Happy birthday sir. Thank you for teaching me the word of God in simple terms.

I love you.

I used my wife. For properties we jointly acquired, we used our child.

I don't have strength for unecessary headache.

Adesiji77:
There are many reasons why couples live apart. Whether by an act of chance or choice, here are some reasons why couples ought to live together

Fosters good child upbringing

Both parents have a particular input in the life of the child (ren). They have a figure to represent and children have different things to learn from them.

Learn more about each other

No matter how much you think you know someone, you would discover that you do not know everything about that person. It is advisable for new couples to live together as there are still things to discover and learn.

Better communication

Communication is key in a relationship and when couples live apart, they could disconnect. Although technology has eased communication between couples who live apart or far from each other, nothing can be compared to living together. This way, couples learn how best to relate with each other or what not to do to get on each other’s nerves. Emotions are best felt through physical connection.

Builds trust

One of the ways to building trust in a relationship is by living together with your partner and constantly reassuring each other of your love.

Health issues

If one partner has health challenges, it is unwise living apart because he or she needs attention and care as possible. In the case of an emergency, it is easier reaching out to your partner when you live together.

Shuns distractions

Couples who live apart are at a higher risk of cheating on each other than those who live together. Since there are different levels of resistance, a little show of affection or attention from the opposite sex who is not a spouse could set the sparks flying and even lead to more acts.

Shared responsibilities

Couples are meant to share responsibilities, moments and times together. When one is absent on one of such special moments, it grieves the heart of the other.


http://www.punchng.com/spice/relationship/never-live-apart/

I don't think whether new or old couple would delibrately want to live apart. Situations and circumstances make it so.

magictouch:


Please do pray for me cos I need that the most. The more I pray the worst things become. seems God is not looking my way.

We have known for over ten yrs and got married after 4 yrs of courting. the situation is already affecting mu daughter of 5 yrs in that she knows exactly what is going on. The other day, she was watching TV and she saw a man mistreating his wife, she started saying this is how my daddy used to beat my mummy, I was shocked, dont want them to grow in such environment.
I really dont know who to tell cos he doesnt involve any relative in our lives. Thanks for your advice

As it is now, you may have to seek the service of those that handle marrital issues professionally since informing his relatives will bring in more problems.

If after all this, the situation still remains the same, you will have to give him some space because of your safety and that of your children.

Don't give up on prayers. God is faithful.

magictouch:


thanks for ur advice. marriage is to be enjoyed not endured. i have been enduring for almost 7yrs. just looking for the best possible way to end things cos of our 3 kids. so exhausted of the emotional turtoure and abuse. tired of him telling me to leave his house everyday.

I really dont know under what circumstances did you guys become husband and wife. If it was a normal procedure - dating and courtship before marriage, I believe that you must have known a little about his character.

For you to stay together and have 3 kids, I also believe that things were not this bad. I really also don't know to what extent you have gone to make it work.

You can if possible check the line when it became this bad - that is the last time you guys had a peaceful relation. There is always a line between the good and the bad. So, kindly check that line and see if there any thing you can to bring about peace in your home because you need peace in your marriage not because of your children but for your sake as well.

If you need to bring in people who you think can help make things better if you have not already done so, please go ahead and do. If your husband is physically about you, even though verbally abused is also deadly, let some people be awared of his lifestyle towards you. Please dont keep quiet.

Then, also be very sure that his frustration is not caused by you.

I will help you in my prayer.

magictouch:

Hello my people, each time I have a heated argument with my husband he keeps demanding for our marriage Certificate, and I wonder what for.
if he wants a divorce cant he start the process without it, or if he needs it desperately cant he approach the church or court, there are copies there. So because of his demands, I decided to hide it. Please people that knows, kindly tell me how powerful the marriage certificate is, in the hands of a women during divorce process, does it protect the woman in anyway. Thank you.

Hmmmm. I don't think you should bother much about in whose hands the paper is. I think what you should be more concerned about is how you guys can live peacefully without this "heated argument".

