₦airaland Forum

Glamouzpeter:
Yes it is very true
Last month a dead relative of mine visited his daughter, and she said nothing about it,
So he visited someone else from the family and even narrated how he came to reveal things to the daughter and she chase her away with the Holy Bible
There is more to spirituality than we can see with our eyes

Did the daughter know he was dead before he visited her?

Romanoff:
I think it's easy to say "nothing can make me slap my husband", till you're faced with circumstances that will make you forget your home training.

This is a very thoughtful, sincere and intelligent answer. I always tell myself that I will never slap my wife (if I marry eventually), but I can think of a number of situations that could make me do otherwise.

I'll just say "I pray nothing happens that will push me that far".

I don't believe in prayers, but I'll help you say a big AMEN to this.

Romanoff:
It takes a man who has mastered self control to not slap back, but if you're that woman that slapped the man, may God help you both solve the matter o.

It also depends on the circumstances. If the man is slapped for what he himself knows he's indefensibly guilty of (being caught red-handed sleeping with another woman for instance), then he's not likely to slap the woman back.
But let me ask this (don't answer it if you're uncomfortable with the question): as a wife, could anything make you slap your husband?

Romanoff:
No. I'm not insulting them into seeing my point or changing any belief o.

Just cause I also can o. Nothing more. True.

So it's just for the fun of it. Lols
That reminds me of how some guys used to catch fun at OAU male hostels by verbally insulting themselves with funny abuses. We call this "Aro". Most students find it very entertaining. A particular hostel, Awolowo Hall, was (and probably still is) notorious for this.
Personally, I see you as a sensible and decent lady, please don't allow the negative comments of some unreasonable people here to change you for the worse.

Romanoff:
Rationality and gracefulness doesn't work for everyone o. Been on this forum long enough to know that. Some will even open a new account to troll you.

If rationality and gracefulness don't work, nothing else will.
You cannot insult people into seeing your point or changing their belief. You simply can't!

Romanoff:
Nope. Not all of us are willing to ignore insults.
We math insults for insults and gracefulness for gratefulness.

I won't shy from schooling any bully or swine who comes for me.

When you match insults for insults, you reduce yourself to the same level as the person who started the insult. Besides, what would you really gain from doing such? Or is there some sort of trophy for the "best insulter"?
I believe you will school people more effectively (if that's your objective) through rationality and gracefulness than by exchanging insulting words with them.

Romanoff:
My response is determined by any previous comment. I can be graceful and ratchet, it depends on how civil you are.

PS, leave my husband out of it.

Why can't you always be graceful irrespective of how the person you're arguing/dialoguing with responds? This shouldn't be hard for you to do especially since you seem to be a "good Christian". If someone says something provocative or insulting to you on a faceless forum like this, just ignore them and move on with your life.

Here in Nigeria, we are very fortunate to have relatively nice weather and we hardly experience any seriously devastating natural disaster. BUT UNFORTUNATELY, we have created (and still creating) far worse artificial disasters for ourselves through our greed, self-centeredness and religious bigotry.
Can Nigeria still be a great country or is all hope lost?

Let me add this also:
Posting "Rest in Peace" or "RIP" on social media when someone dies is clearly a futile exercise. Your wish for the dead (whether good or bad) will be of no consequence whatsoever. So instead of the RIP post, a better thing to do is to use that sad occasion to reflect on the reality of death for every human; that one day you too will die. The more you do this, the more aware you will become of the ephemeral and transient nature of your existence. Hopefully, this will make you put more thought into HOW you live your life.

Romanoff:
Your second cousin.

Wrong! It's your child that would be second cousins to your cousin's child.

Your dad's elder sister is your aunt. Her son is your cousin. So the son's child (your cousin's child) would be your first cousin once removed.

AskProf:
Did you enter secondary school at all, not to talk of JSS3?

I'm sure you don't know the correct answer yourself.

From the look of things, there is going to be a serious food crisis in Nigeria soon. The consequences of this will be far-reaching!

Romanoff:
Time wey e suppose dey use train.

