₦airaland Forum

Nazgul:
Half time is upon us. Nigeria lead by one goal.

Hopefully we'll score more goals in the second half.

I hope so! SA coming with a bang for second half.

Wow! What a miss?

This is a common complaint, especially from men who feel like they’re doing the "right" things — being honest, respectful, available — and still get overlooked. So, why do some women find honest or “nice” guys boring? Let’s unpack it honestly:

1. Predictability Can Feel Like “No Spark”
Some women associate excitement with unpredictability. An honest guy often communicates clearly, avoids games, and is consistent — which, ironically, can seem “too safe” or “boring” to someone used to emotional highs and lows.
🧠 “He’s nice… but I don’t feel butterflies.”

2. They Mistake Honesty for Weakness
Society often paints “bad boys” as confident and bold, while honest or respectful guys are seen as passive or soft.
If an honest guy lacks assertiveness or mystery, it may wrongly come off as lacking strength or leadership.
🧠 “He’s too available… he’d do anything for me.”

🧱 3. Emotional Unreadiness
Some women are subconsciously drawn to toxic patterns because that’s what they’ve normalized.
They may reject the honest guy not because he’s wrong — but because they’re not ready for stability.

🧠 “He’s great… but I don’t deserve him” or “It feels too easy.”
🕹️ 4. No Challenge or Chase
If a guy is too open too soon, there’s no mystery or tension.
People (both men and women) often confuse emotional safety with “lack of passion.”
🧠 “He’s too into me… it’s not thrilling anymore.”

5. Some ‘Nice Guys’ Are Actually Passive or People Pleasers
Being “honest” is good — but if it's paired with neediness, no boundaries, or lack of ambition, it becomes unattractive.
Some "nice guys" suppress their real opinions just to keep the peace. That’s not honesty — that’s fear.

🧠 “He’s nice but he doesn’t stand for anything.”


💡 Truth Bomb:
Honesty alone isn’t enough.
What women are often drawn to is:

Honesty with boldness

Kindness with self-respect

Openness with boundaries

Simplicity with confidence

tanigororo:
Why does Ladies/Women/Girls find the honest guy boring?

Double0h7:
Why? Why over sell yourself? Why lie about your intentions? Why lie full 🛑!??

Men (like women) may lie for a variety of reasons, and the motives can be complex, emotional, selfish, or even protective. Below are some of the most common reasons why men lie to women, categorized for clarity:

🧠 1. To Avoid Conflict or Consequences

Fear of drama: He thinks the truth will lead to an argument or emotional reaction.

Fear of punishment: He’s done something he knows is wrong (e.g., cheating, hiding something) and lies to avoid getting caught or punished.

Example: "I forgot to text back because I was busy at work" (when he was out with friends).

🛡️ 2. To Protect Her Feelings (or so he believes)

Men may think that telling the truth will hurt her more than a lie would.

This is often seen in situations involving appearance, opinions, or past relationships.


Example: "No, I don’t think she’s attractive at all" (when he does but thinks it’s safer to lie).

🤐 3. To Get What They Want

Some lies are manipulative: to get sex, money, loyalty, forgiveness, or control.

This includes exaggerating feelings or commitment to win trust or access.

Example: "You’re the only one I talk to" (when he’s entertaining others too).

4. To Avoid Responsibility or Shame
Men may lie to cover up failures, weaknesses, or insecurity.

Society often pressures men to appear strong, capable, and in control.

Example: "I’m working on a big project" (when he’s actually unemployed or stuck).

🎭 5. Image Management
They may lie to impress, inflate their status, or present a version of themselves that they think she’ll admire.

Example: "I’ve only had a few partners" (to avoid being judged).

🔄 6. Learned Behavior or Habit
Some men grow up in environments where lying

That statement reflects a common but oversimplified and often misleading belief about women and relationships.

Many women do want a good man, but "good" doesn’t just mean kind or nice — it means someone who is confident, emotionally intelligent, has standards, purpose, and can lead when needed.

What some people call a “good man” is often just someone who is overly nice, passive, or eager to please, which can come off as unattractive if it lacks strength or direction.

Similarly, “bad boys” might seem appealing because they show confidence, assertiveness, and unpredictability — traits tied to dominance, not morality. But most women don’t want someone who actually mistreats them.

