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Education / Re: Adisadel College In Ghana That Got Me Shocked by Abbotp: 9:41am On Jul 30, 2017
Looking much better than our own universities and polytechnics
Car Talk / Re: Proforce: Nigeria's Indigenous Armoured Vehicle Manufacturer In Pictures by Abbotp: 8:23pm On Jul 27, 2017
Ko nice
Business / Re: Freelancing: A Quick Escape For Unemployment Among Nigerian Youths by Abbotp: 12:21pm On Jul 25, 2017
cool
Romance / Re: Viral Video Of A Groom Kissing His Bride At Wedding by Abbotp: 12:09pm On Jul 25, 2017
no be joke....o
Webmasters / Re: 5 Steps To Get Your Website Indexed Faster On Google by Abbotp: 10:36am On Jul 25, 2017
nice piece
Politics / Re: Olufemi Olukayode Adeyemi Fshaw EFCC Twitter Handler Leaves by Abbotp: 8:43am On Jul 25, 2017
congrats to him
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Amazing Artworks Made With My Android Smartphone by Abbotp: 7:35pm On Jul 24, 2017
cool
Politics / Re: Kate Owoko Builds Floating Toilet In Bayelsa. Invites Press To Commission It by Abbotp: 7:04pm On Jul 24, 2017
typical!!!
Celebrities / Re: T-boss Unveiled As Brand Ambassador Of Instant Pickup by Abbotp: 10:43pm On Jul 20, 2017
Good for her
Phones / Re: Itel P51: Unboxing My New Android Phone by Abbotp: 10:41pm On Jul 20, 2017
The bezel is awful

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Agriculture / Re: Caught Python Alive In My Farm In Nembe, Bayelsa State (Photos, Video) by Abbotp: 7:19pm On Jul 19, 2017
kioboy:
One morning as I opened my my Poutry pen, I was greeted by a huge python inside my pen. about eight birds was lying on the floor dead, I was terrified and didn't know know how to approach this monster. funny enough boar here is untouchable, you can't kill it no matter what. it took partial destruction of my pen to get rid of it. upon that I have to seetle the boys that came for my rescue. so I started to look for best way to prevent it. I have tried carbide, desiel, sniper and fuel. but none could do it until I fenced the place with fish net.

Fish net is the only solution to keep at bay any unwanted reptile like snake even lizard.

In my case I have caught six pythons since then and released them back to their natural habitat, since is a forbidden animal here.

The primary purpose of writing this is to point out that old fish net discarded by fishermen can save your investment from incessant attack of snake.

Here are some pictures of the once I have caught sofar.
Great. Are you a corper? Nembe Basambiri or ogbolomambiri.
I taught in NNGS before
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 3:41pm On Jul 17, 2017
Femexx:

How do one checks if he's passed the test?

npower are the ones to notify you just like every other job interview. Only the employer can say those that passed based on their own selection matrix. Dont forget the phrase: Judges decisions are final
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 3:39pm On Jul 17, 2017
kenonze:



Oh thanks.
I have written the 20mins 11question test.
Five current affairs, six use of English

Congrats

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Politics / Re: Fayose Threatens To Sue Osinbajo, Demands Panel Report On SGF Lawal & NIA DG by Abbotp: 10:40am On Jul 17, 2017
e no well. Make e park well joor.

NPOWER TAX PHYSICAL VERIFICATION BEGINS
Jobs/Vacancies / Npower Tax Physical Verification Commences by Abbotp: 8:37am On Jul 17, 2017
NPOWER NTAX Physical verification process Commences to select 7,500 candidates out of 229,245 candidates that applied


According to the statement released by npower this morning, THE DESIGNATED PHYSICAL INTERVIEWS FOR NPOWER TAX, AS REQUIRED BY THE FEDERAL MINISTRY OF FINANCE, WILL COMMENCE IMMEDIATELY AND RUN CONTEMPORANEOUSLY WITH THE ASSESSMENTS. AS SUCH, APPLICANTS WHO HAVE ALREADY WRITTEN THEIR ASSESSMENTS AND PASSED MAY SOON BE INVITED FOR PHYSICAL INTERVIEWS.

Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 8:12am On Jul 17, 2017
UPDATE
NPOWER TAX PHYSICAL VERIFICATION PROCESS HAS COMMENCED!!!

NPOWER NTAX Physical verification process Commences to select 7,500 candidates out of 229,245 candidates that applied.

According to the statement released by npower this morning, THE DESIGNATED PHYSICAL INTERVIEWS FOR NPOWER TAX, AS REQUIRED BY THE FEDERAL MINISTRY OF FINANCE, WILL COMMENCE IMMEDIATELY AND RUN CONTEMPORANEOUSLY WITH THE ASSESSMENTS. AS SUCH, APPLICANTS WHO HAVE ALREADY WRITTEN THEIR ASSESSMENTS AND PASSED MAY SOON BE INVITED FOR PHYSICAL INTERVIEWS.


MORE HERE:http://successsecrets01..com.ng/2017/07/npower-ntax-physical-verification.html

Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 7:34am On Jul 17, 2017
Sammyramires:
Good evening MOD, I registered for N-Teach under NPower programme. After my registration, a code was shown and I screen shot it and saved it on my mobile phone.
Meanwhile, few days ago my phone crashed and I had to format it. After the formatting, I discovers all I had on it is gone , including the Npower screenshot.

Please, how do I write NTeach examination without the assigned code??
Or what do you think I can do to correct it Sir?

Thank you!!
@Sammyramires
You don't need the code to be able to write the test. What you need to login to the test portal is your BVN and your phone number. So dont panic about that for the test but you can make efforts to recover them for the records.
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 7:32am On Jul 17, 2017
nkemjacob2:
2.2m received for a job 300 vacant position.

I weep for Nigeria.

God punish Nigeria leaders.


Hmmmm, how you read am?

2.45 million applications received and counting for 300,000 vacant positions
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: More Than 23,862 Npower Beneficiaries Disqualified And More To Follow+video by Abbotp: 7:29am On Jul 17, 2017
kenonze:
Pls I got an SMS notifying me that my BVN matches with my details that I should proceed to logon and write the test.
Am seeing July 20th to 24th for N-power health.
Can I still write now or I should wait for the date

You can proceed to write the test If you login and you can access the test page. Receiving the SMS should mean your BVN details match the data you submitted to Npower and you can proceed to write the test.
Politics / Re: Osinbajo Silent After Meeting With Buhari In London by Abbotp: 8:32am On Jul 12, 2017
ivandragon:
this is ridiculous...


so we spent about £20,000 in aviation fuel & other logistics...

risked having a constitutional crisis since there was no president, vice president or ag. president for over 11 hrs...


risked serious harm/disaster on the ag. president...

just for a 1 hour meeting with the president?


when N5000 recharge card would have been enough to make a video call to pass whatever message PMB needed to pass across?



what a messed up system...
YOU GOT IT!!!

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Gaming / Re: OMG!! Young 15 Year Old Nigerian Develops Android Game Named "Cube Sprint Sp" by Abbotp: 8:29am On Jul 12, 2017
CONGRATS BRO...
Family / Re: Differential Treatment: A Time Bomb Every Parent Must Avoid by Abbotp: 2:09pm On Jun 26, 2017
Olasco93:
A very Important and Insightful write up. Well done OP.
Thanks.
More on the SUCCESS SECRETS BLOG
Family / Re: Differential Treatment: A Time Bomb Every Parent Must Avoid by Abbotp: 10:48am On Jun 26, 2017
This week's weekly energizer is live on success secrets now
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Some men SEE THINGS AS THEY ARE and ask WHY.
Others DREAM THINGS THAT NEVER WERE and ask WHY NOT.

It is very apt that we are considering this for the new week. There are several vital points which can be gotten from this quote of Shaw if we decide to expatiate on it. However, weekly energizers from success secrets are not meant to be long epistles but rather short thought provoking boosters for the week.