If he needs the paper to be in his possession, then peacefully do so.

If I may ask, what is the cause of this argument and how old is your marriage?

You don't need to dream of divorce, dream of enjoying your marriage. I wish you the very best.

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KanwuliaJara:
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But here, it appears to me that everything is ok.

All those ladies shouting creche really dont know much about what they are saying.

I don't want to share some horrible experiences associated with this creche. Just wait untill you are married and kids start coming. By then, I believe it will be a different story.

Soyedele1:
I always feel sad hearing stories like this. I knw women are frustrating sometimes. While yu thinking towards west, some women will be thinking towards east. The OP locked her husband's cloths, FINE! but yet, I see no reason for her husband to beat her up. Why can't he just calm her down and explain how he spent his salary? What's the big deal there. Irresponsible men beat their wives. I have never slapped or beaten a lady before and I'm still praying to GOD to give the grace not to do such in my life.

OP, I'm so sorry about your situation, God will take control.

Are u married?

slimyem:
My days are like every other day.
I do not exhibit any unusual attitude nor does it affect my relations with people or situations. Maybe my hormones just agree with me.

It's because you're slim.

I am supposed to travel to Abuja on Friday - 14th Nov. 2014. I have already bought an online ticket but due to some circumstances, I will not travel again and I would like to sell it for a male passenger.

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I really dont know why this type of pressure on babies. I think if we have our way we would have changed everything including pregnancy - we wont allow them spend 9months in the womb.

I think some ladies should give birth in school, that way u wont have anything to worry about.

Hmmmm. Sister you cant eat your cake and have it. The distance of your relationship is too far. Not even occasionally visit can take care of this. You have to make plans on how to move to be with your hubby or he comes back to Naija if possible.

The damage that staying apart for a long period of time will cause, a million pounds job will not solve.

So, calm down, reason with your husband and both of you should come to a conclusion.

Pls dont persuade him to allow you stay back in Nigeria.

Ours happened when we were returning from Akwa Ibom to Lagos. Imagine for 3adults. We actually prepared ahead of time but, for just no reason decided to relax a bit at home. Little did we know that such relaxation will mean so much.

Our flight was at 12noon but at about 9am I received a text that it has been re-scheduled to take off at about 2:45pm. I said to my wife if so, let's not rush. At about 12noon we headed to the air port. At 1pm we were stil on the road, to 2, we were still on and by the time we got to the air port it was all over. I looked at my family with our little angel, we had no other option than to double almost the amount we bought our initial tickets.

When we got to Lag, we made up our minds that we would never miss our flights again and it has been so.

So, share urs if it has happened to u.

My brother, man is faced with so much. Here is a few list:

1) Man must be the first to ask the woman out.

2) Man must ask the woman what she would like to eat

3) Man must foot the pill

4) Man must open the door for the woman

5) To maintain his gentleman status, man must not raise his voice on a woman

7) After the outing, man must drop the woman off if he has a car otherwise he has to pay for a taxi sometimes taxi with ac otherwise he would be termed not "caring"

In the area of love making, it is the responsibility of a man make the woman.....

9) Man must make the woman get orgasm

10) For a man not to be termed a selfish man, he has to get approval from the woman before he can cum

11) The man must satisfy the woman by all means, even if he has to borrow energy from his next door neigbour. It's his responsibility.

God is our strength jare.

Feel free to add urs

bukatyne:
@OP:

She should be able to handle it herself and tell you for information purpose.

However, as it stands, tell him to stop disturbing your girl if you are sure there is nothing between them and cut off all ties with him.

Goodluck.

Assuming i'm single and a guy ask me to stop talking to a particular girl, I will really feel so sad about his life.

5minsmadness:

With the way i'm feeling and with his scrawny form it won't be a fight, I assure you.
***shut the door on your way out.***

Ok then, but ur girl will fill so happy. Hope u understand what I mean?

Even with millions of girls all over the place guys are still fighting over girls. Im out.

