 verse 19




..419
Bad girl

Gina2019:
Lol...A lady will never give you her cookie as long as she's not collecting money from you. She has alot to lose if she tries it.

You want the guy to have the cookie then leave her afterwards? She's a wise girl if you ask me...Now the real intention of the guy is now showing.

I can accurately deduce your lifestyle from your write up hence wish to be your friend...I have a new year gift for you girl... trace my contact and chat me up..

TenthMan:
Every human and all living things have many things in common. One very general and important thing they have is trying to become a FULL FLEDGED LIFE. Every living thing wants to become the best of its kind and individuality. All plants want to grow and flower as best as they can given the available resources and conducive environment. Same thing with all animals. Same with humans. Humans want to get the best of experiences and see how far they can go. In doing this they seek experience in many ways. Some drink and party, some do drugs, some choose church/mosque/religion, some choose extreme sports, some choose being social and enjoying social life, some decided to look inward and be alone, some choose knowledge seeking, etc. In most cases humans combine these things to various degrees. All these in order to experience life. To be a full fledged life. To be the best of themselves/ourselves as they/we can be. Unfortunately, a lot of these activities have the potential to harm physically, emotionally and psychologically.

There are three major influences of a human. Basic Instincts, Conditioning by Society and Personal Experiences. These are the things that control our drive to control the basic instinct of going all out to experience all we can. Based on instinct, she is in the stage of life where she will explore the possibilities of her being a woman and a human and the attention that comes with it. Especially being a woman. The possibility of being a human and interacting socially with as many individuals as she can. She may not realize the fact that a lot of people may have no good intentions for her. You said she as just gained admission into a Tertiary Educational Institution. This makes her quite inexperienced and lacking of adequate wisdom to some level. So please kindly note that the desire to explore. The desire to be the best of humans by craving attention, doing things to get noticed, doing as much things as she can to feel good about herself is what is driving her. Now, the level of conditioning by her parents, the society etc. could be an influential force on her behavior. It can either make her be more careful or more carefree or indifferent (indifference doesn't really exist). You are one experience to her. There are other experiences beckoning. She will eat various food, try out various activities, interact with various females, AND SHE DEFINITELY WANTS TO INTERACT WITH VARIOUS MALES AS WELL. Only experientially, she does not see the risk. She does not know the instinct of a man which is to procreate all the time. She hardly understands that this is what drives over 98 % of male interaction with the female. As for You, You do. You see these things. Because you have been more conditioned to see these things and you have experienced more of situations like this.

One thing you must note is that she will explore in the way her mind tells her to. The following motivates every specie (1) Pleasure Seeking (2) Pain Avoidance and (3) Energy Conservation. You wont be with her in school. If the level of conditioning is not strong enough to prevent her from interacting with male folks, etc. She will interact. If her experiences does not teach her the dangers of interacting with male folks without being very strong psychologically and emotionally, she will go ahead and do so. Note that the attention you give could vary from the attention the other individual gives to her. She experiences another exciting side of her with him. Especially if he is well experienced in the art of looking for a woman's need and innermost desire and satisfying it/or pretending to satisfy it, then turning endearment/friendship into romantic/sexual feelings.

So you value the fact that you can control yourself and you have good plans for her but at her stage in life those aren't the things she is immediately trying to experience. Those are far off. She intends to experience those things you provide when the time comes. You are giving her experiences way beyond her years. And she has not been conditioned to think about the marital/marriage prospects you intend to provide.

You are not far from a free thinker..and I fancy your degree of natural intelligence.


Please trace my contact and chat me up on WhatsApp... I have a new year gift for you bro

Triniti:
As a man,Never you put you heart and happiness in the hands of a woman. Especially the ones going through the whoring stage of her life, she going to shatter it into pieces. Focus your attention on getting that job, once you do, far more better beautiful and sophisticated women will be at your beck and call.

Bravo!

Ur personal text...as simple as it appear....is the essence of EVERYTHING in the world

Truly only the Brave...

ShaqFu:
I have, through and through. I prefer a baggage of experience, who will tell me how to navigate around a vast ocean of pleasure, than a naïve captain, who might get us both drowned in a sea of pleasure.

I'm sure you know the difference between banging a girl with experience, one who knows how to respond to your every trust and yearning, than one who lies down waiting for you to be her instructor.

