₦airaland Forum

agentNija:
Obi fall my hand by replying Soludo. Soludo was not even talking about him in the first place.

yarimo:
Ameachi one term
ATIKU one term
Obi one term
Oya El RUFAI how many term will you do? Coalition of desperate losers

These our politicians sef, they don't even take anyone seriously.....ONE TERM is now the latest buzzword

Makavelli001:
"I loaned my ex-girlfriend, Teaira Mari, $25,000, but she refused to repay me, claiming it was due to our past relationship. I took her to court, and she ended up paying me $100,000. I left the courtroom smiling with the outcome” - 50 Cent

"When Teaira Mari, my ex-girlfriend, asked for financial help during our relationship, I initially refused, emphasizing that women are independent and don’t need men to cover their expenses. After she insisted on a loan, I had her sign a contract and lent her $25,000, which she later refused to repay. I stayed patient, letting the debt accrue interest like a bank would, until it reached $50,000.

I took her to court, not just to recover the money but to set an example for others. She had assumed she didn’t need to repay the loan because of our intimate relationship, which we both mutually enjoyed. In court, she was ordered to pay $50,000 for the debt and an additional $50,000 in damages, proving she couldn’t exploit our past.

My decision to pursue legal action was about more than just the money—it was to show men not to fall for manipulative tactics and to caution women against expecting financial gain from relationships. I believe relationships should be mutual, not a transaction where intimacy is leveraged for money. I walked away from the situation satisfied, having protected my interests and set a precedent. ~ 50 Cent

Ladies never paid attention when 50 Cent said he's a P.I.M.P and not à SÎMP and no matter what you heard about him, ”A B!tch ain't getting a dollar outta him” 😆

Commentor:
He's right.

Martinelli is piss poor.

That wing is really weak whenever he plays.

azpekuliar:
Forget that childhood friend. Even if you find her u tink say una go vibe as una be as kids. After 20-25 years? Dey play. Infact na the opposite go happen. U go come dey ask yourself why u even bothered.

naptu2:
Senator Abdulaziz Musa Yar'Adua is the younger brother of former Chief of Staff, Supreme Headquarters (military vice president) Major General Shehu Musa Yar'Adua and former President Umaru Musa Yar'Adua.

He is the son of the former Minister of Lagos Affairs (in the First Republic), Mallam Musa Yar'Adua. He is a former lieutenant colonel in the Nigerian Army.

Senator Adbulaziz Musa Yar'Adua @SenatorYaradua



https://x.com/SenatorYaradua/status/1952117146907259380?t=_ZwAM-ZqCso0cuI1yX1VkA&s=19[/quote]> Well done again Naptu2 for clearing things up. The way our press is behaving, especially the online media makes one worry the kind of people we now rely on for our news. The VON guy and the falcons losing to Morocco report comes strongly to mind.

elobrave17:
What has age got to do with this?
I can buy a crate but being inconsiderate and still demand for it. That's the point.

helinues:
When we said Peter Obi is also a co owner of the demolished Next foods building, his supporters are as usual arguing blindly. Why has Peter Obi been talking this particular building demolition personal.

The case is now even with the government, it's public case. Citizens vs Citizens, a court made judgement based on the evidence available today, because the judgement did not favour Peter Obi, he has been crying foul since.

And this is someone who is aspiring to be a Nigeria president disgracing himself in a thuggish manner. Would he even respect the court order as the president?

BlackViper:
You mean the Eduardo Dos Santos who spent his entire career enriching himself and his family, is still considered a hero?

casualobserver:
i have seen a lot of his videos. the guy is learning on the job. some of the things he says are correct but he makes out like he is more knowledgeable than he really is. There are many things I have seen him say in his videos that are outrightly false.

to me he is a cowboy.

verify anything you hear from his videos. personally i dont watch his videos anymore.

AustineE1:
Lagos Is Playing with Fire — And Tinubu Must Put It Out

By Babafemi Ojudu

A troubling trend is unfolding in Lagos State. In the aftermath of the recent local government elections, some newly elected officials have embarked on a reckless spree of renaming streets—particularly those bearing Igbo names or named after prominent non-indigenes. This is not coincidental; it is a calculated political maneuver rooted in resentment, identity politics, and shortsighted leadership.

The long-simmering tension between Yoruba and Igbo communities reached a boiling point during the 2023 elections. Peter Obi of the Labour Party shocked the political establishment by defeating Bola Ahmed Tinubu—Lagos’s long-reigning political figure—in the presidential poll within the state. That upset sent shockwaves through the ruling APC, and fears grew that a similar surprise might unfold in the governorship race. What followed was an aggressive, divisive campaign that shamelessly weaponized ethnicity, fear, and misinformation.

