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what is wrong is wrong and what is sinful is sinful.. A spade must be called a spade.

The said, I'll always say this; it is not by force and church doctrines are never hidden or secret.. So, if you want to get married in a particular church, you must be ready to abide strictly by their doctrine as related to wedding.
The lady in question can't claim she isn't aware beforehand... Perhaps they intend to hid it away from the priests.

On another note, why church/white wedding when they know they're family already? I just can't get it why most people see this part as a must. What happen to just going for traditional and registry?

Hmmm.... Not all senses are common after all.
It is so easy to talk the talk but only a real, genuine statemen can walk the talk!

=Adanna86Some guys are lucky mehn, my mother sent me and my siblings out, of the family house at 18 lol.

... And you think she's right?

Girls and their brain sha... I wonder why some people will just think everything must be as it is in their family without considering what others are Facing...no wonder they say "it is not real until it is personal"
Even the so called ajebos/wealthy are feeling the heat of unemployment in the country. Do you expect a guy that can't afford recharging his phone to feed himself let alone paying the rent?...
Even if the guy is working and his only reason for leaving his parent's house is for freedom sake, them he isn't mature/ready for the challenges that'll follow.

Yeah... Silence is golden and if you must speak, first thing it through and apply wisdom... Remember; "wisdom is the principal thing.. "

Omotayor123; Agreed. Communication is the key

... You can say that again.

That is why I'll always advice that your partner should be your best friend. If he/she isn't your friend before you guys started off, work to make it happen!

Op., you can lie o.. It is either you don't understand or you just failed to listen or you find it hard to comprehend the interview generally.
The summary of today's interview with the man is that of a failed and poor attempt to rubbish the president that got him exposed.

Check out this topic and link.
Topic; IF MEN WERE GOD Link; www.nairaland.com/2894368/men-god

Check out this topic and link.
Topic; IF MEN WERE GOD Link; www.nairaland.com/2894368/men-god

IF MEN WERE GOD;
Jail sentences would be carried out on the Sun and in Pluto Natural oxygen would be rented per second...and a everybody will have to pay for rain per drop. Wartime would be regarded as “Sport”
Happiness will be at a great cost beyond the reach of the common man
Freedom will never be a word; every man would serve and work for one man.
Slavery would be termed an alternative to death
There would be no light and the earth still without form,..save for only one man’s house living all by himself
The world would be one country ruled by one man People will pay daily taxes for staying alive
The earth including man himself would have died of extinction before his next generation is born People would choose to die than to live…
If man were God…then there would be no man!!!
Thank God that “God is God”!!! Only a God like you can be this wise, just, merciful, full of Love and understanding… # singing # "Immortal, invisible, God only wise, In light inaccessible hid from our eyes, Most blessed, most glorious, the Ancient of Days, Almighty, victorious, Thy great name we praise......"
Feel free to add yours.

naijainstinct; My man, how have you been? I don turn pastor ooo Thanks for everything......God bless you. I'll PM you

I'm good Bro... All thanks to God.... Looking forward to seeing that.

Wow.. I'm so happy reading this testimony today. In fact, this already made my week special. My brother, God did it all and I pray that this testimony shall be permanent in Jesus name; your sister will look back and laugh out hard @ the devil.
You already turn to pastor within a year Bro.


I cannot but re-echo this part of your advice to everybody
(b)Nothing is worth the stress. If you die from stressing
yourself while trying to get something, you still won't get it.
So why the stress? Everything has got its own time &
season, what is yours will surely come to you at the right
time without too much stress. (/b)
Guys, there are two thing you shouldn't worry about in this life
1. What you can't change: if you can't change it, pray it unto God and leave it there... Don't ever trouble your mind over it cause worry/depression/restlessness won't ever make any positive difference but rather will leave it's negative scares.
If you are short, celebrate it because you can't change it and your height is never a function of who you are.
You don't have a job yet after you've done all you need to do, worry won't help the situation but your postive/optimistic attitude can go a long way.
Your parent aren't Dangote: that's a fixed deposit.... And that won't change even if you kill yourself over it. Your present state should be a blessing/an advantage not a curse, stop the worry and let God care for you.. "cast your anxiety on Him because He cares for you"_1 Peter 5:7.

2. What you can change; if you can change it, go ahead and make the necessary change instead of wasting time in sleepless nights.
" be very careful, then, how you live_not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity....... " eph.. 5;15.

If you can avoid troubles your mind over the above two things, then you'll well and merrily without care for the rest of you life.

smh

soft drinks

There is always a Judas in every 12!....That she represent a bad example doesnt mean there isnt good and genuine once out there. We all represent the consequence of our action/character. You too can make a difference and be the good example for others looking up to you!