🔑 The key? A high-quality man is kind but not weak, strong but not abusive, giving but not self-sacrificing. That’s the balance most mature women actually seek — even if some get temporarily confused or misled by emotional chao

marlow1962:
Absolutely true. Females hate a good man, but wants a good man.

That statement — “Women thrive in chaos... if there is too much peace at home, they create chaos” — is a generalization rooted more in stereotype than truth. While it might reflect some people's experiences or frustrations in specific relationships, it's not universally true or fair.

People (not just women) who are used to drama, instability, or emotional turbulence may subconsciously recreate those patterns when things feel “too calm.” This is a psychological behavior linked to trauma, attachment styles, or emotional conditioning — not gender.

Healthy women, like healthy men, appreciate peace, stability, and emotional safety. If there’s chaos, it's usually a sign that something deeper is wrong — unmet needs, unspoken resentment, boredom, or a lack of emotional connection — not that they simply "enjoy" chaos.


If you're noticing a pattern like this in a relationship, it’s worth asking:

A. Are both partners emotionally secure?

B. Are needs and frustrations communicated clearly?

C. Is there mutual respect and understanding?

abc115:
Women are Women created by God.

I cannot question God for creating them the way they are .

Women thrives in chaos...if there is too much peace at home, they create chaos

Wetin she talk no be normal at all. E dey very dangerous make person believe say beating na sign of love.

Many times, when person think say na so love suppose be, e fit be because:

1. Trauma bonding – na when person dey used to abuse and e come dey see am as normal because after the beating, small love go follow.
2. Wetin dem grow see – if she grow up where dem dey beat each other for relationship, she fit think say na so e suppose be.
3. Low self-esteem – she no believe say she deserve better, so she go dey take pain as sign of love.
4. Movies, music, society – sometimes music and film dey show say if guy no dey jealous or beat you, e no love you. Na big lie.

Make we talk true: Beating no be love, na abuse.

Real love no go raise hand beat you. Love go protect you, respect you, care for you — e no suppose make you cry or fear.

If she still reason like that, she need healing, not insult. But person still suppose tell her the truth straight: that kain mindset fit destroy her life.

Creamypie:
One babe for my class back then in university, sy her guy must beat am at least once weekly to prove love for her.then after beating, he go come pet her

cutecommend:
This is not totally true, but there may be some truth here.

Please provide your contributions.

That statement — “A female would be cheating in a healthy relationship but be faithful in toxic ones” — is a provocative generalization that reflects more about emotional dynamics than gender itself. Let’s break it down thoughtfully:

What it might mean:
1. Emotional Conditioning or Trauma Bonding:
In a toxic relationship, some women (and men too) become emotionally dependent or trauma-bonded. Despite abuse or neglect, they stay loyal, sometimes out of fear, low self-worth, or hope things will improve.
2. Taking a Good Partner for Granted:
In a healthy relationship, a partner may feel so secure or "unthreatened" that they take the relationship for granted, potentially leading to boredom, curiosity, or attention-seeking behavior — which can lead to infidelity. Again, this applies to any gender, not just women.
3. Self-Sabotage or Internal Conflict:
Some people aren’t emotionally ready for healthy love. When they get it, it feels unfamiliar, and they subconsciously sabotage it — sometimes through cheating — while staying loyal to toxicity because it feels "normal" or "deserved."

What this doesn't mean:

That all women act this way.

That healthy relationships cause cheating.

That toxicity earns loyalty.
These are oversimplified views that ignore deeper emotional and psychological factors.

A better way to say it: “Some people stay loyal to toxic partners due to emotional wounds, while sabotaging healthy love because it feels unfamiliar or undeserved.”

Love800:
You say wetin!

You fink say Morocco na joke to you!

Lol!

Baba! Leave the guy he doesn't understand football. Morrovvo has been very impressive in this tournament.

robosky02:
Update: Omo🙆🏿‍♂️ Seems South Africa Didn't Learn From Zambia...


Hear What Their Coach Said🇳🇬😰


“We know what this match means. We know what it takes to beat Nigeria.”


Can somebody tell her what Zambia experienced after Chochocho 🤪
On Tuesday we feast🫕
#NPFLUpdates #WeReportYouDebunk

You think because they had a poor outing from the group stages, they wouldn't beat us.

You're courageous, not a failure. Choosing to ride okada to care for your daughter shows responsibility and strength — don't let mockery discourage you.