Wild accusations flew: that the Igbo had “bought up” Lagos, “taken over” the economy, and were scheming to seize political power. These narratives were dangerous—and not entirely new. But while they didn’t arise in a vacuum, they have been irresponsibly amplified.

It’s true that some individuals within the Igbo community, in asserting cultural pride, have crossed into political overreach—not just in Nigeria but abroad. A recent example is an Igbo man in Ghana who purchased large tracts of land and declared himself a king, sparking fears—justified or not—of secessionist ambitions in host communities. Similarly, the proliferation of self-styled “Eze Ndi Igbo” (Igbo kings) across non-Igbo regions can be perceived as provocative, especially when seen as parallel authority structures. While these acts may stem from pride and cultural identity, they can easily be exploited by opportunistic politicians to sow fear and division.

But make no mistake: these isolated actions do not justify collective punishment or cultural erasure.

Lagos was built by many hands—Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Urhobo, Tapa, and more. Its strength lies in its diversity. To target any group—especially one so deeply embedded in the city’s economy and social fabric—is not just morally wrong; it is politically suicidal.

Rather than stoking ethnic division, Lagos leaders should focus on the real threats to the city: youth unemployment, drug addiction, urban decay, traffic congestion, and collapsing infrastructure. These are the issues threatening Lagos’s future—not the names on its street signs.

What makes this ethnic posturing even more shortsighted is the broader national context. Discontent is rising across Nigeria. The economy is reeling, inflation is crushing households, and insecurity remains rampant. As the 2027 elections approach, the ruling APC is grappling with waning public trust. Alienating a significant Southern demographic—the Igbo—while Northern political elites express growing dissatisfaction with Tinubu’s leadership is a dangerous gamble.

Just recently, Northern heavyweight Rabiu Kwankwaso declared that the North feels marginalized under Tinubu’s presidency and may not support his re-election. If the North grows distant and the Southeast is antagonized, where will the support come from? This trend risks isolating the South West politically—and that isolation will not bode well for the Yoruba, both at home and in the diaspora.

This is where President Bola Ahmed Tinubu must rise above the fray. He cannot afford to allow partisan loyalty or ethnic sentiment to blind him to the growing danger of ethnic polarization. Left unchecked, it could spiral into something far more sinister—even ethnic cleansing. Nigeria is too fragile for such a descent.

The President must initiate a process of reconciliation. He should reach out to Igbo leaders—both at home and abroad—to promote moderation and mutual respect. Online abuse and reckless insults, such as referring to revered Yoruba figures like Wole Soyinka in derogatory terms, must cease. I was stunned to read a young Igbo man referring to Soyinka as a “gbajue professor.” Such incivility wounds the national psyche and deepens mistrust.

At the same time, Tinubu must speak frankly to Yoruba communities—especially indigenes of Lagos. Being a host comes with responsibility, not superiority. You cannot sell your land willingly, spend the proceeds on indulgent lifestyles, and then resent those who invested and built on that land. You cannot eat your cake and still have it. If you admire the success of others, emulate their work ethic and community spirit—don’t scapegoat them.

Meanwhile, fault lines are cracking elsewhere. In the North, Muslim-Christian tensions are rising. The once-cohesive Fulani-Hausa alliance is showing strain. In the South, Yoruba-Igbo relations are fraying. In the Niger Delta, some groups are rejecting the inclusion of Igbos in the Biafra narrative. Even among the Yoruba, there is growing resentment against the idea of “giving everything to Lagos,” while some Lagosians disparage non-indigenous Yoruba (“ara oke”) who’ve found success in the city.

Nigeria is a house divided—and unless urgent steps are taken, it may not stand much longer. The crisis in Rivers State has stirred new waves of resentment in the Niger Delta. Everywhere, identity-based fault lines are deepening.

President Tinubu must not be complacent. If Nigeria fractures, history will not remember his economic policies or political victories. It will remember that the house collapsed under his watch.

The task before him is urgent and non-transferable: call your boys to order, heal old wounds, unite the nation, and rise above petty politics. This is not a job for committees or proxies. Only bold, visionary leadership can pull Nigeria back from the brink.

The window is closing. Now is the time to act.

• Ojudu is a former Senator, journalist, political scientist,

FreeStuffsNG:
Here's the list on CNN website. I immediately searched for Nigeria but didn't find us on his list for 15%.
https://edition.cnn.com/2025/07/31/business/tariffs-trade-trump-deadline

Is there another list elsewhere ni?

Deluxe8000:
Pls, how can I dispose (sell) this battery or change the batteries in it to good ones through diy? Thanks

FerrariBaron:
Please i keep seeing HF and LF inverters. How will someone know which products are HF or LF inverters?

