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Mothers do have high affection for their
children, especially for their male child.
Sometimes the attachment for these male
children is so strong and difficult to let go, even
after their wedding.
Recently I conducted a poll, asking married
people both men and women, “why the friction
between a mother and her daughter in-law?” I
got resourceful feedback. Before I continue let
me state here that because of the strong bond a
male child has with his mother it is difficult for
him to disobey or not to grant her request,
ladies please don’t try to change that. So from
the pool of response I got, I have prepared for
you (brides) five (5) ways that will help you be
in your mother-in-law’s good book.

1.DON'T TRY TO OUT-DO HER
As a wife you can’t separate your spouse from
his mother , you just have to manage the
situation. The fact that you were married into
that family and you have succeeded in
displacing her from her position as the first
lady in her son’s life should not get to your
head. Don’t try to outdo her or compete with
her, remember she was there way back before
you came. Remember in life there are
boundaries; learn not to cross the line.

2.HELP OUT WITH CHORE
Many times when my fiancée and I visit my
mother, and she sees my mother doing any
chores, my fiancée make sure that she takeover
the chores from her. When my fiancée is
around, my mother doesn’t trouble herself with
work around the house. By so doing my fiancée
has endeared herself to my mother. In Nigeria,
new brides or soon-to-be brides are tested by
their characters and her ability to manage the
home, others are doing domestic activities,
cooking and taking care of her in-laws. So any
bride that wants to be in the good book of her
mother-in-law should take cognizance of the
aforementioned observation.

3.RESPECT
In every home respect is paramount, in Nigeria
it is extremely important to show respect to
your mother-in-law before/after your wedding
with her son. Apart from been your mother-in-
law, she is way older than you and more
experience than you in issue pertaining to
family life and keeping a home together. That
alone is enough to show her respect. Go to her
for advice; tell her your difficult situation with
the kids at home, she will put you through
because she understands the family more than
you do. Ask her for information about her son,
you be amazed that tips you got can go a long
way to make your home a happy place.

Get full article at www.amarachia..com/2016/03/5-ways-to-help-bride-be-in-her-mother.html

southniyikaye:
pls challenge me

did you read where i wrote that the price will increase, when all other packages are added.
go through the write up again and come back to challenge me

southniyikaye:
I wanted to say this is trash but immediately I saw the type of low end camera u displayed,then I reserved my comment.so what sort of package are you giving for 15k? With the current cost of printing! And what sort of wedding package doesn't include atleast I mean atleast a photo album? Oga stop spoiling photo business,you are an amateur from just this ur write up,I can categorically tell you are an upcoming.challenge me.

is that all you have got

Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life and you need a good photographer to capture every bit of that special moment. Wedding photographs help to immortalize your special day. Capturing a rare moment like friends and family you haven’t seen for long reunite on your wedding day, wedding photographers can help you preserve that priceless moment.


Whether you like it or not wedding photography is an important part of any wedding ceremony. Wedding photography shouldn’t be perceived the way people look at it today – that is it too expensive or photographers are so exploitative. Mind you they are in business to make profit.


I just want to point out that, it is not all packages a photographer is offering that should be swallowed hook, line and sinker by the couple. They should pick packages that are more important, that is – You should be able to pay for the service you want and also reduce cost. You can hire a wedding photographer for as low as N15000 (fifteen thousand naira), but this price may increase if the wedding ceremony is taking place out the photographer’s work station like state/country and also when you are requesting for extra services.

Therefore, for couple working on a tight budget, this is how you can hire a wedding photographer at a an affordable cost.

Contact any photographer around you or any one recommended to you.
Tell him/her what’s your budget are for your wedding photography. Eg N15000.
Tell him/her the quantity or numbers of photograph you want (hard copies), so he should focus more on important moment or aspect of the
wedding celebrations....... Continue Reading at http://amarachia..com/2016/03/how-to-hire-professional-wedding-photographer.html

I will stop here for now, for more details call +2348065250773

tpiah11:
ok.


