₦airaland Forum

Yigiyaga:
The moment i discover all a lady has to offer is sex i cut her off. Pussy wey i dey take do footmat? E come be Abuja pussy go move me? Maka Why ?

. When a woman know your weakness is in her pussy, you are done for. she starts exploiting you financially and emotionally. she start demanding tfare to visit you from Enugu to abuja when she know your konji is confusing u . wicked

Yigiyaga:
Her case is that of a butterfly thinking itself a bird.

.. Bro you wicked. And she's a good girl o, let give her chance to showcase what she has to substitute for not been goodlooking

ubunja:
those are the sweetest chains of them all. If a man is weak he can remain chained all his life enjoying an illusion.

Lols. Most are fathering children they have no paternity over. aaaaarghhhhh....weak.

Uglymugg:
Who told you that hiding your emotions is a route to boosting your courage and motivations? You need a variety of emotions for that.

Please tutor me

tosyne2much:
Thanks baba

You're welcome my son

Pessimists will soon filled this thread to start narrating how they've seen a guy with 4.98/5.00 cgpa without a job since 2011 he's graduated, and that the youth should stop focusing on education but start learning yahoo yahoo

CC ; fumisticqueen, NwaiyeAkpaeti, Victorian and other feminists... come over here, This is what you lack in your youthful ages. We cant allow your children suffer same

enemyofprogress:
You're married to a man that doesn't have a mind of his own

shut up dumb brain

OKOATA:
I am not taking sides but you are the idiot, if someone calls your wife a bitch how would you feel. You are just foolish as that guy.

I really have nothing to say to you than beg God to give you common sense, even if it is just 1kb

ubunja:
i feel you my niggah. Been there too before

Lols. Nairaland's sissy boys need to liberated from the sassy chain of pussy

enemyofprogress:
You're married to a man that doesn't have a mind of his own

Shut your dirty mouth, or i pray God give you girlfriend like funmisticqueen and Xhosanostra,You gaz shut up when they're talking if you like it or not, due to the offensive odor coming from their mouth

asuustrike1:
CU will definely supercede university of Ibadan this time around

Even though the government subventions are not enough to run these traditional universities, the like of the university of Ibadan has transcend all subjective believes and of course has over the time edged herself as the most celebrated and the best University in Nigeria. It'll take a few decades fro CU to achieve that feat

Twoclans:
What if the woman has money and can replace that financial gain you get from your friend? Never underestimate the power of a desperate woman .She will subtly kill the friend if the need arises.

I have send you PM anyways. Let begin from here

funmisticqueen:
All these broloshos and gigolos in disguise looking for women to feed them.

Good luck staying single brother, you will drop your standards when your testosterone levels drop and midlife crisis sets in.
LOL

funmisticqueen, I know you go dey here. Edey always pain them, whenever their secret is revealed on here. Idiot thing looking for men to deavour all in the name of pussy. I know one day men will wise up and stay free of pussy slavery

Godsfavour78:
see your big mouth

I want to use cassava to tear your big mouth for you. Permit me oh

permission granted. The girl is actually not fine. with her wide mouth and swollenface

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're done?

To dey even think this girl UyaiIncomparabl is ugly asf dey annoy me. and she is part of those girls beliveing their piussy is worth dying for. see her swollen face

Tallesty1:
Have you tried leaving your vagina at home when you're going out?

My guy......

Greatzeus:
From what you wrote,you a such a saint,infact you are so perfect I never knew human could be so perfect. From what you wrote,you spoke to your husband's friend with respect,you didn't do anything to make him angry or less than he is,you acted so calm,cool and spoke like an angel.
From what you wrote you are not at fault at all,you are a very respectful wife. From what you wrote your husband's friend is the devil,immature, speaking anyhow and insultive.
From what you wrote your husband is a bad person supporting his friend instead of you,imagine.
But we know how it goes. Everyone presents the story to look like an angel while the other person is the devil.

