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lekjons:
Trust me I understand your situation, I also have a brother exactly like yours, he always threaten my mum whenever he needs money, telling her to sell some of her properties and stuffs like that..

the heartbreaking part is, my mum scares easy.. rebuked us(me and my siblings) from interfering and he always take advantage of that..

and I'll be just there, sitting on a chair, breaking sweat like a laborer(out of anger) while thinking of what I can do to him...


i later realized I still have a whole lifetime ahead of me and I'll not allow anyone to undermine my chances of enjoying it to the fullest..

Destined2win:
I think it's really difficult to take back a cheating partner

hmbassey1960:
why called them beast?

Billyonaire:
@ lisbonabdulahi

Listen friend, Please pay attention to what I am going to tell you and this is for your own good. If not, I can assure you, we will lose you.

You are married to a Narcissistic woman. She has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is a mental disorder. A bruised Soul destroyed by Childhood of lovelessness.

If 80% of the traits I am about to list below occurs in your marriage, then what you should be doing is finding a way your kids can live far away from your wife.

1. She gives excessive attention to her beauty.
2. She never apologizes.
3. She says she is not a slave in your house and lures you to help in the kitchen.
4. She leaves home to hang out and comes home at her will.
5. She depends on you for every of her need and if she offers a gift to others, she complains how they may not use it well.
6. She says without her, you are nothing.
7. She monitors your finances and saves part of it and call it hers.
8. If you own a house, she says it is hers too.
9. She calls you my husband when she desires things from you.
10. If you guys quarrel she locks herself in a room and remains there and you are the one to apologize.
11. She complains that you take care of your own family and corners some stuff to her own family except she hates them.
12. She cries real tears even when she is at fault.
13. She blames others for everything and nothing is ever her fault.

I would have typed more, but I havent got much time. But if your wife exhibits 80% of the above characteristics then I have news for you.

She can not be helped.
She is not even aware of the fact that she is hurting others.
She believes she is the victim.

The solution is RUN. It is complicated with kids involved. No househelp will ever satisfy her, she nags the hell out of everyone.


When I read from you I will tell you the nature of her Soul. These entities locate Empaths like you. Charitable people. They hook you and the convert your love energy to negative energies that entities feed on without being aware.


These are different soul archetypes. The fight and flight mechanism of these people got activated in childhood mostly from broken homes and abusive childhoods so they stopped growing emotionally. So they are emotional babies even at old age they behave like their spouse owes them entitlements. They are mostly parasitic in nature and she will leave you the moment you run out of her supplies. All they know is what to get from you and not what to give. And they have to give, they try to control the person they give anything to.

You have done great so far, but she will never change. Get a househelp and stop financing her fantasies, use the cash to hire a househelp to take care of the kids. And I beg you cut off the love, cos I am sorry to say, they do not love truly. They only mimic your emotions. They are not capable of loving.

I will write about the spiritual angle to narcissism and why the Churches can not exorcise them, except ofcourse only tapping into Christ Consciousness can the Galactic Federation help you cut off the Soul contract you had with the Jezebel Spirit. They are so nice at one moment, just when you are so sure there is peace at home. Quarrels come out of no where.

hmbassey1960:
I don't like bullying people cus i hate it and i also warn some of they junior officer,senior officer don't act like that

TinaAnita:
What else can she preach to the congregants after losing her only son? God you are way too bigger than this.. You are not a God that fails.

Nogodye:
Lol...I believe that one day this will all be a story.Better days ahead.

youngG10:
well islam forbids us to insults anyone's religion...bcus of ignorants like you....so keep it up...i knw islam is the fastest growing religion on earth despite the islamaphobia ....ask your self why...

brunofarad:
The electricity and the internet

xreal:
Early 2000, I was working in a very known bank, my branch was somewhere far in the north.

One faithful day, a typical hausa man walked into the bank on a busy Monday morning, he appeared a lil dirty with babariga, nicker and bathroom slippers; he walked to a staff and spoke in hausa language.
Hausa man: How can I open a pocket to keep money here? (in hausa language)

The staff he was talking to understood what he meant, but most bankers sabi form fake levels (I don't do that), The first staff he met wasn't an hausa by tribe but understands and speaks hausa well, the guy just directed the man to another lady(staff) who was from the western part of the country, he directed the man to her not to assist but to have a share of the fun.