1. Hold your head high – Survival is honorable. You're doing what many can't.
2. Okada is not the end – Use it as a stepping stone. Consider logistics work, online learning, or small business as next moves.
3. Reconnect with your skills – Your engineering degree and experience can still open doors if you gradually upskill or pivot.
4. Join the right community – Surround yourself with builders, not mockers. Look for support groups, training, or business networks.
5. Set a clear exit plan – Give yourself a timeline to transition from okada into something better.

You didn’t start late — you started. And that’s what matters most. Your comeback has already begun. Keep going.

Grateman123:
I have been working for a Chinese company for 10 years, the salary fluctuates, goes up at times, then comes down. Currently I am earning 150k. Just clocked 40 and decided I face make a drastic change . Bought a bike to join the okada riding business. People are saying it is very unbefitting and mocking me, I have a degree in industrial engineering from Unibadan. But I put that in the shelves and need to pay bills. I have a daughter to cater for. My ex wife eloped to America to remarry a Nigerian working in the U.S Marines. I am just like starting over again.
I took this drastic measure quite late, I advice any youngster in a job with no apparent growth potential, to device an escape route as soon as possible so as not to waste irrecoverable years.

Job Title: Senior Accountant
Location: Lagos (Fully Onsite)
Industry: Conglomerate (Supermarkets, Energy, Tech, Hospitality,)
Reporting To: CEO

We are hiring a Senior Accountant for a fast-growing business group. Ideal candidates must be smart, presentable, and experienced in handling full accounting operations across multiple business units.

Key Responsibilities:
- Manage daily accounting tasks and reporting
- Handle AP/AR, bank reconciliations & cash flow
- Reconciliations and reporting
- Ensure audit readiness & regulatory compliance
- Use tools like QuickBooks, Sage, Busy and Odoo, (note proficiency in excel Pivot table and VLOOKUP is a must )

Requirements:
- BSc/HND in Accounting; ICAN/ACCA certified
- 4+ years of relevant accounting experience
- Proficient in accounting software ( Busy, Quickbook and Odoo ERP)
- Strong communication and leadership skills
- Must reside on the mainland ( Alimosho axis )

📩 To Apply: Send your CV to Onwere.twinsfaja@gmail.com using Senior Accountant as the subject.

Good morning everyone

I'm currently seeking interns opportunities for the following Audit, Accounting graduate Trainee, Junior Accountant, Account assistant and Financial analyst.

You must be eager to learn, contribute, and grow in a professional environment.
Kindly contact me on 09126506617
Thank you.

Here’s what makes Nigerian candidates stand out (or get disqualified) for remote roles:

✅ Strong Communication Skills: Remote work depends heavily on clear, timely communication. Ability to write emails well and confidently speak during Zoom calls are skills you should build if you're looking for remote gigs

✅ Proactive Work Ethic: To land a remote job, you have to show that you can work independently and take initiative.

✅ Tech-Savviness: Mastering basic tools like Zoom, Google Drive, Slack, Trello, Notion is very important if you want to land a remote job because many jobs won’t train you from scratch.

✅ Reliable Internet & Power: Be upfront about how you handle power outages or network issues. A simple plan (e.g., backup WiFi, alternative location) shows you're prepared.

✅ Time Zone Awareness: Can you comfortably work in GMT, EST, PST, or AU time zones if needed?

If you're serious about remote work, start preparing like you're already in that job.

VACANCY IN A REPUTABLE PUBLISHING FIRM IN IBADAN.
1) POSITION: ACCOUNTANTS – (B.Sc./HND, ACA Plus minimum of 3 years’ relevant work Experience
• Review and consolidation of Bank Reconciliation Statements.
• Confirmation of customers’ lodgments to bank statements before posting.
• Reconciliation of Domiciliary accounts.
• Review of Accounts Receivables and Payables Reconciliation.
• General Ledger Scrutiny and Reconciliation.
• Preparation and analysis of management accounts and Reports.
• Preparation of Payroll together with all relevant payroll deduction schedules for review, approval and payments/remittances.
• Inter-company’s accounts reconciliation.
• Management of Fixed Assets Register and Reconciliation
• Product costing including Landing costs.
• Review of stock movement Report.
• Filing of statutory returns and documents.
• Analysis and verification of Bank Charges at month end.
• And any other relevant accounting duties as may be assigned by the Head of Department.