As for me ooo, "it she isnt the best, she cant be mine!"

donphilopus;

I would have suggested that Yahaya Bello replaces him. But he's from Kogi Central and the Igalas would hardly vote (for) him. It would be better if APC conducts another Primaries and open door for new Aspirants like Jubrin Isah Echocho. Aside the late Audu, that's the only man who I feel can stand Wada in Igala land.

you pple still dont get. There is no new election to be conducted. The suplimentary election is just to satisfy d conditn of d law as APC will win even if PDP get 100% out of it(check d percentage of those who vote in any recent electn and compare it with d registered voters)...
APC had been asked to subst. Audu and anybody can do substituted but every reasonable kogite know it'll be a grave mistake that'll spell create seriously problem if APC decide to go for any Igala man.....d slot should be for an Okun or Ebira.

Enough said, safarigirl. God bless you for this.
I actually dont like replying people who just think others has no reason to succeed in life even when they themselves are still struggling.
They'll always look for reasons why you arent supposed to be where you are and play God with every progress other made in life.
I have no time for such set of pple.

Take heart..your situation will turn around soon in Jesus name. Amen.

PrettyHausaGirl: Just because you clubbed on a Friday doesn't mean you can't wholeheartedly serve God on a sunday.

Proudly #KhristEmbassi!!!!
God is Love, Love is God #loveword rocks

Dear Op., i have seen your pix and truth is you are very beautiful for real and u have a nice ride....but what i'll love you to look into is that dress. I sincerly believe it is not meant for church and you can do better than that next time.
Next time, the questn you must ask urself is; will this cloths glory God?..i mean, never seek for men's approval in ur dressing to God's presence but rather let God Himself approve you. Let the God who owns your body be glorified with how U cover it up.

That said, i'll like to add that since you wrote that 'God is Love' in ur post, pls., let ur conduct in ur secret and outside when pple re seeing U demonstrate ur Love for God coz no1 can love you more than Him...do have a lovely week ahead!

I strongly believe this topic need to be on front page.

Topic;Someone fearfully postponing wedding might just need to read this

Link; https://www.nairaland.com/2717735/somone-fearfully-postponing-wedding-date

I read this this wonderful testimony of what faith in God can do....i'm sure it will encourage someone.

Segun Coker added 4 new photos — with Solape Coker.
20 hrs • Edited •

Ours is a down to earth story of faith... Its 10years today I went to Ijebu Awa to pick a wife!!

First I had my first attraction to Solape in 1995 when i was to audition her to join the choir as the chief organist... She failed my auditions and i encouraged her... then we became friends with several great distances coming in between from time to time. I resolved she was the one and proposed in Sept 19, 2003...after several quizing, scrutinizings, praying, checking and re-checking by Pst. Lanre Adeboye and Co. Twas the first time I would ever propose marriage. Eventually got engaged same year and set July, 2005 as the year by faith.
We had some notable disagreements particularly bothering on respect and reverence from my own side as I was the son of a chief even though the chief had died by the time so on one of those days during a serious disagreement which made me decide not to talk to her again, her father eventually agreed to meet me and I angrily went to meet him with her... As we sat before her dad still frowning and looking away from each other, the 1st question was the bomb: My daughter said you want to marry her, Is that true Twas supposed to be a simple question, but at that moment, twas a Jamb question. I felt like saying; Me??.. I paused, still angry, yet from somewhere deeper than feelings: I said Yes!
Then twas 2005 and our set time July was here... No job, no money, tho not sitting idle, just struggling to do anything that i could do from video coverage to computer lesson, computer purchase for people, etc Wedding was the last thing yet i knew deep within me that strange feeling: IT WAS TIME!! She was ready no matter what... I wasnt from the state of things!! My mum was still busy with the job hunt and was both dissapointed and scared i had been drugged or jazzed when i mentioned marriage... Family members scorned while a few had meetings with me to convince me that I was acting stupid... Even me agreed that I was stupid but that the stupidity was in line with the one who uses stupid things to confound the wise...

My friend Pst. Dele Osunmakinde also encouraged me as I went to his house and saw his sitting room with two plastic chairs and I bed, all other places, near empty after few months of marriage...Morin had to stand as we sat on the two available chairs. That made me feel we were at least many who were stupid... I would mention it, keep quiet, mention it again... till the forces of prayer and the will of God moved everyone critical behind it... then we all became as stupid... and went for introduction with our son who has finished NYSC and still critically looking for job... God used my uncle Remi Okunlola to really encourage me as he followed me for the introduction all the way from Lekki, pulling his weight behind my risky decision.