He seemed to be training his mind with chess (my favorite game). Na cuppy came to interrupt.

Romanoff:
My dear, my husband does well to pleasure me. Enough that I don't consider any other man and I'll never will.

If you taste better thing, you go hold on to am with your life.

I found my God given path when I gave my life to Christ at 13. Never looked back since then and I discovered that sexual pleasure as beautiful as it is if not controlled would make me lose my destiny so I took it to the back seat and brought other pleasures forward.

The comment about my husband still sounds the same to me in your new comment, just in other words.

While some men boast about their sexual prowess, they meet women who make them realize that them never reach. At the end of the day, where your pleasure ends is where another person's starts.

If I'm not cheating on my husband, is because there is none that compares to him in all areas.

None.

I think you're laying too much emphasis on your faithfulness to your husband and your resolution to remain faithful to him. When I commented that "I'm sensing your husband is not doing enough in da oda room", I wasn't trying to suggest that you should look outside for a better man to pleasure you more sexually. I only said that in response to your comment that sex is a "very overrated something".
From your comments, I can feel that you passionately and proudly love your husband and I respect that. Keep enjoying your marriage!

Romanoff:
The reason a lot of you get into a lot of sexual sins is because you have come to see sex as the ultimate pleasure.

I agree with you that many people are sexually immoral because they find sex very pleasurable (and they seek every opportunity to enjoy that pleasure). But can we blame them for seeing sex as such? Certainly not! It's "nature" that has sort of programmed us to see sex the way we do.

Me I trained myself from when I was a teenager to indulge in other pleasures so I'd tow the path God destined me for . And like I said before, sex is pleasurable but I'd put other things I find more pleasurable before it.

It's nice that you have other things you indulge in for pleasure. But then, I don't think there's anyone who doesn't have other things they enjoy aside sex. Besides, sex only gives a momentary pleasure; it's not something that can be enjoyed 24/7.
@ the bolded, how did you find out what God has destined you for?

If my husband wasn't doing enough like you insinuated, I'd probably be all over the place trying to get the "ultimate pleasure" from other sources, by the grace of God, that is not the case.

I'm glad you're faithful to your husband and I encourage you to keep it up. However, you have to know that different men have different ability to satisfy women sexually: some men are very good at it and some are terribly bad. So, how much pleasure you derive from sex is an indication of your hubby's sexual ability.

It is very insulting for you to assume my husband isn't doing enough because my opinion differs from yours and I'd get really angry if you keep towing this line.

Thank you.

I'm sorry my comment came across as an insult. But I was only trying to say that if your husband had pleasured you more sexually, then you probably won't see sex as a "very overrated something". In other words, it's possible you haven't yet experienced or enjoyed the fullness of sexual pleasure.

Romanoff:
Abeg. Very overrated something .

I know what I derive upmost pleasure in and people that are very close to me know it very well.

If you know, you fit kidnap me sef.

Sex very overrated? I'm sensing your hubby isn't doing enough in da oda room.

Romanoff:
Like I said, what could be the most pleasurable thing to you could be the least for someone.

I've given it a second thought and I now agree with you. But for ME sexual pleasure remains the most pleasurable!

Romanoff:
As long as there's love between you two, if the party that wants it initiates it, it should be given.

If the other party declines, you should be sensitive enough to lovingly find out why.

Hmm... you always have very reasonable opinions on relationship matters. This reminds me why I'm following you. Your husband is a very lucky man.

Romanoff:
Nope.

Pleasure in this instance is relatable.

For some, sex is not the ultimate pleasure.

I don't think any other pleasure is as pleasurable as sex is (especially when you reach orgasm). However, sexual pleasure is short-lived.

Romanoff:
There's no restriction unless with fasting and both parties must be in agreement.

But then, the frequency of sex in marriage is determined by many factors.

A broke man might not have the urge to have sex.

An unloved woman might not have the urge to have sex.

A disillusioned man might not have the urge to have sex.

A stressed wife might not have the urge to have sex.

A marriage where there's no peace of mind for any of the parties, their sex life will suffer.