Or hybrid inverters are not classified as either HF or LF?

Juror:
What you stated is not a valid means of identification or distinction.
There are HFs that have Voc under 150V, in fact majority of the earlier HF solar inverters have this, even some latest models have that.
I am surprised you are even doubling down on your earlier post.

This is not about arguing semantics.

Penguin2:
News made front page here on Nairaland of how VDM called out Governor Hope Uzodimma for hosting only Igbo players out of the Falcons squad.

But here are pictures of Govs Adeleke and Sanwolu of Osun and Lagos respectively, hosting only Yoruba players of the Falcon squad.

VDM never made a video to call them out. But because Uzodimma did same thing, VDM turned on his ring light and started cursing Uzodimma. And the question is to what end? What was VDM’s aim doing that video? What did he hope to achieve?

Why are the rules always applied differently when Igbos are involved?

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Mynd44
Fergie001

Onokussie:
By Emeka Chiaghanam

The faucet drips once. Then twice. The sound echoes through a small kitchen just before dawn. Outside, a crow calls and wind pushes hard against the pane. A woman stirs eggs. A man lays out her favorite mug, the one with the chipped handle she won't throw away. They don't speak, but in that silence, love lives.

That’s how it often is. Not fireworks, not grand gestures. Just steady hands doing quiet things. Love, the real kind, the kind that lasts past slammed doors and unpaid bills, lives in the margins. It breathes in the mundane, in little acts done with big meaning. The rest? That's just noise.

This isn’t advice from a fairy tale. No perfect lighting, no violins. Just the gritty, solid stuff that holds people together when the honeymoon's over and life starts demanding more than it gives. And funny, right? The smaller the act, the more it matters. So, let's talk about the nine little acts that keep love alive, every damn day.

1. Making the Bed—Together or Apart

A bed isn’t just a place you sleep. It’s where you laugh, argue, whisper your fears, and wake up half-tangled in someone else’s warmth. Making it each morning is a way of saying, “We’re still here. We still care.”

It’s not about tidiness. It's about discipline. About respect. In military barracks, making the bed is the first task of the day, done right, it sets the tone. In relationships, it signals intention. Stanford research shows that small rituals done consistently boost emotional stability. Couple that with the dopamine kick of completing a task, and you've got a practice that quietly bonds.

Even if one partner sleeps in, do it. It’s a small win. A signal of continuity. And in a world spinning fast, continuity matters.

2. Touching in Passing

Not everything has to be sexual. A brush of the hand on the back. A palm against the shoulder. A slow squeeze as you pass each other in the hallway. These moments build what psychologist Dr. John Gottman calls a “love map.”

Touch is a primal language. Before we spoke, we reached out. Long before roses and candlelit dinners, we leaned on each other for warmth and survival. Studies show that affectionate touch, holding hands, hugs, even a light pat, lowers cortisol and increases oxytocin, the so-called “bonding hormone.”

So don’t wait for intimacy. Create it, slowly. Daily. Silently. A passing touch says, “I see you.” And more importantly, “I still want to.”

3. Sharing the Load Without Being Asked

Dishes piled in the sink. A trash bag full and sagging. The car’s fuel light blinking again. You could wait. Or you could just do it.

Love thrives in the unspoken. When you share burdens before they become complaints, you’re saying, “I’ve got your back.” Not because you were told to. Not because it’s your job. But because you care.

A 2019 Pew Research study showed that shared responsibilities ranked nearly as high as fidelity in what makes a successful marriage. That’s huge. So take out the trash. Refill the soap. Clean the damn filter. It might not be romantic, but neither is resentment—and that one builds fast.

4. Listening Without Solving

Most people just want to be heard. They don’t need answers. They need a witness.

It’s tempting to jump in with solutions, especially for men. “You should…” “Why didn’t you…” But love asks for presence, not blueprints.

Sit. Listen. Nod. Let the silence stretch without rushing to fill it. Ask questions like, “How did that make you feel?” Or, “What do you need right now?”

This reminds me of a 2018 Harvard Business Review piece that found couples who felt “emotionally validated” during conflict were 50% more likely to report high relationship satisfaction. Listening doesn’t just fix problems, it prevents them.

5. Saying “Thank You”—Out Loud

It sounds obvious. But in long-term love, we stop. We start assuming things are known. That our partner knows we appreciate the dinner, the ride, the patience. But assumptions rot relationships.

Gratitude is a muscle. Use it, or it withers.

Say “thank you” like you mean it. Look them in the eye when you do. Even if it’s something small, a coffee made just the way you like it. Or something routine, picking up the kids. Each “thank you” is a drop of water in the reservoir you’ll both draw from during dry spells.