Did you receive word that some quarters are shopping for a bride or something?

just curious.

Ask me again

Few weeks ago I wrote on the traditional wedding of the EWE and AKAN people from Ghana, the article spark up interesting comments and observations from readers especially those from Ghana. One recurrent observation is the door knocking ceremony done by the groom and his people. I want to say thank you all for your comments. Today I will be writing on the traditional wedding customs of the Akuapem people.

The Akuapem people are multi-ethnic; they are a combination of Guans (volta-camoe speaking) and Akan people (kwa-speaking). The Akuapem are the most humble set of people in Ghana, they are also peaceful and respectful too. There is a saying about the Akuapem people, “they are the only people that apologizes to you even when they want to insult you”. For instance, when you annoy an Akuapem man, he will say “I am very sorry but you are a fool”. Hahahaha!!! Funny isn’t it.

TRADITIONAL WEDDING CUSTOMS AMONG THE AKUAPEM

When a young man finds a woman he wants to marry, he discusses with his parent about it. The parent sends out search to look into the girl’s character and family history. Satisfied by the findings the man’s parent reaches out to girl’s parent through a spokesperson about their son intention. A bottle of gin is presented, the girl’s parent will discharge the messenger, and the reply to their quest will be communicated to them in due cause.

The parent of the bride carries out their own investigation about the man’s family. When the girl has agreed to marry the man and her parent also satisfied with the outcome of their search, words are sent to the in-law through the spokesperson for a date fix for both families to formally meet each other.
On the said date the groom present a bottle of gin and some money, this act is known as the door knocking – officially proposing to court her.

WEDDING CELEBRATION

The wedding event is adorned with beautiful colors and gorgeous Akuapem clothing/attire. There are a lot to eat and drink, the whole place filled with people both young and old.
The bride will sit on a wooden stool at the side of her parent and her paternal uncle; it’s the duty of her paternal uncle to give her hand out in marriage on behalf of her father

Get complete article at http://amarachia..com/2016/03/traditional-wedding-custom-of-akuapem.html

Flexherbal:
Noted.

ok nw

They say “diamonds are girl’s best friend” but I would say wedding photographs are bride’s pride. Every woman want to look her best especially in her wedding photograph. No matter how old she is, she never jokes with their wedding photographs. So for any wedding photographer who want to get good recommendation from clients and non-stop job offer – make sure you make the bride look her best and very beautiful in her wedding photograph.

SERVICES PROVIDED BY WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHERS
• Photo-book and Album
• Photo enlargement and framing
• Providing hardcopies of pictures
• Providing softcopies of pictures
PHOTO-BOOK is the most trendy when it comes to wedding photography; it is all about having everything that took place on the wedding day in a book-like form. In other words, a photo-book narrates in detail all what had happened during the wedding to some one that was not opportune to attend the wedding. Photo-book comes in different sizes and designs. Also, the number of pages in the photo-book is also another deciding factor. Therefore, what you want determines how much you’re going to pay.

Price tag for 50 page (photo-book)

12x10= N40000

16x12= N70000

20x16= N90000-120000
NB: the money sign is Naira

PHOTO-ALBUM is somehow going out of fashion, but it is still relevant in wedding photography. Photo-album comes in different sizes (10x8, 12x10, 16x12, 20x16, 24x20 etc), color and number of pages. The amount a photographer will charge you also depend on the earlier factor

PHOTO ENLARGEMENT AND FRAMING: this is one of the biggest selling strategies for any wedding photographer; a wedding is not complete if there is no photo-enlargement. Therefore, to make your wedding memory lives on, you should have some pictures from your wedding enlarged, framed and hung on the wall of your sitting room or any other place you choose to have them. Photo-enlargement and framing comes in different sizes too. The size determines the price. Also, the quality of the framing material is another deciding factor too.
10x8= N6000
12x10= N8000
16x12= N20000-16000
20x16= N40000-30000

#JafelConcept
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Advantages of inter-cultural marriage

The benefit of inter-cultural marriages cannot be over emphasized. It is a galvanizing tool in bridging the gaps in our nation. Inter- cultural marriages has greatly influenced globalization, where people of different backgrounds, cultures and religions are living together, and where the world has become multicultural and full of diversity, establishing tolerance and harmony has become very crucial and important, and fostering mutual love and affection has become vital. Without tolerance and harmony the lasting peace of societies cannot be maintained, and loyalty for each other cannot be established.

