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loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

If this is the only reason you have, then divorce is not your best option.

It really is now.

Iyana - Isha its sold @ N155 per litre

Franzinni:
So much death these days


Rip

to the extent that human death now sounds like that of chicken

Is he hiding iron in his shoulders?

At times u just want to be good in ur little way and some people just take it fr granted.

He put himself in charge of petroleum in the country, at a time the nation is in fuel crisis this thing without conscience could fly out for meeting he has been attending since yesteryears that profit the nation nothing.

WillyWonda1:
I really don't know what I did to my immediate boss since I got promoted earlier this year. Ever since I got my promotion letter, my boss changed to me abruptly. He suddenly finds everything I do useless.

When I noticed the change, I went to him and begged him to tell me what I had done wrong so we could settle everything and get back along. But he said I did nothing wrong and I shouldn't worry about anything. So I locked up and was doing my job to the best of my ability.
So he did something that sparked my madness and anger.

I got an email that I was to go on board our vessel to go and load from Lagos cos our mother vessel berthed in Lagos. And cos of my promotion, I'm not supposed to be a crew member anymore. But I was surprised to see the mail and went to his office to address the issue, next thing he said was 'IF YOU DON'T KNOW YOUR DUTY, YOU CAN RESIGN'.

That statement really sent chills down my spine and I sparked and told him really derogatory words. I don't even feel anyhow about my reaction.
I'm happy I told him his life history.
I'm very excited to have poured my mind out to him.
If I get sacked, I won't feel bad, rather I'll be glad I told him what I told him.
#Peace

This is one way to handle the situation but its obviously not the best. Before now you had the upper hand and you were playing from the place of strength, not you thrown all that out of the window.

Fuulish men roaming the street

Foolish men roaming the street

The weapons used to murder those policemen and citizens must have been supplied by another police officer

Jman06:
Op, I can understand your plight.
The reason is that an average Nigerian girl is not interesting to be with and to make matters worse, they don't even make attempts to improve on themselves since they believe that only the guy has the responsibility to bring everything into the relationship---the fun, the funds, etc. Many of them can't even hold conversations.

So, after enduring a few months of boredom, it is only natural for you to lose interest.

This is obviously the most stupid words I have read this year.

apologies, just needed to let you know that you ain't speaking with sense

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

How many times did you engage in sexual activities with these ladies. If you did and if that is what you do then you never loved in the first place. You only wanted sex and you used promises to get it after which you dump them and seek another victim

NOTE: A lady cooking and washing your clothes does not equate loyalty.

Turn a new leave

Brooke60:
I beg, whcih area? Does this man have a 2 bed for rent too?

somewhere in lagos ma'am. and he has just one tenant and dats me.

I dont intend to leave the house yet

Village people just located him

Mylordmygod1:
Hello nairalanders...

i got my girfriend pregnant since september, and it really got me crazy..

when it was 2 months, we tried to abort it, and so we met a chemist who gave her drugs and injection, he told us that the blood we rush out, but it did rush out just small and stopped.. So it did not work even after i paid him 8k..

now, we are about to carry out D & C abortion tomorow, but she keep saying she is scared.. Even me, i'm scared too..

i don't know what to do..

please, don't feel bad reading this, i only need advice on this, it is a wrong move but my mind is already made up to do it..

how i wish i can just allow her to birth it..

though, one of my mind is still telling me to keep it, but how can i be able to take care of her and the baby?

And she is just my side girlfriend, not my real babe..
pray for me nairalanders, i need strenght this moment to take the right decision..

this is amazing to read.

u got a lady impregnated, u planning to abort, u asking for prayers.

prayer for what please?
that the murder of an innocent child be successful?

den after this you continue living the reckless life of defiling other ladies?

son of man, Repent, let the innocent child live.

When I have to on gen to power laptop.



My job involves silence and critical thinking to be able to deliver quality reports so the loneliness us an advantage to me.

It still beat my imagination this present times when someone comes on social media and rant how he/she had canal knowledge of someone without iota of shame. Worse still, unmarried individual at that.

With the letterings in those words, I can see how this guy is so proud of himself.

Witnesstony28:
Today ended as a bad day.

If you remember in my previous post on my resigning from my place of work and focus on my bike full time, I wrote to the school management informing them that I will not continue with them since they don't buy the idea of combining their work and my bike.

