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alphaconde:Is the demand too much for a 25 yr old? After all, they're married... In fact, I respect her for speaking out instead of cheating in marriage... I guess those ladies that refuse to speak up are afraid of being termed your last sentence |
gypsey:Read what he said again... This time read slowly and from the beginning... He wasn't talking about salvation... He was advising the men who are ready to marry |
Orla234:After empowering them, what next? They stay single for the rest of their lives? The trend continues as being prostitutes... Don't be selfish |
Shortyy:Please tell me one thing, just one thing that PMB can do to satisfy you |
zaragal:It's not like what that guy did was right but I didn't see where he wrote there that he was proud of it |
OMEGA009:Quite informative |
Boyooosa: ![]() |
If the story is true, I hope the law takes its full course. No one should be above the law |
CyberWolf: ![]() |
lalasticlala:Okay |
Halfpenny:You mean "kishin" instead of kitchen right? What about Surs instead of Church; Kisen instead of Kitchen; Sicken instead of Chicken? Ibadan style Adukey:Has he offended you before? Simply correct him... Or, is it you petty reason or you're guilty of it? |
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Twoclans:I agree with you but the question is "which method should be adopted in order to make her realize she offended you"? |
fatymore:This is not a matter of disgracing oneself. If you are not used to or exposed to something, you can not work with it... Imagine someone who has never cooked with the Gas Cooker trying to use it for the first time... You even see some bathroom hardwares and get confused on how to use them... It all boils down to exposure |
eyinjuege:I don't think she ever meant that she shouldn't marry... At least, she could look for someone with AA to get married to CONFAMA:Try to understand what the guy you quoted meant... You could give birth to even 1 or 2 max and still have all outcomes SS... That's what probability is about... Your conclusion can only work when the 1st in case of 1 child or 1st two in case of 2 children are healthy in order to avoid unhealthy ones subsequently |
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hadjipapiey:That's why I like Hausa's You can't claim to be Muslim and follow some parts of the Qur'an while you nullify other parts due to culture or whatever... After all, Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said that whenever we are faced with uncertainties, we should go back to the Word of GOD (Qur'an) |
hadjipapiey:I never knew you were Muslim... I'm sure the message will convince you even more |
hadjipapiey:Some people have taken their culture as the ultimate way of life... I don't want to stress myself on the issue... Everyone for himself |
hadjipapiey:If you insist... See below... Just for your information, since she's married already These two Ayas are the key source: ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗَﻨﻜِﺤُﻮﺍ ﻣَﺎ ﻧَﻜَﺢَ ﺁﺑَﺎﺅُﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨِّﺴَﺎﺀِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۚ ﺇِﻧَّﻪُ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻓَﺎﺣِﺸَﺔً ﻭَﻣَﻘْﺘًﺎ ﻭَﺳَﺎﺀَ ﺳَﺒِﻴﻠًﺎ And do not marry those [women] whom your fathers married, except what has already occurred. Indeed, it was an immorality and hateful [to Allah ] and was evil as a way. ﺣُﺮِّﻣَﺖْ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﻋَﻤَّﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺧَﺎﻟَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄَﺥِ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺖِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺃَﺭْﺿَﻌْﻨَﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺕُ ﻧِﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺭَﺑَﺎﺋِﺒُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﻓِﻲ ﺣُﺠُﻮﺭِﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦ ﻧِّﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﺈِﻥ ﻟَّﻢْ ﺗَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﺟُﻨَﺎﺡَ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺣَﻠَﺎﺋِﻞُ ﺃَﺑْﻨَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﻣِﻦْ ﺃَﺻْﻠَﺎﺑِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﻥ ﺗَﺠْﻤَﻌُﻮﺍ ﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺘَﻴْﻦِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۗ ﺇِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻏَﻔُﻮﺭًﺍ ﺭَّﺣِﻴﻤًﺎ Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful. Surat An-Nisā' Aya 22-23. Allah prohibited 14 classes of women, 7 due to blood relationship, and 7 for others. Those because of blood relationship