Ariza:


Ariza:I read a thread here sometimes ago where Men were advised to marry and learn to love those who love them and only use and dump those they love.I asked how does one learn to love but my question was left unanswered,the ones who tried to answer only danced around it. No procedure or How to was provided and I laughed. How men bask judiciously in so much ignorance amuse me! They believe women learn to love so they can do it too.But only the wise one would askhow women easily divert this so called love on their children as soon as they are born neglecting the fathers. Was the love ever there?The truth is you can never learn to love, you can only learn to appreciate.Love is not something you can create but Gratitude, you can. The misconception comes when peoplemix up love and gratitude. Contrary to what we see movies like a man learning to love the woman he was force to marry, No! he only learned to appreciate and live with the woman after his brain has been reconfiguredby a terrible situation that might have causedhim to lose the Good woman.Op, you can't learn to love. You can only learnto appreciate, learn to be with and learn to accept your Man. In this case, look at the positive sides of things, compare his good qualities to what others do not have and accept him. I wish you luck.

You need to see the way I carefully read your post like as if it'll pay my bills.... you're not entirely wrong but it is important we correct certain part of it for the sake of those who desire to know the "TRUTH"
1. Love truly exist and some couples are indeed in true love and are happy for it and LOVE is unconditional if it is love and not "LUST"
2. What majority call love is actually lust or infatuation which is very conditional and the day the attached condition is removed, the relationship/marriage will hit the rock.

3. God is "LOVE"; now that is deep and it'll take a whole topic to explain that but every human created by God and who received God's breath(living soul) have this what I'll call inherent attribute to love but God's presence in form of the Holy Spirit makes it evidential in human but then it still comes to our choice whether to display that inherent love from within or not....so, it is not in learning but in doing that is the problem bro.; same thing applies to hatred from Satan.
Time will not permit me to type more that this for now but maybe later I may answer quotes from you if you need more explanation.

Please can someone provide me with info.. on Lambert Electromec company in Lagos.

Is it only me that's thinking that it's your cousin that may want to scam you. All I know is that Your cousin is not supposed to pay to receive.

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

As an okun guy who most probably come from same lga as yours, I want to say I can't relate with your mum excuses except the "yagba" case. Your mum is only being selfish and unreasonable. You'll have to get someone she respect(like her pastor) to talk to her and if that fails, you'll have to stand your ground and marry the lady you love and understand. Your mum won't be there for you in your marital journey; so be sure to prayerfully choose the one you're convinced of and not mum's choice.....but make sure you look after her after your marriage; that may be what'll finally change her perception.

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It's a failed policy... Dead on arrival as it's impossible to change immigration law through presidential order or policy as Trump called it. Though I support the move but must learn to follow due process.

What causes that? Something must have trigged it

What are the countries with birthright citizenship? The countries with birthright citizenship are: Argentina, Barbados, Belize, Brazil, Canada, Chile, Cuba, Ecuador, Fiji, Grenada, Guatemala, Guyana, Honduras, Jamaica, Lesoto, Mexico, Nicaragua, Paraguay, Panama, Peru, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, Trinidad and Tobago, Tuvalu, and Uruguay.

There are many pros to living in a country that upholds birthright citizenship. In plain English, birthright citizenship asserts that anyone who was born in the United States, for example, is automatically a citizen. Birthright citizenship does not require any other prerequisites in order to be a citizen.

Even then, there are some countries that offer birthright citizenship on a conditional basis. Luxembourg, Guinea-Bissau, Azerbaijan, and Chad are four examples of national instances whereby a country does not always offer birthright citizenship, except for under certain circumstances. In total, there are thirty-five countries around the world with birthright citizenship as a national policy for all people born in these particular countries.

In Nigeria the different ways, by which citizenship can be acquired, are clearly stipulated in the constitution. By virtue of Section 25, 26 and 27 of the 1999 Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, 2011 as amended, a person can become a citizen of Nigeria by one of these three ways: by birth, registration and naturalisation.

The 14th Amendment of the Constitution guarantees birthright citizenship and states: "All persons born or naturalized in the United States and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside." The ability of a president to end birthright citizenship has been extensively challenged by a range of lawmakers and legal scholars -- including one of Trump's own judicial nominees.

James Ho, a Trump appointee to the 5th US Circuit Court of Appeals who is highly respected in conservative circles, wrote a paper in 2006 noting that such proposals concerning birthright citizenship raise serious constitutional questions due to the clear words in the 14th Amendment.

