For a while now, i've not seen him around. I enjoyed his defensive line of thought over any subject matter. I hope he is ok.

Or he has changed his ID. Coogar I wish u merry xmas ohhhh.

tpiar:
someone who fears God.

But in relation to relationship between a man and woman, what do you think about this God-fearin man issue?

Take for instance, a situation whereby a lady based all her judgements over her guy as a result of the man commitment in church and termed him God fearing. Subsequently they settle down(husband n wife), then the guy starts misbehaving in whatever way, then the wife shout out that while they were dating, her husband was God fearing.

So, it is on this note that im asking what God fearing man actually means for woman? Or do women believe that as a God fearing man such man cannot misbehave?

I think its very common to hear the above statement from ladies especially when it comes to relationship.

Ladies, what do you guys actually mean by this statement?

@op

What do you mean by "honey" in your write-up.

@op

I dont think you're a feminist. Because it's strange to see a feminist begging for ideas to deal with issues. They are always rounded.

Women are wicked. That is my submission

@op

Why are you asking for punishment for your husband. I think as a feminist, such shouldnt be an issue.

I was made to understand that feminists are all rounded - having solutions to all issues of life. Or maybe you are still learning. If so, ask your older colleagues, they will provide you with an answer. After all, feminists dont take rubbish from men.

romance007:
I appreciate you all for your contributions. Though i still got some perturbing questions. Pardon me if am silly.
When it is said it's not easy combining marriage and academics, BESIDES CHILDBIRTH, which other troubles are there?
I currently go to school from my parents home. Thus;
I got a multitude of dishes to wash daily whereas i may end up washing just 2 pieces in my husband's house.
I got several rooms and the compound to sweep sometimes twice daily whereas only some few with less dirt in my husband's house.
I got a community to cook for whereas i got to cook only for two in my husband's house.
I got Mummy, Daddy, and siblings to attend to their errands even after the stress of school whereas it's just my husband's errand i have if married. That's besides the possibility of having a househelp if it becomes too necessary.
I got my siblings assignment to assist with whereas my Husband's assignment would only be on Bed
Daddy wont assist me with that school assignment neither will mummy whereas i believe my husband will be there to assist.
I dont have to chat for hours on call or whatsapp with him since he will be having me around almost always meaning less distractions.
Plus i dont get the pressure of selfservice since he's gonna be there almost whenever needed
favoured234, vilight

Moreso, i dont contribute anything financially to my parents at the moment; Its gonna be the same thing with my hubby too until i graduate of course or he establish small biz for me as we are already planning.
So i ask again, besides the stress of pregnancy and child rearing, anyone wanna educate me on other troubles i havent seen cos of love blindness? Pls dont mind my foolishness if any, Its just LOVE . Thanks

Reading this your write up, made me laugh out so loud.

In this life, nothing is so sure. Listen to your parents. I wish you all the best.

Aitee1:
Chaiii...nairaland really land of wonders, op please can I be the next on board when you're menstruating

Ehn. I don catch you ohhhh. I will report you to mumsy.

tpiar:


not everybody can do that.


what types of friends exactly?

If one sets out to avoid sex before marriage, he/she must be ready to sacrifice and such is avoiding frendship.

As to what type of friend. I mean all types of friends. Because if you chose to have one irrespective of the gender, such could introduce you to what you are trying to avoid or sell the idea to you.

Avoid having friends at all cost.

seunkeji5:
hmmm

Talk jor, I want to hear your points about how you are planning to raise your kids. I'm waiting ohhhhhhh.

sexydiva21:
I have been married for about 5 years now. Intercourse has really being work for me. All oga says is remind me of amount of yams and bride prize he brought whenever he wants to get down atlast we get down.

He doesn't even kiss and romance anymore he just goes straight to the point. When he is eventually done he gets up and hits to the bathroom. I really don't know what is going on

Please advise no curses

I think he is not interested in what you want or it could be that you are the cause.

Stillfire:
I can just imagine a married man having the effrontery to open his dirty mouth and ask a whole Stillfire out, even single guys think twice before they tread my path.

You just dey shout. Just calm down, because u may not truly know what you think you know.

This is one of the reasons some men don't care after impregnating a lady. They hope and believe that one day, the child when of age, will look for them.

@op, I wish you all the best. When you meet him, kindly come back to share your experience.

@op

The pix up there is not a true reflection. Some husbands are very helpful in their home.

WhoBeThisMan:
I watched the video, here is my question:
Where are they running to. Should they not be rounded up and caught or neutralized instead of letting them excape to cause mayharm somewhere else?

My thought exactly.

LewsTherin:
Onegai, bukatyne, I must confess I'm flattered. Thanks for the respect. I feel you too. People need to learn that there is always another way and that way can be a lot better. I'll share my morning yesterday.

I made breakfast for my Lady and myself. Rice and fried plantains with fried fish stew. But I didn't spend more than 10 mins in the kitchen. Simply put the rice in the rice cooker, sliced the plantains directly into the deep fryer and stew that my Lady made a little while back straight into the microwave from the freezer. I just checked on everything once in a while and before you could say Nairaland, breakfast was ready. The missus was only too pleased to dish the meal. If I needed her to kneel while serving my food, I'm quite sure she wouldn't have minded. After all, the meal was ready with no stress for her as she had to get the little one ready for school.

The point I'm trying to make here is that it doesn't take much to help around the house. The rice cooker was a gift from my sister and her husband for our wedding 4 years ago. I got the deep fryer off dealdey.com for a great price over 2 years ago. 8k or so. Most people already have nukes and deep freezers. A guy doesn't need to leave everything to the wife because it's "her responsibility". How many of us big boys would go to the photocopier to get our ish done in the office because the secretary is busy on other things? Isn't it her job to do that? Why don't we make a fuss of it when we do?