are: Mothers: every female ancestor for you no matter how high her level is (note that she might on the side of your father too, for example, your father's mother). Daughters: every female descendant of you no matter how low her level is (again, note that she might be on the side of your son, for example, your son's daughter). Sisters: every female that share you your father or mather (or both of them). Aunts: both Sisters of every male ancestor for you (even on the side of your mother, such as the sister of your mother's father), and Sisters of every female ancestor for you (even on the side of your father, such as the sister of your father's mother). Nieces: every female descendant of your brothers and sisters, no matter how low her level is (this count 2 out of 7). This completes the list of women prohibited because of blood relationship. Now we come to those prohibited because of milk relationship (breastfeeding), there is a basic hadith here: The Prophet said about Hamza's daughter, "I am not legally permitted to marry her, as foster relations are treated like blood relations (in marital affairs). She is the daughter of my foster brother." ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻣُﺴْﻠِﻢُ ﺑْﻦُ ﺇِﺑْﺮَﺍﻫِﻴﻢَ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻫَﻤَّﺎﻡٌ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻗَﺘَﺎﺩَﺓُ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺟَﺎﺑِﺮِ ﺑْﻦِ ﺯَﻳْﺪٍ، ﻋَﻦِ ﺍﺑْﻦِ ﻋَﺒَّﺎﺱٍ ـ ﺭﺿﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻨﻬﻤﺎ ـ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺒِﻲُّ ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻓِﻲ ﺑِﻨْﺖِ ﺣَﻤْﺰَﺓَ " ﻻَ ﺗَﺤِﻞُّ ﻟِﻲ، ﻳَﺤْﺮُﻡُ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻉِ ﻣَﺎ ﻳَﺤْﺮُﻡُ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺴَﺐِ، ﻫِﻲَ ﺑِﻨْﺖُ ﺃَﺧِﻲ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ." Sahih al-Bukhari 2645 (with many, many other riwayat [versions] ). And, depending on that hadith, there is a basic rule in Shariaa: ﻳﺤﺮﻡ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺮﺿﺎﻉ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺤﺮﻡ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻨﺴﺐ What's prohibited (for marriage) because of milk relationship are the same as what's prohibited because of blood relationship. Other translation: Marriage prohibition because of milk relationship is similar to marriage prohibition because of blood relationship. Now if a woman breastfeeds a boy, then she is considered (in marital affairs) as his own mother, and blood-relationship prohibition rules are applied with all of her family. And the husband of this woman at the time she breastfed the boy is considered (in marital affairs) as his own father, and (again) blood-relationship prohibition rules are applied with all of his family. Also milk sisters are prohibited, they're every female breastfed by your (blood) mother or your mother in law (your father's wife). And she is considered (in maritial affairs) as your own sister. But , the amount of breastfeeding that makes these rules applied is not the same for all scholars, and I'm not going to explain this now. (general speaking two pleasing breadfeeds are enough to make these rules applied). Now we come to those prohibited because of affinity, they're: Wife's mothers: every female ancestor of the wife. And they become prohibited just if the marriage contract is made (even before any intercourse). Wife's daughters: every female descendant of man's wife from another husband. At the condition of making an intercourse with this wife, i.e, marriage contract is not enough to prohibit these daughters, an intercourse is needed to make the prohibition applied. Daughters in law: the wife of any male descendant, no matter how low her level is. Milk Sons' wives: wives of man's milk sons (the rule of milk prohibition applies here). Mother in law: the wife of any male ancestor, no matter how high his level is. Also these three classes have some differences in scholars' views, in affairs of intercourse or just marriage contract... etc. But again, I'm not going to discuss these now. Sisters of current wives: a man is not allowed to marry two sisters at the same time, if he marry a woman, then all of her sisters are temporarily prohibited for him. If she die, or they divorce, then her sisters become un-prohibited for him, he can marry any of them (after the divorce period ﻋﺪﺓ of the wife is over). And finally, of course he can't marry a married woman! if she divorce, then he can marry her after her divorce period ﻋﺪﺓ is over. Sources: Tafseer Al Qurtubi, Ahkam Al-Quran by Ibn Arabi, and Ahkam Al-Quran by Alkia Alharrasi (may Allah be merciful to them all). Especially Tafseer Al Qurtubi 5 [105-134]. P.S: this is not a complete list or explanation, for example, I've not mentioned prohibited slave females (because there is no slavery anymore, thank Allah, and because they're very few), and I haven't mentioned some rare cases. If I want to explain and take care of every case and scholar view, this post could run into pages (full of information not interesting for everybody). 