As you start the week, you are going to see many things in your home, in your life, in your office, in your relationships, etc that are uncongenial. What will you do about them? are you going to fume and fuss ask why and take the victim stand or ARE YOU GOING TO GET A CLEAR IMAGE(DREAM) OF THE IDEAL THING/CIRCUMSTANCE AND UTILIZE YOUR GOD GIVEN TALENTS TO ACHIEVE THEM?

SOURCE: http://successsecrets01..com.ng/2017/06/weekly-energizer-dream-things-vrs-see.html
Family / Differential Treatment: A Time Bomb Every Parent Must Avoid by Abbotp: 4:30am On Jun 25, 2017
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“And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him.”


That statement from ancient scriptures paints a clear picture of the side effects of differential treatment or favouritism among children in a family. It also elucidates the fact that differential treatment is not new, but rather a deep rooted problem to which parents must give adequate attention. The purpose of this article is to address the issue of differential treatment in families: The insidious nature of differential treatment, causes, negative effects and what parents can do to alleviate the negative impact of differential treatment on their families.

WHAT IS DIFFERENTIAL TREATMENT?

The term, differential treatment, is a rather broad social science term that covers racial discrimination, discrimination in the work place, family, etc such that one person or group is disadvantaged. However, for the purpose of this article, differential treatment can be defined as any difference in treatment giving to children under similar circumstances such that one child is at a disadvantage or shown less love, care or concern. For example, sometime ago, I was called in to provide home lessons for the children in a family. The mother told me that one child, let us call her Ruth is loved by all so no matter the charges, it will be paid. The second child that I will call Pamela was not that loved so she(the mother) has to be the one to pay that child’s fees. Even the father will hesitate to pay. While this might appear a little bit extreme, it is a typical example and be sure that there are many examples above or below that. If you take your mind back to growing up in your family, there is a high probability that you will remember that one person who was given whatever he/she asked for. There was someone who was trusted with the parent’s room keys or huge sums of money. There was that person who could break/damage something important yet go scot-free, there could have even been someone who was an intercessor - If you need something and you channel it through that person you are sure to get it. A bad report about them is treated with kid gloves (he/she is just a kid your parents say) but if you try same thing, you face a family tribunal.

CAUSES OF DIFFERENTIAL TREATMENT AND ITS INSIDIOUS NATURE

There are many causes of differential treatment in families. The interesting thing about it is that sometimes, the causes seem to be out of the parents’ control. For example, the typical Nigerian family places more value on a male child. If a family is expecting a male child and keeps getting female children, when the male child arrives on the scene, he becomes the instant favourite. In some cases, a particular child’s physique or attitude might just be so much in sync with that of the parents that he/she is beloved. It could be a matter of interest. Parents who are academicians tend to love the academically brilliant child than the one that shows a greater interest in sports or entertainment. Some children can be affected by either negative or positive events that closely follow or precede their birth. A child that came as a result of failed family planning or whose birth was accompanied with a job loss might not be loved so much. Contrast that with a child whose birth closely preceded a juicy job. The list of possible causes is endless. The most important issue however is the existence of the problem and the acceptance by the parents to tackle it head on. Some parents might deny the existence of differential treatment in the family, but the truth is that the children are very sensitive enough to know that it really does exist. When parents are not ready to admit the existence of differential treatment in their family, it poses more problems. This is because, if you accept the problem is there, you might find a solution, but if you are feigning ignorance of the problem, you wont make any conscious effort to find a solution. The fact that almost all parents do have a favourite child(the existence of differential treatment in families) has been proven time and again by several scientific studies. Jeffrey Kluger, an American science writer, in his Book The Sibling Effect: What the Bond among Brothers and Sisters Reveal about Us is quoted as saying: “ It is my belief that 95 percent of the parents in the world have a favourite child, and the other 5 percent are lying” There are several studies to support this claim and though not all of them quote such outrageous or seemingly over bloated figures, the fact remains that the problem does exist.

