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The reason why Ilorin people speak the Yoruba language, mostly.
... because her people related most with Yorubas due to location, the wars they fought two centuries ago or thereabout and so on...

nams77:
I have been following your post and learning a lot. But I don't understand what you posted up there.

I really appreciate sir.
You are correct! Relationships among all the different groups have made everything and everyone one.

Yes, there are Ilorin Christians, but very very few and because of the setting, you hardly ever know. When an Ilorin man marries a Christian woman and the child decides to accept the mum's way of life, you have an Ilorin child with a different faith.
Once again, I really appreciate you and the discuss. Do have a splendid night rest.

oyatz:
Thanks once again for the matured response.

Your first paragraph confirm what I read in the History of Ilorin that the people collectively referred to as Gambari in Ilorin represent the the non-Yoruba, non-Fulani settlers in the 19th century Ilorin.

However in the modern day Ilorin, most Indigenes are descents of Yoruba, Fulani, Nupe and the 'Gambari' groups due to centuries of inter-tribal marriages, all united under the banners of Islam.

I have never seen an Ilorin Indigene who is not a Muslim.

Thank you OP

Thank you, I appreciate.

1) No, Gambari is a fusion of many ethnic groups, mainly from the north, especially the bazan bakwais, others from gobir, a Hausa bakwai and the others from kanem-borno.
Hausa became the main language since it was and still the most popular among the northerners. The different groups are mainly identified by their tribal marks, till this day. And of course, every group has it own location. I don't know, but their proximity, similar way of life, religion and the likes, earned them that name, Gambari.

2) The beri beri are a group from Kanem- borno. They are sometimes called the kanuris. This is the group I belong.
I hope this helps.

oyatz:
Thanks for the matured responses.


It's good to hear it directly from the horse's mouth.

1) Is Gambari an ethnic group?
If yes, where precisely is their ancestral origin? Which language do they speak. Can you tell us the names of 3 of their native dieties.

2) Are Beriberi you are mentioning the same as the more common Bariba?

Ni sire, i didn't get it wrong. I only wanted him to understand we aren't all fulanis. Telling him balogun this balogun that may be too tedious for me to type.
Thank you for expatiating.

oyatz:
You got it wrong ma.
In Ilorin, there are four Baloguns (Generals) ,each representing some ethnic interests;

1) Balogun Fulani: The General from the Fulani group
2) Balogun Gambari: The General from the non-Fulani, non-Yoruba population
3) Balogun Ajikobi: The General from the Ajikobi family and their allies/supporters
4) Balogun Alanumu: General from the descendants of Alanumu.


Both Num-4 and Num-4 are original Yoruba Aborigines of Ilorin.

Happy birthday beautiful

I speak Yoruba and it's sad we lost that aspect of our lives. Do we regret it? Yes, we do. The relationship with the Yorubas was more because most of the wars, market activities, our location and the likes were with the Yorubas.
A situation that is not peculiar with us alone.
Have a lovely day sir

Ugandatales:
So what language do you speak as a Gambari person?

No sir, I am Ilorin

lebete3000:
Are you Igbomina? I'm from Igbaja.

No sir, the Gambaris are a whole group.
We have four main groups: Gambari, Fulani, Ajikobi and Alanamu.
Good morning

oyatz:
What's the difference?

I think the Gambaris are a subset of people who are Fulani-Yoruba hybrid in Ilorin.

The name, among other things, was a gift. A sarki Gambari of that time dashed him that name as a token of their friendship. It's a long story but that's a summary. My family name is also Gambari and I am beriberi and Gambari is our origin.
Hope you had a restful night?

oyatz:
If the Gambaris are not the same as Fulanis, how come an Emir of Fulani descent bore the name; Zukarmani Zulu-Gambari (the father of the incumbent Emir, Ibrahim Kolapo Gambari)?

