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Thanks JJYOU. Serious some people really annoy me with their nonchalant behaviors to serious matters.

Its not rape. It sexual harassment. Whatever the shirt says, it did not permit him to put his hands on her.

Ladoma, no one is hammering you for what you did, more so how long it took you to get her treated. She is your wife, treat her as such. All I and anyone else is asking you to do is first forgive yourself, then work on things. And know that she does have a right to leave you.

I saw that she got treated. But look how long it took you to get her treated. I sincerely hope it didn't damage her for life. More than the cheating, more than the STD, she will hate the fact that you did not tell her, considering her life was and still is in danger! No one will pat you on the back for that. So like I said, it will only take intervention in order for her to forgive you for that. Her life and well being is at stake.

Honey, I honestly think you should think twice about him. I mean is he really the man you want to be with? He is two timing his fiancee and with you. That means he could to that to you as well. Not to mention, he didn't even tell you that he had a fiancee. . I would really think twice, if this is the kind of man I would want in my life. So give him space to sort himself out, and at the same time, sort yourself out as well.

Happy New Year Rusty, and welcome.

Body language. Pay close attention to their eyes. See i8f they fidget a lot, or eyes lower, or the slightest feeling of uncomfort.

Only one or two. I hate when people get them all over their body. Eww.

Well Ladoma. You would send her packing right? Then it is only by the grace of God, why she didn't send you packing. You need to show her in every way that you are sorry. And mend her broken heart. The first step is to make sure she is properly treated. She will have a hard time trusting you again. Not to mention when she married you. She believed that you would protect her with your life. It is obvious now that she can not even count on you to do that. You have a lot of work to do. So all I can say is do your best and accept what may come. If she does decide to leave you, which is her right as you committed adultery and gave her an STD. Which in my case would be an unforgivable offense. You have to be prepared for that. So expect the worst and pray for the best. Good luck to you.

Communication, like everyone else has said. Trust, and be open with one another.

Happy New year to you too.

How are you and your wife now? And I want to know the answer to her question too. How would you have reacted if the situation was reversed? Would you then be shouting about forgiveness?

Not only that. Its just not everything is worth telling. But like sistawoman said. If you ask then be prepared for the answer. If you don't want to know, don't ask. Simple.

Why you got to be rude? Anyways poster, you tell us.

Topup, there is a movie just like that case scenario about not giving up on looking for you lost child. Its called "Changeling". A new movie. Very good. Know it was off subject a little bit, but had to say it.

Wow, English is dead. But really poster whats the problem? Obviously you were not her main squeeze. She took someone else home to momma. Hell you had other women too, just that she was your main. Get over yourself and learn how to write in English, please.

Cool stuff.

If only you had known? If only you had known what?? You couldn't keep your manliness in your pants, what else is there to know?

Really that is no big deal, just talk to her she is your wife.

Yeah really. What are you confused about, what were you expecting, a pat on the back?

She is basically saying. Hey guys here is my info, I need more stalkers.  

HeHe, what a thread. Merry Christmas and Happy new Year.

Then get the police to file a restraining order on him.

Lol. She doesn't get it. Happy New Year.

Seriously? Girl stop giving people your info. You might end up with another stalker.

just talk to him about the change and how you feel that you are not being appreciated.

Wow. Man you Nigerian girls must be horrible. I cannot believe these men keep bashing yall. Like they are a bunch of saints. Then they are the first to call foul when a girl opens up a thread about a Nigerian man doing something wrong.