"That birthright is protected no less for children of undocumented persons than for descendants of Mayflower passengers," Ho wrote in the paper published before he became a judge.

An attempt from the Trump administration to end birthright citizenship would also be challenged by Supreme Court precedent. In 1898 in United States v. Wong Kim Ark the court said that a child born in the US to non citizens parents of Chinese descent was entitled to citizenship at his birth.

The case came after Wong Kim Ark, traveled to China for a temporary visit when he was 22 and was denied reentry. And other cases since then have built upon it.

Speaking with Axios in 2018, Trump said he would end birthright citizenship through an executive order, though he did not provide a timeline for doing so.
"We're the only country in the world where a person comes in and has a baby, and the baby is essentially a citizen of the United States for 85 years with all of those benefits," he said. "It's ridiculous. It's ridiculous. And it has to end." In fact, more than 30 countries around the world have birthright citizenship

The comments were met with immediate pushback from lawmakers, including then-House Speaker Paul Ryan, a Wisconsin Republican, who told a Kentucky radio station that "you cannot end birthright citizenship with an executive order."

Presidential candidate Kamala Harris, a Democratic senator from California, mocked Trump's comments on Twitter Wednesday, stating the President "should 'seriously' consider reading the Constitution."

Donald Trump likely to end birthright citizenship in US
"Birthright citizenship, where you have a baby on our land - walk over the border, have a baby, congratulations, the baby's now a US citizen," said the President. "It's, frankly, ridiculous." says Trump.

US President Donald Trump said on Wednesday that his administration is seriously considering an executive order to end birthright citizenship.

"We're looking at that very seriously," Trump told reporters when leaving the White House for the US state of Kentucky, the Xinhua news agency reported.

"Birthright citizenship, where you have a baby on our land - walk over the border, have a baby, congratulations, the baby's now a US citizen," said the President. "It's, frankly, ridiculous."

Trump promised ending the birthright citizenship during his 2016 presidential campaign and once revived the idea last year, according to a report of The Hill.

Earlier Wednesday, acting Homeland Security Secretary Kevin McAleenan unveiled new policies which will allow the government to detain families crossing the US-Mexico border longer than before. If the new rule survives court challenges, the policy change could permit authorities to detain families through the duration of their immigration proceedings.

The US federal government has sought various ways to curb illegal and legal immigration since Trump was sworn in January 2017.

See; https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.indiatoday.in/amp/world/story/donald-trump-likely-to-end-birthright-citizenship-in-us-1590197-2019-08-22

I'm glad your story turns out well and sweet but you haven't really move on from your own mistake. You will need to forgive yourself, take responsibility(stop looking f excuse to give for your past mistakes), let go and move on. When you really forgive yourself, you'll have the peace within you need and the determination not to make similar mistakes.
btw, it is equally important that you summon the courage and strength to go celebrate with at least those who had been there for you all along You too need to start giving "positive energy" and encouragement to those who need it.

Rosarie:
Countless.he not taking care of us.been selfish.no food at home yet he will Dodge and go and buy food in buca.he never admits having money.when we go to the buca to buy food on credit we see him there.him eating the skl fees momsi gave him to pay for me.abandoning me or forgetting to pick me up in school many times.prefers outsideers to us.he has even abandoned me in a hospital when i was 5.if we are celebrating he will wear rag.but if his church has an ocassion he will sew a new cloth.men countless.hurts I swear.hurtsss.am crying writing this.70+ and still same.above he does not wish us well but God pass any man.have learnt to live like he does not exist.but it's hard.....

Hmmm.. I can relate very well but truth is, you're only deceiving yourself living like he doesn't exist. Best way to live is to forgive yourself and forgive him; then move on from 'there'; I've never seen any other way to heal and live a happy life than that....and you may have to teach your siblings and mum to do same. Trust me, I'm posting this from experience.

Don't pls., there is/are better way out of your present challenges; trust me you just need to be patient with yourself the more.

Let's talk guy.... Send me pm rightaway. Thanks.

Hmmmm.....this is rough play... See as some of them are very close.

This is what I always talk about; our law enforcement officers must change their investigative method to a more realistic and lawful means.... Not those archaic and irresponsible methods that can end up make the case useless....i won't be surprised if the accused are discharged in the end if there lawyers can successfully proof a case of forcing them to confess under duress expecially with by shooting them in the leg. It's very sad; we should have moved beyond such irresponsible method long time ago.