5 Just a note: Slavery still exists in present days. Quoting from Wikipedia : " There are more slaves today than at any point in history, remaining as high as 12 million to 27 million. " Muslim people (e.g. in Sudan and Mauritania) are suffering from this wrongdoing. – overcoder Jul 7 '12 at 7:48 1 Very concisely put, @TamerShlash, the part about the ascendants and descendants. Worth marking this answer as favourite! – Najeeb Feb 25 '14 at 10:28 1 @overcoder not so sure if it can be attributed to Islam or not. Major Islamic countries don't have slaves. – Honey Jun 3 '17 at 16:43 add a comment share improve this answer answered Jul 7 '12 at 4:00 Tamer Shlash 5,925 ● 2 ● 15 ● 55 1 In the aye (verse) below , Quran says who you cannot marriage: ﺣُﺮِّﻣَﺖْ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﻋَﻤَّﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺧَﺎﻟَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄَﺥِ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺖِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺃَﺭْﺿَﻌْﻨَﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺕُ ﻧِﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺭَﺑَﺎﺋِﺒُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﻓِﻲ ﺣُﺠُﻮﺭِﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦ ﻧِّﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﺈِﻥ ﻟَّﻢْ ﺗَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﺟُﻨَﺎﺡَ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺣَﻠَﺎﺋِﻞُ ﺃَﺑْﻨَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﻣِﻦْ ﺃَﺻْﻠَﺎﺑِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﻥ ﺗَﺠْﻤَﻌُﻮﺍ ﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺘَﻴْﻦِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۗ ﺇِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻏَﻔُﻮﺭًﺍ ﺭَّﺣِﻴﻤًﺎ ٤: ٢٣ Prohibited to you (For marriage) are:- Your mothers, daughters, sisters; father's sisters, Mother's sisters; brother's daughters, sister's daughters; foster-mothers (Who gave you suck), foster- sisters; your wives' mothers; your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom ye have gone in,- no prohibition if ye have not gone in;- (Those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful;- share improve this answer answered Feb 9 '14 at 7:46 abdolah 625 ● 1 ● 8 ● 14 edited Jan 6 '16 at 10:53 ﺍﻟﻠﻬﻢ ﺻﻞ ﻋﻠﯽ ﻣﺤﻤﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻝ ﻣﺤﻤﺪ 8,527 ● 5 ● 35 ● 106 |
hadjipapiey:The only problem I see here is that she's now married... I would have advised that you marry her... THIS IS NOT INCEST... There are categories of relations you can't marry and can be termed INCEST... I don't want to delve there now |
boyjo:You made sense... Strictly speaking, being possessive doesn't mean you're violent... I like ladies with such character too because it will put me in check at all times... It's cool by me if violence and drama are not involved... I'm also slightly possessive too |
highpriestess:From all your previous discussions on this thread, all I see hatred for Yoruba Muslims and you're also trying to excite the Yorubas (Christians & Muslims) against themselves... I can also deduce that you're not Yoruba, neither are you a Muslim. Why are you so pained about a matter that doesn't concern you? Don't bring the disunity in your region to Yoruba land because it won't work, by the Grace of GOD |
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highpriestess:Easy... I will like to point it out that not all stingy guys are broke... Once a lady knows a man's financial worth, even if he's stingy, she looks the other way and stays put My opinion |
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ogbiwa:For an individual, 30 euros/month, I guess... Na only one individual the lawyer go get for the whole month? |
mrfarmer600:The question now is: Are you back in Nigeria? |
ranmoor:Try to investigate if she was actually going to Dubai for the business she told you about... Just try to know how much she lied, if at all, to you... Then you can take it from there... Either to let her go or not |
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Liliyann:Is it a crime for a poor guy to marry a rich lady? After, people will say some men have inferiority complex because the lady is richer |