Sophyrocks:
I am soooo Sorry about your loss. It seems your husband left no will. If only you had the means to take them to court. I would advise you get something doing as soon as possible. These people you are dealing with are dangerous. You could get yourself killed. Stay away from these people as much as possible. Its very important for a woman to be self sufficient financially when married.

I cn't see myself marrying into a diabolical family.God forbid!

She may nt have known that d family is into some bad stuff.

Just remember her in ur prayers.

This is going to be very tough considering the fact that u have kids. You need to plan with your husband.

If I may ask, how soon do you think it will take before you move your kids to join you? You have to be very careful. I wish u all the best

real22:
My own opinion. You should have a stable job or a good source of income. You should be able to rent a good apartment for ur new family & at least give your wife #30k to #40k every month for the up keep of the house.

Then for the marriage plan form introduction to traditional to white wedding have a budget of 1.5m to 2m naira.

This girl is very funny

Op, thanks for the information. Now, let me make some calls

iebanehita:


If i may come in?

What she meant was that you should improve on your social life.

Attend birthday parties, cocktail dinners, seminars, inaugural lectures (for the nerds), conferences, watch a musical concert (gospel or secular artiste), attend anniversary (your place of work or that of a colleague), watch a movie/drama night, go on tour/sight seeing of places you fantasies as a child, chill out n enjoy being single for the time being, for the spiritually minded, you can meet with people at a convention or any church programme.

Bros all this to get a lady. It appears so stresdful.

I really dont know why some guys find it so hard to have a girl, maybe it is caused by their lives style

pickabeau1:




Yes .. good land appreciates wella

Just buy it in you and your spouse name
Put child as next of kin

A land that will be fallow for so many years.. legal hoops, name change etc, hmmm...well..... what works for you

I want it to be in her name cos she is already an heir to some stuff

pickabeau1:
aluta has said it

people have lands and houses these days just lyingfallow as their pikin no even send because they cant be bothered from their own lives.

Invest in the deposit for now and if possible, some form of educational insurance product

Consistency is the key

It is easier to save 20,000 monthly over a 5 year period than to open a fixed deposit of 1.2m immediately

Same amount

Hmmmmm. I have to think about this seriously. I was thinking that the land is better because of the fact it will appreciate to a large extent over time.

I need more inputs. Thanks

nikkyshyne:
I prefer the fixed deposit. If you intend buying a plot of land, it has to be a meaningful plot. Not all those plots in bushes and agents deceiving you of development potentials.

Niky, the plot will be meaningful if we finally settle for land and it will be within an estate. Thanks for ur input

alutacontinua:


One year don reash already?
I trust she's looking cuter by the day
ehen, as per question-any of the above is cool! Maybe a deposit might be better sha cos you wouldn't have to start taking plenty plenty things into consideration e.g. location, what happens years down the line etc etc!

My point is one plot of land fit get small small wahala for side but deposit would keep yielding interest till angel is ready! And who knows? You might decide to keep adding in subsequent years!

happy birthday in advance to her!

Yes ohhhhh one year is almost here. Thnks for ur contribution. For d regards, I will tell her.

We are planning a birthday gift for our daughter.

I am of the opinion that we should buy her a plot of land, but my wife is of the opinion that we should do fix deposit for her. This will be her first birthday.

Please I need your opinion. Thanks

moca:
This is d most childish thing i hv ever seen online.
Posting somebody's picture without her consent online?

Requesting strangers call ur baby mama?
Dont u know her house or people?

I tell u, unless she decides otherwise, that lady has gone for good.

Eww, see show of lv.
I call this immaturity and stupidity at d highest level.
Better remove that picture if u value ur baby gal not to talk of ur woman.

O buro ogologo bu na nwa m etoka.

U hv no reason being in a relationship if ur thought process is this way.

U are very wicked. Stop living a frustrated life. I wonder how ur neigbour dogs cope with this attitude of yours

To some yes. To some no.