I'm from a wealthy family but since my step did not relate well with common sense, asking for support would be asking for mockery. I trusted God... never asked anyone for a dime but I prayed like STUPID! to stupor! I decided to marry on November 5th, spent the last 7k in my account to pay for some cheap invitation cards...my way of burning the bridge to unleash faith!!
I prayed for Aso- Oke... it didnt come till the deadline given me by our agent. Was praying when a brother sent came to my door, saw me praying and turned back, the Lord tapped me to attend to him and he apologised and said someone sent him to give me some money from UK. I remember telling him to always feel free to disturb my prayers for such reasons... Twas Tosin Olajide... from the Olajides. That was the Aso Oke balance... a sample of how it all came.

I prayed for the house and got a vision of how it looked like and where but when i got there i saw nothing like it and told the agents as if i had money... No such house was seen until amazingly in the same area on the Friday morning i was preparing to travel to wed... Since this stupidity had been working for me... I just flowed on... ( Hmmm i think i still flow with that stupidity). Interestingly my brother from the US , wondering why I did not even ask for anything offered a financial gift the night before that paid the first deposit of the house.... Lines just crashing on line...
Former Ogun State governor Segun Osoba, my name sake then who calls me Pastor, sent 50k. This encouraged my mum as she percieved things were showing signs of the involvement of God. Millionaires in my family just stood wondering while some were annoyed till date i didnt come to them. I was dancing to a music that had no audible sound. To the point that when we got close to the engagement ground, Abraham asked how much did I put in my Aso Oke to give in the ceremony... Amazed I asked, " Would they ask me for money?" He couldnt believe there was no money in the big cloth. It was then he confessed God asked him to give me fresh notes in an envelope and he reached out and gave me at the door of Solape's father's house. Even my wife was shocked when I was spending!!!
How much would i count?? Even at honeymoon in Premier hotel, I requested to see the manager on Bro Tope Adaramola's referal and told her i wanted an extra night to which she offered me 50% discount, I rejected and insisted on 100%, Shocked she was at such a request , so shocked that she just said... allow him!... This Stupidity...hmmm

Now the marriage, I've risen from Grass going further in grace... Not where I am going, but in 7months, i had gotten a job, In 3years, We had moved to our own house, bought cars and lived better. Solape .... a unique personality that can train any man of God to have to conform to Jesus!! I dont think i have argued with anyone more or gotten annoyed with anyone more, or even sparked or raked at anyone more... Solape is not like me at all...I love people, she loves her privacy...but the hard truth is: She's my fit. A teacher to the point that she'ld almost teacher me with the children and I have to continually remind her, am not one of her students... but since we started at the lowest point, the only direction left for us to go... is higher!!

Marrying Segun Coker is not beans... with over 4000 ladies registering for the National ladies camp, You dare not be the jealous type, else your grave is dug!! Seeing others take the time you really crave for and yet, you are to entertain them and encourage them to keep coming till their blessing matures... a man that may never grow fat no matter how good you feed him... Yet his foremost passion is not even you but HIS GOD!!
I wrote all this to encourage someone out there who also presently feels stupid... Above all i wrote this to celebrate my wife. We dey vex well well, me i no dey pose... but when I say I love this woman... I mean it.. I LOVE SOLAPE and this love taught me how God loves!! its 10years and sincerely its like no big deal... We dey... and we go still dey dey!! like say the days no dey go!! Celebrate Mrs. Olusolape Olateju Ayoka Coker
Please feel free to share... Someone feeling stupid or fearfully postponing wedding might just need to read this!!
Segun Coker
www.schoolofvirtue.org



I didnt include pix because i have right to do so...... i hope this will bless someone out there.

seun, lalastica; i strongly believe this need to be in front page.

Pdp and wike have every reason to fear....after the propaganda and lies and intimidation, they know the real truth which is about setting rivers people free.

It is well with her in Jesus name.

This is good news to the industry.

Op, you have a correct mindset and u dont need sum1 who cant see fundamental issues lyk dat in the right perspective especially a man.
I still can't see why pple cant see d big error in wasting money when it cant add anything good to d new couple.

SirWellington

Lol...in as much as I won't wanna join issues with you on this, because honestly, its a sad story that they were recruited and later asked to leave. But let me address this issue analytically...
1. DSS will never, and I repeat NEVER send over 400 of her "graduate trainees" abroad for intelligence training taking into cognisance that these guys have not been "fully" recruited and as such, not all of them will scale through (do your research from 2012 recruitment of "graduate trainees". And previous recuitments.