2) POSITION: ACCOUNTS OFFICERS– (B.Sc./HND, ICAN Partly Qualified, Plus minimum of 2 years’ relevant work Experience
Some of the Key duties:
• Raising and Posting of accounting transactions including payment vouchers.6
• Reconciliation of Bank Accounts.
• Reconciliation of Accounts Receivables and Payables.
• Reconciliation of Stock movements Reports.
• Update of Fixed Assets Register and documentation.
• Management of Bookkeeping and filing of accounting vouchers and documents.
• Ensuring all payments vouchers are duly stamped PAID and are all attached with invoices and other relevant supporting documents.
• Management of Petty Cash and IOUs.
• And any other relevant accounting duties as may be assigned by the Head of Department.

Qualified candidates can forward CV to extensionplhr@gmail.com not later than 2 weeks after the date of advert.

HR Manager – Ikeja, Lagos (Net Salary: ₦500,000 – ₦700,000 monthly)

•Fulltime (On-site)


A leading furniture lifestyle brand in the heart of Ikeja is on the hunt for a smart, people-focused HR Manager who will help us build a world-class team, drive performance, and create a work environment our people love.


*⚡️What You’ll Do

Lead end-to-end HR operations: hiring, onboarding, payroll, performance management, and exit processes

Partner with department heads to shape a great culture and deliver people-focused solutions

Manage employee relations with empathy and maturity

Champion our values and contribute to building an engaging, inclusive workplace

Implement HR strategies that support growth and employee success

Ensure compliance with Nigerian labour laws and HR best practices

Plan and facilitate trainings, team bonding activities, and internal communications


*⚡️What We’re Looking For

5+ years of HR experience, with at least 2 in a managerial role

Hands-on experience across the entire HR value chain

A people-first mindset with strong emotional intelligence

Excellent communication and interpersonal skills

Working knowledge of HR software/tools

BSc in HR, Business Admin, or related field (CIPM/SHRM certification is a bonus)


*⚡️Perks

Competitive salary

Great team, vibrant culture

Growth opportunities

Stylish office space with creative energy


If this sounds like your kind of role, we’d love to hear from you.

📩 Send your CV to: feedbackfellow2030@gmail.com

Subject: HR Manager - [Your Full Name]

ImpartialGuy:
Good evening, Nairalanders.
Hope your day is going well.

I applied for a job with a Canadian company and received a link to my email where I was asked to do their virtual multiple-choice quiz of 40 questions in 30 minutes. When it comes to such tests, I am always good at them because I am a versatile reader. After the test, I got feedback from them that I was successful and that I was among the top 1% in the test.

Afterwards, I was asked to select a date for my virtual interview. I had the interview and I believe I did well. The HR told me she would get back to me within 1 - 2 weeks. However, it's been 3 weeks now and I sent them an email to ask for an update but they didn't reply to my email.

Please if you were in my shoes, what would you do? I am creating this post because it's a foreign company and the pay is very juicy.

You’ve done your part very well — aced the test, showed up prepared for the interview, and even followed up professionally. That already puts you in a good position.

But here’s the truth about foreign companies (and even local ones): delays happen — sometimes due to internal approvals, budget constraints, or HR being swamped. It doesn’t always mean rejection.

Here’s what I’d advise:

1. Give it one more week – sometimes replies come in the 4th or even 5th week.
2. Send a polite second follow-up – just a short message to reaffirm your interest and ask if there are any updates on the role.
3. Continue applying elsewhere – don’t pause your job hunt waiting on one role, no matter how juicy it looks. Let this one surprise you.

And lastly, even if they don’t come through, remind yourself that making it to the top 1% is a big deal. Keep showing up with that same energy — something better might be around the corner.

Stay sharp, you’re doing great already. 👏🏽

📢 Opportunity for Aspiring Hairstylists in Alimosho!

Are you passionate about hair and eager to learn the trade from experienced professionals?

Madam Chi is looking for dedicated individuals who are willing to train and grow in the hairstyling industry.

Accommodation could be provided for exception talents.

📩 Send your portfolio and a brief introduction to:
Madam Chi
📱 +234 814 965 6018 (WhatsApp available)

Take the first step toward a rewarding career in hairstyling!

URGENT: Head Teacher Needed

A reputable primary school is urgently in need of a qualified Head Teacher.

Qualifications: Minimum NCE
📍 Location: Applicants must reside in or around Ijegun, Ijegamo, Ijedodo, Jakande-Isheri (Mainland), and surrounding areas.

📞 Contact via WhatsApp:
07036680747 or 08035065951

Kindly reach out as soon as possible if you're available or know someone who fits this role.

