₦airaland Forum

mamaken:
Why should your girl flirt online if she claims to love u? this got nothing to do with trust.

if a boy or a girl is in a relationship, but still hunt for others ( even "only" online ) that means something is wrong in the relationship.

perhaps he doesn give her the attention she wish, perhaps she doesnt give him the sexual performance he wish, perhaps both of them r addicted to flirting.
and for men, well thats another topic. everybody knows that if a guy is a playah, not even the so called "perfect" lady can change him.

Online flirting is NonSense! thats my personal opinion

Outstrip:
High chief you responded exactly like I thought you would. I will respond because you actually are trying to help me see where you are coming from. Let's take the first highlighted part of your quote

You probably should not be married to someone who hates all your friends. All is the key word here. I understand you not liking one or two of your spouses friends but the idea of giving up every single one of your friends is ridiculous especially when these were friends before the marriage. If this friend is truly a problem for the marriage then any good spouse will give up a friendship that is actively destroying their marriage. This is not the case here. The writer is simply saying that those friendships should still matter because you are still an individual even though you are married. Your example of a love-peddler as a friend is stretching it because you know and I know that the writer did not in anyway mean that it is okay to have those kinds of friends. If you need to get out without your husband and just hang out with the girls you shouldn't feel guilty about it. You can hang out without dragging your husband with you


Walking away.
Frankly I am surprised that you have an issue with this because you even see the examples the writer gave. These are serious issues. He did not say just quit your job for the heck of it even though you know that it will cripple the family. The writer did not say walk away from a good and thriving relationship. So why do you imply that the writer is not talking about serious issues.

Personal Style[i]
Personal style is just that; personal because pertains to the individual. A woman should be able to wear what she wants without anyone telling her that the style is not good enough. While there are dress codefor example what to wear to work or an event, if you feel comfortable in it and believe it looks good on you then you’re entitled to wear it and be happy without someone else telling you otherwise[/i]

You cannot wear something meant for prostitution and expect your man to clap hands for you. My woman cannot follow me to certain places without dressing in the right way. e.g. going for a meeting with business partners/colleagues, remember that saying "You are addressed the way you are dressed". Secondly, I cannot have friends in the house and my woman runs around the house with her transparent pyjamas, i will ask her to go change it.

The writers quote is in italics and yours in bold.
Is it is obvious that the writer did not say "if he does not like your style" but that he might feel "the style is not good enough". That is an issue. Your spouse should always be good enough. My husband is a very technical guy and he will wear a shirt from walmart and tuck it into a pair of "untailored" pants and wear that to a formal wedding if I close my eyes. If he insists on wearing that I don't have a choice but it is not a crime.[size=16pt] If he was sagging those pants or unbuttons his shirt to his belly button when we are maybe going to church and insist on being indecent then there might be trouble. [/size]I don't think the writer was saying go and dress like a love-peddler. It was more like your style is good enough.

Basically I am sure you get the idea now. Sorry I responded so late. I just got caught up with work. To be honest I don't think you are irrational by the way you analyzed it but I know that a lot of Nigerian men will immediately jump on it as a women empowerment thing and that actually  scares some men off

Fhijimos:
Thank God fupre has finally admited me to study geophysics. . .hurry!

Delsu can wait till next year b4 they bring their list for all i care.

Come celebrate with me

SA Lady:
Now can somebody please tell me how do I quote anyone from the back pages of a thread

Akinnoba:
I was going to make acontribute to this tread but found out that a lot of people are angry,misinformed,and do not understand the situation reading through the tread breaks my heart because sometime people just get happy at the fact that they want to see the rich cry go through this womans story of the bank and how she grew the bank you will know that to surving competition in Nigeria you have to play the way every body plays.
Every Bank MD does this but she was the only one sold out buy her own workers check you will find out that all the assets that were in question were in the name of the bank or its subsidiaries.Unfortunately she was not given an opprtunity to defend herself. You should all ask God to forgive you for your comments against this woman that has made Thousands of her workers Millionaires.
Check the details and you will see that you cannot steal from yourself that is how the bank is to her.
What has gotten her into this is the dialetic of rule of Banking as put down by CBN.
People get informed and stop relying on what you see in the pages of the newspaper there is more to this

