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Get her involved in church activities...

On a serious note, you can send her back home and still pay her fees or boarding school.

In this day and age, there's a human out there that doesn't know how to cook? Like nothing at all, just indomie and boiled water?

There are three things involved, he's either a mummy's boy, really lazy or depended on women allot in his single years(because you can't tell me he ate out all the time). For some reason, I doubt I'll get along with men like that, I prefer independent people.

Half the people on this thread are here to check names...



Including me sha...

NCAN CRS chapter...

Why all the noise when she's only "acting"?

Looks fun...

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is married...
Beyonce is married...

I can't tell who else right now but the above mentioned identify as feminists. A lot of women who are feminists are married. It is not a new or rare thing.

Do not spread information about what you don't know, feminists do not hate men, they do not hate or preach against marriage.

The op never said marriage is not important. I'm not sure where that came from.

Anyway, congratulations to mizmycoli...

Modelling is building a brand and the tricky part is you are the brand.

You must look the part all day everyday to remain relevant. Anyhoo, I wish her luck.

What is the duration of the training?

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So... women who are not married are useless now?

Na wa oh...

op... this is soo not true, i saw the show in yesterday's line-up.

maureensylvia:
dey should equally remove botched even omotala the real me

what is wrong with botched?

freshcvvs:
You still don't get the whole point..judging is different from giving direction.

A smoker telling another smoker he or she is gonna die yet the "adviser" smokes..

How can a thief judge and sentence another thief?

Have you heard of the word "to come to equity", you must come with clean hands? Why?

With clean hands, you won't have issues with conscience and all that.

A prostitute can't tell another girl she's sinning since the prostitute hasn't come with clean hands.

Your example is irrelevant because we have alot of marriage counselors who are not even married, a lot business consultants who havent done the business they advise others to do so? But we are talking judging here, not guidance.

Funniest thing here is that some of them turning judge right now just dropped off from a d1ck riding session, yet wants to judge another who just did what they have just done - a way of passing the guilt to someone else.

She didn't judge her jor, she said she should face her studies instead of having sex for 1k. It is harsh and somewhat mean yes but that isn't judgement, what you'll say is you don't agree with the tone. She didn't tell her she was sinning, she didn't mention hell, she didn't condemn her and she didn't say she was a better person. If she did, quote where.

Someone who is not sexually active might not be in a relationship and if she is, the "dynamics" or flow of the relationship will definitely not be the same so why should such a person testify of what she knows nothing of?

A repentant smoker can give advice to a smoker, it is not judgement!

Marriage counsellors study psychology and human behaviour before they have licence to practice plus, most of them might also be in stable, steady relationships so dishing out relationship advise to married people is valid.

And biko, when you want to start a business, go to someone without any business experience to mentor you iyeh?

postmann:
The article says it all. And I really don't see from where you're drawing your inference. All I can deduce from your post is a vain outcry triggered by feminist ego.
Most man need women mainly for sex and to raise children. But women need men for protection, sound judgment (women are genetically poor with making logical decisions ), women need men to fix things and they need a hard muscled body to feel safe at night.

Talking about nature and nurture: Women are SPIRITUALLY programmed to depend on men and be lead by them. A good example is this; a woman tends to marry by class. She hardly settles for someone below her class, except age or other factors prevailed unfavourably on her.

Don't you think it's nurture for men not to ambush and forcefully have sex with any girl they fancy? Do you think it's nurture or nature that makes a man wants to help out when he sees a woman struggling with so heavy load? The early men with no gender bias, saw women for what they are - physically weaker and giving more to sentiment than the male folk.




We all do, men and women. But women crave love and company more. While men crave more of sex with no strings.

Men created virtually all the sports that you see on TV. They hunt far even into the heart of the wilderness. They have so much to keep themselves busy and occupied until they need just that one thing - sex! And that's when you women come in most times.


#PleaseCallMeSexist

You actually amuse me...

freshcvvs:
Still haven't answered this simple question- Are you a virgin?

Let the virgins judge/correct the non-virgins.

You can't condemn what you're guilty of, that's what the "judge not" stand for.

Judge not so you won't be judged, you can see that you're being judged because you're likely guilty of the same offence.

There is indeed allot of trash in this thread but this is the worst...lol

It's like saying let those who have never done business before give business advice to entrepreneurs...

Allow her air her own opinion. Doesn't matter if she's virgin or not, talk your own and leave others to talk their own!

To think she actually gave sound advise. Op should read her books that her parents sent her to school to go and read. There is time for everything. If she gets in trouble on the road now, the story will be she travelled to have sex and get 1K. That's if the guy will not deny her sef.

But as always, good advise will always be shot down with that silly phrase "holier than thou".

Anyway, wetin be my own sef... who made me special adviser women affairs?

Alfred234:
Well I didn't enjoy the Season Finale of The Originals dunno why..

Too much talk...
The "trial" was laughable. I kept wondering when the action will start, kept checking how much time was left.

lezz:
Ada, you can't draw up a principle from its exception!!!

