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[quote author=eleojo23 post=31645271]Someone once said, 'it is ultimately only our own thoughts that hurt us'.

We often find ourselves at war with our minds. Our minds lie to us and make irrational excuses because it wants comfort. It is afraid of discomfort, pressure and change. The mind is absorbed in its comfort zone, and anytime we try to stretch that zone too far, for too long, the mind tries desperately to get back to ground zero at any cost… including sacrificing our long-term health, happiness and success.

In this post, we will expose some of these lies and the need to guard against falling for them.
Before I continue, I have to give credit to Marc Chernoff of marcandangel.com whose article inspired this post. I have made some alterations to the original post by using my own words but there are still places where I used his words verbatim.

Now let's get started.

Here are some of those lies and excuses that keep us from making desired changes and progress in our lives.

1. I can’t do it.
Because it seems too difficult at first, you think you can’t stick to the positive change you’re making. You begin to doubt your ability to take another step. This is a common lie/excuse that can be countered by looking at the fact that other people no more capable than you have done it. You need to tell yourself, “If he/she can do it, so can I!” And with time you will see that you were right- you could do it after all. Truth be told, the only person who can tell you “I can’t” is you. If you hear those words echoing in the back of your mind, tune them out. Realize that your doubts and your faith have something in common – they both ask you to believe in something you can’t see. You simply have to decide which one you want to believe.

2. They can do it, but that doesn’t apply to me because they have it better than me.
You think just because someone else can, doesn’t mean you can, right? You look for reasons they can do it but you can’t – maybe he’s a good writer because he has no kids. She’s way smarter than I am, that's why she always gets the best deals. She doesn’t have all the work and family obligations I have, or has a supportive spouse, that's why she can do what she does.
OK, fine, it’s easy to find excuses: but look at all the other people who also have considerable obstacles and have done it anyway. Stories abound of people with disabilities or illnesses who overcame their obstacles to achieve great things. You too can join the league of such 'champions'.
Let me share one of my own experiences before we go on to the next point.
As I was growing up, my friend was better than in school. I never thought I could be as good as he because I told myself 'He is from a family of intellectuals, his dad is a PhD holder in a very analytical field and he will soon become a professor, his brothers are also good and always take the first position or second when they want to relax a bit.' So I felt disadvantaged. Unfortunately, I believed this lie for a long time until I saw my own potential and realised that I had caged myself with a lie.

3. No one will support this decision/ choice/action.
Have you ever had a novel idea and felt that nobody will share your vision? Hear what Ghandi has to say: "Hesitating to act because the whole vision might not be achieved, or because others do not yet share it, is an attitude that only hinders progress." Don't conclude that your dream cannot come true until you have tried all possible means available to achieve it. Most times we place the death verdict on our dreams/goals even before they are born.
You never know what’s possible until you risk finding out. In the long run, there is only one thing that makes your dreams and goals completely impossible to achieve: Your lack of action today.

4. I’m stuck because I don’t have
enough time to make changes.
It is more important to know where you are going and why, than to get there quickly. In fact, the most important thing in life is knowing what the most important things in life are, and prioritizing them accordingly. The truth is, you write your own destiny through the choices you make every day. You become what you repeatedly do. Most of us spend too much time on urgent things and not enough time on important things. So do yourself a favor and implement these three action steps every time you’re building or sorting your to-do list: 1) Think about the difference between what is urgent and what is important. 2) Review all the obligations on your list. 3)Do what’s important first.

5. It’ll be too hard because I can’t do without _______.
Fill in the blank: I need my wine, my TV shows, my ten hours of sleep, my big house, my fancy wardrobe, or whatever it is that you consider very important. These are luxuries we convince ourselves we can’t live without, so we can justify not making positive changes like eating healthier or saving money or simplifying our lives or building a profitable side hustle. I’m not immune either – in the past I’ve made these excuses myself, but they all turned out to be lies. I could do without most of those things, and and so can you. Believing that you can't do without those things you hold so dear only gets in the way of the positive changes you are capable of creating for yourself. Your TV shows may be preventing you from finishing that book, studying well or attending to your job properly. Cutting down on the amount of time you spend doing the things you so cherish (which are not productive in any way) can greatly increase your productivity in things that really matter.

6. Life is meant to be easier and enjoyed more.
Sure, I agree that life should be enjoyed (as most people would) but the problem is that the idea that life should ALWAYS be easy and enjoyable is used to justify all kinds of lazy behavior. You might as well sit on the couch with some juice in hand and watch TV all day, because hey, life is meant to be enjoyed, right? (Friend, if you continue that way, your landlord will soon throw you off that couch and out of his house for not paying your rent and your juice can will be replaced with 'pure'/ sachet water!)