Sorry for the long post but I just needed to pass the point along that even if, like Lord Reed said, it's only the basics we can do in the kitchen, those basics are still enough to prepare a meal for our families.

Well done bros. One can actually have a great marriage if one does the needful. I made up my mind years back that I will not be "a sitting room husband".

LewsTherin:
I cook for my family regularly. I prepare most breakfasts and a good number of times, I do dinner too. My Lady and I have very hectic work schedules. With the baby, and no help (our decision) there is always too much needing to be done.

The trick is learning to prepare quick meals. Breakfast can be varieties of sandwiches on different days like coleslaw and shredded chicken or toasted keema sandwiches. Dinner can be chicken fried noodles or spagetti bolognese. Fried rice is always easy too.

What we do is to prepare a good quantity of soups and stews, pack them and freeze them. Then prepare some chicken and beef, freeze those too. The abo.ki selling carrots and veggies near my house sees me most evenings. N200 gets me enough carrots, green beans and peppers to get fried rice ready in the time it takes to boil the rice. Chicken from the fridge and voila! Dinner is ready. Frozen soup plus microwave plus garri and eba is set. Easy and quick.

Gives my Lady time to bathe, feed and put the princess to bed and still have the strength and desire to get busy, you know what I'm saying

Point is anyone of us can get dinner ready any day of the week and no one gets stressed out. Besides O happen to enjoy cooking anyways.

That is the way. I love your approach. We men should try and help out a lot, women go through a lot daily. There is no benefit by allowing your wife to be stressed out by trying to do everything alone.

cococandy:

Nice of course.

OP talk true shey Na once in a yr cooking you dey do abi?

Lol. No, but today's cooking is different.

Mehn, cooking can be stressful sha. I decided to cook for my family today. I had to wake up very early today, did the washing after which I headed to the market. Market environment was something else because of the rain.

I had to find my way around, price items according to my power and paid outrightly for some items that I couldnt price.

Back to the house, at this moment I was a bit tired but I had to finish what I started. Straight to the kitchen, picked the waterleaf, cut perewinkle(mfi), prepared all the ingredients and then set out for the main cooking. Mehn, I spent almost 3hours(women una dey try ohhh). I couldnt believe that I spent that amount of time in the kitchen. Ohhh, I almost forgot, our little angel was very helpful in the kitchen with her dad, though she almost pour the oil away. Lol.

Im so happy, the soup(editang) came out exactly the way we wanted it, lol. I would have loved to upload some pix here, but I am not allowed, lol.

Ladies, how do you feel to see your husband doing the cooking and serve you at the end of the day?

Men, read and share your cooking experience

timy22:


Abi o!

Hope u are gentle and God fearing ohhhhhh?

timy22:

Pls come bck home, @ least you have your family nd love ones here, who will show u love nd help you incase of any thing.

If I were you,
I will come bck home, get some cash, start a small business till I give birth!

Nd after giving birth, I wil prepare myself for a better future with a worthy and a Godly fearing partner!

Stop living a miserable life over there by forcing ur self on some1 who careless about you!

forget the shame it will cause u, your happiness matters here, Come back ome, they is a gentle and caring man out there who will treat you right nd marry u, even with that baby!

You deserve to be happy , come bck home!

Timy, u too like gentle and God fearing man.

MrsPhyno:
Success is rolling in money, spraying money and swimming in money

Funny girl

bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake

No! You didn't spell it correctly. In order to be corrected, you must pay lesson fee lollllllll

MRBrownJ:
@Apexquest
think outside the box and do what matters to YOU, because you are the only one who is going to live with the consequences. if you are fully happy with your purchase then dont let any fool out there tell you (or make you feel) otherwise.
live your life, be merry, enjoy what you got and have a big smile while cruising pass the haters waiting at the bus stop!

Mrbrown, your comment is funny.

The animal should have been killed immediately.

@all thanks a million for wishing us well. @lovingmum, its been a long time, how is ur baby. Hope you are gud?

EfemenaXY:


Really, what's the "sense" in an outrightly skewered sexist article as this?

Do you not think it ought to work both ways for both sexes? Or are you proposing that the man should keep several partners while the woman sticks to her cheating partner?

The cheek.

I would have loved to expantiate on it more, but I can't afford such time right now.
Thanks

I can't thank God enough for how far He has brought us. Our lives are full of His glory.

When I look back where we are coming from it can only be God. When I look at how beautiful our lives have been, I say thank you God.

Our journey was not without struggle but God in His mercy make everything perfect in His time. If I should start to name His goodness upon our lives, there is no enough space for such.

When we look at our a little angel growing everyday and getting wiser by the day. We say thank you Lord.

Remembering things we couldnt afford in time past, but such things is no issue now, He has indeed prove Himself to all sufficient God.

To my beautiful wife for standing by me through thoughout those tough/hard times. I promise u nothing but the best. To my daughter, you have the best dad in the world. To my friends on nl, you have a good friend to count on.

In conclusion, whatever situation u may find your today, be hopeful and believe in a brighter tomorow. If God can do it for me/us. Surely your case is not perculiar.

There is so much sense in the article. If the world was a better place, maybe a lot if things would have been done differently. We live in a world where one cannot be completely happy.

I think the issue of one man to one woman was to help reduce conflict within the family, but many families are still struggling with so many internal issues even though it is a monogamous family.

In conclusion, I would have suggested that one should go for what gives him/her happiness but that will be an act of selfishness because if what gives one happiness will cause the next person pains, then one has to forgo such happiness. But by this, we now force to go into hiding or pretence because of the fear of what our open conduct will cause our partners.

In submission, one cannot have it all. We now have to take some and leave some, for the sake of those we chose to share our life with