Bishop4real:



Please don't be too fast in condemning others. What can you say about these:

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/years-wrongful-imprisonment-ricky-jackson-finally-free-180961434/

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/04/obituaries/john-thompson-cleared-after-14-years-on-death-row-dies-at-55.html

https://www.innocenceproject.org/clemente-aguirre-exonerated/

https://stories.avvo.com/crime/murder/8-people-who-were-executed-and-later-found-innocent.html

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_wrongful_convictions_in_the_United_States

So, what again were you saying about Nigeria?

All these cases mentioned are are incomparable to this particular case pls. If you have an idea how investigations are carried out in Nigeria by these men in black, you'll feel ashamed for them and pity the innocent ones imprisoned every now and then mostly just because they can't afford the "price tag" for their freedom.
What makes me wonder is how such shallow investigation was done back then when some of us thought our yesterday was actually better in this country.

Haaaa, what a country! Cases like this makes me wonder what sort of country is this? It happened in 1988 when some of us believe things were better off, these days hmmmmm

I heard so much about his prudency and deep sense of responsibility. Judging by all I've gathered about this man, he has no reason to fail.

Dareal90s:

Was Ambode experienced before we voted for him, what about fashola?

They are both an integral part of Tinubu govt; that's much experience.

midolian:
This election is not free and fair..

By my calculation, the population of Igbos in Lagos is far more than the population of yorubas. Jimi aligned with the Igbos and I am sure they all gave him their votes..so it's statistically impossible for APC to win with such a wide margin..

And maybe I don't know statistics..

@ the bolded, which Lagos are you referring to? I'm guessing you're Ben sarcastic.
As for the topic, it's not unexpected giving the credentials of Sanwolu and the anticidents to logos government since 1999. Majority of Lagosians are too wise to to try an inexperienced option when it's simply unnecessary to do so.
Tinubu allows Samwolu to emerge from a direct primary given all party members a sense of belonging; that's the wisest move. Agbaje and PDP can't stand a chance even with their divisive politicking.

sheedy407:
We are the problem of this country especially we the youth.
The west and south control and vote on social media while the north used their PVC to decide who rules.

I can't but quote your comment; the best logical explanation so far. This election was won and lost, very fair and credible. The north had spoken and we all should respect that; nobody stopped the "south" from being serious.
Take a look at the list of registered and accredited voters from the SW, SE & SS (compared with those who actually collect pvcs) for example, you'll wonder where those e-worriors are from. Election can't be won in the bedroom or on social media!!!
Congratulations to buhari and APC... I pray you'll get it right this time and Nigeria will be great in Jesus name.

Congrats PMB and PYO..... Nigeria will great again in Jesus name.

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Your argument is vague my brother. it's like saying since gay/lesbianism is accepted and celebrated in some churches in western countries, so it must be accepted here too. I don't evewant to go into the argument of who are the current owner of most of these top universities you're referring to here because it's not important for the sake of this argument; UK, USA, CANADA, FRANCE, e.t.c are not in the same league as Nigeria in so many ways. their citizens don't struggle to pay school fees; In most of these countries, education is basically free for her citizens and in their privately owned institutions where it's not free, different grades/shades of scorlarships are available for as many as interested. Here in nigeria, it's the very opposite. even our public universities that are heavily subsidized is still not affordable to many; at least, you'll know about no less five poor around you who want and wish to be in school be are not because they can't afford it; the story is same all over the country. So, what should be our priorities? where do you think the churches in Nigeria should come in? What challenges should be addressed first by Churches/christians?
Churches in the western world don't need to fight poverty and lack of their members because the government is working well over there and almost everything is provided for so they can afford to spend their money whatever they feel like whether biblical or not(but some of them are using if wisely on foreign missions and evengelism). We're losing priority by copying them here. We have a more serious challenges to deal with here instead of building universities that isn't beneficial to her members. My original argument is not even against the building those higher institutions of learnings but in the way it's not affordable to the Christian majority. so if it cannot be made affordable, it's just not neccessary; it's a misplaced priority.

Church universities in Nigeria mould men in character and sound Christian doctrines which is lacking in many public schools because of secularism. Secularism has corrupted many Christians that they just do as they like.

