₦airaland Forum

MhisTahrah:
Sincerely I don't think it's bad to go to your in-laws place and do those things you mentioned. So long your partner reciprocates.

Bushyhair:
someone said men 're everywhere......u never see anything yet

UyaiIncomparabl:
Whoever that has eyes, let her read and assimilate. This is very intelligent. I commend this, Amarabae.

Several months ago, I was in a relationship with whom I presumed 'Loved' me so much not to loose me. I loved him too. It was an abusive and intolerable relationship. I didn't want to loose him, thereby I did everything in Love's book to keep this guy. Not that We had plans of settling down soon, but I was ready to do whatever he bidded. At a time, I used to visit his parents' home to say 'Hello'. I always did this and His mother abused this use. She'll always want to send me errands like her slave. I patiently adhered to this torture for sometime until I couldn't tolerate further. Her first Son and his Fiancée visited. I happened to be around on that day.
What actually infuriated and perplexed me was that she asked me to go to the kitchen and boil rice for the 'Fiancée'. What nonsense!
I had an appointment. I was vexed, and my ignorant boyfriend couldn't explain to her about this development. I was surprised i was polite all through the fracas ensuing. I wasn't my normal self anymore. I was raging. I told her sternly and firmly that I wouldn't be able to do what she asked. She felt slighted. Oh, so the girl doesn't have hands to boil rice for herself, right?
I politely excused myself.
Thereafter, my boyfriend called and told me that I had a negative attitude. Oh really? Is that how 'A Wife Material' is being known in your village? He told me to come and apologize to his mum on my knees. I cursed and ended the phone thereon. He never called. I never called. He took my desperation for stupidity. I learnt the hard way.

To the ladies, never allow a man treat you like trash. You all are phenomenal. If he doesn't accept you for being a lady with poise, excuse yourself. A better relationship awaits. I'm not discouraging that you shouldn't help when the need arises or when you find yourself in the midst of a gathering like that, but then, NEVER over-do it. Washing their clothes will not earn you a 'ring'. It's not bad to be principled too. Know your worth.
I'm happy I took that decision. I've never been more happier. If he is meant for you, no force can tear you apart, and vice-versa.

austyn0:
SELF-WORTH,, nice one....You made good points until you involved "husband material".....

Who does the marrying?? Do you know who a man is and his responsibilities as a husband or husband-to-be? Don't bring men down to that level....

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IamAirforce1:
Linda Ikeji preached more than what you've put out here but at the end of the day, she swallowed her words .

God has made men above you feminists and sympathisers , and theirs nothing anyone can do about It.

Jamariwolff:
the one you couldn't use to keep your cheating hòrny piece of trash you call a husband. Keep claiming saint all over nairaland

Oyindidi:
Same to you sweetheart. How is the family?

Jamariwolff:
Does this make any sense?
Aunty mind your business and your marriage.

Whatever way I decide to treat my bf is none of your business madam. How successful is your marriage sef?

Yes, i will cook and open my legs wide. Go hug the nearest transformer. Old menopaused hypocrite

Oyindidi:
Guys food don done. Come pour out your frustration here

Asowari:
I smell war loading on this thread

Kendraaace:
You're right and this has nothing to do with being lazy...

madone:
Let the fight begin

Babyforever:
Girl you just say it like we want it.... That's why I keep telling my friends not to be a slave all in the name of marriage if he can't marry you the way you are he should use the door.