Inter- cultural marriage help to build up love. Where love does not exist, then the spirit of sacrifice cannot be formed. Unless a person loves another he can never have good feelings in his heart towards him, and he cannot faithfully fulfill the rights due to that person.

Lack of tolerance leads to fighting, violence, and finally it destroys the peace and security of society. When people fail in their arguments they become intolerant, and then they use force and aggression to support their point of view.

In conclusion the debate about inter-cultural marriage is an issue in which nobody wins and nobody loses. I may be crucified for my position here. But the truth is that if we claim to be refined and modern then our orientation must change. The unity of our dear nation should be paramount in everyone’s mind; to achieve this, inter-cultural marriages have to be encouraged. The benefit is enormous!!!


Let the Argument begin…send in your comments and observations.
http://amarachia..com/2016/03/inter-cultural-marriage-tool-for-nation.html

What is inter-cultural marriage? Inter-cultural marriage is the marital union between two people of different cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

Inter-cultural marriage is one topic that raises a lot argument when it is discussed even among people of elite background. Inter-cultural marriage comes with a lot of Advantages toward integrating our people, especially during this turbulent time in our nation history. The benefits of inter-cultural marriage outweighs it limitations. Before I continue, let us sit back and take a sip of ice cold water.
In Nigeria today, marital beliefs are gradually changing as more people are more educated and enlightened. This is the reason a would-be brides and grooms would met and fell in love in the city without the customary search party who are concerned specialists in “hunting” for wives for their sons due for marriage. Today a good percentage of young people are chosen people of different ethnicity and are venturing into inter-cultural marriages. Many of such young men and women now have the listening ears of their parents and kindred more than ever before in this rapidly changing societies.


Factors that encourages inter-cultural marriages

A number of factors such as education, migration and religion are responsible for encouraging inter-cultural marriages.

Education is the biggest tool that has really encouraged inter-cultural marriages. It has provided a suitable ground for inter-cultural marriage to flourish. Schools as an important cen­ter of socialization outside its primary func­tions of inculcating knowledge, has made people to understand themselves better due to the social interac­tions between them. Most educated people tend to have broadminded approach to dealing with people and issues. This trend has broadened the minds of would be spouses that searching for marital partners should be based on tolerance, love and compatibility and not ethnicity or culture.

Also, as people move from rural to urban areas in search of better living, education and other en­gagements, they live in big cities where they share work environment, residential areas with people from diverse ethnic back­grounds, by so doing there are high chances that people from different ethnic groups and religion may find true com­panionship and love among themselves.

http://amarachia..com/2016/03/inter-cultural-marriage-tool-for-nation.html

When you want to legalize your marriage or planning a civil wedding in any marriage Registry, there are steps and requirements you need know. Firstly you should approach the Registrar of Civil Marriages to declare your intention. It is important for you to be conversant of what to expect and gather information on how to proceed. In this article we will be looking at factors or things that will be an impediment to your smooth ride in getting your civil wedding legalized in any marriage registry in Nigeria.

Subsisting Marriage

According to the Marriage Act – Parties will lack the capacity to embark on a civil wedding if either of them is already married under the Act to another person and the marriage has not been dissolved by any court of law. In addition, section 33 (1) of the Marriage Act states that no marriage in Nigeria shall be valid where either of the parties thereto at the time of the celebration of such marriage is married by native law or custom to any other person other than the person with whom such marriage is had. The Registrar must be satisfied that there is no subsisting statutory or customary law marriage on the part of the parties wishing to marry under the Act, he shall not issue them with a certificate to marry under the Act.