Are you for real bro.? do your survey very well pls. btw, a lot of example abound of those who finish from public schools and are doing very well spiritually/morally so much so that your argument becomes irrelevant. May I remind you that all these respected men of God finished from these public universities to start with.

finally, the church shouldn't be competing with the government on whose facility is better or who can build the best and most beautiful university; we should be the light in showing the government on how to solve the many challenges in Nigeria such as poverty and unaffordable educational systems.

HigherEd:

What is your business if we fund universities we can't attend? Did we come to protest in your house, or who appointed you spokesman for church members? You would do well to face your govt to provide all your socialist desires.

If Oyo and Osun, two oil and tax(compulsory) funded states can't successfully fund one university properly how do you expect churches backed by donations to build a university and then run it from donations..

Where in the world have you seen a proper university run exclusively on donations? Universities owned by wealthy governments in the US, UK still charge thousands of dollars from their own citizens much less foreigners. Just enjoy your '3 months on 3 months off' public universities and let churches be.
Lalasticlala

It is my business first because I'm a Nigerian and secondly because I'm a Christian with good knowledge of the word of God.....consequently, I can't understand how the Bible can justify a church building universities with or without members contributions and members/christians can't attent such higher institutions; I don't see how God can be happy with such arrangement. The common justification is that of "spreading gospel" but we know practically speaking, it's either not entirely true or the products are not significantly different from public institutions after all we have campus fellowships and churches in our public institutions too.

If you read my line of thought very well, you'll understand I just don't see why it's necessary for churches to go into building universities that won't have direct benefits to her members and Christians at large. As far as I'm concerned, there are so many other beneficial ways churches can help build the educational systems some of which I've highlighted above.
Finally, I want you to know that almost all public institutions in Nigeria are heavily subsidised so that it can be affordable to more nigerians. If govt can do that, churches are expected to do more with her universities. If the running cost won't allow them, then starting it all together seems to me as a wrong priority. Shalom!

Officially, there's 84 millions registered voters and it'll be a huge improvement if 50 million people turn up to vote. So let's make sense out of PDP claim, 40million votes for them will make the election a "one horse race" and more like a walkover... Hmmmm; if wishes were horses, beggers would ride. Interesting times!

In the spirit of truth, that was the order and yes it was stated clearly that PMB should effect it but it's against the spirit and letters of our constitution; such order is simply unconstitutional and shouldn't have been carried out at all. So PMB goofed big time( his decision is like taking the law into your hand) and nobody should support such illegality just in the same way no pathrotic Nigerian should support Onnoghen's financial infractions and his refusal to resign.

flowx:
. You are very stupid. I mean very very stupid.... How many people are bidding under the so called broom that are extremely corrupt? Are u kidding me? What of osho baba, ekeremadu, amachi, fashola, fayemi, to mention but few..... Do you have sense at all? CJN onoghe is going nowhere.... Go and die with your stinking phone zombie....

Since you can write, I want to assume you can also read... So I'll pretend you don't read my submission well before rushing to attack and insult 'yourself'.
I'm hence replying you so you can go back and read word by word, line by line and point out how my post didn't condemn every corrupt person's be it pdp or APC; neither of them didn't merit my support cos of anticidents. Now, if those insult and swearing didn't exactly qualify you, you'll have to remove shame on you by apologising unreservedly thereafter.

Oh my dear country. We obviously have two set of laws; one for the previledged and the other for the common man but what is more painful is that it's the common man that often blindly & quickly take side with these so called "priveledged" to pervert justice and create the "two edged law" indirectly.
Let me state this clearly to all who care to listen; corruption have no tribe, no religion, no party and no colouration... And unfortunately, that is our no. 1 problem from which all other challenges can be solved easily when we decide to join hand together and fight that cancer ♋ that's killing our dear country.

Hmmmm...... The most irresponsible senate ever. What a shame!!!
We're paying then for doing close to nothing; just jamboree, drama and noise for four good years. May God help us

Goke7:
What a shame! We keep lying to ourselves as Nigerians that corruption is not our major problem and the world keep mocking us.

Nothing more to say that that; God bless you bro.

Emvico34:
well we know is not easy. Different people faces different challanges at different time,but no one has the right to take his own life. Your creator owns your life not your. Now he is gone and the said lady is still alive. He is facing judgement already...never take your own life

You've said it all... Nothing more to add. God bless you.