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excanny:
This story sounds creepy.

Samantha124:
I have two brothers-in law and the first one started dating my sister while still in high school, him and I have that good brother and sister relationship. Sometimes we can even spent about 30 minutes talking over the phone and discussing about life in general and him telling me about the kids, that's how close we are.

As for the second brother In law, he started dating my sister while she was still in college, him and I have had a bit of differences in past because he has a drinking problem and I sometimes just don't like the way he behaves when he's drunk. But I accepted him as my brother in law because my sister loves him despite his drinking problem.

The main problem with my second brother in law started back in 2021, we were having a party at home and I decided to go to bed before everyone because I was tired. It happened that this brother in law of mine was drunk and he started embarrassing my sister and she decided to take him to the other room in the house and asked him to stay there. I was in my room sleeping, but not yet asleep when my room door opened and at first I thought it was just my mom, or one of my aunts or cousins. I expected the person to switch on the light since I switched it off, but this person started walking towards my bed. I lifted my head to check who it was and I found out that it was my second brother in law, I immediately dismissed him from my room.

I told everyone about it the following day except my father and my then boyfriend, who's now my fiance and they all laughed it off and said he was just drunk and lost, that I shouldn't make a big deal out of it. Fine, I let it go... Last year in August a close relative of ours was getting married and everyone traveled home to prepare for the wedding.

A day before the wedding my parents and two sisters decided that they were going to spent the night at the relative's place as they were help preparing for the wedding the following day, but I and my other sister were told to go home with our nephews and nieces... Later in the evening my sister brought my brother in law to the house and he had started embarrassing her again because he was drunk.. I was already in my room when they arrived, though I was not asleep, I decided to go and check on them because I can't stand my brother in law whenever he's drunk.... Apparently my sister immediately prepared a room for him to sleep in but he turned it down and said he was okay with sleeping on the couch in the living room... The room used to be previously my sister's before she got married and it's a bit far from the living room.

But mine is close to the living room, after he refused to go to the room that was prepared for him, my sister ended up giving him a blanket to sleep on the couch and she drove back to the relative's place. Everything seemed fine and we all went to sleep. While I was in my sleep I could hear some footsteps but at first it was like a dream, but then they started sounding like they were getting closer and they started to sound real... I immediately woke up and found my brother in law standing on my side of the bed, I jumped up from the bed and asked him what was he doing in my room, but he started apologizing and told me of how he thought it was the bathroom.

I was so scared I kicked him out of my room and locked the door, I checked the time and it was around 2am.. I Immediately called my sister and explained to her what her husband did and asked her to come and fetch him because he was scaring me... But she told me to just lock the door and don't mind him... I couldn't get some sleep since then and he came back to the door at around 4am and attempted to open it again, but it was locked.

In the morning I waited for him to leave the house first before I could get out of my room, I told the sister I was with in the house about it and she suggested that I tell Mom because Dad was going to overreact... I then told Mom and she said she'll see what she can do, I was hoping that she'll warn him about it, but to my surprise, she didn't do anything about it... I was hurt, but I let it go, again.

I could've told my fiance about it, but I didn't because I knew that there was going to be a fight if I did, and I didn't want a fight.

Now this past Thursday we traveled home for Easter and I was so happy to see my family again... As usual, we had a family chillax on Friday and everyone came through to hangout, this time my fiance was also there.. later in the afternoon I decided to go take a nap and I left everyone outside, as I was napping, I felt someone touch me and at first I thought maybe it was my fiance... I was shocked when I found out that it was my brother in law and he was trying to have his way with me but fortunately, I managed to screaming and everyone came running.

A fight broke out between him and my fiance and I was so scared because my brother in law is the kind of a person who likes carrying a gun with him, but they were separated... My father got to find out that I complained to my mom before about my brother in law, but she didn't do anything about it and now he's mad at my mom for letting things get this far.

Now the family is divided... I love my sister, nephews and niece, I don't want to cut ties with them because of her husband and their father, but I don't know how I'm going to do it because I don't want anything that has to do with my brother in law.. Some say I should press charges for attempted rape, while others say that I should let the family elders intervene... I'm still confused right now, I don't know what to do.

I just can't help but feel guilty that if I had told my Dad about the whole thing from 2021, all of this would've been prevented.

thedarkened:
You completely missed the message because you want to attack; as a matter of fact, you completely derailed from the logic and rationale behind my advice for the young man.

I never blamed nor castigated him, did you see any? I only advised him.

Point out a line or paragraph in what I typed that could further worsen his case or make him stray. Your guess is as good as mine, you can't find any.

Now look at what you just said!! Are you really trying to help him with that kind of advice?

thedarkened:
Op take this advice!!

It's better not to taste it (sex) at all in the first place, because the moment you taste it, you crave for more; it's just how our body system is wired.

If you are incapacitated to marry at this time, which of course I strongly recommmend, then I advise you to keep yourself very busy; be occupied with one or two things, like the skill you are learning.

Try to avoid situations that would make you be idle and carried away in thought about stuff like that. Visit friends if need be;just be occupied.

Also, avoid situations that would make you be alone with the opposite sex (this increases one's vulnerability level; it's not always the devil, we can cause it too).