No principle or occurrence is in absolutism and the few exceptions can't void the premise on which the principle stands.

Women may opt out of marriage, it does not negate the fact that the average woman wants a man no matter her financial status or position. She's is innately programmed to hang on to a male and tag along in the rough terrain of life.

I have personally scripted threads that mirror this in the past, but seeing it re-echoed by professionals from the West -- the seat of female delusions is ever so refreshing.

Of course it'll be refreshing to you.

Saying women are "programmed" to hang on to the male folk makes it more of "nature" but I disagree. I say it is more nurture than nature and society played a huge role in making it so. I'm particularly tired of argument because it's been over flogged and time has proven it true.

But tell me something, is it just a "woman" thing to want company or companionship of another person male or female(for gay people)?

Are humans not all naturally dependent on one another?

Why do you consistently sound like men are aliens who don't need women or in your terms do not "depend" on women but women must cling to them for survival?

I doubt that life in general is a one size fits all situation. And so it is for women as well. If not, I do wonder why some women are upping and leaving their marriages and why others have declared marriage is not for them.

They might be in the minority(for now) but denying the fact that some women are not "programmed" to depend on men is not so sensible. Some women are more than comfortable paying their bills, some don't mind getting married to men who earn less and so on... to everything your research claims, there are exceptions and to say otherwise is again not so sensible.

And who doesn't know that research conclusions can be false or drawn from the majority? The average Nigerian has an IQ of 80 they said but we go to their schools and graduate tops. I know you are so happy and fulfilled with this "research" and you await your brothers to join you and self-service on this thread but calm down...

lezz: Let me ask you, how come women were thus conditioned by society in all cultures and in all races across all peoples and time?

The answer is simple and in your longass post "women are generally weaker and smaller"

The most important thing should be her health and not how fat she is.

Smh...

How convenient...

oloyede252:
see this one.you dont have sense if its other people's comment that will determine how u think..onyi ara later you will blame society for your problems

Try not to quote me if you have nothing meaningful to say...

Bless you...

This is just weird... just last night I was on a thread about men doing chores and some guys here said it's the woman's traditional role and she can't force her husband to. That everyone should be happy with his roles...

I hope they will not come here and speak from both sides of their mouths like clowns sha... I hope they'll tell you to suck it up and pay the bills since providing for the whole family, wife included is Your Traditional Role...

anigbajumo:


Bae,u are funny.

You can't solve that question just like that,follow the rule of BODMAS.

9-3÷1/3+1

First bracket (3÷1/3) = 1 (division).

Addition will follow 1+1= 2

Then subtraction will last 9-2 =7.

It is a shame that no one gat the anz on front page except me,I can see some people gat it on second page.

3/3 =1

3/1/3= 3*3/1 =9

3/3 != 3/1/3 (not equal)

Domestic violence! I believe she'll get the highest punishment because she's 18, an adult.

That said, the full story will not be bad. Not saying anything will make it ok to roast another human but I'm pretty sure the story will uncover some evil.

lilmax:
Its a very easy something
Marry her out of pity.
Cheat on her.
Conspire with her friend to advice her to divorce you since divorce is the order of the day

I didn't expect any better from this guy... coz like his handle, I think he's "lil".

MRBrownJ:
explain the situation to her then marry and stay with her out of pity for 2/3yrs, as a "thank you" gesture for saving your life, then divorce her and move on with your well deserved kidney.

But you Mr? I know this is just fiction sha but really? You really think this? Or it's just an online/NL thing?

Since the marriage is soo important to you, how about paying no attention to him and his Philandering?

Just live your life and do other things that make you happy, try to be confident and radiant again. I can't believe I'm about to say this but live for your kid.

On the side, this marriage thing now sounds like those scary winch movies nollywood was known for...

Remember to update us when you confront him biko. We await...

No one cares about your silly excuses sha... any woman who doesn't care won't, those who do will divorce or cheat back.

Now, that is the reality of life...

Shitt just got real on TO!

After all these, someone will still tell me that women are emotional and men logical

I'm not smiling because a woman was beat to death btw but I think the word "logic" needs to be redefined...

These things are not black and white at all... but, everyone should take responsibility for his actions...

You decided to stay with him for 6 years.
You decided to have sex with no form of protection.
You decided to abort those babies.

Sure, the guy might be an ungrateful winch but you played a part in your own misery...

When you preach abstinence, the world will label you holier than thou and throw you the "its my body" card. Then you switch and preach protection and they prefer skin on skin. Then there are tons of pills but no, it makes them fat.

Women should protect themselves. Why any girl will be having careless sex beats me. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria so you're most likely going to get a ratchet job. Just how I heard "nurses" whispering about how one chick they did a "job" for was still bleeding and they were not sure what to do. I wonder if she survived!

Well, it's hard to say but the curse is nothing... ladies should learn to be smarter and more selfish even. Make better choices for yourself and yourself alone. You ain't married till you are and until then, you alone are responsible for yourself.