EFFECTS OF DIFFERENTIAL TREATMENT IN THE FAMILY

There are endless problems caused by differential treatment in the family. Interestingly, the negative effects are felt both by the favoured as well as disfavoured child/children. The most important ill effect of differential treatment however is the resentment and sibling rivalry that ensues. As can be clearly seen from the opening quote which was taken from ancient scriptures, Joseph was hated by his brothers because he was his father’s favourite. His father’s love and trust made him ideal as an informant to the father and of course, “Joseph brought unto his father their evil report “. In addition to Joseph’s dreams, there was sufficient reason for his brothers to plot his death. Similar situations still obtains today, some more severe than others. In a family with evident differential treatment, the favoured child is normally resented and hence others tend to make a mountain out of a mole hill whenever he/she err. Others will be unlikely to forgive him/her easily and would want to get even. This can be a source of constant fights. There is unhealthy competition for parental attention and a general lack of cooperation among the siblings. The parents are not left out in the allocation of resentment. Disfavoured children can also resent their parents for a long time
When the parents pass away, there are often arguments even at the burial about the love received by the favoured child. One of my uncles passed away recently. But before he passed away, he spoke his last words to his first daughter who has been his favourite child and hence was always close to him. When the first son heard this, he fussed and fumed that his position has been over thrown by his sister. Parents must grow old. At this point in time, the rest might expect that the favoured child should shoulder the bulk of care giving. If the care giving is passed to any of the children who were normally discriminated in the family, they often use this as an opportunity to make reference to the partial treatment they received from their parents. Psychologists seem to have an agreement on the effect of love and care received while growing up on self confidence and a positive self image. Children who were discriminated against in the family while growing up might grow up with a feeling of unworthiness, low self esteem and a constant search for love outside the family. The favoured children might grow up with guilt in their later years. Sometimes, the pampering received might actually impinge on their sense of responsibility and hence their success in later life.

DEFUSING THE TIME BOMB OF DIFFERENTIAL TREATMENT IN THE FAMILY

How can parents defuse the time bomb of differential treatment? This is a very tricky aspect of the whole topic. The tricky nature of this aspect of the topic stems from the insidious nature of favouritism among children. You can however take the following steps towards defusing the time bomb of discrimination among children.
• ACCEPTANCE:
First, you must admit that the issue is there and therefore demands your attention. Psychologists are divided on whether you should admit this to your children or not. Personally, I am of the opinion that you admit it to yourself but not to your children. The essence of acceptance is that if you don’t accept the issue is there, you won’t take action.

• INTROSPECTION:
A careful introspection is essential. Remember that we are creatures of habit. We can set a particular time every weekend for a review of our activities and dealings with the children. This will afford us the opportunity to spot any deliberate or inadvertent actions or speech that tend to suggest you are playing favourites. It must be clear that there are no favourites. If you have shown a tendency within the period under review to tilt the scale of love, you can make a deliberate effort to balance it in the coming week. Depending on your schedule, this pensive analysis might be done monthly or even quarterly. But don’t let it take too long. Remember that the passing of time takes us a drifting and everything by longevity tends to go off course

• RECOGNISE AND APPRECIATE EVERY CHILD AS A UNIQUE PERSON:
Parents must recognize and appreciate every child as the unique person they truly are. All children are endowed with great gifts. Recognize and appreciate this gifts rather than making comparisons. If we were all exactly the same, the whole world will be too boring. Encourage them to express their gifts rather than to copy or just follow after their siblings. If a child is performing poorly, encourage them and give them the support they need to do better. Make them aware that as steve Bow once pointed out, God’s gift to us is more talent and ability than we can ever use in one lifetime, our gift to God is to make the most (develop) as much of that talent and ability as we can in this life time. Challenge them to do better while, building in them the awareness that they have an inexhaustible store house of wisdom, encourage them to think, to use the power of their minds, and most importantly, let them know that you have a strong believe in their ability to do better.

• REASSURANCE:
Constantly reassure them of your love. Use every opportunity you get to speak and demonstrate to them how much you love them. Teach them to appreciate the fact that it takes each of us to make all of us. Let them know that it behooves them to show a unique appreciation for the each of us that makes all of us. It is common knowledge that a single tree cannot make a forest. As Jim Rohn will say, one person cannot make a family, One person cannot make a country, One person cannot make a market place, one person cannot make a symphony orchestra.