Meanwhile, when you are alone, think positively, take your mind off erotic thought and contents. Mind you, it will come but the moment it comes, be proactive now to think of what you could replace that thought with.

Please note that, sexual immorality does not only occur when there is peneration of the female genitals; masturbation, touching of the opposite sex private parts or genitals, deep kissing of one who's not one's spouse etc are all under the umbrella of sexual immorality.

Finally, I could see you really want to stop, therefore don't rule out the impact of prayer. Talk to God like a son would demand things from the father. Tell him how you feel and how you so much want to stop this, he sees your heart and would definitely help;cry to him if need be, he will help.

I believe this will pass!!!!

Shapeaso:
Op, seriously you need a girlfriend before you rape someone.

The bolded might sound like a joke, but if you had a senior brother or uncle you trusted, he would have since given you the same advice.

Religious people need to learn to stop trying to be innately who you were not created to be, even Paul said clearly that instead of burning needlessly (and some even assaulting boys), go and marry. Yes you cannot marry yet, but God made you good looking, girls are naturally all over you, yet you are burning like charcoal, and still asking what next

omonnakoda:
Apart from the Lagos 2017 law the FG also has a policy
https://guardian.ng/news/fg-makes-mother-tongue-compulsory-in-primary-schools/


Also in the SE
https://www.nairaland.com/1574363/university-make-igbo-language-compulsory
https://punchng.com/imo-makes-igbo-language-compulsory-in-schools/
https://allafrica.com/stories/201006080539.html

Urheadmaster:
This war the Yorubas have started will consume the Yorubas one after the other

Vischy:
Modern Day Slavery

Eligible To Be The Governor of Lagos:
1. Tinubu - State of Origin - Osun State.
2. Fashola - State of Origin - Ekiti State.
3. Ambode - State of Origin - Ondo State.
4. Sanwoolu - State of Origin - Ogun State.

Not Eligible To Be The Governor of Lagos:
1. Patrick Gbadebo Rhose-Vivour (GRV) - State of Origin - Lagos State (Lagos Island).
2. Jandor - State of Origin - Lagos State.

FFK: Those Lagosians Claiming To Be Yorubas Of Lagos Are Not Yorubas. They Are Slaves Who Were Repatriated To Lagos Via Sierra Leone, Liberia, E.t.c.

BabaRamota1980:

She is not Mrs Rhodes. Chinedu father never married her.

Kenneth4u205:
The real chapel is inside the heart of a genuine christian.no man can close that one

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Antiurchins:
2 faced afonja

Valto:
18W 56" DC/AC ceiling fan with remote control and 5meter connection cable @ 30k. other brands available @28k

OfoIgbo:
That is one thing this Yoruba bigots don't know.

Up to 99% of Igbos living in Lagos don't even know his mother is Igbo. These Yoruba bigots are making Gbadebo's mom's heritage a big issue in this election, not knowing that they probably getting Igbos to realise this fact.

Whether they like it or not, Igbos and SS people in Lagos have a huge population. Add the real indigenes of Lagos to it, and you can see why Gbadebo's electoral chances are not bad. If Yoruba bigots think they are killing Gbadebo's chances, they are making a huge mistake.
They tried the same thing with Obi and Afenifere-led Yorubas, SSners and Igbos of Lagos taught them a lesson in the presidential election.

Yoruba bigots are unknowingly motivating SSners and Igbos in Lagos to come out and vote for Gbadebo massively.
He will be the first indigenous governor of Lagos that is not tied to the Tinubu shackles.

DSC7:
Ask them about Tinubu...

DSC7:
Osun indigenes never liked Tinubu, you can go there and confirm...

They mostly refer to him as Ole(thief)..

socialmediaman:
It can’t be called the 25th state requirement because additional states can be created today and the 2/3 requirement stands.

The constitution could’ve said

“25% in 2/3 of all the states including the FCT” and then clarified on the next line that FCT is considered as a state for this requirement,

OR

“25% in 2/3 of all the states and 1 additional state or the FCT”

OR

“25% in 2/3 of all the states not including the FCT”

The constitution didn’t say any of those, it rather said

“25% in 2/3 of all the states and the FCT” which means you need 25% in the FCT and 2/3 of all the states.

Bmaster:
this is 'your' interpretation.
U guys are not smart riggers sef,oh how high we have held you urchins in this game before now.

Obi is coming

concho:
This is for Educative purposes and I plead with all who knows and can interpret the acts and constitutions to assist us.

I'm just a trader and would love to get clarity on this

Can I become a president of FRN if I meet other constitutional requirements without making 25% in FCT ?

Workch:
As it stands.

According to constitution, winner must get 25% in FCT

desmond2pk:
So as it's now, the scenario is as follows:

1. Tinubu has 6m+ votes. 25% in 24 States. 19% in FCT.

He's short of constitutional requirement.

Therefore can't be declared the President.

2. Atiku has 5m+ votes.

25% in 24 States.

10% in FCT.

Can't be declared the President.

3. PITOBI has 4m+ votes.

25% in 24 States.

25% in FCT.

But lesser overall majority.

Can't be declared the President

id911:
Christians are not minority. While Northern Christians voted overwhelmingly for Peter Obi, Southern Christians betrayed them by voting Muslims tickets.