Bro.. please do trace my contact and chat me up ASAP
Thanks

[quote]Is it not common sense that a woman should have her own money? A small business to fetch her
Money or a part time job. Petty things that she might want to buy for herself will she now be waiting for her husband to give it to her? Nooo! But what you need to understand is that if a man is in a relationship with a woman he must be the provider. It’s a must and it’s the only way that a relationship can function properly in most cases. End of story. Your money is our money, my money is mine.
If things go sour the woman will always have her own money to fall back on, and even savings from the years she’s been with the man. You’re the one that need to face reality before a man takes advantage of your kindness.[/quot

Bravo!...

Mypeople2:
My dear so if you are blessed financially you won't assist the man? Why are you ladies filled with this mentality of always collecting without giving? Please what do you ladies provide in a relationship or marriage without sex these days?Wait, if there is no money or sex in a relationship, the relationship won't the relationship work?

Common bro . think like a Man... how can you imagine your lady richer than you?..what gave you an edge?....what happened to your dear ego?.. hustle and be in charge bro


It's. Man's world!.. Take it or leave it!

And so? Your friends are just unfortunate. Marriage is not about Love. They’re many women that married men with something to offer and they’re thankful for their decision today, so what is the issue? It’s not about being stinking rich, it’s about a man providing a comfortable life for his family and being the ultimate provider. What Is so difficult about that? You men are so pathetic I swear to God.

No vex..

UjuJoan2:
I don't even understand what the big fuss is all about. If you don't won't to spend money, fine a girl who will accept you the way you are.

But if you want to date or marry people like us, get ready to spend money. Simple!

Awon Omo town...

InvertedHammer:
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Nneka is right.

She also mentioned that the guy has an option of walking away.

It sounds fair to me...not by force.

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This your statement appear simple and possible on the surface but it's quite deep.


I took time to digest all the argument for and against and I can only shook head... it's really unfortunate for we men.. words is quite cheap

You see, this lady that says he has options of walk away is quite a cunning and manipulation fellow.. such a girl really understand men psychology of thinking... such a lady must have been endowed with those qualities an average man cannot resist..hence take advantage of the poor fellow ( forget all this mouth guys were making on the internet)..I like to be blunt

Guys, I have ones be a maga so I am talking from experience...all those good time when business is bumming I spent freely on my girls.. Trust me.. economic has reset my brain...I can only spend on the one with value as it stand....but not to spend at all?.. Forget it!



Money is meant to be spend especially on decent lady

sweetilicious:
Go and get a job young lady.As soon as you get older now you will carry wheel barrow selling food just to survive or feed your children.Get productive now.Reality is coming.

Oh . you see it coming



You must have an eagle eye!

But who lose? You think to have sex means anything to babes of this generation ? Is it not pleasurable to both? What sensible babe will keep all her eggs in one basket for one boyfriend? What you need to understand is that if you think you’re smart, the girl you’re fucking is smarter. Whilst collecting your money and enjoying your prick untop, one maga will still go on his one knee and beg for the babes hand in marriage. Bobo please go and sit down.

A round of applause to real nigga

castrol180:
Though they are bunch of liability they are only higher than each other if you know you know

Bravo....all woman are Man problem na degree differ.


One of the few fact of life!

Is ok..

Chi59:
Be very careful with her. Because the truth is, her family might be aware and in support of the guy from abroad. I see you as a sensible and careful guy.
If you can, keep her at arms length, be very professional with her. Teach her the Java, let her pay you. If she wishes to take the relationship any further, she should break it up with the guy in your presence (voice call, video call) and introduce you properly to her people. Nothing else would do.

Bravo!

Vortex369:
Let's get some things straightened out, dear humans.

So that whatever you do, you do not get lost in the universe of words.

She has agreed to have sex with you now and in return, she expects to enjoy the sex too, while you also provide material-financial care as well as any other additional incentives like recharge cards, occasional feeding money, etc.

If you like the sex and she is beautiful enough to get you erection, then you are not crazy yet but you will soon be crazy when you realize that when girls are no longer getting new 'toasters' they have a way of waking up refuses from dustbin and recycling them while waiting for new entries on their database of exploitative explorations.

.. Experience count

Bravo!

Lamanii22:
I swear... I loved him right from time.. I'm not desperate for relationship... Or getting married... Plus I never run out of options.. Nah dem dey rush me...

That is my girl..I fancy your pride..

Liposure:
I wonder. Can a girl wait like this?

Nope.. they were not designed like that.
Simple!

Lamanii22:
He is not using me... He is not foolish.. We love each other... He doesn't even pressure me... We've not been intimate...

Be honest..and you no really want d thing?

BigDick70inch:
Op..u r not craze but u jux "mad and foolish combined"

Well..aint here to shout alpha male or whatever..it is something I will never do..



