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Grayjoy:
If John outlined ur points above then he is nt learned as u said, the thing is marriage requires respect from both parties and not this submission theory.
And the Irony is that many men today are d ones submitting don't know why u ladies are still complaining.

Feminism don't want any gender to submit,
We want the word submitting to be eradicated.
That's all.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Good one.Nigerian or Africa men are always quick to talk about submission but they forget that they ought to love.

Some of them, their wives are feeding them but they will still be shouting submission

Cc : greiboy.
Get in here
Shugavee get in

About the word "submission "
Many men misunderstand it,
Many abuse it
Many hide under it to show their misogynistic attitude,

But what do you understand by submission?

Let's examine this.

Joy is beautiful
Joy is well educated and very intelligent, she read abroad.
Joy is working and being paid well

Joy gets married to John.

John is handsome
John is also educated,
John is working too


Now they are married,

John wants joy to be submissive to him ,
Joy ask him "sweetheart what do you mean by submitting to you?

John replies (in a typical African man understanding of submission) :
1.Submitting to me means that my word in this house is final,
2. When I am talking, you should be quiet
3. Whenever I want sex, you should spread your legs
4. I can cheat but you dare not cheat
5. I determine the number of babies we can have.
6.Never you raise your voice on me.
Etc

Joy asked him, :ok but why should I be "submissive to you " and not the other way round?
How did you merit it?


John replies : are you mad?
Don't you know that I am a man and bla bla bla.

The typical African man reasoning.

How can you having a dick be the only qualification for a woman to be submissive to you?
What kind of dumb mentality is that?
You expect a woman to lick your asshole because you have a dick?

And when you try to define the word "submission"
It means yielding to a superior authority,
You being under the control of another person or thing.

So in the mind of the misogynists, a woman who they refer as weak vessel should yield to a man who is a strong vessel,
No wonder many women are passing through a lot in marriages today,
Tolerating a lot of nonsense,
Because we are in a man dominated world,

It pains me to see that many girls are still being brainwashed,
You see them accepting the word "submission"
Aunty submission, are you a slave?
Will river Niger dry up if men starts submitting?
You better wake up.
You will see a man whose wife is feeding,
A man whose wife is the breadwinner of the family yet he will be shouting submission!
Funny idiosyncrasies

I am not a slave,
Marriage is not a slave camp,
I will love you as the husband the same way you will love me.
We will argue,
I will not lick your asshole,
I will stand on my right and defend it
My opinion matters.
And lastly
I am NOT and will never be a weak vessel
Feminism rejects that.
We are strong and proud.

Many men need a reorientation about issues like this especially the yet to marry ones.
Many women are waking up,
There is a reason why the divorce rate is high these days because tolerating rubbish has a limit,
Our mothers went through a lot of anti women prejudices in the society and marriage,
We refuse to go through the same,


All thanks to feminism.
A woman should love the husband deeply and the husband should love the wife deeply too.
Respect her, she will respect you,
Care for her, she will care for you.

Stop manipulating women with the word "submission"
I don't believe in it and will never.
I am no slave.
I love my husband and he loves me.
Our marriage is not a slave camp.
And thats how it should be.

#thanks

What a house of liars.
But if na me, I will confront him .
He disrespects me if he disrespects my mum.

Body shamers are dumb.

It's saggy, how is it ur business?

It's bore hole, you don't like bore hole? No stress if you want to enter,
Free and easy entrance,
Who no like better thing?


No mind me.
#sayNOtobodyShaming

[quote author=Edge1 post=66529391][/quote]atleast let's appreciate him for voicing it out.

You have a gorgeous dark skin.
Lovely.
Happy Sunday

AntiBrutus:
Nice. The last wedding I attended used "for better, for best".
I guess they were just being optimistic

You are beautiful

Thanks.

Confession is very important.
We should not give power and energy to "for worse "

Happy Sunday

Freethought:
Your marriage is how many years now?!

yes don't matter,
As a Christian, I walk by faith and not by sight.
It is my faith that it will be for better for better.
I have no business with worse.

Open a sugar business for your mother and she will be your sugar mummy.

I love morning sex especially around 5am.
When you wake up from sleep, your whole body is refreshed and very Kampelicious.
It relaxes your nerves and make you feel good for the day.

During my wedding,
I used for better, for better.

And indeed it has been for better for better so far

What a country

If you want to have sex,
Have sex.
And let us hear word.
It's a free world

greiboy:
Can both partners be submissive based on the definition of the word?

[i]Submission is the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authorityof another person[/I]

Based on the above definition of submission, only one partner can be submissive.

No one is superior or inferior in marriage,
I don't know why the word submission is being abused.

I will open a thread on it and tag you.

#church time

Nawa o.
You both need to see a marriage councillor or a psychologist.
Something is wrong somewhere.
The affection is not there.
Affection makes sex more sweeter.

Nigeria guys are unrentable.
Thanks

greiboy:
is this what feminism is advocating

"A shell of a man" and "super women or iron lady" how insightful

Feminism is about equality for all.
The guy is telling us his quality, that does not make him weak..
He believes that submission is for both of them and not only for women.

Martin0:
operation women haters

Don't worry.
They are gays.

Martin0:
madam dey go church oo before dem attack you oo

Attack by who?

Come and take a kiss boy

Though I don't agree with him on him allowing the future wife winning all argument but the rest of his postulations are superb.
That's his life and quality,

Deal with it you misogynists

Welcome

That's cool.
But all na for eye service

Let me reserve my comment

Bridget95:
Anus reason is abnormal. why castigating a whole tribe because of one man who is an APC member.Don't you know the man have been rejected by his people?

How do you expect bmc workers to think normal,?

Peace be still.

Deflowered her?
So what next ?
We should fry beans?

Why would she dress like that?
Class is bae Biko