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sanmtiago:
Please find these men and mob them cause they don’t deserve life

Exactly. They should be thrown to the public for execution.

The only way to pay for their action should be when they are been sentenced to death by public execution to honour those they have killed.

People should start eliminating these SARS guys through any means even if its poisoning them. They have no human heart. Either you give them money or they get you killed. They are trained Official Armed Robbers who specializes on kidnapping, armed robbery and killing.No one should give them any form of sympathy when you see them in danger, rather, help to get rid of them.Always pray for their death as only the rightouse among them, nothing will happen to them.

UyaiIncomparabl:
She's not abnormal. All of her actions are/were premeditated and as thus; are conscious choices she's made overtime.

I can't come to a conclusion on this, but I think (a strong possibility) that your wife doesn't love you. You' were just available for her to make as a choice to salvage her biological clock from waning out.

Just as they say, when the desirable isn't available, you make the available one your choice. I love to show off what I 'LOVE'. So you see, it's tit for tat.

A deep check; She takes pictures, but excludes/crops you out, you tag her, she untags you, you buy her gifts, she cringes and in turn makes you feel worthless, she tells you she doesn't need to show you off to the world to know you both are married. That's a blatant lie from the abyss. In as much as I want to be stingy, nay say cautious with the truth, but I have to let it all out. You're not her fantasy. Forget that part about you being tall, dark and handsome. Beauty is subjective. You may think you're attractive but she sees you below that. How do you people even make love? Is there chemistry?

Another thing, you saw these signs during courtship and still stubbornly had to dive in? You're the architect of your own misfortune. I just hope she hasn't been cheating on you. I won't say she's unemotional, she isn't. (A person with less or little emotion transcends such vibe to people around him/her, they have no feelings). She just doesn't vibe with you. Communicate with her and hear her reasons out. I'm 100% sure it'll be gibberish. If it persists, don't be afraid to lose yourself (meet people and hobnob, and of course, get a side chick who'll heal your heart from the worries your wife gives you ). Act like you don't care. Flirt a little. She go do normal. You'll worry less eventually. I'm one against cheating, but I wouldn't have people treated like garbage.

PS; I can be very unemotional and non-challant, but this is off the radar. I only show off who shows me off. Say no to one-sided relationships!

The faster you know that humans love opportunistically, the better.
In your next life, learn not to be a second choice and don't be afraid to chose rigidly too.

You are very intelligent. Good point.

Kennydoc:
She posted only her personal pictures taken at her wedding.
She posts pictures of herself, siblings, parents, kids but not husband.
She even make posts about her colleagues on their birthdays but not her husband.
She cannot even allow her husband make a post about her, even if she doesn't want to post about him.
Come on, this cannot be normal. It would have been a different thing if she's not visible on social media at all.
She either doesn't love him or she isn't proud of him or both. She's simply managing him.

Exactly on point. I wouldn't know why people still see her action as been normal. Something is not normal with such a person. You post your pictures of herself, siblings and parents to the point of posting her colleagues in her office but see no reason to have her husband tag her. She doesn't want to have him post her on pictures as his wife.

Now, if she is a shy person as some people would want to say, or she is social media shy, why post her own pictures online?

RiyadhGoddess:
Oga, there's 100% nothing wrong with ur wife. She just doesn't like PDA that's all. She's just like me, I don't public or media stuff. Don't measure ur wife love by the numbers or amount of ur pictures or both of u pictures or love write up she post online or in public. She loves to keep it low. Oh and there are some ladies like me who hates this Wow wow thing or gushing over presents and all. Till today I still ask myself what's makes some ladies cry during proposal or what makes them emotional when their boyfriend or husbands gifts them. Like is he not supposed to propose before ni or is he not supposed to gift them... Some ladies are naturally not emotional. Please enjoy your home/wife in peace. There's nothing wrong with ur wife. She's 100% normal. Don't create trouble where there's no trouble.
Me as a person don't get moved by anything. Nkan o Jo Mi loju. I hate surprises too. I don't display my family on social media doesn't mean I fell from the sky or hate them...