• OPEN COMMUNICATION:
It is important that you are approachable to your children. Make them feel free to openly discuss issues with you. When you do this, they will be able to freely express their concerns. This will give you the chance to explain yourself and apply the point of reassurance discussed above.


• TEACH AND PRACTICE FORGIVENESS:
Teach and practice forgiveness. Don’t give the impression that you are super human and infallible. Learn to forgive them and correct them with love. When they have imbibed this culture of genuine forgives, they will be able to easily forgive one another and also forgive you when you err. This of course includes when you inadvertently display signs of favouritism. They will understand that things of this nature are bound to happen since we are imperfect.

• DISASSOCIATION:
As mentioned earlier, sometimes, unpleasant feelings might be associated with a child due to several factors e.g circumstances surrounding the birth. Maybe the baby came when you were going through a really rough time and you had to go through even more difficulties. Maybe the child looks like someone you don’t really like and so any time you see the child, you remember the person. Maybe the child came as a result of failed family planning and the list goes on and on. Whatever unpleasant feelings you have associated with the child, remind yourself that the baby did not directly cause those events. Remember that you can’t have a better past. Forgive yourself and forgive the baby or whoever is also involved and move on with your life. Love the child, recalling that every child is a blessing from God.
SOURCE: SUCCESS SECRETS

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Phones / Re: 5 Reasons Why You Should Try Out Unpopular Phone Brands by Abbotp: 12:34pm On Jun 19, 2017
corpersforum:
The last one I tried, am still looking for the screen for over 3 years now.... 'Brian Tab'

Who unpopular brand epp?
I believe that is not the type of unpopular brand op is talking about.
Brian is more like Seun going to china, giving them some spec and they mass produce 100 pieces of SETALK TABLET for him. You can nneber find part for such devices.

All the brands op recommended are great and if you need help, you can visit htttp://www.phcpromo.com
Crime / Re: 18-Year-Old Girl Remanded In Prison For Threatening Her Boss Over Unpaid Salary by Abbotp: 11:46am On Jun 19, 2017
This is crazy!
You mean the madam has the guts to arrest her?

WHY NOT JUST PAY HER OFF?

Someone needs to take up this case!!!!!
I hate intimidation

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Celebrities / Re: Tboss And Kemen Reconciled By Azuka Ogujiuba And Charles Opaleke (Photo) by Abbotp: 11:39am On Jun 19, 2017
Now the real thing will commence!!!! grin grin grin grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Celebrities / Re: Kemi Olunloyo And Georgina Onuoha Reconcile by Abbotp: 11:35am On Jun 19, 2017
such is life!
Business / Re: 5 Reasons Why You Should Start Your Own Work At Home Online Business by Abbotp: 12:32pm On Jun 03, 2017
cyberdurable:


E no dea wia u refer me abeg.. Mr blogger
You are right!
The exact link is not there but I wanted to take time to compile the best links for you which you can use to get direct to Nigeria. As we speak, am helping some people place orders already.
I have not had the time and you did not contact me. check back by Monday and you will see at least 6 best stores you can buy the phone from from.

Besides, there are many links on the site you can use to buy from aliexpress at a discount!
Business / Re: 5 Reasons Why You Should Start Your Own Work At Home Online Business by Abbotp: 2:15am On Jun 01, 2017
cyberdurable:
E be like say this guy dea sponsor his post to get FP

Everyday mini importation... I need testimonies please

Why sell ur E book if u truly make millions?

I will love you to single handedly pick random NL members we know.. And teach them free
Then others wil be convinced. My thoughts sha..

Meanwhile I want to buy phone from aliexpress which do u suggest.. Cheap n ok
Go for xiaomi redmi 4x pro with 4100mmah battery, 13mp camera and finger print sensor. Full metal design. check it out at www.phcpromo.com
Politics / Re: PDP Crisis: Makarfi Group Advises Aspirants To Defect by Abbotp: 9:33am On May 17, 2017
ghen ghen......action film.....this na climax o!
Fashion / Re: Lapelbowtie Plaza Is Offering 40% Discount For All Wedding Designs by Abbotp: 2:31pm On May 09, 2017
good afternoon family.......
Hope your days are going on well grin grin grin grin grin

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