I know who I am sir and I know the difference. A fulani is entirely a different tribe from who I am and I am proud to be my father's child.
Thank you all the same

seguno2:
If you can’t say what the difference is, please go and delete this your comment.
Thank me later

No sir/ma, we are not. I am beriberi. Most Gambaris are. The other parts of Gambari, we have the bakastines, the nupawas, gobirawas and the likes. At the central, you have the ruling Sokoto clan, the descendants of Alimi.

I can't agree, unapologetically, that we are ruled by a Yoruba king, because what we have in Ilorin is a mix of all tribes. Importantly, the Emirates heads, because of our religious affiliation and Quranic foundation. We may speak a version of Yoruba but we know who we are.

The idi Apes, are the only ones claiming to be Yorubas with the alanamus, but hey, it is what it is and we are not complaining

EleventhWeirdo:
you guys are still descendants of Alimi. You will agree that the so called Ilorin Emirate is supposed to be headed by a Yoruba person.

The Gambaris and the fulanis in Ilorin are not one o. I am an original Gambari and I am not fulani

ZKOSOSO:
We must chase the Gambaris outta Ilorin...!!

We must take it back from the Fulanis

You try. Welcome to Ilorin.

God bless you for me fa
Op, in a nut shell, make her feel YOUNG abeg, you are the husband. God help you.

Originalsly:
Bro.... listen to yourself.... after 11 years of marriage only a few months ago you noticed your wife has aged.... and is not fashion conscious as before marriage. Is it you?......or she that just returned from the Moon?
Women go through changes after childbirth.... are stressed .... and even more stressed if the husband is not spending a whole lot more time helping out in the home. Were you? With family come responsibilities and maturity. Her priority is family.... you shoild thank goodness she is grounded and not twittering around as a fashionova while neglecting your kids. As the trendy husband... why not clothes shop for her? ... and take her out to flex? Doing this often can lessen her stress.... and slow down her aging process.
But how about you?..... you believe you are still youthful and up to date in fashion? Stop putting down your wife and pulling down your marriage.

June 8, 1998? The day Abacha died?

Queenlovely:
Brother Allah have mercy

[color=#000000]1998 June 8th,[/color] my daughter was posted to potiskum by WHO . they went to create awareness about polio vacine, so many conspiracy theories was going on about the vacine.

they went to this radio station, for the sensitization campaign, when they got to a police station to beg for security while they went on these trip, she saw a girl of 10 years behind the counter.

her husband divorced her, she became homeless and decide to sleep in the police station, my daughter was touched, she did the necessary thing formally and traditionally. she finally adopted that girl, that girl is now a technical assistance at Siemens Zurich.

exposure matters a lot

Thank you for the reminder @ OP. May Allah keep them all safe always

Answer is 30

Wow

Alhamdulillah. Thank you

I have it o...first time preparing whole chicken for the family all by myself. Memories

If I may...
Yes, the scenarios are extremely extreme but it is a phase thing for us. There is a period you want the boys to run after you. You want them to give you the attention, gifts, a period of showing off. It is the blooming stage. Everything is about you. The period of many mistakes, if care is not taken. I usually call it the confusion phase. The s.x, booze, parties, and so on.

Then, you have the companionship phase - all you crave for is friendship. Someone who would listen, someone you can trust, someone you can always call.

Now, for the strong personalities, the confusion phase is well handled and with the right elements, they blossomed into the ideal women. That is, they manage the two phases well.

Women just need to be listened to. They are different individuals with different peculiarities and needs. We only need the right elements.

It happens o...
There are mothers-in-law who want to be onto everything that happens in their sons houses. From the kinds of foods they should eat, to how the wife should sweep and mop, to when the wife should talk with the husband, to how to arrange the house, to...almost everything. Pray, your sisters don't experience such.

crackhaus:
Lol, this comes off like what a wife would say when she is asked to explain the animosity between herself and her mother-in-law.

It is usually much deeper than this.

Your friend should find out the exact reason, that's if he/she can be bothered.

Oh my! May their souls rest in peace. I pray to God to grant their families the fortitude to bear this great loss.

Kai, my dear Alma Mata!