So you see that constantly being in the 'enjoyment mode' will land you in a mess. Fact is, you can give up a lot of comfort in your life and not lose a thing. In fact, the path of least resistance is often the path of least reward.
There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. You must run to be a runner. You must write to be a writer. You must actively work on a business venture to learn how to run a successful business. There is no substitute for doing the work. So meditate on this every day: “I will do the work. It won’t be easy. It will be worth it!”

7. I deserve a reward (or a break).
We all deserve a tasty treat, or a day off. I’m not saying you shouldn’t give yourself a reward or break when one is deserved. But if you make this rationalization a primary rule for living, you’ll always be on a break. You’ll always be giving yourself rewards, and never adhering to the original plan. Here’s what you should do instead: See sticking to your plan as the reward itself. See reaching your goals as a gift you give myself. Going on a run isn’t the thing you have to get through to get a reward – the run is the reward.

8. I can do it later.
Sure, you can always do it later… but your later self will feel the same exact way. Think about it: Why should your later self be more disciplined than your present self? There’s no reason. In fact, because you’re allowing yourself to slack off now, you’re building a habit of procrastination and actually making it less likely that your later self will be more disciplined.
This excuse is one which 99% of us are guilty of. I have put off writing this post to a later time several times since the thought came to me. I kept telling myself, I will write it this evening...no, tomorrow...oh men I'm so tired already, I'll make sure I write it unfailingly on Wednesday. And so I kept postponing it. The fact that you are reading this post means that I refused to give myself that excuse any further. I have overcome this one but there are yet many more instances in the future where I will have to fight against this excuse. So it is for everyone of us. Everyday we are tempted to push things to the next day.
But today, stop making excuses for why you can’t get it done and start focusing on all the reasons why you must make it happen.
Stop talking about what you have done or what you are going to do. Just do it and let your actions speak for themselves. Most great things in life don’t happen by chance, they happen by choice.

9. One time won’t hurt.
This lie is so tempting, because it’s somewhat true – one time won’t hurt. Assuming, of course, that it really is only one time. One scoop of ice cream, one extra hour of sleep, one time procrastinating instead of working, etc.
Unfortunately, it’s never just one time. One time means your brain now knows it can get away with this excuse next time too, and the next “one time” leads to another, until you’ve completely fallen off the wagon. Make a pact with yourself: never believe the “one time” lie. If you’re going to allow yourself six hours of sleep, decide this beforehand and build it into your plan – “I will allow myself six hours of sleep every weekday” and stick to your plan, rather than deciding on the spot when your conscience is weak. It makes you more disciplined and helps you make definite progress.

10. It’s better to quit now and cut my losses.
As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is never final, failure is never fatal. It is courage to continue that counts.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. Persistence is the mother of all productive effort. Failures, small and large, happen every day to the best of us. The strongest, most productive
people aren’t the people who always succeed, but the ones who don’t give up when they lose. In the heat of the moment when you feel like quitting, think about how far you have come and why you started in the first place. Oftentimes you’re a lot closer to making a breakthrough than you think. Some people give up their efforts when they have almost reached their goal, while others conquer their goals by exerting, up until the very last possible second, more vigorous efforts than ever before. Bottom line: Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit – so KEEP GOING!

11. It’s already too late.
Nothing is too late until your tired heart stops beating. If you’re reading this right now, it means you are still alive, which means it’s not too late for you.
Things can change if you want them to at any time.
However, while accepting the fact that you can change things at any time, don't give the excuse that you've got all the time in the world. That would be going to the extreme because tomorrow is not in your hands. The point being made here is that no matter the stage you are now, change is still possible. Irrespective of what you think you've lost, focus on the present and make the best out out of it.
Right now you can choose differently and make something new happen. Your future is immediate. Grab on to it with both hands and keep moving on. When you come up on a roadblock and are faced with the choice of sitting down and doing nothing or doing something to make further progress, choose the latter.
Think, work, and climb if you have to. Move your life forward.
Today!

OK. We have seen some of the lies and excuses that our minds always come up with. Can you remember any other lie/excuse that often hinder our progress? Feel free to contribute.[/quote


True talk

Eku orire....Mo bayin yoo....Temi naa a de laipe loruko jesu o...

yibomustgo:

The 3rd picture though!

Baba ngbadura ni ile ijosin,Omo nya aworan kakiri sori Facebook....wa ba eru nibode...Omo lasan lasan ikeji aja...Jur ko ara e daa sihoun jare...