Bro, first of all, well done for being honest and open. That’s a strong first step. Let me give you some advice based on your situation:

1. Leverage Your Driving Skill
You already have experience as a private driver. While you explore other options:

Register with ride-hailing platforms like Bolt, Uber, or InDrive (if you can get access to a car, even if it's on hire purchase or rental).

Offer private driving services to families or companies in Lekki (especially school runs, elderly transport, errands). Post this in estate groups, churches, and on WhatsApp status often.

Logistics: Even if you don't own a bike or van, you can partner with someone who does. Last-mile delivery and dispatch riding is big in Lekki.
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2. Online Gigs You Can Learn Quickly
You said you’re open to learning. Here are beginner-friendly skills that can pay you within a month or two:

Social Media Management – A lot of small businesses in Lekki need someone to help post, reply DMs, and run promotions. Learn the basics of Canva, Instagram content, and customer engagement.

Virtual Assistant (VA) – You can help people manage tasks, emails, or scheduling online. Check Upwork, Fiverr, and even LinkedIn.

Data Entry/Typing jobs – If you have basic computer skills, you can start here and build up.

3. Offline Side Hustles in Lekki That Pay
Errand services – Some busy people just need someone to help pick up/drop off items or do simple tasks. If you're trustworthy, you’ll get referrals fast.

Event support staff – Weddings, corporate events, shows – especially on weekends – need ushers, logistics support, bouncers, etc.

House/Office cleaning coordination – Partner with a cleaner and help find jobs. You manage the client and get a cut.

4. Use What You Have
Your smartphone + Data – Use it to market yourself, offer small services, and learn online.

Your music production training – With time, you can monetize this. For now, learn it well and use side gigs to survive while building it.

Stay consistent. Post what you do at least 3x a week. WhatsApp status is free marketing.

Be trustworthy. One good referral can change everything.

Don't wait to be perfect. Start small, learn fast, grow steady.

You can definitely earn 150k–200k monthly, but it may come from 2-3 small things combined, not one big job — at least for now.

Meddymeddy:
Hello everyone

Straight to the point
What can I do physically or online that can earn me money around 150k to 200k per month in lekki.

I use to be a private driver but I'm currently not working now I'm in lekki. The only work for now that I can do is driving but I can also do other things that can be learned. I want to explore.

Pls seniors help advise me on how to go about it.

NT: I'm deeply learning music production and I would like to have spare time for my classes.
I am also a graduate but I haven't done much in my field.

I will be in the comments to hear your input.

MOD : pls help for wider community.

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

If a man finds himself at 40 with no job, no marriage, and no child, it’s easy to feel like time has passed him by — but the truth is, life is not a straight road, and 40 is not the end. Many people restart, rebuild, and reimagine their lives at this age — and succeed.

Here's what he should do:

1. Pause and Reflect Honestly

Before any action, he must sit with himself:

What led to this point?

Are there unhealed wounds, regrets, or cycles repeating?

What does he really want now — not what society expects?

This isn’t pity time — it’s clarity time. Avoid the trap of blaming others or circumstances endlessly.

2. Build Economic Stability First

No matter the past, money gives options. Without income, it's hard to think clearly or plan well.

Get working: Even if it’s not the dream job — start somewhere.

Learn relevant skills: Tech, trades, sales, digital services — age isn’t a blocker, value is.

Cut out distractions: Reduce emotional expenses, fake hustle, and relationships that drain you.

Your 40s can be more financially productive than your 20s if you move smart.

3. Shift the Mindset
Instead of “I'm late,” think:

> “I’ve seen enough of life to know what matters. Now I move with intent.”

Forget the pressure to catch up. That rush leads to poor decisions — marrying wrong, investing in scams, or chasing shallow validation.

Focus on quality over speed.

4. Rebuild or Expand Your Network

Isolation kills progress.

Reconnect with old, solid people

Join communities (online or local) around work, hobbies, faith, or learning

Find a few good people who are forward-looking, not stuck in gossip or pity

5. Redefine Success

Society says: Job + Wife + Kids = Success.
But your success may look different:

- Peace of mind
- Consistent income
- Freedom to travel
- Helping others
- Being healthy and fulfilled

Those other things (marriage, children) can still happen — but don't define your worth by what’s missing. Define it by what you’re building.