2. Don't you also think its such an expensive venture? With which money The one GMB is still recovering or the one the governent is putting together to recruit 10,000 Police officers? For people who haven't been fully absorbed into the service? My mum was the assistant State director of Abia command "Mrs. Maureen" (if you do your reasearch well, you should know her). They only do such for those "already in service". You mean to tell me that over 400 trainees will tranel out and it will be in the news that they have been sacked? Not just one media outfit but morethan 4? Are they that mean and heartless?
3. Your source never started if they were "graduate trainees" (new intake), or those promoted from lower ranks to cadet officers and as such undergoing special traning. Remember some people on this platform said they met a certain set of people in camp who were undergoing training already a week or two before they arrived..
4. I call out on anyone on this forum, who claims to have been recruited and still on training, to show us a substantive "1st person" photographic evidence here supporting that fact and I choose to be termed a "LIAR". The link you highletd stated that they will be passing out in October right? Let such a person also upload a picture of such... And I'll accept any insult rained on me.

I still opine that people should get their facts right before coming online to support a motion or object to it.

I also want to clear an impression here, please God forbid I rejoice over the woes of another, all I aim to achieve is to assist the best way I can, on this forum so that people get the "right" information. And also expose any impersonator who aims at misleading innocent people.

you sound too sure of what you are saying yet mostly nt true.

If ur mum is truely in the service, then ur aim here is jiltery and controversial coz in dat case, i'm sure you already knw the truth that course 28 is ongoing and was never stoped as widely claimed in the media.

Why asking for pix as evidence when you can make ur enquiry @ ojo barrack?...just make sure you come bk here with ur findings.

To all those in camp now, may God keep you all to the end. I'm happy for you all.

This is sooo sad..
Thorough investigatn should be done to fish out the mole to avert future tragedy like this.

I greet you my brother. This ur dream can either be a fear-induced threat from satan himself; he may be using it to subject u into submssn and eventual death OR it can also be from God to warn you on d danger ahead and of to charge you to pray.
Either way, you should take it serious and take your relationshp with your maker very serious. You are not needed in heaven yet untill you fulfil ur God-given destiny. God is the only 1 that can avert any future danger ahead of U, nt even abt hw careful or wise u are. Simply go to Him in penitent plee and prayer. If you don't yet knw Him personally, now is just your time sir.

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.

When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over. There's a big difference between giving up and starting over in the right direction. And there are three little words that can release you from your past regrets and guide you forward to a positive new beginning. These words are: “From now on…”

So, from now on…

Remember that "all things work together for good to them that love God..."Rom. 8:28.. meaning God is turning 'everything' around all for your good if you love Him. loving Him is now the only condition you've got to meet.

Let the things you can't control, GO. – Most things are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them. Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance yourself from the negative things. So stop holding on to what hurts, and make room for what feels right. Do not let what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can control.

Accept and embrace reality. – Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else. You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do. So pay attention to your outlook on life. You can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice.

Change your mind. – Change is like breath – it isn’t part of the process, it is the process. In reality the only thing we can count on is change. And the first step toward positive change is to change your outlook. Prepare for the positive. Prepare for the new. Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself. Growth is impossible without change. If you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life. Sometimes all you need to do is look at things from a different perspective.

Hold tight to the good things. – When life’s struggles knock you into a pit so deep you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out. Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you’re likely to head in the wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper. Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good in with you. For goodness is bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate the correct path that will take you there.

Rest and regroup. – Strength isn’t about bearing a cross of grief or shame. Strength is about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from them. Sometimes you do your best and end up with a mess. When this happens, don’t be discouraged. You tried. That’s really all you can ever do. You have not failed; you just learned what not to do. So rest, regroup, and begin again with what you now know.


Take chances. – Making a big life change or trying something new can be scary. But do you know what’s even scarier? Regret. So realize that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you’ll see this for yourself as soon as you face them. Don’t let them stop you. Live your life so that you never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and the gifts you never gave out.

Keep climbing. – Every person who is at the top of the mountain did not fall there from the sky. Good things come to those who work for them. You gain confidence and grow stronger by every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn't think you could do. If you are standing in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid to move forward, remember that you can't enjoy the view without being willing to climb.

Appreciate what you have learned. – Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears. Don't regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt. Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it. In the end, it’s not what you have been through that defines who you are; it’s how you got through it that has made you the person you are today, and the person you are capable of being tomorrow.

Realize every step is necessary. – Nothing is ever wrong. We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was a necessary step to get to tomorrow. So be proud of yourself. Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons you’ve learned along the way, you are so much better than you used to be.


source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/09/28/9-rules-for-turning-endings-into-new-beginnings/

Letz assume the rumor is true, how is it now d duty of Buhari to start re-allocating prisoners?....and hw is sending some prisoners to SE a security threat?..
I'm sure there are literates in anambra state.