Now, why is she posting her own pictures on social media and even showing love to her friends on social media, inclusive of her parents and siblings?
Something is wrong somewhere. If she is the type that does not love showing off on social media, then her posting her pictures and that of her parents goes to show that she has a hidden agenda. Why show off herself on social media alone?

The husband is only trying to buy love with the gifts he is getting for her but from her attitude as said by op, she does not appreciate those things because her heart is for someone somewhere. It could be a married man someone outside. She could be buying time and one day, she will be off.

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

You just said my mind. The lady has hidden agenda and could possibly be planning to relocate outside to a guy already overseas.

As a medical personnel, she must have been disappointed by someone and is only managing Op and op is just not getting the message. One day, she will be out from him to meet some of her colleagues overseas hence her reason for showing love to her colleagues about to travel out.

charles009:
Very harsh in every sensible way. This judgement has to be appealed. Again the case was concluded Soo quickly.
People who loot us to death get 2 months jail sentence. Again the woman who has been busy fucking another man's husband, what happened? Are we now condoning such acts. Utterly preposterous!

Listen, do not say people who looted and this case are the same offense. What they did to the woman is totally wrong. How can you drag your fellow human being naked on the street and be flogging her if she found her sleep with her husband. She has the right to call the police to report the case. Having to now use herself to disgrace the woman by floging and recording same, posting it online is a grievous offense and 9 yrs is not harsh. They deserve it.

Op, How can your husband's friend who came to the house to see your husband when he is not around, send you to buy a recharge card for him and your refusal to get out the house now annoyed him to the extent that your husband sided him and asked you to apologize to him?

Listen OP, your husband is not a straight guy. He could be a bisexual hence his attitude. He could be sleeping with himand he loves him more than you do. No sane man would wanna side his who came to his house and demanded that the woman should go and buy a recharge card for him, even when she offered to recharge with her phone and her refusal to go outside now annoyed the guy to the extent that he left the house in anger? Madam, you married a bisexual and that is how they act.

Never apologize to that his friend and it will be better to call it off since he cannot protect your person. You have only one daughter and will be better without him now than try to please someone like that.

Facially, the boy looks like the man unless he has done a DNA to have found out the owner. Some married Women are dang;;;;;;;;;s

People should know that Pretty Mike is sick.

1x2x3:
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I still doubt the authenticity though there are chances it may happen however, no car dealer will keep such cash readily available.

You are right but come to think of it, what if the guy gets carried away with a mouth watering offer of #500,000k and he gets greedy and wants to cash in on that to arrange for the cash from a nearby bank while they wait for him. He should have requested to transfer back the money to their own bank account.

That is why you do not accept to aid someone receive money through your account as the proceeds could be fraud money.

1x2x3:
Who pays such amount in cash?

Exactly on point. The car dealer paying such an amount in cash translates he is privy to the deal. He should have requested for an account to transfer money back to them. That cash of #3.5 million is much.

Toks2008:
Just to set the tables straight.

I'm not encouraging anyone and this statement if yours is the reason for the crazy hypocrisy we have today.

Pastors can't preach this cos they don't want to lose members and it is understandable that many ladies will not like this but that is not my business to worry about.

My write up is aimed at pointing out the fact behind polygamy in relation to men in general.

Only an objective and mature lady wi l see sense in this.

Emotions can not change facts. If your hubby decides to marry another lady at al cost you either accept or leave the marriage but if you are lucky to have a man that sticks to you alone without secretly having side chics everywhere then good for you.

The most bizarre twist is that many ladies will prefer their husbands to have side chics rather than marry a second lady so the question is WHO IS FOOLING WHO?

Your write up is surely ok, I am not saying otherwise. Very mature write up, but it depends on individuals and their believe. Be you a pastor, an Alpha or whatever, you are on your own. Good write up and I love your expression of your views.

