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Part 2 of this thread coming up.
FINANCIAL STABILITY AND MARRIAGE.
Brace up!
See you guys later.

MISFITrep:
pls o don't ever rate quest or murano above mercedes no matter how old the mercedes is...lol...abeg o

hahahahahahahaha. That old mercedes.
Very strong.

RaggedyAnn:
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My dear, that saying deserves to be mocked (every once in a while). Now, women are their own people, going after their personal successes, and responsible for themselves. They're no longer limited to being talismans for men, or cheerleaders, or sounding boards, or the queen on a chess board. This saying has caused some men to blame the woman they're with for their own personal failings; taking that thing called Lady Luck a bit too seriously.

The first person to say those words probably meant to acknowledge the influence of women in the lives of their husbands at a time when women didn't have much of a life for themselves. It's a very patronizing statement (as per: don't feel bad, your relevance is seen through your husband's success) and it unequivocally states the position of a woman. These days, however, both men and women pursue their dreams and get support from each other; so, that saying should be updated to reflect the progressed zeitgeist.


It's not a woman's work to stand behind a successful man. I think we stand beside them now. Because we also need to be motivated and encouraged to reach our goals.

O.M.G
*Standing Ovation*.
You are a Diamond.
Permission to share? Biko.
This comment is sweeter than Nkwobi.

sonofLuci:
Mehn you they samurai mode o aunty.

lols. Don't mind me jare.. I don't take it to heart, my heart is full of Love.

sonofLuci:
LOL aunty amara, please I have a question o

Bet what about if the rich guy goes bankrupt? I think the girls will run away because there won't be any money left. So how do we tackle that one?

thank you for the question.
Like I said before, being "BROKE" is not a big thing to hardworking guys, they put in effort and overcome it.
But being BROKE is like a huge mountain to many LAZY GUYS.
Ok?
BROKE is an identity and a guys with foresight and determination always try to escape it or throw it off.

eskorbrown:
So,a woman can't be comfortable with a 1-bedroom flat?Does she know how much ah pay for it?So,ah shud buy a Camry so dat she can be comfortable?? Aunty,fear God na.Wen ah finish school wey ah go cum do all dis ones?

ofcourse a woman can be comfortable with a one bedroom flat, though two will be better.
But expecting a lady to live with a guy in a public yard in this era in the name of "standing with a broke guy" is laughable.
Thats part of the points I was trying to make.

vingeophysicist:
u get mouth ooo infact u no be my role model again

she dragged me out of comfort zone.
Indirectly insulting a person's family in a response is undiplomatic and appalling dear.
Sometimes to catch a rat, you must behave like a rat.
Good afternoon dear

vizkiz:
Her points holds no weight. Just another low self esteem girl seeking for relevance and attention.

If she really needs to pass a message, her kinsmen are broke they need those words too why not send it to them as text

If they are wealthy we should have seen them on TV together with their mates (otedola, adenuga, E-money, dangote etc.)

what a dry emotional ranting of a nerve breaking drowing man.
Hello? Are you for real?
Just thank social media, that ants can have an opinion.
You are just a small boy who should learn manners and how to talk in public.
A bit of advice.

thesuave10:
It's a good thread. I teach guys similar things all the time but they've refused to listen and it has a lot to do with their ego. And damn do we guys have serious ego issues

Men are Ego Beings.
A reasonable person will understand the writeup and pick a point from it for use.

Hahahahahahaha. What a thread. Some people are Crazy

thesuave10:
This post has a lot to take from and I really love it. All the people bashing you have refused to be objective and they don't see where you're trying to come from. Now:
1 I agree with you that man should be hardworking and try to be resourceful. I usually advise men that women Love the potential to make money and not necessarily money itself. It's the desire to make money that women Love. I agree with you on this.

2 on your point of broke guys are lazy, I agree as well. I understand that you're to speak in a general sense and not that it's "every broke guy that's lazy" . 90% of broke guys are actually lazy. Now in the 10% that are not lazy most of them take the wrong steps and are not smart

3 on your issue of financial stability, I also agree with you on that because it's an absolute must that a guy should be financially stable

4 I however disagree on the fact that a man should be the higher earner.

5 so In light of everything I give your post 8.6/10

God bless you for understanding the point of these thread.