milehigh06:
\see ignorance,cnn is not reporting it to make fun of nigeria but just to report the news,when there was serious flooding in oregon it was on cnn almost 247 for 2 weeks.you think they spoke about the flooding after they mentioned it the 1st time?max they will talk about it is 3 times meanwhile u need to see all the negatives they dwell on about American society,you think Nigerians are going crazy or govt officials are insanecome here come see plenty mad senators and you get to viewn thes event as breaking news i.e they show it non stop

james1:
We pray for her quick recovery;she is sick,no faking.
Mrs Ibru is not a thief;mismanagement is not stealing.beside's she is returning 199b in asset and capital.

rahsumt:
pls house is anybody now how to use strong or any decoder for connection with pc for internet browsing .

sauer:
Because we don't all deserve "such type of leader" as followers.
Do you know how many people were killed, arrested and injured in the Sharpeville massacre?
Do you know how many people died in detention during white rule?
Do you how many secondary school students (yes, secondary school students) were killed in the Soweto uprising?
Do you know to what extent ANC members were followed, attacked or killed?

Please let's ask ourselves these questions, and consider if we have fought enough to deserve a giant standing out amongst us, leading a voice of opposition, and rescuing this chained nation from impending doom,

Amokwe:
This can not happen in Nigeria. Few years back when a house collapsed on Broad street Lagos many people were not rescued including a young lady whose case was very pathetic. while still trapped in the collapsed building for days she kept making calls to her friends and family members unfortunately the place was cordoned by security personnel and she died in there with out getting any help, this is Nigeria

olly pass:
Most comments are hilarious to say the least but then is that the way majority of Nigerians view this country and the way the leaders are running it?

olly pass:
and if so do the leaders even give a hoot what the ordinary Nigerian think bout their leadership?

toytola:
It's really sad when you read comments made by Nigerians who refuse to see past there own negativity and would rather choose to ''orally self-service" and make blind comments lacking in substance or insight. I refuse to believe that my beautiful country would abandon 33 people trapped in a mine and declare them national heroes the next day. I also refuse to accept that Nigerians (albeit self - serving most times) would pretend that the 33 people do not exist, cover up the hole and walk away or be tribalistic in the face of calamity . Chile is not half as rich as Nigeria and they were able to turn a mining disaster into a PR success. (Yes, i said PR success). Further more, Chileans weren't the only country involved in the rescue. Yes, the Chilean Navy designed the capsule but they had help from NASA amongst other countries or people. If this were a Nigerian disaster, i concede that there would be a lot of confusion around the scene but i also want to believe that in the midst of the confusion, we (Nigerians) would have been able to solve our problems and rescue the people. A Russian submarine crashed into the Barents Sea a few years ago (118 people died) - they had time to save the people and also refused help from the Norwegian and British Navy - but still yet the sailors died - can anyone offer an explanation.



We, Nigerians need to be less critical about our country - yes, Nigeria is corrupt (which country isn't?), the leadership sucks (most third world countries have that), Law enforcement is weak (still a 3rd world country), basic amenities are lacking (corruption and self servitude) and don't even get me started on the Super Eagles  - but the midst of the bad international press we get everyday, can't we all just step back and say We are proud to be Nigerians. I was once asked why i defend Nigeria. Nigeria is my home (no home like her) - i am free when i holiday in Nigeria (well, once i escape from the Jungles of Lagos) - no other freedom i can get anywhere else because i am Nigerian, i bleed green and white and even if i decide to take up another citizenship tomorrow, i was first Nigerian, i still have ties to Nigeria and i can never be anything but Nigerian.

toytola:
Chile is not half as rich as Nigeria and they were able to turn a mining disaster into a PR success. (Yes, i said PR success).

toytola:
i bleed green and white and even[b] if i decide to take up another citizenship tomorrow,[/b] i was first Nigerian, i still have ties to Nigeria and i can never be anything but Nigerian.