She is shortsighted and a recommended glass should be procured for her to aid her. It is too bad that we live in a society where the rich see what the poor go through and they are out there trying to donate more money to the lady who claimed that she helped to discover the little Warri girl Ms Success.
Maybe the op of this little girl should not use same to now ask for reward if people comes to the aid of the little girl.

MelaninGold:
ok... but stop calling people who you know nothing about prostitutes.

Don't mind @jonnyessence. No normal person should call a woman a prostitute unless himself is a product of one. Most ladies fall prey to some guys who sweet talk them to bed and after run away. He should pray for his own sisters not to fall victim in the course of growing up. Most ladies that fall into that category of women refered to as prostitutes could be as a result of hardship. Most men now are even prostitutes as a result of hunger too.

ImaIma1:
I claim multiple births for myself next

Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen. May you be blessed by His grace and your prayer answered. Same God will open doors of favor and your household shall have abundance to take care of them. Great men and women shall come out of your womb In Jesus Name , Amen.

ImaIma1:
Having a concubine whether legal or illegal is adultery still... from whichever side it is viewed from

This legal concubine idea is flawed because most men that cannot stick to one wife will not stick to one concubine. If they can have one, why not two or three? So they end up having 5 "legal" concubines.

I think the days are already here where people develop their own truth based on what appeals to them and how they choose to view life. However I don't think impressionable and susceptible minds should be exposed to such unvalidated ideas

On point my sister. Bible is a knife with two edges. Even satan has bible verses to buttress his points. The writer has some point though but by encouraging men of God or other people to have concubines is not Christlike.

Every woman has emotion and once a man start having an extra moral life style with another woman to the knowledge of his wife, the woman's life will be shattered. Whether she starts having extra moral affairs or not, her life can never be the same.

Op surely made some points, as most life people live now are centered on his write up.

tohyorsih:
thankyou i was just kidding.

i wonder wat her mother is looking at. even worked for the money, there are so many reasonable this to do with rather dan spending it lavishly.
but i guess she's trying to impress somebody.

This days, you don't flaunt genuine money on social media. Anything you suffered to acquire in life, one do not flaunt it on social media. Look at the life of great actors like Olu Jacobs who started his career in the UK and his gorgeous wife, who gave all within the industries for a genuine work,have you seen where they come on social media to flaunt their wealth?

You now can only see most ladies showcasing their backside and dirty as on social media as their source of wealth, taking pictures within hotels and guest houses where they earn a living and the media tag them as actresses, but you can never see the movie that have acted and where they premiered them.

I think nairaland moderators are part of the people promoting mediocrity herein by moving any of those rubbish to front page.

tohyorsih:
me self go soon turn nollywood actress

But you look more beautiful than her and should just keep to yourself and be who you wanna be. Her wealth is just beyond what an ordinary eyes could see.


How many movies she has acted that she flaunts wealth as if one pick money along the road. She bought cars, bought a house for her mother and now flaunt a wrist watch worth such an amount, is just too much at her supposed age with no other means of income, rather the claim that she is an actress. Other actresses better than her and others more educated and has featured on many videos never displayed their wealth like herself. It is her life and only her knows her secret. Secret is the only thing only you knows. Anything you disclose to any second person is never a secret. She has her secret.

They should go to another hospital to reconfirm the text. No doctor can post this that he cried over a result of HIV text like this.

bionixs:
driving and looking back means,a crash is inevitable. why do we keep living in the past? Another 4years is beginning to waste

Another 4 yrs and APC is still blaming the past government and they have not achieved anything till date. APC is the master blamer and cannot concentrate to work. People are dying and no work for young graduates and they are here blaming and hiding apc members who are corrupt.

What of 2015 till date? What of Gaduje and the dollars? EFCC should please do the right thing by bringing Akpabio and others to book.

This should be followed up and he should be reported to the IG and should be dismissed. Not arresting and lucking him up.

This should be moved to front page/ This is totally wrong. Most of these so called officers are armed robbers. How can an officer who also doubles as an okada rider, be armed with an official gun while doing his okada business if he is not an armed robber. I believe that he is those that rob their passengers.