Age

Age is an important factor that is considered to have civil wedding in any marriage registry. According to the Marriage Act which states ‘that unless a party is a widow or widower, there is need to obtain the written consent of either the parents or guardians where such person is under the age of twenty-one years’. ‘The Act further provides in section 49 that whoever shall marry or assist any person to marry a minor under the age of twenty-one years, not being a widow or widower, shall be liable to imprisonment for two years’. Consent In a civil wedding, parental consent of both the male and female parties is a legal requirement but only in cases where either or both of the parties are under the age of twenty-one years.

Consent

In a civil wedding, parental consent of both the male and female parties is a legal requirement but only in cases where either or both of the parties are under the age of twenty-one years.

Kindred and Affinity

If anyone plans to get a civil wedding there must make sure that there is no impediment of kindred or affinity between them. The list of prohibited degrees of consanguinity and affinity applies to statutory marriages and it is provided in Schedule 1 of the Matrimonial Causes Act (MCA). A Registrar will not honour any parties with a certificate to marry unless satisfied by reason of a sworn affidavit by the parties that there is no such impediment. A marriage between two persons who are within the prohibited degree of consanguinity or affinity is void. Under section 4 of the MCA, where persons are within the prohibited degrees of affinity and desire to marry, they may apply in writing to a Judge for permission to do so and if the Judge is satisfied that there are exceptional circumstances, the Judge may by an order permit the parties to marry one another. This is what the prohibited degrees of consanguinity and affinity have to say:

continuing reading from http://amarachia..com/2015/09/4-things-to-consider-when-planning-your.html

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Soon-to-be couples want their wedding day to be memorable. Of course we want a wedding that’s perfect to the last detail, but I want you to bear in mind that every successful wedding ceremony relies on a combination of trustworthy and competent vendors. It can be challenge finding the right vendor you need for your dream wedding. So friends for that perfect wedding you have been dreaming of, you need vendors who are expert, to help will bring your wedding vision to fruition. Here are A-Z expert tips on how to choose a wedding vendor:

Work out your budget in advance
Finance, most time is a deciding factor when it comes to planning for any Event/ wedding, so make wide consultation from friends and family that have gone through this process before – use their advice and your wants to forecast what your expenditures might look like. Write down all aspect of your wedding plans and place a price range on them, for example, know the number of guests and place price range on catering. Do same for photography, wedding venue, wedding dresses, makeup, DJ, Entertainments, transports, etc.

It's also important to discuss your major likes and dislikes with your spouse. That way, you're both on the same page about what your wants in the wedding process.
With this entirely put in place, making the right choice on wedding vendors that fits into your plan wouldn’t be as hectic as perceived.

Source for vendors
After ironing out your budget, where do you start? It is best to work with already tested hands, I would say you asked friends and family (especially those that got married recently) if they can recommend any wedding vendor, they have worked with. They can also let you know if there are any companies you should steer clear of! They can help you to negotiate better because they have built close relationship with vendors – the cordial may work in your favor.

Also social media is an excellent tool for sourcing wedding vendors. The wedding industry has a huge presence on Twitter (@okoroaforhold2) and Instagram most wedding suppliers now have their own Facebook pages too, so you can find out more about them and interact with them or book an appointment to meet with them one-on-one.

Meeting with vendors
Firstly, when meeting wedding vendors; make sure they meet your predetermined plans, but if you finds out they are over your budget discuss with them if there are ways they could adjust their service to fit your budget. Be honest with your wedding vendors about your plans for the day and your budget, this will help both sides in negotiations. Photographers for example may be able to reduce he/her services to suit your budget.

Always follow your instincts when chosen your wedding vendors, Weigh out all of your options. If you don’t feel confident with any vendor go for the other.
Once you have chosen you preferred wedding vendors, have an agreement that clearly details the service they are providing and when all payments are due, from the initial deposit to the final payment.