Beaf:
If the President wants to replicate the success of Saturday's dinner, among regular folks, he should note these are the things that are most likely to sweep them off their feet.[/b]

http://234next.com/csp/cms/sites/Next/Opinion/5626491-182/observationsdinner_with_jonathan___.csp

kola oloye:
Why wait till Oct 25th ? They were supposed to be released to the mob / community people
for disciplinary action with immediate alacrity.
If they survived that then let the judge now pronounce his own judgement.

VALIDATOR:
The report couldn't even tell us the ages of the rrapped girls. I really hope the STI is not HIV inclusive.

oisehumen:
The brothers, Peter Eboka, 30, Chuks Eboka, 28, Emeka Eboka 26 and 22-year-old Ejike Eboka were alleged to have despoiled the victims (names withheld) aged six and seven years. The are the daughters of their neighbour.

madejibo:
Basically Nigerian politicians use situations to accommodate their ambitions, Jonathan gave a good one there in that report but I can assure u if jonathan was at d other side of d divide he ll also give a wonderful speech. To me he is not better

princekevo:
It is time we stop seeing this PDP constitutional problem as a Nigerian problem and any PDP member who is using the unity of Nigeria to make claim out of this conflict is nothing but a hypocrite. We are not running one party system in Nigeria, so for someone to say PDP zoning agreement will affect credible election in Nigeria is jst an evidence that PDP will never conduct any free and fair election. For example, are we saying if PDP could not present a candidate for 2011 poll becoz of their own constitutional crises, that there wont be an election, or we can't vote in another candidate from another party?

If not for foolishness tell me how anyone could argue that an agreement made by jst one party will affect the general election which many parties Will be involve. Are we the voters even supposed to be concerned abt how PDP chooses their flagbearer.  If we have any thing like credible election in Nigeria why would the whole Nation be worried abt who ever emerges from PDP out of their silly zoning madness. If we are sure of free and fair election in 2011, PDP can go to hell with their zoning madness. All we need to be concerned abt is to vote in a credible person irrespective of his party, tribe or zone.

tensor777:
I don't have the time for that. However it's funny how some disgruntled elements here always proclaim Nigeria was a better place when they lived there. That is their real optical illusion, no doubt brought about by constant immersion in negativism and defeatism in the almighty Western media.
That notwithstanding, Nigeria has a great deal to be proud of and I for one congratulate all the leaders who have kept the country united and independent for the past 50 years!

unipol:
Re: Nigerian Embassy In Rome Is Under Attack.

A group of Nigerians under the umbrella of Nigerian youth movement (N.Y.M) has concluded plans  to attack and kill the workers of Nigerian embassy in Rome,  based on allegation of corruption. the Nigerians,  who said that the embassy is a disgrace to Nigerian nation and citizens all over the world, said citizens of Nigeria will feel better without the embassy.
     many Nigerians in Italy are complaining on how the embassy has been using every corrupt instrument to make illegal money, more especially in the booking of appointment for new electronic passport, many Nigerians has said that the embassy official's telephone number is not reachable since 3 months ago, simple because the officials want to be selling appointment at the rate of 100 euro each.
     the Nigerian youth movement which base is in bologna, northen Italy, has made all the necessary arrangement on how the attack will take place because according to them "it is only through this attack that every body will hear our voice, we have written to the ambassador and the Nigerian foreign affairs to know if we can get justice, but we only see things changing from bad to worse and the embassy is busy selling appointment at the rate of 100 euro each in the name of emergency appointment while those that are not willing to pay will have to wait for a year before coming to the embassy for interview"
      the heartless embassy officials are making thousands of euro every day plus their monthly saraly. without minding that a lot of Nigerians are presently unemployed because of the global economics crisis. "some find it difficult to pay their rent. and the only help we can get from our embassy is to be stealing our money through appointment, NO, we can live without the embassy" said N.Y.M.

some speculations shows that the embassy may be attacked next week, the Nigerian youth movement fail to say how the attack will be, whether by bombing or not, no body knows.