Psychologists at UC Davis found that couples who expressed gratitude regularly were more committed and less likely to break up. So yeah, say it.

6. Checking In During the Day

A text that reads, “How’s your day going?” can be a lifeline.

We’re all busy. Jobs, deadlines, traffic, stress. But a message, just one line, can cut through the fog. It says, “I’m thinking of you, even now.”

Don’t overthink it. Don’t make it poetic. Make it human.

It could be:

“Hope that meeting didn’t suck.”
“Grabbed your favorite bread.”
“Miss you.”
It doesn’t take effort. It takes intention. A 2015 Journal of Communication study found that digital check-ins boost feelings of closeness, especially in couples juggling distance or work stress.

Send the damn text.

7. Laughing at Inside Jokes

Every couple has them. That weird nickname. That time the lasagna exploded. The squirrel that attacked your sandwich during a picnic. They’re little memory-stamps. And they matter more than you’d think.

Laughter is more than joy, it’s armor. When the world is cruel, when money’s tight, when the baby won’t sleep, those private jokes become anchors.

Shared humor increases resilience. According to a study by University of Kansas, couples who laugh together are more likely to endure hardship without turning on each other.

So keep the inside jokes alive. Tell them again. And again. Even when you’re tired. Especially then.

8. Noticing Changes (And Saying So)

She got a new haircut. He shaved his beard. They started wearing cologne again. Most people don’t make these changes out of vanity. They do it hoping someone notices.

So notice.

Say, “You look good today.” Say, “That shirt brings out your eyes.” Say, “I love your laugh. I still do.”

The key here is specificity. General flattery dies fast. But real, sharp noticing, that cuts deep. That says you still pay attention. And when people feel seen, they bloom.

This act alone, genuine noticing, can slow the slide into emotional neglect. A place no relationship recovers from easily.

9. Letting Them Be Themselves

This one’s the hardest. And the most important.

You fell in love with a person. Not a project.

Too many lovers become silent sculptors, chiseling away until the other person fits a vision they once saw in a dream. That’s not love. That’s control.

Love means letting them have their moods. Their music. Their ugly pajamas. Their need for quiet. Their sudden, inexplicable hunger for fried yam at 10 p.m.

It means holding space. Backing off. Letting go of small battles. Picking peace over perfection.

This act, this surrender, isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. Because the truth is, no one stays the same. We all evolve. So the one you love today won’t be the same in five years. And that’s okay, if you both make room for that change.



Last Thoughts

Love isn’t loud. It doesn’t always announce itself. Most days, it whispers.

It’s in the way two cups are set out even when one person’s running late. In the way someone remembers to turn on the porch light before the other gets home. In socks folded just the right way. In silence shared without the need to fill it.

It’s in these nine little acts, so small, they’re easy to miss. But miss too many, too often, and love starves.

Let’s be honest. Relationships are work. Even the best ones. Maybe especially the best ones. But not all work is backbreaking. Some of it is simple. Some of it is slow. Some of it is soft.

And the ones who last? They don’t just love hard. They love well.

One small act at a time. Every day. Even on the days they don’t feel like it.

Especially then.

Ofunaofu:
Mynd44, you're a moderator. I expected you to rise above board, be neutral and apolitical, which is the standard for someone in your position but your bias here calls your purpose on this platform into question.

You're confusing administrative boundaries with political narratives. The capital was Lagos not Lagos Island, not Lagos State just Lagos, as recognized both constitutionally and internationally. This revisionist spin to make Reno Omokri sound informed only shows how far some of you are willing to go to defend clear misinformation.

Yes, over 70% of what is now Lagos State was once part of the old Western Region but that doesn’t change the fact that Lagos, as the Federal Capital Territory, was carved out and administered separately from the Western Region. This was from 1963 until Abuja officially became the capital in 1991.

If we’re going to rewrite history, let’s at least not embarrass ourselves in the process.

esnbrutality:
Just to support fallacy and outright lies by a known and failed propagandist. See the people above my post that support a failure.


So if ILORIN was the administrative capital of NIGERIA, the capital of NIGERIA is ILORIN? ..not Kwara State abi?

Na wa ooooooo!!?

Righteousness2:
ISRAEL is the Only Nation on Earth
That Speaks the same Language
Uses the same Currency
Same Tribe
And is in its same land as it was over 3000yrs ago.

WriterNig:
🇺🇸 US House Of Rep MJ Taylor Greene posted;


🔗 CNN

Angry Ukranians Protest In Front Of Zelensky's Presidential Palace (Pix)

CaptainArc:
How can one tell a genuine solar panel from substandard (brand new or used), how can I verify actual wattage?