To continue with this Article visit:http://amarachia..com.ng/2015/12/a-to-z-expert-tips-on-how-to-choose-wedding-vendors.html

Jos the capital of Plateau state, is one of the most exquisite places in Nigeria. This land is blessed with gorgeous vegetation and topographical beauty, with breath taking scenery.

If you are looking for a once in a lifetime experience with nature or you are planning to hold an out-door wedding in a serene and cozy natural environment, look no further because we have 3 exquisite out-door locations in the heart of Jos central business districts, where you can relax, breath in fresh air and have friendly environment for children.
In no particular other, Amarachia.com brings to you beautiful and exciting locations you could hold your out-door traditional weddings, white weddings and co-operate functions.

JUST RELAX GARDENS

With the slogan; a test of nature, a touch of class, a blend of beauty. Just relax gardens is indeed in a world of its own, with blends of nature artistically design and intertwine with lush vegetation.

To continue with this post click on the link below
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wtf ...what are you saying?

UBI FRANKLIN tied the knot with his loving bride, Actress LILIAN ESORO. The traditional wedding at took place at the bride’s family home in Magodo Area of Lagos State. The traditional wedding had in attendance notable celebrities like DJ Jimmy Jatt, Yomi Causal and many more.

Remember superstar Iyanya is one of the artiste under the label.

Here are some of the photos from their traditional wedding posted by UBI FRANKLIN on his Instagram page.
<<<MORE PICS>>>http://amarachia..com/2015/10/mmmgs-label-boss-ubi-franklin-and-his.html

A lot of notable personality had their weddings this year; our entertainment industry was not left out as well. Today we will bring to you some of Nigeria’s top celebrity weddings of year.


The year 2015 is gradually coming to an end and we can't help but look back at all those lovely events that made headlines.


We took time to study all celebrity weddings from the beginning of the year till date. Therefore, we are proud to announce to you our Top 9 celebrity weddings that rocked the Nigerian entertainment industry in 2015.

click the link to see the full list

http://amarachia..com/2015/10/review-top-9-nigerian-celebrity-weddings-rocked-industry-2015.html

For most brides if not all, looking fabulous and beautiful on her wedding day is a big deal. She takes her look seriously, because she is going to be the center of attraction all through the ceremony. Therefore, looking delightful, dashing and beautiful must be highly considered. One way to achieve this is by eating and living healthy.

Eating healthy food has enormous benefit; it helps us to look radiant and healthy, helps to repair or replace damage cells in the body, its prevent cardiovascular diseases, obesity and most importantly prevent inflammation and belly fat. For every bride planning for her wedding, there are healthy foods with anti inflammatory properties to add into your dietary plan if you want to be in-shape and dazzle your guest. These foods not only do they help you to stay healthy, it also prevent inflammation and belly fat.

Consider this; as a bride you have labored to find a perfect wedding dress for your wedding only for you to later discover that you can’t fit in to your wedding dress. Due to the fact that you have consumed food that causes inflammation. What an awkward situation that will be, but don’t worry I have painstakingly researched for healthy foods with anti inflammatory properties you need to add into your meal plan to help reduce or prevent belly fat before you say I do.

To continue with this article and find out about these foods please click
http://amarachia..com/2015/10/Before-you-say-i-do-healthy-food-bellyfat-inflammation.html

Haywhymido:
Common 10naira i wont put into such bag.When did it become a must to av a large scale wed,most esp. when u knew u cant afford it?

Good question

Blessinzy:
why do some girls cheat? please i have never cheated on my bf. believe it or leave it

Ok we believe you

babythug:
Must be a new trend!

I attended a wedding over the weekend and the MC asked two ladies/ushers to stand with bags. Next thing he asked guests *who love the couple and want to marry or have wedding ceremonies for their own children* to come out and place money in both bags.

I was appalled!!!!!!!!!!

From your own experience, I believe its d new trend now

Bishopmayowa:
I'm so happy for them...not a bad idea

Abi everything na sense now

Na wa oo. That man is sick, he needs medical evaluation.
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This is crazy... I go k**dem

I was in a wedding ceremony few weeks ago and something i have never seen before happened. I was confused and at the same time dumbfounded, to my greatest amusement this was what happened.