I pray God save the lives of the victims...

olayheamy:
Is anyone else facing this same problem? I registered last year november for nysc and I paid but because my school did not send my name, I was not mobilized. I tried to register again yesterday but I got an error message that said my email address already been used, I thought it was a mix up so I opened another account and continued. When it was time to submit the online form, I got an error message that said my matric number had already been used. I was later made to understand that I was not supposed to try to register at all since I already had an account.Now that I know what to do, I cannot log in as an existing user and print the neccesary documents and I cannot use the new account I created to register. PLEAAAAASSEE HELP

Go to the NYSC secretariat of the state in which you are and also try and make this issue known at the NYSC headquarters too as the secretariat might not take the case as serious as it seems and bear in mind that you would need to be on your toes to see that this issue is sorted...Wish you best of luck...

kayciano:
If na some BABES them go wear PANT as blouse...
See how CUTE she is...despite not revealing her spots

Na so...First thing wey i first think too..If na some wannaBe babes,na to go semi-nude/Skimpy go dey dem head....

sexymoma:
ST Soap though
I still remember their song
Ose St ma re o.. eh
Ose St ma re o..eh
ikan daara fun'we lasan...eh
ikan daara fun'aso fifo..eh
oun foso mo ki jaso o bo
o le koko kin jewo o jare
ose St ma re ooo..eh

#YouKilledMewithLaughter#....I remember that song well...

Happy Birthday Daddy G.O....More grace over you and all that concerns you...Amen.

MizMyColi:
Amen

I have just one stationed very close to Sambisa.
The only son of his mother.

I pray for his safe return too.

Amen

lalasticlala:
A prisoner suspected of being a member of insurgent group Boko Haram sits in the field base of Chadian soldiers in Gambaru, Nigeria, February 26, 2015.

My take is that when any of those folks are caught they should be interrogated very well as to telling the army who they are working for...I mean their boss and with that we can get to the end of this insurgency trouble..

Lmao....I sure knew a topic to counter what one would find a female hostel would come up soon and within hours here it comes...All hail out female nairalanders...

Kx:
Hm, will be surprised if ppl drop info on this thread.
Just happen that at times like this even those that stays at Oja, Mafolokwu, Arowojobe, Sogunle, Beesam etc will claim to be residents of Banana Island!

You just kill it...

Oshodi pple rep ur adugbo and forget claiming Ogede Island oh...

kent79:
Politicians visiting Pastors since 1429BC

Whats with this visiting of Pastors by all those candidates....Do what is right and get voted for...

Happy Married Life Pastor...

SenatorJames:
Congrats to him. So he is not married before.


...time and chances happeneth to them all.

Thumbs up....Time and Chance does happeneth to them all...It was truly worth the wait....Congrats to my Pastor once again.

Congrats bro....God bless and keep him.

And you think Rice giving is the solution to the people's problemI shake my head in pity for thy people...

Please i am in need of a room self-contain or Boys quarters apartment(150k - 200k per yr) within any of the listed locations:

Gbagada
Ogudu
Anthony
Mende
Maryland
Obanikoro
Unilag Gate environs
Abule Oja
Sabo
Alagomeji
Yaba

Needed as soon as possible please...Thank you..

tunbebes:
Awon ti area...Modele,Lisabi,Banjo,Fagbile,Clegg,Nathan...

Ori e waa nbe....YaSpotted

iRepSurulere.....

Who is Tayo?
What is BBA?..

Fine Arts and Mathematics

I was walking past under bridge Ikeja just a stone throw from Computer Village (CV has it is now fondly called) and i heard one of the pink lips guys who had this piercing on his lips and eye lid saying "Baby,Do you want to tight your pussy"? I was shocked and turned round and the lady stopped and looked at the guy from head to toe,hissed and walked away.....I was shocked and thought he was kidding by adding that option of tightening the pussy to it but notice that option has also been added to the pink lips advert...nothing wey we no go hear or see for CV.....

another thing is the rate of girls (Young upcoming pros and older aunties) storming Computer Village every day to fiddle around with phone sellers all in the name of getting the latest phone in town..Most of such girls are there to throw their legs apart just to own the latest phone....out of every 10 shops in Computer village there would always be a girl sitting there just fiddling with the shop owner just to get the latest phone in exchange for hot round of continuous bleeping...That Computer Village sha....

pheesayor:
There was no fire today, I just left Obalende. Maybe the OP is circulating a stale BC.

OP...Please look into this post and let's know what to believe because from all indications this is a case sensitive news which shouldnt be seen or tagged as a joke.

Barbados,Dominicans,Maldives or any of the island in South American.....So help me God..