Hi. Assuming the marriage is IDEAL and everything is fine with the couple, how frequently should they have sex?
Also, in a situation where one party has urge for sex and the other doesn't, what should they do?

Following

tasceige:
Practically trying to get the details of my card, the printed figures, expiry details, and Security.

With this details without your pin they can buy loads of stuffs with your card untraceable even with without authentication.

Wow... I find this info very valuable

ityP:
This shows how we Africans think. A whole sitting president had his account suspended by twitter and heaven didn't fall. That's a country who understands rights. You choose to use Twitter, you must abide by twitter rules. You can't start forming oga on top another person app. No be Buhari papa get twitter

The fact that Twitter did it to one president doesn't mean it's right. A president's official account ought to be accorded some respect.
By having the power to treat a president's tweet (a message to his/her people) anyhow, twitter indirectly has the power to greatly influence the politics of a country. This shouldn't be!

Kinzo0917:
. Was Truim twitter account not banned? Is buhari beta than him? Abeg go sleep. Mumu

So because Trump's account was banned, that has made it something right abi? Abeg wake up from your sleep and think. Dulllard

Banning Twitter in Nigeria is a petty and thoughtless move by the FG. But then, in the first place, Twitter shouldn't have the power to delete a president's tweet (any president whatsoever).
The Nigerian government and Twitter have both equally erred!

Romanoff:
June 12, where art thou?

Why looketh thee forward to June 12? What's gonna happen on that day?

Norphiee:
Never,... I remembered, when a situation like this happened,... omoooooo,... this nigga was frustrating my life,.. had to delete his number,.. it’s now later I now realized that, he wan use me play revenge game ,... but before then, I already meuve

Hello. Is your name Nafisat?

Romanoff:
To impact lives.

Always been my dream. Build a self sustaining school where the rich pays a lot but the poor get scholarships.

Build world class hospitals.

Plenty ways o.

If this is truly your dream, I must say it's highly commendable and I wish you the very best as you WORK towards its realization. (I have a similar goal actually)

Romanoff:
Having money to buy the good things of life and give your children a good life doesn't mean you'll forget what is after 6 is 7.

There are billionaires in the world impacting millions of life through charity with their wealth.

I want to be like that o.

I didn't say you should not have money. I'm only calling your attention to the fact that living a good life goes far beyond being wealthy.
Now concerning your ambition to be a billionaire, be sincere, is your motivation really to "impact millions of lives through charity" or just to make yourself and your family enjoy life as much as possible?

Romanoff:
She doesn't have any pressure. No younger ones to take care of, no parents to be sending money to.

Just living her life on Daddy's money.

I must give my children good life o.

But you should note that "good life" is really not about having money in abundance to waste on frivolous and luxurious things.
Without a doubt, money will satisfy your material needs (which is good), but then WHAT IS AFTER 6 IS MORE THAN 7 !

Stone03:
You are privileged to hear about Him now, you better receive Him now because your judgement and that of the people you mentioned will not go the same way

Bros, it is hightime you realized that it is total nonsensse to say it is only by believing in Jesus that one would go to heaven. That claim does not make any sense.
Consider this FACT carefully:
If you were born in a Muslim family, you would have most probably been a Muslim (yes or no?). And if you were a Muslim, you wouldn't believe in Jesus as your Lord and savior. Now imagine that you die as a muslim and God sends you to hell because of that, would you see that God as a good and loving God?

Deborah98:
It was unexpected,so bubu couldn't watch himself mess up and besides you need not to forget he needs to be briefed on how to talk,comport himself and even smile sef,what a funny country with a funny leader.

As funny as it sounds, this actually seems like the best explanation for Buhari's absence at his COAS burial.
If he was there, he would have necessarily had to address the people directly rather than reading from paper.. clearly, Buhari cannot do this without committing some ridiculous and embarrassing blunders.
I used to doubt this, but Buhari has now finally cleared my doubt. I just can't think of any other reason for Buhari's absence.
We Nigerian youths really need to do something to force Buhari out of office. 2023 is still far