6. Keep Your Heart Open
At 40, love and family are still very possible. Some people find their soulmate at 45. Some have kids at 50. Life isn’t always on a timeline — but it does favor those who don’t shut down.

Heal from past pain

Be emotionally available

Stay open to love, but don’t make desperation your driver

> You’re not late — you’re just getting serious.

From 40 onward, you can create the most focused, most profitable, and most peaceful version of your life — if you cut noise and move with purpose.

What you do next matters more than what you didn’t do before.

This would have a ripple effect on land on the island

Job Title: Account Intern (Remote)
Location: Remote
Job Type: Internship
Duration: 3 months


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About Us

We are a cleaning services. We work with clients across a variety of sectors, delivering innovative solutions and exceptional service. We're currently looking for a detail-oriented, enthusiastic Account Intern to join our team remotely.


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Position Summary

As an Account Intern, you'll support the account management team in maintaining client relationships, preparing reports, and coordinating project deliverables. This role is ideal for someone looking to gain hands-on experience in client service, project coordination, and digital communications in a fast-paced environment.


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Key Responsibilities

Assist in the day-to-day management of client accounts

Support client communication and follow-ups under supervision

Help prepare reports, presentations, and meeting summaries

Coordinate internal resources and timelines for client deliverables

Conduct research and gather data for client campaigns

Monitor project progress and update task management systems

Participate in team meetings and brainstorming sessions

Preparation of Monthly Financial Statements and calculating and remitting PAYE & VAT,

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Requirements

Currently pursuing or recently completed a degree in Business, Management, finance, or related field

Strong communication and interpersonal skills

Excellent attention to detail and organizational skills

Ability to manage multiple tasks and deadlines in a remote work environment

Familiarity with tools like Google Workspace, Microsoft Office, and project

A proactive attitude and willingness to learn



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Bonus Skills (Preferred but not required)

Previous internship or project experience in client-facing roles

Experience with accounting tools (e.g., Sage, QuickBooks , Zoho or Odoo)

Interest in consulting



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What You’ll Gain

Hands-on experience with real clients and projects

Exposure to the inner workings of an account management team

Opportunities to collaborate across departments

Mentorship from experienced professionals

A potential pathway to future full-time roles

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How to Apply
Please submit your resume and a brief cover letter outlining your interest in the role to 07031288750 Applications are accepted on a rolling basis.

Job Title: Project Finance Associate – Grants & Strategic Projects

Location: Lagos, Nigeria

Salary: ₦250,000- #350,000 Gross

About the Role

Our client, a mission-driven organization delivering sustainable, solar-powered solutions to underserved communities in Africa, is seeking a Project Finance Associate to support its expanding portfolio of donor-funded and impact-focused projects.

In this role, you will collaborate closely with internal teams to structure, budget, and monitor the financial components of strategic partnerships and grant-funded programs that improve lives and promote climate resilience.

Key Responsibilities

Project Budgeting & Financial Modeling

Create detailed budgets for donor-funded proposals and strategic initiatives

Prepare financial documentation aligned with donor/funder requirements

Collaborate cross-functionally to ensure budget accuracy and feasibility

Proposal Support

Deliver accurate financial inputs for concept notes and grant applications

Ensure compliance with funder financial documentation standards

Support budget clarifications and negotiations

Project Implementation

Monitor expenditures, forecasts, and donor disbursement timelines

Track financial progress across active projects

Coordinate periodic budget updates tied to project milestones

Internal Coordination & Documentation

Maintain accurate records of project budgets and financial models

Share tools/templates across teams for financial planning

Help improve systems for project finance and donor reporting

Qualifications

Bachelor’s degree in Finance, Economics, Business, Development Studies, or related field

2–4 years of experience in financial planning, donor-funded projects, or project finance

Advanced proficiency in Excel and financial modeling

Familiarity with grant budgeting and compliance requirements

Experience working with NGOs, DFIs, or international donors is a strong advantage

Passion for sustainability, climate innovation, and impact-driven work

What’s On Offer

A purpose-driven work environment contributing to real-world impact

Exposure to cutting-edge finance and partnership models

Growth opportunities and collaboration across African markets

Competitive compensation and benefits

Send your CV to quadri@ascentech.com.ng using Project Finance Associate – Grants & Strategic Projects as subject of the mail

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🏨 Job Vacancies at a Reputable Hotel in the Heart of Ogun State

A well-established hotel located in the heart of Ogun State is currently seeking experienced and dedicated professionals to fill the following positions:

