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lekanation:
Learn how to operate heavy duty machineries such as payloader or wheel loader, bull dozer, excavator.. If you can drive a car, go for tipper. 20tonnes upward most expecially howo trucks. You can easily make close to 10k daily by learning one of these

hansomb:
Well, I can't render you any advice with the way you address your Father ( the person who's sperm grows to become you) so that make him curse no go affect my own destiny. If you have that mindset to your dad am sorry your problem in life never start self e still dey sleep.

patorial:
Learn driving or interior design.

Op no matter how broke your father is, never regard him the way other do. Remember he didn't marry your mother living under the bridge. He once could pay bills. Do forget that.

benzene00:
what course did you study?

Ninokingz1:
Fast forward to 2016 she had her internship at UBTH which happened to be our best moment of relationship from there, move to Akure for her service year while me at the Nigeria French Language Village. Though it a bit closer and easily accessible to me but still our time at Benin was the best of all, in fact, that solidified our relationship of today. Our intention was to marry in 2018 but I got to finish school and there was not much left with me so I had to hustle for another one year and finally got married in 2019.

I’ll say it’s one of my best decisions so far. Babe, if you ever got to see this just know that waking up each morning beside you is a feeling I can’t explain.

And finally, help me wish her happy birthday tomorrow.

jesusjnr:
Man shall not live (eternal life) by bread (grace) alone, but by every word (obedience) that comes out of the mouth of God.

nicepoker101:
The boyfriend's sidechick just gained automatic qualification to fill the gap.

stuffs4me:
She doesn't deserve his trust. She behaved like a hoe

kollinzgee:
To me the girl is not cheap becoz she didnt givein to the guys sexual advances.i only despise the fact that she took advantage of the fact that the guy likes her .but some guys self you want a girl to jump on your bed becoz you bought her food all girls are not sluts as you guys think only a minority weak niggas everywhere! i weep for my gender** spits***.

funmisticqueen:
You are also lucky imagine yourself feeling you are in the wrong for life

Bironke:
Long post but please i really need the advice. Please.

Background.
I started dating my now ex-boyfriend when i was 17. We met when i was in 100lvl but started dating in 200lvl.
He's 6years older than me.
It has always been long distance. 9-10hours apart but that wasn't a problem for either of us.
He was my first boyfriend and i thought, hoped and prayed would be the last. I've always wanted just a guy in my life. He did his masters in kaduna while i served in minna. He chose it so we could be closer together. All through my service year, i was the one doing the visiting because he later started working in abj around that time which kept him busy and tired.
So, i thought it was only proper for me to be visiting.
We ended up having sex on one of the visits and that was 3 years down the relationship.

He's a very good guy, doesn't pressurize me, loves me, not promiscious, but he has a bad habit of not picking up hints and he doesn't know how to talk also.

Whenever i travelled, i went with foodstuffs, utensils and appliances he might need. So, it left me broke as a corper at times. At times, i randomly say I'm broke to him and he buys data when offline. My problem with that is i wish he payed more attention.
All through almost 4 years now, i never asked for a dime and he never gave me.

I once had a boi seminar in abj and of course i used the opportunity to see the love of my life. Nysc orientation camp was given as accommodation. So, there was this day i saw some clothes i liked and wished to buy. So, while chatting, i told him i saw some nice clothes i liked. I expected him to say something like let me add something for you but he merely said ehn ehn. Ended up buying all myself which he later saw too. This is just one instance. I honestly cant remember others. I don't keep tabs on things like this.

Before you castigate me, what I'm saying is i just want to feel special. All through the time i went to abj, he never for once took me out. We were always inside on weekends and i was always alone weekdays since i belonged to ministry of no work lol (served at local govt secretariat). I didn't hate it as i don't really like being around people.

I'm from a richer family than him which makes me have more money than him. I sort him out with little whenever he didn't have enough on him. I'm not comparing us now but even if i have, i just want him to be my man and make me feel loved by doing even little for me.

I'm very easy to please, very simple and i definitely love hard. Just writing me a note, buying me a book, basically little gestures can make me smile. I'm light hearted.

Trust was never an issue between us.

There were however days i wanted to break up with him because of his bad manners. (doesn't know how to talk and since I'm a words person, it gets to me a lot) He knows that but isn't willing to compromise on that little for me. This is our biggest problem. I'm quick to say sorry, thank you, i forgive you but him, he wouldn't talk to me for days till after so much teasing and cajoling from me..

Honestly, aside this, we are perfect for each other based on our mutual likes for stuffs but love is never enough.

THE FIGHT.
I told him i was broke. He wanted to purchase a shirt on aliexpress. i always do that for him and he sent 6k extra.
I knew the extra was for me but i just wanted him to say it. He got pissed. Didn't say but i knew and told me to ask anyone about the money situation. That is why he sent extra. That was the first time ever he decided to send me money so, i was surprised because there were several times he could have but didn't.
I told him the next day asking anyone wasn't necessary but i had something to say. I kind of let it all out. Not angrily, just said my mind. He was angry of course but i didn't think he would take it so serious. He compared me to his exs, said i have pride and don't appreciate stuffs. I was pissed he would say that to me cos it's not true.
What followed was "kindly send my money back"
Didn't expect it and it came as a shock. I really felt disgusted by that statement so i sent it to him.
Then he said kindly get yourself another boyfriend.
Ah ah, biggest shocked of my life and blocked me on whatsapp.