MissCokie:
Did you say your marriage , excuse me, you're a slay queen, and a broke pretender at that. Guys would end up tagging us a gold digger, its because of people like you.

You may tolerate insult from a man, really, you lack dignity, I was thinking the guys here are broke, yet you would tolerate a broke guy to insult you.

Please show me the matured people that understands your writeup. You are trying so hard to stay relevant, but you're following the wrong lane. He must v this and that, just to make you happy, while you have 0kobo in your account. I am disgraced in you.

I would ignore your next mention, because you don't deserve it from me ever again... I ensure to pick the wheat out of the stone.

Bye.

Why bye? Are you running away? Oh thank God for social media, even Cockroaches have an opinion.
Are you really a graduate or these half baked droppies who lack basic comprehension of any writeup before opening their mouth.
Broke pretender? Hahahahaha, thank your star you have the priviledge to exchange words with Amarachi offline, because face to face, You can NEVER stand my class or neither are you in the class of ladies I mingle with.
You voomed into this MY THREAD to talk rubbish, that shows you personality which does not worth my attention.
I repeat again, keep your mouth out of my marriage, I am NOT the reason why you are still a MISS in late 40s.
Ok? Go and look for your level, shoe get size.

sekxy:
hahaha..honestly, especially jakandeola

lolz. Jakandeola is my good friend here.
The guy de vex this afternoon.

MissRaine69:
I cannot fathom how you can not see how superficial you come across in that statement you wrote.
In a nutshell according to you a woman wants a man with a 3 bed house and a car that's your prerequisite for a man. With those things a woman is comfortable? This is why women get dumped when a guy's hard work starts to bear fruit.
How many women grew up in a three bedroom house or had a car that you put that as a minimum for someone else's child to provide for you?
Does his mother live in a three bed house andoes she drive she drive an old Camry? That is what I call being entitled beyond the very word.

what i wrote is an estimation for a reader to get my point. I was driving at objectivity.

MissCokie:
Rubbish. I visited your profile, and you said, "Married" , I pity your husband believe me.

I was addressing an issue in one of the conference i attended, and i had to tackle the foolish mentality of our modern day women, thinking that a guy must make money to take care of them. Please why can't you make money too, so in case you meet a broke dude, you can help him out.

I hate girls who are indirectly a liability to guys.

Please read the gibberish you posted above, I am disappointed in you. Yesterday, I came across a thread where u were beefing broke guys up and down, please you should be in the family section because you're married, and also hate broke guys.

By the way, I am sure the guys you call broke here, are not broke. This is a forum, a faceless one at that.

How re u?

oh the old tactics of looking for a pat on the back from boys here. Its outdated pls.
Read my writeup again, matured people understand my point.. Did you deliberately skipped the part I said that a working lady also need an equal or higher earner?
And pls leave my marriage out of your jargon.. I may tolerate it from a man, not from a fellow woman. Pls with due respect. Thank you

SINZ:
I don't understand the love-hate between you and this guy though..

which guy re u talking about pls?

kullozone:
This shameless woman has started again. Does your husband know what you do on nairaland? Why don't you leave broke guys alone and face your rich husband? Wetin you dey find ehn
You don't have respect for yourself at all oh!
You don cook lunch? Have you cleaned the house?
I want to insult you very well, but Nairaland will ban me forever.

hahahahahahaha. I almost fell down while laughing.
What a funny place to relieve stress. Nairaland

Oyindidi:
Amarabae, how many young guys hustling around you can afford a 3 bedroom apartment?
A young guy can start with a room or self contain.

whether one or two or three.
Its ok, atleast let it not be a public yard.
Good afternoon.

jaksmillioniar:
cos dose guys b wit a girl like dem a hardwoking girl dat add value to thier life, dat improved dia life a girl dat u can say is a real woman like okanja iwale, akunyili zahra buhari not broke nairaland girls luking for who to by dem meat pie and coke.

oga. Did I hit a nerve inside you with this thread? Stop sweating biko.
*someone pls switch on the fan abeg.*

pryme:
There was a pic that MissRaine69 shared with me sometime ago, it was about a guy chasing money. He chased money for a long time when he eventfully got the money he was old. This pic got me thinking hard.