Lol .

Twoclans:
@ OP honestly there is an underlying problem, maybe your husband owes this friend some financial favours or the man is his gay partner .Those are the two things that can make a husband pick a friend over his wife for such a trivial issue.

I know my way is not pure, that is exactly why I avoid some kind of situations. If I were in your shoes I will apologize to him then I will go back to the board room and figure out the perfect plan towards kicking him out of my husband's life forever and ever. After all I am the woman in the house, you know how this things are done.

Apologize and push that nigga out of your husband's life, even if it takes you ten years to achieve it.

If I'm the husband and I'm deriving some financial benefit from the said friend, there is no such manipulation you can do that can make me discard him. forget the women apparent power and card .,This is money issue

hrykanu231:
Not in this regard, bro you can't even send my current gf unnecessary stuff like "buy me card" when you are not in sambisa or sick. Baba recharge from ur phone...
You can't even try this with my wife, who doubles as the mother of my children

Lol. Bad guy.I see what you did there

chally100:
You married a boy

no wonder your moniker is chally. UGly thing

tosyne2much:
I think it was wrong from his friend to send you an errand in the first place but the way you also approached the issue escalated this issue. That the silly friend even went as far as venting his anger on your husband is surprising.

On the other hand, judging from the edited version story that portrays you blameless, to me, you seem like an arrogant woman who walks around with ego. That you even said you can't apologize to his friend for the sake of your marriage tells a lot about you.

Everything is not just about ego.. Sometimes you have to compromise for the sake of peace

If there's a way to like a post more than 1000times,I'll like your comment over.

Barigaboy:
its nice your are seeking for advice but be careful to choose. Your husband is a nice man believe me. I don't no they way your seeing it right now. a complete and competent husband doesnt side his wife in all cases. he is protecting u in a way only the mature people will no. Be responsible by apologising to his friend. I want you to know today that men talk positive things about there wife and we all want flawless women when we no its not possible. your man knows that sending u card under the sun doesn't make sense but he would have appreciated it if u have gone because they would always talk about it in men gathering. You don't know how his friends wife treat him when he visits either good or bad he want u to be better. go and apologise it doesn't make u bad. respect your man and do what he wants it doesn't make u a slave. don't mind some people r use to abusing when people seek advice here. but its all good enjoy your day

Hmm,May God bless you sir. This is the truth

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KingOfAllIgbos:
Very wrong!

If she apologizes to the friend, he would ask for sex shortly. Give an inch, take a mile....

IF she must apologize it must be to her husband ONLY.

I am not even convinced she should apologize because i don't see how she should be errand maid to her husband's friend

PS - i also have a strong feeling the OP lied liberally in her story. She's hiding something

She must've insulted the guy. You know women, when they want to pass a point across

Handsomecole:
I've learnt Something over the years not to take a stand until I hear from the other side and others involved.

That means you are part of the few that think logically and not emotionally

enemyofprogress:
You're married to a man that doesn't have a mind of his own

Your name says a lot about you. Enemy of progress. Idiot

lilianofentse:
yh. But I don't have access to the email today. Data probz. Just send tomorrow

I have already send it. I have patient problem. That damn word isn't in my dictionary. Reply the mail whenever you have time

BookEditor:
Madam, I understand your pains. Yes things like this sometimes happen but you must be very careful.

Now let me tell you this. The devil does not like anywhere there is peace, joy and love. He will be angry and make sure he goes there to scatter that peace, love and joy that you enjoy.

This is what happened. It's not your fault. You've done the best you can do in that circumstance. But the devil wants to use your husband's friend to scatter your home, so you must be very careful and vigilant.

First, your husband's friend was wrong for even sending you on an errand and even getting angry. After all, you're not his wife. Secondly, your husband was equally wrong for listening only to one side of the story (his friend) and jumping into conclusion without hearing from you. Your husband acted very rashly, irrationally and is inconsiderate. He's supposed to respect you enough to hear from you first before taking action.