When the wedding ceremony was going on the Master of ceremony (MC), brought the couple out and stood them apart and he said "this wedding ceremony's venue was rented on credit, they need money to pay up. If you know you love this couple come and drop a thousand Naira to bail them out".

Take a look at the video and see how it goes.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJGmz7JGC5s

Prince Adegbite Sijuwade, one of the Sons of the late Ooni of Ife, Oba Okunade Sijuade got married to his heartthrob, TV personality and host, Marcy Dolapo Oni.

Their white wedding took place today in London.We wish them a happy married life.

Remember their traditional wedding ceremony took place in August two days after the death of Adegbite's dad the Ooni of Ife. SEE More PICTURES
http://amarachia..co.uk/2015/10/dolapo-oni-and-adegbite-sijuwade-late.html

Remember soon few months ago I brought to you the engagement news of TV host, former Big Brother Nigeria reality star Ebuka Obi-Uchendu to Cynthia Obianodo bearly six months after they met. Today this love birds are taking it the next level. see more pictures at
http://amarachia..com.ng/2015/10/adorable-pictures-from-ebuka-obi.html

The marriage vow renewal of Chief Oluwajimidare and Mrs. Oluremi was indeed spectacular, from the church service down to the reception venue was on point. The reception venue was decorated to befit the occasion with touches of splendor.

Exactly 35 years today, October 1, 1980 Chief Oluwajimidare and Mrs. Oluremi got married in Remo Ogun State . Not only did this date remind them of their marriage, it also a day Nigerians celebrate their independent from the British government.


Chief Oluwajimidare and Mrs. Oluremi were elated as they could not hide their joy after so many years they are still married to each other. Here is what Chief Oluwajimidare and Mrs. Oluremi got to say during their wedding vow renewal.....

http://amarachia..com/2015/10/wedding-vow-renewal-of-chief.htm

Remember I brought you news about Nigerian comedian AY whose brother Lanre Makun had his traditional wedding some days ago in Owerri.

Today Lanre Makun and Joy Ofoebu were joined in a stylish wedding that attracts lots of Celebrities in the entertainment industry. Here are pictures of Celebrities that grace the glamorous white wedding reception in Lagos.

see more pictures here http://amarachia..com.ng/2015/09/photos-celebrities-at-comedian-ays.html

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JOY AND MICHAEL got married today, the wedding has such unique style - from the bridesmaid to the groomsmen, down to everyone who attended this beautiful wedding. This is what they have to say


Michael Okala

Like every born again Christian our love story began in the church, we were dedicated worker and devoted children GOD. Sister precious is everything I could ask for in a wife, I am happy today my dream has finally come through. Asking her to become my wife was all the Holy Spirit doing – I proposed to her through my pastor. To my greatest surprise she has already gotten the revelation that we are going to be husband and wife, she told our pastor about it. She has been waiting for the revelation to be complete all this while, so when brought up the issue of wanting to marry Sister Joy, he smiled and said “thank God it is settled”. To cut long story short that day has finally come and I give good the glory.


Joy Onu

I don’t know to express my feeling and gratitude to God for making to come through in my life, after so many disappointments. I have waited upon the lord and today he has fulfilled his promise in my life. Brother Michael is god’s sent into my life and I bless God for that.


I have been mocked, called all sorts of name, but today God has given me my own. For people who said am not going witness marriage in my wife shame on you, not only that am married now, I did my wedding in the presence of God and in his people.


We give thanks to God almighty because it’s his guidance and support that has brought us this far. We also wish to express our heartfelt gratitude to our families who in numerous immeasurable ways contribute to the success of this special day in our lives. To our friends and well wishers thank you for your love, support and prayers. May the good Lord continually shower his Blessings upon you and grant you journey mercies to your various destinations. (Amen)

JOY&MICHAEL

http://amarachia..com.ng/2015/09/evangelist-joy-onu-michael-okala-tie.html

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