, the girl's skull had to be sawed off to retrieve the bullet. Wish her quick and complete recovery o

Assalamu alykum
I think it is today and tomorrow.
Reason:
The size of the moon sighted last Sunday was bigger than a 2 day crescent, it was bigger and brighter. If last Friday was 1st Muharram, that moon would have been tinier than that.

Allahu ahlam.

Assalamu alykum

Sudais and sheik Misary Rashid, for different reasons

You know nothing about the North! Pls stop this!
An average northern father treats his daughter(s) better than the boys and if he is rich, oh my!
Their wives, muah!
Even when they are poor, the girls are still better taken care of than the girls. If they are Muslims, shariah prescribes half of what the male child will inherit. She will still get from her husband. Which is more dignified?

Have you ever seen a Hausa building? The women are kept on the inner part to protect them. They are chauffeured around town and treated with respect. You dare not pull her clothes in the market or disrespect her in whatever manner. If not, those who do not know her will be ones to deal with you.

The judgement is cool sha.

Cantonese:
The Igbos are always very honest and forthright. This practice is not limited to the Igbos only. It is an African culture.

Generally women are not expected to take their family'wealth to their husband's home. The general belief is that the wealth of the lady's family would be diminished while her husband's family would be made richer.

Anyone from other parts of Nigeria who makes irresponsible comments against the Igbos about this age long African culture simple deceives himself or herself.

Women are generally treated as second class citizens in Africa and this attitude.must stop. Some fathers try to circumvent this be sharing their wealth among their children while they are alive.

Our courts are filled with such cases without respect to tribe and religion. Among the northerners, do the women even have rights at all? A man marries more than four wives and treats.the whole women including his daughters as nobody. Where are the rights of the southwest women in this matter. Even the educated carry without caring about women in their homes.

The supreme court made the right judgement. Let's celebrate this sound judgement and liberation of our women.

Exactly! When he gets to level 5 and he turns 55, he will understand life. When all the children from the different mothers start their war, he will calm down.

Or may be the wife is not just wise.
Anyways, op, if u get to read this, your toddler's toilet habit may be normal. It may not. I had a personal experience with my first son. My mother started putting him on potty before he was even 7 days old. I did exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months but I could count the number of times he pooped in his diapers. He was always running around when the thing was coming. I did pap, crayfish and soyabeans, ewedu, etc, till today, approaching the teenage grade, his toilet na two to three days. I have stopped worrying.

Please the issues between you and your should be sorted inside your home. Carrying it out will get you to level 5 and the number of children that may end up sending you to an early grave. Marriage is not courtship. It is serious business. Feed your child at night, back him sef, bond with him, grow with him and see wonders. I didn't say spare the rod o. But grow with your child no matter how busy you are.

God keep your home. You need to keep it first and tell that lady advising you outside to STFU.

punisha:
As in eh...
All this strong head won't be anything short of another strange girl that's tickling his fancy and making everything his wife do,to be repulsive to him.
He should send her home let's rest.
Got one rule at home...we settle our differences in 20minutes and no third party is permitted to EVER interfere.
Works and has worked for years.
Abeg free this person.

Op, this question is directed to you:
I am a submissive Muslim woman, my husband has a low libido. I have tried to discuss with him but he is always angry about it and frustrated. I have a high libido and I am very frustrated now. What do I do?

Pls don't let the devil wear Prada for your case o. Explore all possible causes of this problem and seek for solution(s). It can be very frustrating but how have you fared for 11 years that it is now you are coming out? My brother, jejely o. God is your strength but sincerely, what have you decided before now?

The question I directed to you is nobody's problem, that I know of, but I believe some women are in this situation and are helpless and suffering. What are we going to tell them when they come out? To go marry another man? To not take for themselves haram what is halal? Or to be patient? Put yourself in her shoes first, try your best to solve this problem. You will be surprised at how happy your marriage will be. All the best
Assalamu alykum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu.

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

It's a sis, sir

serubawon:
Thank you so much sir.

With every hardship cometh ease, that's what my holy book says.

Please stay strong. Importantly, make arrangements to have access to your son, anytime.

This too will pass.