Why blame him for his action. We know where they come from and drinking animal waste and gutter water has been part of their life, Let him drink more. Some fish dwell and survive in such environment , so his own life is not different the animals that dwell in such stagnant water .

Why is it that she is always staying in an hotel or resort taking pixs and posting same on social media. That translates that it is through those places she earns her means of living. I think they should stop calling most of these ladies that flaunt pixs on media as actress or whatever name that has to do with acting. They all live within resorts and hotels and that is where they earn a living. They can be flown to anywhere in the world to meet their clients. They are not actress and I have not been seeing any of their movies as they claim.

Giftedniye:
From your story, if I was the one, I won't marry him again after all this ill treatments. I won't give him the opportunity of a DNA too. He should just forget about I and the pregnancy. I will move on and take care of myself alone.
Don't you think he would treat you worse in marriage ? Even if you decide to do the DNA and all, I feel you shouldnt marry him. There is no trust in your relationship.
My two cents though .

Exactly on point. I believed that the man's attitude was why God put him in a position not to have a child. For me, I will advise op not to go ahead to marry the beast as he has already shown himself. She will suffer in his hands if he eventually marry him.

How can a sane man abandon a pregnant woman he slept with on several occasion without protection and when pregnancy appears, he start doubting if he is responsible. When he was striving her up and down, he never knew that such could happen. I believed God used this pregnancy to expose the true person he is.

Op should not try to reconcile with him and let him be and with God, she will navigate life and become a proud mother in future. That boy could turn to be a world leader tomorrow.

John Fashanu's father abandoned them in London and they were raised by a foster mother and today, he is one of the greatest men on earth.

XhosaNostra:
Well, have it your way. But just know that as a father, he also has as much parental rights as you do, regardless of how you feel or what transpired. Quite frankly, no court cares about feelings. It is in your best interest to adjust your attitude & sort out your feelings before the arrival of the baby because whether you like it or not, co-parenting is a possibility you're going to have to live with for the next 18 years. It's non-negotiable. Oopsie!

You are not helpful herein no matter how right you sound. Op explained what she is passing through with a man who first assured her of standing by her during her pregnancy and here he is, doubting if he is the person that is responsible for her pregnancy.

I am a man and understand what a woman goes through during pregnancy. If he is a real man, why not for the sake of the unborn child, see her through this trying period and after this, then seek for whatever means of determining the DNA of the child.

For me, the man is wicked and if the lady has the resources, let her take care of the baby.

Men should not put a woman through pregnancy and abandon such a woman because that is the only time she needs help

Lloydthesaint:
You calm down type all this curse for your children abi continue

How will a sane man , use that word that a man who passed through hell and was wrongly imprisoned for the past 24yr and you are here saying that he will be useless for the rest of his life?

You and your generation will face hell and your life will have no meaning.

Lloydthesaint:
The man will live s useless life till he dies

Why are you wicked? It shall be your portion that your life will be useless here on earth no matter how you strive. The man's condition while in prison will be better than the life you have to face on earth while alive from now.

The worst thing is when an officer of the law, who is been paid with our tax payers money would be armed with a gun to confront a harmless Nigerian, telling him to his face ' Do you Know I can waste you and Nothing will happen" By saying that, if that person replies him or he is high on codeine or any form of drug, the next thing, he will release some bullets on the individual, off they are gone.


Only when these brand of officers are been made to pay for such crime, noway anything can go right in this country. The judiciary should wake up and start sentencing such officers to same death penalty and not any form of life imprisonment. If you are an officer and just kill anyone for doing nothing, such an officer should be publicly executed. Public execution should be the only way that would at least send a signal to them

In fact, people should celebrate the death of any Nigerian Police officer no matter whatever that killed the individual. The death of any police officer should be a joy to any Nigerian. The Nigerian police officers has no human heart. How can a sane officer kill a man in the presence of the wife and little kids? Nigerian should start giving negative attitude to any of their needs and never help them when they see them in danger. May those responsible for the man's death die the same way and their children pass through sorrow..