The hausa man said the same thing in hausa to the lady
"How can I open a pocket to keep money here".
She burst into laughter uncontrollably and pointed to another lady for him to go and say the same thing to her, I noticed this thrash from my desk and walked up to the man while he was walking to the third person he was directed to.

I greeted him in a traditional manner and with smiles, I asked how I can help him, he responded in hausa, and from that moment, I communicated with him in hausa.

He said the same 'pocket' thing to me and I ushered him to sit on the guest seat at my desk.

I got him a cup of tea from which I also seaped.
He later opened up to me that he wanted to 'keep' 10,000naira in the bank.
I showed some excitement and said YES, it's a good idea, but I will appreciate he 'keep' more than Ten thousand.
To cut the story short, this same man made an initial deposit of 7million naira that morning, but I made sure that the first staff he met was the one who carried all the boxes of money from his car into the bulk room (while I wan doing this, the man smiled, gave me a thumbs up sign and pinched my ear) two days later, he invited me to his house, I met his wives and children (two of which were Masters student in the UK) and one a college student in US. I later left with another 4million cool naira to 'keep' for him.
This man later had several hundreds of millions in his 'bank pocket', which were in my care.

We became family friends, he was so connected to the who-is-who in the state; I used his influence to get jobs for 4 of my family members and 1 friend, all in FG establishments.

But, he forced me to remain in the bank, each time I get better offer. He told the regional manager that he will withdraw all he has in the bank once his brother(na me be dat oo) leaves.
So, that made the bank to increase my pay speedily even b4 due time.


Believe me, when someone walks into the bank with a well starched native and tailored suit the person might be a begger. Same goes the other way round.


LESSON: Never look down on ANY HUMAN.

princessayesha:
Reserved guys, but not the ones that will watch while i get beat up

veekid:
Laughing hard

Malefactor:
Damn. Interesting thread, though it's fvcking old I'm facing the same hair problems now. No one complains about it except my church members and relations. I don tire nii.

levisco16:
astral projection is what some white and black men practice, One CAN leave his or her own body and the soul and spirit can go the moon, stars celestial bodies this is mostly done by occult men. I have made so many research on this, i know i mistakely tried to do it unknowinly and immediately i discovered i stopped it right away because i was afraid, i didn't know if a demon or some sort of creature could be waiting to grab my soul.

have you done this or do you do this share with us please!

if you have an idea atleast say something thanks for reading

adam500hr:
I really want to thank you all for your comments. Whatever happens to a man and he brings it over to social media, in the end, the wisdom he has inclusive of some positive comments here will actually be the outcome of what I'll decide to do. In the end, my decision is what matters.

I'll like to address some misinformation here, and the first is the repeated quote from hungerbad where praises for his intelligent post is seen on here. It was not a shop she was gonna rent, its a space for creche, which she is running at the other place I rented a year plus now. Also, I have to the realization that even if your guts feelings tell u that ur wife is cheating, without evidence, one needs to chill, and if need be you want to uncover the truth take your time and investigate. Trust me yall, its not easy to observe things that would tell u ur woman is cheating and you'll sit still and be looking like lukmon, there are many reasons I have observed that I wont have time to share here.

Also, I would like to address the issue of paternity test, truly when trust is not fully established, and you see further reasons to doubt the paternity of your child, then a DNS isnt a bad idea. I'm actually 100% sure of my first born, apart from the sparkling resemblance, which in most cases is not an asssurance of ownership, the bloodily bond is there, I can feel it deep down, I wont even need to do DNA, and the same goes with my second as well. I dont want to go into that, even if on eof them arent mine, they already call me daddy, where do I want to land the fate of whichever isnt mine if discovery is made?

I loved my wife when we started courting, the plan for pregnancy was mutual, the love making was mutuall and real, it was just a mistake on my path that you dont sleep with who you dont know if by knowing that u guys arent compatible you wont be able to marry her. However within the last 5 and half years, We both have tried as much as possible to make things work, though she still seem to be the one lagging behind with issues of respect, obedience and loyalty and signs of infidelity.