Reached him via text but he didn't reply. So, i gave him a break.
Later sent him a mail which he replied. We talked and seemed like we were having it back together and i merely asked him to apologize for he said to me and he said he wouldn't. All i wanted was i'm sorry for my harsh words.
I decided not to beg him this time. Each time we have issues which mostly he's wrong, i apologize. I really can't bear him not talking to him. I don't keep friends, i tell him everything like everything, my world basically evolves around him. My first bf, i don't believe in multi. He has been saying we should get married but i just don't have it together yet. So, i was already saying team 2020 lol.

I have never imagined myself with any other guy but why can't he just say something as little as I'm sorry.
I'm sorry to me can make me forgive anyone for anything they've done for me.

I don't always have to do the begging. What if we get married. I'd get tired of begging him.
There were times i wanted to break up with him but i always find a lot of reasons to stay and he'd beg me not to say it again but now its reversed and he can't even find a reason to stay. Really painful.

No calls, no messages. I'm going crazy.

Now that it seems like we've broken up, i can barely eat, sleep(always waking up with a swollen eyes from crying. My sisters already said i have apollo sef). I can't think straight, I'm slow etc
There are so many guys asking me out but i can't bring myself to go on dates.
It feels weird that it's not with him.

I basically don't know where to start from. It has just been one guy for almost 4 years. 17-21yrs.

How do i move on or forget him? is there an easy way?

This is just a brief summary. I can occupy the entire front page if were to go in details.

You can ask me questions.

Zoharariel:
What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings.

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile.

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.

emmabest2000:
Forgiveness is not enough without forgetting

You have to forgive and forget


Meanwhile sometimes it’s not what we see that matters

Earthbound:
Did she just f****** say she forgives both of them? Implying that she forgives her mother too? She forgives her mother for not aborting such a hornyy spaz. Already collecting senior man pricck in secondary school. Child of the world





This is why it's scary to have a female child. You just know one day, a dick will change her life forever(positive or negative)......no matter how much money you spend in grooming her.

madamGift:
This is me trying to put my emotions into writing..

Growing up with my mum wasn't quite easy. She was a disciplinarian and I was a stubborn child. She would flog the hell out of me and punish me so much until my dad comes to my rescue. At some point I even asked my dad if this woman was the one who actually gave birth to me.
Eventually somewhere along the line in my teenage hood, we became close friends! She was my best friend, my confidant and everything good you could think of.
She came to my aid when things were so rough even when it wasn't quite convenient for her.
I graduated, even got a job before NYSC and then NYSC. My sister recently graduated as well. My mom was super proud.
The next pressure became marriage!
Gift get married...get married.. 2019 is your deadline oh she would say jokingly!
She called me every blessed day.. My mum would give me 15 missed calls straight.. she would call and call and wouldn't stop until I pick up, when I eventually did pick up, I would scream and complain about the so many calls and she would just calmly say..sorry ma, I just wanted to hear your voice or tell me something before she forgets it!
I had promised to come home on the 27th of December for new year.. She even asked that I get her some items from lagos..
11th of December 2018, She called me in the morning as usual.. we talked and talked and gisted and laughed and she mentioned she was feeling stressed and had seen her doctor the previous day. I urged her to get adequate rest and promised to call in the evening to check on her. Past 4pm same day, I was called and informed my sweetest mum of only 54 years had passed on in her sleep. 11th of December, 5days before I turned 25.
12th of December I flew into Port-harcourt from Lagos as early as I could because I didn't believe it. Only to see for myself, my mom's body in the mortuary.
I can't begin to explain the pain I feel.. only those who have experienced it can relate.
She laboured and laboured for us and just when she was about to begin to eat the fruits of her labours, she has left me!
There is this feeling of emptiness I can't describe. My chest hurts off and on.
People around have been trying to console me telling me God knows why? Does He? My mum was the strongest in the entire family at large, why will she leave us so soon? She wasn't even sick for us to say we tried our best to take care of her or there wasn't enough money to give her the proper medical care she needed? No terminal disease? Just gone like that?

How can I deal with this?

mogbojaiye:
It's a shame, nigeria are passing tru hell both home and abroad and this is the best he can do, ,,,its a shame everybody wan reign like fella kuti but lack all it takes to b like him

abbey621:
I know nothing? Come over to yankee and see the hundreds of rap artiste rapping about nonsense yet they are in the game. Out of every nonsense there is some sort of sense.

SmilingMary:
Emotionally u r going to suffer if or when u marry that lady.... So many signs trying to tell u not to go ahead with the marriage...

abbey621:
A good musician knows his or her base and adapts to it. Olamide's music is for the street, once in a while he does something for everyone but mostly it's for the street. The question haters should be asking is simple, why would he change a winning formula? The more outrageous, the better and honestly this guy is smiling to the bank....That's what I call genius!