Omoluabi16:
See silent billionaire. I've never even heard of him.

mansakhalifa:


They are just being silly.

That's all.

I keep on saying it, the only thing holding Nigerians back is belief. Belief in themselves and their capabilities as humans.

There is just too much negativity in our minds. We've got to drop that baggage.

mansakhalifa:


Why don't you speak about your six year-old self and stop generalizing?

EVILFOREST:
DIOBU is something else.
Almost every Family in DIOBU has a representative cult member...
The CULTISTS use Landmarks as boundaries distinguishing a well dominated area from another controlled area.
People always PACK out of DIOBU....
You hardly see anyone packing into DIOBU..
BROTHERS fight each other and destroy family properties due to involvement in partisan cultism

CAPSLOCKED:
WHAT DO YOU HAVE FOR US THAT WERE REDEEMED BY THE PRECIOUS BLOOD OF THE GOAT?

irunoko:
What's all these nitoriolorun

When will Nigerians respect the sanctity of human lives

shagasha:
Very unfortunate. May we not be victim of circumstances

1stola:

Are you at misery, frustration and at war with your life?

Seek God because no one else can help you...

1stola:
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Gibberish

1stola:
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Gibberish

1stola:

Are you at misery, frustration and at war with your life?

Seek God because no one else can help you...

1stola:

Are you at misery, frustration and at war with your life?

Seek God because no one else can help you...

Deepfeel:


You are quoting the wrong person here.


Why mention me when I didn't even say a word

1stola:

Is this stupîdity or just ignorance?

Why are you spelling Alla as Allah?

Are you okay?

Kwashiman:

Yes you're right my Yoruba bloda, we are Muslims and we're taking over Ondo state soon

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://punchng.com/herdsmen-have-driven-us-from-our-village-ondo-community/%3Famp%3D1&ved=0ahUKEwj6-ObFv_3oAhWhPH0KHTwbBBwQyM8BCEUwBg&usg=AOvVaw2LuACpdj7z0Ja3YLXeSYkG&ampcf=1

Deepfeel:
...

festwiz:
I am just waiting to see the "Billions" it will take to rebuild the AGF's and repair the CAC building. While some will say it's not a planned cover-up these 2 events give room for doubt.


APC looting committee right now...

Bluezy13:


An Ibo adage says that a good visitor is one who knows when to leave.
It is called "maturity".
Look that up and get it into your head...
That's if your head is not filled with trash already .

saaron:
Idris Deby does not even need to hold a gun let alone fire a single shot. His presence there among his troops shows his commitment to decimate boko haram to ashes. Unlike the terrorist in Abuja who's major goal is releasing thousands of boko haram terrorist murderers under Taqiyya of Rehabilitation.
ONE NIGERIA IS DEAD!

mtinfx:



They are now cheerleaders

Mysticwebb:
No shame at all that their mate are doing the real military job while they standby to hail them, then roam the streets looking for civilians to assault and molest.

Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.