So some weeks ago, they asked that I leave their apartment on or before 21st December.

After some days, they called to ask if I had left, to which I told them I have not gotten a place yet.

So they extended to today being Friday, 24th.

This evening, the owner of the school (an elderly man) came to the apartment to throw my stuffs out that I must leave their school since they didn't sack me. That I choose to resign.

I explained to him that I have not been able to get a place.

When I now told him I needed him to pay me for December so I could add to my money and get a place.

Na there the man flare up, rushed inside the apartment and started throwing my shoes away and as if that wasn't enough he rushed out and went to the metal pole used to hold the car wheel used as bell and rushed towards me and hit my leg with it. I thought this man was joking, he targeted my head and missed.

Immediately I felt my colleague held the rod, I looked at my leg and saw blood gushing out.

I am contemplating reporting to the police with the injury.

But I still want seek counsel from you guys whether it's wise doing that.

Here is the picture of the rod and injury inflicted on me by the man.

I just regret not video recording it. That would have been a stronger proof.

Mr man you resigned. the first thing before that was to vacate the apartment provided for you.

Na fight wey u no fit win. Just park out

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This are the traits the guy had noticed in her and hes refusing to accept her proposal.

[quote author=Odewaleadesoye post=108562359][/quote]The truth about the matter is even if you had requested for the 32 pages you would have gotten same response.

What those official wanted you to do is cine request for it unofficially and u ll get it in Las than a week but this time you would be paying X3 the amount you paid online.

This is how corrupt the system has been

crestedaguiyi:
Abeg free me

Love & Light

crestedaguiyi:
Encourage what, pls read my post again, I am a parent and would not condone loosed morals

This is the next line we use to defend our appetite for decedance.

crestedaguiyi:
This does not mean that she will be a failure after now, it's just youthful exuberance at play.

Most of the girls with this kind of mentality back
in those days in school are doing better than the spiricoco in real life.

Some of them were written off back then in 2002/2003, the story is not the same today when we meet at the alumni association meetings and WhatsApp group chat

This is the delusion we all use to encourage decadence

Dubai leads other follow

Thought a dove signifies peace, why not use such meet creature, why fuse a flying beast and a walking beast to connote peace.

Fiscus105:
How? Did u know his pocket? Wisdom in handling marriage?

I think it's high time you women should come to terms of going polygamous, though with only man who is capable financial and otherwise

Let me put this to you that there is no amount of money in the world that would be enough to take care of two wives under the same roof as wives. No amount of money.

See as police kitup

Dangrace01:
You'll pray from morning to night no result you'll go to church no result

But one yahoo boy would use juju on someone it would be as effective till eternity.

Why is juju powerful

This question is soo deep, how I wish I can type the whole epistle is my head to shed light in form of answer from my own little understanding from my walk with God.

Permit me to just summarize it this way

. . . . and it all boils down to relationship from my perspective.


Take for example you desire financial prosperity.

It is possible you pray to God for months and you don't get your desired answer, but one day with a herbalist with little this and that and boom, money starts rolling in.

Here is what I have learnt, (though this is not cast in stone) most of the times before we receive from God, He desires our lives, commitment, service and personal relationship with Him. When we are able to cross the line of an ordinary stranger who runs to Him just for benefit sake and attain the status of sonship then he begins to open to us our desired blessing. i.e seeking God first and all other things be added - Matt 6:33. Such that when we attain this stature of sonship, the blessing starts rolling in and it makes us rich and add no sorrow Prov 10:22

So its a case of God does not want the relationship of a stranger who walks in take things and the next time God sees you is when next you in trouble


On the other hand, the other source of prosperity is not interested in your relationship, just come do few sacrifices and you get it. That is why it appears they always get things faster when they go through that channel. Prov 14:12 has this to say that those way seem right to a man, but the end is the way of destruction.
Reason why these yahoo guys blossom for a while and the next minute they perish mysteriously.

So juju is not more powerful, one just have to pay the price for the real source of God's raw power for us to experience it.

Its obvious the speaker lack basic understanding of what the economy entails

This gen killed a man on my street, the man has a welding workshop with plenty of apprentice, the man wanted to go put it on one day, he was wearing a babariga (old agbada).

while whinning the handle got tangled with his babariga lifted him up and slammed up on the floor.

He was rescued but he did n ot survive the accident