If all the guys were to follow your advise most of them will be rich, old, and alone.

Sometimes a woman might just be that break thru a man needs to reach the heights.

Now all these am saying is only applies for ideal men. I understand you have doubts about men cos the society is now infested with fvck boys.

being Rich has many levels.
Many ladies are not looking for a Dangote kind of guy but a Hardworking Financially Stable Guy.
and I see nothing wrong in that.
He may not have his own house, atleast let him afford a 3-bedroom flat.
He may not have a murano or quest, atleast let him afford a camry even if it is old model.
Women want to be comfortable. Simple

Maxi112:
Lolz. you better brace up and wait them


hope your birthday parry was well spent?

I am wearing my Aba made bulletproof o.. Lols.
Ya. It went well.

SINZ:
I think he can relate because he used to be in that place.

lol. And Experience is the best bitter teacher

jaksmillioniar:
guy dem dey vex me I wont reply again cos if I say wat on my mind I get a ban I will just see how dey fool diasef. rubbish later dey say girls are not cheap. let dem go meet tblavk now. guy if u must spend for a girl fk shege out or her scata her pucce and giv d bich 5k for meatpie and mtn kad.

why meeting tblachot? Why not meeting Emeka the hardworking Engineer or Femi the Telecommunication guy or Ahmed the banking guy with a good salary? Huh?

Instead of them to learn, they are ranting. Horrible.

SINZ:
How do you know he's broke?

let me answer. By their fruit, you shall know them.
Abi you no know?

Maxi112:
Some guys ain't happy with this thread, lemme watch from the fence

lolz. I have hit a nerve in many guys here.

jaksmillioniar:
wat else can u offer apart from dat tin in ur leg if I dAte and spend on u?

irresponsible comment.

sekxy:
woow...you have said it all

thank you dear. Let them keep ranting instead of learning.

pryme:
Most times when the broke guy gets made he losses respect for women. Cos he will never get over that emotional state that he was dumped for being broke.

The best thing in life is moving from grass to grace with the same person.

It's only a lady that sticks with her man, and motivates him, encourage him, believe in him, that are the real heroes.
Ladies like this are like the Queen on a cheese board. They are invaluable, they are indispensable.

They are the reason for that saying:

"Behind every successful man there is a woman"

But your write up mocks that saying.

Thank you for responding maturely.
A girl sticking with a guy in poverty does not guaranty her a wedding ring when the guy blow.
Ok?
My point is that a guy should be financial stable first before a serious relationship or marriage.

Stevengerd:
When a dog is overfed, it misbehaves. Let her rant, we are use to it. someone that is depending on her husband is calling other "BROKE". Serious minded women dnt waste their precious time causing nuisance. U belong to family section not romance.

what a dry and empty bullying tactics.
I am not moved by it, dear.
Nuisance? Is that the only word you can decode from my writeup?
Horrible.
Also, I have a federal job and financially stable even before marriage.
And last, I have the legal right to be in any section that I want.
Ok?

jaksmillioniar:
u beta shot ur mouth b4 u get us mad mad. are we ur fada? is we are broke is it for u or if we are rich why ndont u mind ur business as a girl wat did u hv to giv to us guys. I can get a girl in bed for 1k so stfu. I make my money for my family not for girls dat add no values to me only to open leg for me.

drop your emotional ranting and counter my point intellectually.
So you will not marry? Is it not a girl you will marry or are you a gay?
So what do you mean by making money for your family and not on any girl?
Who cares if you can bed a girl for 1k?
Some boys are sexually cheap too.

peacebirdone:
Broke guys don't read such long passages

ouch.