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1. Receptionist
Requirements:
Minimum of 3 years’ experience in a similar role
Excellent communication and customer service skills
Proficiency in using hotel management software is an added advantage

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2. Housekeeper
Requirements:
Minimum of 2 years’ experience
Attention to detail and good organizational skills
Ability to work independently and maintain cleanliness standards

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3. Waitresses
Requirements:
Minimum of 2 years’ experience in food and beverage service
Friendly, polite, and presentable
Ability to multitask and work under pressure

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4. Bar Man
Requirements:
Minimum of 5 years’ experience
Knowledge of cocktails, local and international drinks
Good customer engagement and inventory management skills

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5. Laundry Man
Requirements:
Minimum of 4 years’ experience in laundry operations
Familiar with industrial laundry equipment and fabric care
Punctual and reliable



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6. Chef

Requirements:
Proficient in African and Intercontinental cuisines
Ability to plan menus, manage kitchen staff and maintain hygiene standards
Creativity and leadership in food presentation and service

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7. Accountant

Requirements:
Minimum of 5 years’ experience in hotel or hospitality accounting
Strong knowledge of VAT, WHT, PAYE, pension remittance
Proficient in financial statements, budgeting, analysis and reporting
Excellent knowledge of accounting software (e.g., QuickBooks, Sage)



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8. Security Guard (Male Only)

Requirements:
Minimum of 3 years’ experience in a security role
Physically fit and disciplined
Must present reliable guarantors
Vigilant and able to handle emergencies

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📍 Location: Ogun State
🕒 Application Deadline: July 15th, 2025
📧 To Apply: Send your CV and application to okundaremanaseh@gmail.com

📢 We're Hiring! Join Our Team

We are expanding and looking for passionate, talented individuals to fill the following roles:

1. Social Media Manager
2. Accountant
3. Production Supervisor
4. Quality Assurance Officer
5. Tailors (4 positions) – Must be skilled in sewing both male and female wears. Accommodation available.
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You are not being too harsh — you are being honest. And you're far from alone.

Many people in the diaspora, especially those of African or immigrant backgrounds, share this same pain: the expectation to provide for extended family at the expense of their own well-being, their immediate family, or their future. What you’re experiencing is part of a broader cultural and generational tension that is deeply real, and often deeply unfair.

Let’s break this down:

🔁 The Upward Flow of Wealth
In many traditional African households, there's a deep-rooted sense of communal responsibility — where “it takes a village” applies not just to raising children, but also to survival. Those who "make it" are expected to lift everyone else. But that expectation doesn’t always come with reciprocity or fairness.

What happens when:
That village didn’t raise you? You were excluded, unsupported, or even abandoned? You're expected to carry the weight of people who never lifted a finger for you?

That's exploitation — not family.

🏠 Your Father’s Choices
Your father prioritized his extended family and now expects his children — whom he didn’t invest in — to return the favor. That’s not how legacy works. A parent's first responsibility is to their children. Building a mansion in Nigeria while neglecting the emotional and financial needs of his own kids is a form of emotional abandonment masked as cultural obligation.

You owe him and his network of cousins nothing. If they didn’t plant seeds in your life, they shouldn't expect a harvest.

🤝 Real Relationships Aren’t Transactional
You pointed out something powerful: your European relatives feel genuine because they don’t ask for anything. This resonates with many in mixed families who notice a stark difference in expectations.

Nigerian relatives showing up now, after you’ve succeeded, isn’t connection — it’s opportunism.

🔥 You're Breaking the Cycle
This part of your message is courageous:
“My resources will go toward my future children, not to people who didn’t care about me until they saw what I’ve become.” This is how generational wealth and healing starts. You are not bitter — you are building boundaries that protect your peace, your future, and your own family.

🧠 What You’re Experiencing Has a Name:
Emotional blackmail: "If you don’t help, we’ll disown you.”

Cultural guilt-tripping: “You’ve forgotten where you came from.”

Financial parentification: You’re expected to play the role of provider before you've even built your own foundation. These are manipulative tactics, not expressions of love or support.

👥 You’re Not Alone
Thousands across the diaspora — from Nigerian-Americans to Ghanaians in the UK, to Kenyans in Germany — share your experience. Some build silent resentment. Others like you are choosing a different path: one of boundaries, healing, and generational change.

Final Thoughts
You’re not wrong. You’re wise to protect your peace. You’re brave to speak the truth. And you’re powerful to say: “This cycle ends with me.”