But as I said before, the devil wants to sow a seed of discord in your family to break your home. Let me tell you this: Even if you you did what you've been accused of, it still does not warrant your husband threatening divorce. Divorce is not what you pronounce anyhow. Words are very powerful and can eventually come alive if spoken carelessly.

Now this is what you must do. You must realise this problem goes beyond your husband or his friend. Go down on your knees at midnight for 3 whole days and pray sincerely - cry to God over this matter, the Lord will hear you and He will change your husband to love you more and also change his friend not to pick faults with you over any flimsy excuse. This is the only sure solution in this matter.

Meanwhile, this does not stop you from apologizing to his friend. Humble yourself and apologize even if it's clear you're right in this matter and his friend is wrong. You know why you should apologize? Because you must stoop to conquer. Remember Oliver Goldsmith's "She Stoops To Conquer"? Just stoop for them and you will surely conquer. It's very clear that these two men have ego issues and need their ego to be "massaged", so just help them massage their ego by apologizing, while you go down on your knees to tackle them with prayer. You will surely overcome. I've counseled countless couples in similar situations and those who followed the steps saw good results.

Mind you, if you apologize only without praying about it, very soon another thing will happen in your home. They will still find another flimsy fault with you that you're disrespectful again. But your prayer is a must because it keeps such things away from coming up.

Try this sincerely with faith and it will surely work. You might get in touch if you need more counseling and/or advice. Wishing you all the best. God bless you.

I like your comment

pussyAvenger:
If you like don't beg..

a younger slay Queen is warming to play your wing.

these bitches don't know what our g's mean to us

Lols.You're somhow right tho. There are some G you cant trade them for pussy. Believe me

EVILFOREST:
Don’t RUSH to believe LADIES.
Remember they also CRY when LYING

Exactly my point. Women have innate power of destruction. They can manipulate to have their ways. Let me narrate a story here :


A friend of mine just get back to naija from the UK. He visited our best friend in his crib. The friend introduced her wife to our UK friend and everything ends there. The guy went home. A weeks later, the wife told her husband that the guy he brought home last week is making pass on her and wanna sleep with her. She even falsified whatsapp message ( She bought a new sim, give it to her friend and made her chat her pretending to be her husband's UK friend...........They made a plan together).She told her husband not to believe anything his friend say about her, because his friend is a destroyer who want to see their end. You can guess why?. This is what happened. The UK guy met our friend's wife in another man's house who is equally a friend. That friend also introduced her as her wife to be, but fortunately for her, the guy couldn't recognise her as the girl she once met in his friend's crib. Had it been the woman knew this, she would'nt have disturb herself about finding alternative way of covering her misdeeds. Inorder to cover this up, she resort to tarnishing the guy's image.Had it been the husband too is a woman wrapper like most guys on nairaland, he wont even attempt to verify his wife's claim. he will neglect the said friend in a jiffy. But no he never did that and the truth later resurfaced.

lovelybugs:
My problem is not even the apologizing part....my problem is what stops this situation (or even worse) from repeating itself? And if he's vexing because of ordinary friend said you insulted him what will na happen if his mom says you slapped her
I don't even know what to say cause if you apologize it might keep on repeating itself and getting worse cause his friend will know that your husband will always believe him over you.
I don't like chucking mouth inside family matters cause they are so delicate. This isn't just about you and him, it's also about your kids who didn't ask to be born.
I feel for you.
Anyhow sha, plan for the worse. Hope you get work sha. If your family members are reasonable you can ask for advice from them. Especially your dad, they know how to advice in situations like this best.

I understand that my wife has priority over m friends. But my mom? Why will I hear anyone slap my mom and fold arms? And why will the one I claim to love insult my mom and still expect everything will be the same? The moment she slapped my mom, it means she no longer love me and I'll treat it as such.Call me mummy's pet, I don't care , OK?