Another thing is first business is successful, infact there isnt enough space to contain more children, but the major problem is accountability and management, shes 0% in those aspect, meaning no savings to pay rent, profit is spent without proper accounting, thought I understand most parents dont pay their wards fees at the appropriate time which causes imbalance in trying to accurately account for what comes in and whats going out. The only reason why she stated she wanted to move is because the baby's moving from age 3 are heading to a proper school, and she'll lose them, meaning she would start over by sourcing for new babys', so if she can secure the other side, she'll just move them to the new nursery and preschool without having to lose them to other schools. I told her i dont have the cash now, she needs to exercise patience, and she should be hopeful that kids will leave and new ones will come, at least thats how she started.

I just didnt call her a hoe from the secret calls and the mistaken statement of "blw job" It was based on the phone conversation I overheard from the bug i placed on her phone, where I found out that she was seductively talking to the dude in a sexy tone that I never heard her talk with, after confronting her and advised her to cut ties, she had another convo with him where I was being slandered and my wife refered to me as guy in the convo, thats what made me bad and resorted to calling her names, the scope of having her confesss to what I dont know is because if a woman ,talkless of a wife can discuss you with another male, it could probably mean they have had sex, or they are about to, whichever way round, out of anger, such woman might be called a hoe.

I had provided the evidence of the call, she cried and apologized that the dude was a old friend that she didnt want to make him feel bad while trying to cut ties with him, reason why he had to say such things about me, I asked if she respected his feelings more than the man that chose to marry you out of all that i have met, she said she was sorry. I tabled down a whole lot that I never thought would come off my mind, but due to the fact that I have sat her down to thrash issues out b4,, and nothing ever changes, I decided to have her embark on some strict rules which she quickly accepted, because I will not tolerate any more of this same instance or any other related as I want to live long.

Omotayor123:
Mr. adam500hr

I'm talking now from your wife point of view.

she's not cheating on you at all. All those attitude and things she displayed are just stunts to make you jealous and do the needful. But you took it the wrong way.

she's used to you giving her what she wanted and on this matter you should have employ diplomacy & stood your ground without hurting her emotions. But you did.

The fact where she asked you what you have ever done for her is peculiar to all women. you can't judge her based on that. it's Everywhere.

And for you to call her a hoe and other names on baseless accusations is just the height of it all for her. she can't stand it anymore hence her decision to leave.

first you turn down her request, she tries to get your attention and you took it to another level already.

Bro. for the love of God pls. Apologize to your wife and let this end.
You shouldn't let your beautiful marriage end like that.

Afterwards, tell her all your grievances about her attitudes and all. I'm sure she will apologize too. pls. let sleeping dogs lie

Apology doesn't mean you are Right or the other is Wrong, it simply means you value your relationship more than you ago. Why not say sorry And move Forward

SoulB6:
when I dey ss3, i toast one gal she insulted me and said she can never gree for me, that even if she is dead i can never climb her corps, one of my friend said i should not worry that he will give me something, the next day the guy bring me one juju and told me to call her name three times and i did it, one hour letter the girl come by herself and told me she love me and can't do without me.

montezz:
I tell you.
When I was in Ibodi,the small guys would charm student teachers and youth corpers and have sex with them. Some even passed them around. (Amudo tinz)

montezz:
U Neva jam confirm juju. Come to Ilesa/Osun st. You go fart uncontrollably till Jesus comes.




Juju is very real o but people won't believe. During my Teaching practice,my students(public schl) would stab/cut each other with knives...cutlass and all but you won't see a drop of blood. Just a funny faint mark.

There was a time one of my uncles had an attack at his workplace. We took him to different hospitals,na so so grammar. It was until someone advised my grandma to consult one "eleegun" (I think the anchor...I dunno) that we found solution. The man just rubbed a funny looking liquid substance on the area and chanted incantations and the stuff came out. Yoruba people calls it (eta). The person who attacked him was dealt severely dealt with. He actually confessed. This na wetin I witnessed not long ago o.

Juju is real o most especially when you visit some places around Ilesa.

ZarZar:
Thank you. I'm glad someone else can relate to this. Normal is boring anyway. I tried it once & it was the most miserable two seconds of my life

Some people don't get how fun it is not to depend on others for entertainment. Nothing beats sitting all alone & cracking yourself up for hours on end because your mind never runs out of cool stuff to think about

Hero18:
Lol i believed burying the head of a male redhead agama lizard with a coin will yield u money after seven days