If anyone else reading this feels seen by your words — know that you’re not alone either. It’s time we start talking about this openly, without shame.

Oyinbogyal:
Hello Nairaland,

I’m mixed — half Nigerian, half European — and currently living abroad in Europe. I’ve stayed quiet for years about this, but it’s been on my heart lately.

There’s a pattern I’ve seen with my Nigerian relatives, particularly on my dad’s side, where they constantly ask him for money. Cousins I’ve never even met feel entitled to his income. At one point, when my dad didn’t have money to send, a cousin I don’t know (and frankly don’t wish to know) told him, “Well I don’t want to know your kids then.”

What hurts is that my dad never supported me financially growing up. I put myself through school and made something of myself on my own. Yet, despite contributing nothing, he takes credit for my achievements and even brags about me to these same family members — most of whom I’ve never met and who didn’t even know I existed until recently.

My siblings still need his help, but 95% of his money goes back home to Nigeria. Not to us. Now he’s built a mansion in Nigeria and wants to retire there, expecting that I’ll support him in his old age — even though he left me and my siblings with no legacy, no inheritance, and no foundation.

This mindset — where wealth is sent upward to extended family instead of downward to your own children — is one reason why generational poverty continues in parts of Africa. Children are left with nothing because parents and relatives keep demanding.

My partner is European (Oyinbo), and I’m much closer to my European relatives — they don’t ask for money, and relationships feel genuine. Recently, some Nigerian cousins tried to contact me for the first time in my life. I ignored them. I couldn’t shake the feeling that they wanted to build rapport just so I could start “helping out” financially.

I’m not bitter, but I’ve made a decision: I’m breaking this cycle. My resources will go toward my future children, not to people who didn’t care about me until they saw what I’ve become.

I’m curious — have others experienced something similar in the diaspora? Or am I just being too harsh?

Hi Philip, thank you for sharing this — I'm really sorry you're going through such a distressing situation. Here's how you can go about resolving this legally and properly in Abuja, step by step:

1. Report to the Police Immediately
Before approaching the court, you need to report this to the police, because:

It involves theft (your valuables were taken).

Illegal entry and locking of your home.

Possible child custody interference, if they took your child without your consent.

Go to the nearest police station with:

A formal written complaint.

Proof of ownership of the stolen items (receipts, pictures, bank transfers, etc.).

Names and possible addresses of your in-laws.

Any communication or witnesses you have.

The police may invite your in-laws for questioning, open an investigation, and possibly retrieve your items.

2. Consult a Lawyer
Next, get a family and property lawyer (even a legal aid lawyer if you're low on funds). A lawyer will help you:

Write a formal legal petition.

Understand your rights regarding the child, especially if you're married and share custody.

File civil or criminal charges if necessary (e.g. trespassing, theft).

3. File a Complaint in Court
Your lawyer can file:

A civil suit for trespass and theft.

A family court petition if custody of your child is now in dispute.

A request for a restraining order if you feel unsafe.

Depending on the facts, you may file in:

Magistrate Court – for theft and unlawful entry.

High Court (FCT) – for serious civil matters or if damages exceed a certain amount.

Family Court – for child custody or domestic relations.

4. Gather All Evidence
Before or while working with your lawyer:

Write down everything that happened (timeline of events).

Take photos of your broken door and the emptied house.

Keep copies of receipts, bank alerts, business inventories, or product photos to show what was stolen.

Screenshot any chats or calls with your in-laws about the incident.

5. Consider Mediation (Optional)
If you're still legally married and want to avoid long legal battles, your lawyer or court might suggest family mediation. This only works if your safety and property are not in danger.


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Optional Contacts
If you don’t know a lawyer yet, try:
Legal Aid Council of Nigeria – Abuja
📍 No 22, Port Harcourt Crescent, Off Gimbiya Street, Area 11, Garki, Abuja.
☎️ 09 290 0190
🕒 Mon-Fri, 9am – 4pm

Jezreeltv:
Good morning house,

I'm Philip, I live in Abuja.
Pls I have a question to ask so I can know the next step of action.
My inlaws came to my house, picked up there daughter and my child in my absence, I got back home and found my house locked, slept outside and the next morning I broke my door and found out my valuables (including laptops, jewelries and items I sell) is missing.

Now am helpless and I want to approach the court, how do I go about it.


Thank you.