U even lack self worth to accept..a girl..dat claim not to have a feelin for u..while she was so fresh and young ..


Even..when I was a novice(during my predegree day in uni)..

I tried toasting a 100level girl for months as per I like her so much Oo..she was telling she doesn't love but like me excuse..

Had.. to ignore her for like 2 years..even tho shes always the first to say hi when we cross path...


Fast-forward to her 300l days..i realised she do fix her gaze more on me..only God knew what was going on thru her mind..

She di..seize every opportunity to talk to me but I never change..

Not because..i'm proud Oo but once my mind is made up..aint goin back


Again..i wooed one girl in my department back in uni too..but she was doing shakara(she said we dating Wud distract our studies)..
I showed her love,
care..
gave her enough attention..
Was jovial and make her so free with me..

I knew she..was into me cos she had do anything for me
There was a day..she invited me and my g to his house and cooked..

I refuse to eat the food which made her so furious and ended up telling me..she went thru the cooking wahala to see me eat her food Oo...


But when..i eventually locked my heart against her ehn..she even instruct her friend to beg on her behalf with knowing her wrong..

I never called nor chat her up sinx i left skool..

Bros..I didn't have any other word.to described you....Pride!

Trust me.. your ego can never allow you to win a fair lady


Accept my apology for being blunt Sir

boiz2men:
you are wicked.

Poor guy. After you have been dumped repeatedly, you settled for him

Unfortunately guy indeed.... this girl already have an edge..

Lamanii22:
You're not crazy Hun.. My now boyfriend waited 7 years... Not like I didn't like him then but I was waving off that feeling... I was like God forbid I can never be in love with this kind of guy... You won't believe all the relationship I had never lasted... Although we started dating recently... But he told me he's been dating me for seven years... Imagine... He said he has never stopped loving me and that he'd never.. So I don't think you're crazy...

Count yourself luck girl...and treat that guy right

I just wish you best of luck

Ok oo

ubunja:
dude being a sex doll in a world where other men pay thousands for pussy will never be a bad deal. But that's not where I am. My point is why chase money when you can chase women with money? The human is always the weakest link. I better work on manipulating a female for her money than face the world and hustle. Hustling is too stressful. Some of us aren't built for it. But we are pretty good scammers.

My nigga..Gigolo lazy ass

ubunja:
personally I don't drink and I dont smoke. I also hate soccer and any sports. You do know if a man doesn't drink and smoke then pussy is his vice. And Neither do I watch TV. (bores me to death).

My nigga.. Bravo

TenthMan:
Humans are blessed with the gift of thought and reason.

It separates us from other species.

If we go by human instinct, the female will always choose the male that has the highest/better propensity to produce offspring with healthy genetics and a male that will support her with resources and security. It is therefore basic instinct for a woman to choose men who are financially capable in today's world. Also, the female is considered vulnerable when she is pregnant and nurturing her young. After this, she has always been productive resource wise.

People calling for women to select/choose/stick to men who have little or nothing are asking the women to override their basic instinct. A lot of women are having none of it. Men who accuse women of ''not knowing tomorrow'' do not know how nature works. A woman will rather stay with a man who she sees his fortunes/resources than one which is imaginary. ''I go fit get am'' no be property. It is the woman's right to ensure that her offspring are properly nurtured. It is the woman that gets pregnant. It is the woman that bears the child. It is the woman that nourishes the child. Hence do not expect the woman to take such major risks by selecting a ''weaker man''. In the past, the males had to prove themselves competing with other males. Nowadays it is financial strength and material comfort that is the yardstick. Not brute strength and the ability to hunt a mammoth.

The woman is also aware of the risk in the man's desire/propensity to procreate as many times and with as many females as possible. She needs security for her own offspring. The woman too, if the man is found weak,unable to provide at any point in time, may lead to allowing another man have his way. People are shy to state these facts or simply do not like them because they do not conform to what they believe, which is fine.

What the women have to know is that happiness is not usually based on lavish comfort. Men also have to note that because she stayed with you when you had nothing does not make her a good person/mate either. Nothing is guaranteed.


My responses are objective (knowledge/fact based) and you must know I answer without any form of bias (cultural, religious, tribal, ethnic, class, gender, age, race, nationality, blood, acquaintance, etc.)

A round of applause!!

obiekunie2:
bros if them leave u ba?

u go climb that woman!



if not for your long throat on the woman she wouldn't be asking you for money!



she was aking you for money bc she has seen u hav interest in her.


tell urself the truth.

You really understand the psychology of Man thinking

Bravo

Cool